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Title: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on February 06, 2012, 11:46:02 PM
So I realized Slow asking me for advice in the Made Mah Day topic may derail it a bit, so here's a thread to talk about relationships? Get advice? Vent? Etc?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on February 07, 2012, 12:11:36 AM
I can try to give advice /shrug

Don't expect much 8D I can't even get guys lolollololololol
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on February 07, 2012, 02:09:24 AM
http://www.ninsheetm.us/smf/index.php?topic=3257.0

Finish your god damn book about this.

You're leaving me hanging, girl.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on February 07, 2012, 02:38:57 AM
^ I was just about to post that.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on February 07, 2012, 02:58:11 AM
Honestly, I forgot all about that! I'll post an update soon. :)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 07, 2012, 03:39:05 AM
Yeah ETF, how is the NSM community ever gonna get laid if you never finish your book?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Wrydryn on February 07, 2012, 04:21:22 AM
Well there's always money but most of us are poor (and Irish) here.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: DrP on February 07, 2012, 05:33:56 AM
Give the college students a break!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on February 07, 2012, 05:49:56 AM
I usually walk with my ex through b hall from lunch, but I told her I was going a different way cause it would be faster.

It is faster, but I did it so I could stop thinking about her eyes.
Apparently she hates her eyes, but...  :(
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 09, 2012, 02:58:23 AM
So this girl I'm kinda close with came up to me between classes, hugged me, linked arms with me, and we walked to her class while we talked. She does this quite often. But I don't think she likes me, I think I kinda bore her with my awkward sentences and inability to make small talk. Idk. Other people have told me they think she's into me buuuuut idk. What's the diagnosis Dr. ETF...?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on February 09, 2012, 03:07:38 AM
Sounds like flirting to me. She can't be too bored with you if she goes up to you all the time and the like. :P

For example: My freshman year I liked this guy in my Algebra class. I'd say hi to him every day without fail just to have an excuse to hopefully flirt.

We ended up dating for over a year and a half. Y'know, once he got the guts to ask me out.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 09, 2012, 03:28:59 AM
Hmm. Thanks, that's interesting to know.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 09, 2012, 03:31:24 AM
ASK HER OUT, YOU FOOL!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 09, 2012, 03:37:34 AM
SHADDUP >:( I'M A WIMP OKAY
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on February 09, 2012, 03:47:15 AM
Slow you either ask her out or I'll fly to wherever you live and put together a group of people who will sing "Kiss The Girl" and follow you guys around all day.

ASK. HER. OUT.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 09, 2012, 03:49:33 AM
I'll give you some advice. DON'T THINK ABOUT IT, JUST DO IT. Overthinking a new, stressful experience can kill you(figuratively.... and sometimes literally). Overthinking will psych you out, cause you to freeze up, get nervous, and not go through with it. So don't think about when, or where, or how your gonna ask her out. Just do it the moment you see her. Be spontaneous and eccentric and say the first thing that comes to you, with putting any thought into it. Girls like things like that, as far as I know.(why else would ETF have married me?)

Also, Nebbles' plan is brilliant as well.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on February 09, 2012, 03:54:13 AM
Oh SFK, you and ETF could create one of those relationship-advice-talk shows. Or at least make a book (though ETF has already gotten on that xD).
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: K-NiGhT on February 09, 2012, 03:56:12 AM
If you haven't gotten this already...JUST DO IT MAN! Girls definately like a guy who knows what he wants. lol
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 09, 2012, 03:59:57 AM
*cough*Sandwiches*cough*
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: K-NiGhT on February 09, 2012, 04:00:36 AM
*cough*i lol'd*cough*
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Wrydryn on February 09, 2012, 04:02:19 AM
Look, if you don't do this Slow, you're very effectively friend-zoning yourself. It's one thing if you get friend-zoned by them, but if you do it to yourself, you only have yourself to blame. SO JUST DO IT!!! GOGOGOGO!!!!! (Do it in person too, no need to do it over the internet or by text message)

If you get rejected you can still be friends probably and still work towards it by being charming and all that jazz.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on February 09, 2012, 04:07:21 AM
Slow you either ask her out or I'll fly to wherever you live and put together a group of people who will sing "Kiss The Girl" and follow you guys around all day.

ASK. HER. OUT.

I love this idea.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 09, 2012, 04:15:03 AM
Whoa. Didn't expect a riot. O_o it's not a big deal guys. I guess we would already consider ourselves "friends" but I don't know if that means I'm in the friend zone. I don't think I am. I don't know. Don't want to force things. I don't see her that often which could kinda be a problem.

Plus there's the fact that I kinda think I like a couple other girls? DON'T JUDGE ME. Also SFK keeps distracting me with his sexiness so I'm always confused.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Mashi on February 09, 2012, 04:23:39 AM
22:22   Vera   Me And The NSM Relationships Topic: "Should I try to be the devil's advocate and try to argue that SlowPokemon shouldn't bother jumping on primitive instincts for this one girl... I suppose I will..." *While in middle of post* "Actually, I changed my mind."  *Repeat*
22:23   Vera   omg slowpokemon is being logical
22:23   Vera   yay
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Wrydryn on February 09, 2012, 04:27:55 AM
We're just looking out for each other, that's all.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nakah on February 09, 2012, 04:31:11 AM
If you decide to hesitate between a few potential girls, you'll end up finding yourself watching them walk away with other guys who made their decisive moves first.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on February 09, 2012, 04:31:32 AM
Oh Slow, liking all of the ladies.

Compensates for the fact that I haven't had a crush on anyone in a very long time. XD

And what Nakah said is true. Don't let that happen to you.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Mashi on February 09, 2012, 04:34:10 AM
I would deem it better to be in no relations than to have participated in many that failed to be honest (and don't argue that this isn't true; very few high school relationships will ever result in a successful marriage).
Also, whoever said that it is better to have loved than not at all evidently had no clue what he/she was talking about, because by lacking the experience of love, one would simply have little to no desire for it and would therefore view it in a neutral light.
Plus, asexuals are super coll.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 09, 2012, 04:38:08 AM
Also SFK keeps distracting me with his sexiness so I'm always confused.
It happens to everyone. More of a curse, my sexiness is, really.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 09, 2012, 04:48:11 AM
I would deem it better to be in no relations than to have participated in many that failed to be honest (and don't argue that this isn't true; very few high school relationships will ever result in a successful marriage).
Also, whoever said that it is better to have loved than not at all evidently had no clue what he/she was talking about, because by lacking the experience of love, one would simply have little to no desire for it and would therefore view it in a neutral light.
Plus, asexuals are super coll.

But once you've experienced true pure love, there's nothing like it. I'm afraid I must concur with the quote you denounced. But I don't really feel that way towards this girl. Or any of the others. Just Margaret and that was a while ago and I'm never going back. She never gave a damn about my feelings. She's still my friend and I couldn't live without her. But the whole time she was totally unconcerned with me. Maybe it wasn't even her fault, but it was really kind of awful of her.

Oh and speaking of her, she's now dating a freshman she plays next to in the school band. While it's already awkward that she's two years older, HE'S FRIENDS WITH MY BROTHER. Can you spell awkward? >__>

But moving on I don't know if I should move ahead with this girl. I don't think I want to force anything.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on February 09, 2012, 04:57:25 AM
I'd say start moving ahead, but slowly? Like don't just... jump on her. Try and hang out with her more. Get to know her a bit better. But if she's already comfortable with you, then there's not much to wait for.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on February 09, 2012, 04:58:17 AM
Whoa. Didn't expect a riot. O_o it's not a big deal guys. I guess we would already consider ourselves "friends" but I don't know if that means I'm in the friend zone. I don't think I am. I don't know. Don't want to force things. I don't see her that often which could kinda be a problem.

you'll never know if you don't try.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on February 09, 2012, 05:47:31 AM
My gf and I are both going speed dating at Pi Phi on Friday. This could end well or very very badly :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on February 09, 2012, 07:18:19 AM
My gf and I are both going speed dating at Pi Phi on Friday. This could end well or very very badly :P

Agreed xD Whyyyy would you do that? ???

@Slow
This is a bit of a confusing situation and I really don't know what to say, except maybe you should try things out. It might make her happy, and maybe you'd learn a few things too...you can still try things out seeing that stuff in high school don't necessarily mean everything's serious yet.

But once you've experienced true pure love, there's nothing like it...She never gave a damn about my feelings. She's still my friend and I couldn't live without her. But the whole time she was totally unconcerned with me. Maybe it wasn't even her fault, but it was really kind of awful of her.


Isn't it hard to say something like that when (you said) she didn't care about your feelings? :/
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on February 09, 2012, 01:39:45 PM
My gf and I are both going speed dating at Pi Phi on Friday. This could end well or very very badly :P

Yeah... I don't get it. Why are you doing that in the first place?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Cobraroll on February 09, 2012, 02:52:38 PM
I guess my situation on that field could be nicely summed up by a popular picture:

(http://i2.kym-cdn.com/entries/icons/original/000/003/619/Untitled-1.jpg)

Ticking off ALL the boxes of the stereotype. Way to go...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on February 09, 2012, 03:23:05 PM
Yeah... I don't get it. Why are you doing that in the first place?

Proceeds go to charity, so we thought we'd just stop by and goof off. You talk to people for 60 seconds each.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: fingerz on February 09, 2012, 09:51:16 PM
Isn't it hard to say something like that when (you said) she didn't care about your feelings? :/
Agreed. You can have feeling like that, but it's not the REAL TRUE PURE LOVE until you both feel that way. :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ragster on February 09, 2012, 09:56:37 PM
All the girls at my high school are NOTHING like the ones that were at my middle school. There's not one girl I'd ask out at my high school... It's kind of mean to say, but no girl at my high school is anything like me. There is a girl that I should've asked out at my middle school, but I choked up every time I had the chance. Now I regret it so much, I'll probably never see her ever again... Why did god have to make me so shy? :(
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: fingerz on February 09, 2012, 10:44:27 PM
There is a girl that I should've asked out at my middle school, but I choked up every time I had the chance. Now I regret it so much, I'll probably never see her ever again... Why did god have to make me so shy? :(
Hahaha! I have that problem too. Right now.
But she's too young. XD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 10, 2012, 12:15:28 AM
Agreed. You can have feeling like that, but it's not the REAL TRUE PURE LOVE until you both feel that way. :P

Wrong. Sorry to sound like a stereotypical teenager but if what I felt wasn't being in love then I don't know what is.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on February 10, 2012, 12:35:47 AM
^We're sure you love her by the sound of things, but I think he meant that it's true love if she feels the same way about you...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on February 10, 2012, 02:04:51 AM
Petrarch's poetry would fit this situation perfectly. No joke.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on February 10, 2012, 02:55:28 AM
There's a difference between infatuation and love...
Maybe I was just infatuated with my ex? d:

okay maybe not but meh
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nakah on February 10, 2012, 02:59:29 AM
Wrong. Sorry to sound like a stereotypical teenager but if what I felt wasn't being in love then I don't know what is.

Sorry, but it sounds like you don't know what love is, and I think I might have an idea why that might be. Once upon a time there was a girl on my baseball team when we were in 2nd grade. I instantly fell for her ways, looks, mannerisms; everything. Yet, we went to different schools so once baseball season ended, so did contact.

Then came middle school, when both schools merged when entering 6th grade. Upon the summer of 7th grade year, I was on a camping trip with family and friends, and this girl happened to be going with one of the families that were camping with us(as in we all would rent out the same few campsites next to each other). So typical middle school magic went down and we started dating. Then, about a week later, typical Middle-School Girl Syndrome(oh yes) kicked in, and she broke it off for the next guy-thing in line. You can only imagine my frustration at her dim-wittedness, and lack of consideration, "but oh, she's young, so maybe youth is the reason to excuse her" I thought. So let's get to high school.

The rest of this story is a little complicated, but essentially, we had on and off 'things' throughout the next few years, but the end result was always the same: she'd one day suddenly be interested in another guy(typically older) and would act as if there had never been anything between us.

SO senior year comes around, and she's already dating one guy who's she had been with for over a year, but in the beginning of the year we start to become really close. Closer than ever, and we sort of develop this deep bond/connection thing. I couldn't ever have been more sure of the feeling of "love" until now. There was absolutely no way that things could go downhill from here, I thought, based off of words and special moments that we had shared. I'm sure you can tell where this is going, and long story short, the whole thing crashed and burned; her lying and sneaking around caused her relationship to crash(even though she was aware of it, and somewhat planned for it to turn out that way(hence the reason for me in the first place), and she at the same time spun more lies and manipulation towards me to help her get through the breakup phase. Once she was out of that phase and realized she was now single and "free," she absolved from the situation entirely, leaving an ice cold shoulder for me, acting as though she never talked to me and nothing had ever happened to begin with. That's when I learned she had channeled her flirtyness and secrecy to a new guy. And the cycle continued(for him, anyways).

In the end, some girls are just SNAKES. If she has no consideration for your feelings now, don't stick around for her, because chances are she will always leave you out in the dust for whatever captures her greater interest at the time. Even if you don't think you could live without her and are sure that you can accept her for her flaws and shortcoming no matter what etc, if she doesn't treat you well in the end, then is that something you really want? You should focus on a girl that you can build a respectable trust with, with some sort of reliability. At least that's what I realized I wanted after that whole situation, and it caused me to re-evaluate myself and my entire perception of love, and I came to great epiphanies about my self towards the end of the year, but at the price of great pain.

So don't go all out for just one girl because you think it's real love. Find someone who will always meet you half way in the end. There's greater strength in trust than passion.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on February 10, 2012, 03:01:40 AM
Wow. That post deserves an award.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nakah on February 10, 2012, 03:06:53 AM
Re-post for new page:

Sorry, but it sounds like you don't know what love is, and I think I might have an idea why that might be. Once upon a time there was a girl on my baseball team when we were in 2nd grade. I instantly fell for her ways, looks, mannerisms; everything. Yet, we went to different schools so once baseball season ended, so did contact.

Then came middle school, when both schools merged when entering 6th grade. Upon the summer of 7th grade year, I was on a camping trip with family and friends, and this girl happened to be going with one of the families that were camping with us(as in we all would rent out the same few campsites next to each other). So typical middle school magic went down and we started dating. Then, about a week later, typical Middle-School Girl Syndrome(oh yes) kicked in, and she broke it off for the next guy-thing in line. You can only imagine my frustration at her dim-wittedness, and lack of consideration, "but oh, she's young, so maybe youth is the reason to excuse her" I thought. So let's get to high school.

The rest of this story is a little complicated, but essentially, we had on and off 'things' throughout the next few years, but the end result was always the same: she'd one day suddenly be interested in another guy(typically older) and would act as if there had never been anything between us.

SO senior year comes around, and she's already dating one guy who's she had been with for over a year, but in the beginning of the year we start to become really close. Closer than ever, and we sort of develop this deep bond/connection thing. I couldn't ever have been more sure of the feeling of "love" until now. There was absolutely no way that things could go downhill from here, I thought, based off of words and special moments that we had shared. I'm sure you can tell where this is going, and long story short, the whole thing crashed and burned; her lying and sneaking around caused her relationship to crash(even though she was aware of it, and somewhat planned for it to turn out that way(hence the reason for me in the first place), and she at the same time spun more lies and manipulation towards me to help her get through the breakup phase. Once she was out of that phase and realized she was now single and "free," she absolved from the situation entirely, leaving an ice cold shoulder for me, acting as though she never talked to me and nothing had ever happened to begin with. That's when I learned she had channeled her flirtyness and secrecy to a new guy. And the cycle continued(for him, anyways).

In the end, some girls are just SNAKES. If she has no consideration for your feelings now, don't stick around for her, because chances are she will always leave you out in the dust for whatever captures her greater interest at the time. Even if you don't think you could live without her and are sure that you can accept her for her flaws and shortcoming no matter what etc, if she doesn't treat you well in the end, then is that something you really want? You should focus on a girl that you can build a respectable trust with, with some sort of reliability. At least that's what I realized I wanted after that whole situation, and it caused me to re-evaluate myself and my entire perception of love, and I came to great epiphanies about my self towards the end of the year, but at the price of great pain.

So don't go all out for just one girl because you think it's real love. Find someone who will always meet you half way in the end. There's greater strength in trust than passion.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 10, 2012, 03:09:38 AM
Sorry, but it sounds like you don't know what love is, and I think I might have an idea why that might be. Once upon a time there was a girl on my baseball team when we were in 2nd grade. I instantly fell for her ways, looks, mannerisms; everything. Yet, we went to different schools so once baseball season ended, so did contact.

Then came middle school, when both schools merged when entering 6th grade. Upon the summer of 7th grade year, I was on a camping trip with family and friends, and this girl happened to be going with one of the families that were camping with us(as in we all would rent out the same few campsites next to each other). So typical middle school magic went down and we started dating. Then, about a week later, typical Middle-School Girl Syndrome(oh yes) kicked in, and she broke it off for the next guy-thing in line. You can only imagine my frustration at her dim-wittedness, and lack of consideration, "but oh, she's young, so maybe youth is the reason to excuse her" I thought. So let's get to high school.

The rest of this story is a little complicated, but essentially, we had on and off 'things' throughout the next few years, but the end result was always the same: she'd one day suddenly be interested in another guy(typically older) and would act as if there had never been anything between us.

SO senior year comes around, and she's already dating one guy who's she had been with for over a year, but in the beginning of the year we start to become really close. Closer than ever, and we sort of develop this deep bond/connection thing. I couldn't ever have been more sure of the feeling of "love" until now. There was absolutely no way that things could go downhill from here, I thought, based off of words and special moments that we had shared. I'm sure you can tell where this is going, and long story short, the whole thing crashed and burned; her lying and sneaking around caused her relationship to crash(even though she was aware of it, and somewhat planned for it to turn out that way(hence the reason for me in the first place), and she at the same time spun more lies and manipulation towards me to help her get through the breakup phase. Once she was out of that phase and realized she was now single and "free," she absolved from the situation entirely, leaving an ice cold shoulder for me, acting as though she never talked to me and nothing had ever happened to begin with. That's when I learned she had channeled her flirtyness and secrecy to a new guy. And the cycle continued(for him, anyways).

In the end, some girls are just SNAKES. If she has no consideration for your feelings now, don't stick around for her, because chances are she will always leave you out in the dust for whatever captures her greater interest at the time. Even if you don't think you could live without her and are sure that you can accept her for her flaws and shortcoming no matter what etc, if she doesn't treat you well in the end, then is that something you really want? You should focus on a girl that you can build a respectable trust with, with some sort of reliability. At least that's what I realized I wanted after that whole situation, and it caused me to re-evaluate myself and my entire perception of love, and I came to great epiphanies about my self towards the end of the year, but at the price of great pain.

So don't go all out for just one girl because you think it's real love. Find someone who will always meet you half way in the end. There's greater strength in trust than passion.

I don't think it deserves an award :x mostly because I mean something completely different and don't really know how to explain it. I'm not still in love with her. But when I was? I definitely was. I...don't know. I'm not phrasing this right. I'm giving up. Let's move on.

Also...uhh why did you post it again? Mod, Y U NO FOLLOW SPAM RULES D:
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nakah on February 10, 2012, 03:14:15 AM
It's not spam, I had sound reason to post it again. On other forums that I frequent, it's customary to repost something if it was  of some sort of significance and fell to the bottom of the previous page. That way the content of the post wouldn't be skipped over by someone that was too lazy to look back a page.

The post was meant to address how you said she treated you, and how you felt. So I was just going off of what I saw. There's much more to my situation just as well, but that's the best I could do making it relevant to your situation.

You re-posting my quote directly under my quote is more qualified to be spam, however.
And saying "I'm not in love with her anymore, but when I was..." Makes it sound even less like love than I originally thought. If the feelings are deep enough, they stay there even if you end up hating the person in the end. Part of you still feels those deep feelings. Thus, the Blues genre was born!

But I mean you're talking about your own situation so it's a different circumstance with different conditions, etc.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 10, 2012, 03:33:12 AM
Meh I had the quote in my post before you posted it again. :P I got the "a new reply has been posted!" and I saw it was the same thing.

Also you make some pretty good points, I guess.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on February 10, 2012, 03:44:37 AM
Falling /out/ of love is difficult.
After we broke up, I made myself stop liking the way she acted, and now I'm making excuses so I don't have to see her eyes...

She complains that she doesn't like them.
Brown seems boring to her I guess?, and also she got them from her mom, who she doesn't really like.

Her dark, hazel eyes that seem to shine in the light; I...

blaaaah. Go away. I usually walk by her Spanish class to get to AP Stat, started taking a different path cuz "It's shorter."
The path is slightly shorter, but that wasn't really the main reason.  :(
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nakah on February 10, 2012, 03:46:12 AM
Also you make some pretty good points, I guess.

Nah say what you really think. Re-reading my own posts; I'm always full of self-ridicule. I encourage the notion of speaking harsh truths, rather than retaining thoughts and feelings because you don't want to come off as mean.

Falling /out/ of love is difficult.
After we broke up, I made myself stop liking the way she acted, and now I'm making excuses so I don't have to see her eyes...

She complains that she doesn't like them.
Brown seems boring to her I guess?, and also she got them from her mom, who she doesn't really like.

Her dark, hazel eyes that seem to shine in the light; I...

blaaaah. Go away. I usually walk by her Spanish class to get to AP Stat, started taking a different path cuz "It's shorter."
The path is slightly shorter, but that wasn't really the main reason.  :(

Repression is an unhealthy thing. Repressing feelings as a sort of defense mechanism is what that sounds like. Accepting that you're really all out attracted to her is the first step to true self-healing. It's easier to carry good feelings for someone you can't have, rather than hatred. It's also easier to move on if those feelings are positive.


ITT Nakah's psychotherapy sessions.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 10, 2012, 03:54:23 AM
Nah say what you really think. Re-reading my own posts; I'm always full of self-ridicule. I encourage the notion of speaking harsh truths, rather than retaining thoughts and feelings because you don't want to come off as mean.

Repression is an unhealthy thing. Repressing feelings as a sort of defense mechanism is what that sounds like. Accepting that you're really all out attracted to her is the first step to true self-healing. It's easier to carry good feelings for someone you can't have, rather than hatred. It's also easier to move on if those feelings are positive.

Nonono, I'm not holding anything back. I really am kinda mulling over everything you said. Plus I don't want a fight or anything. I'm not totally sure I know what I'm talking about. O_o
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nakah on February 10, 2012, 03:59:36 AM
Yeah, but neither am I. I have no desire for any fight or debate either, but I would rather see a "No dumbdumb, you're wrong and this is why." Rather than "I somewhat agree, but whatever." sort of thing. That's all. It makes discussion more interesting(and better) when emotions are riled up a bit, given that boundaries and people in the discussion are respected.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on February 11, 2012, 08:19:11 PM
I don't really try to repress my feelings, I just try to change them.

If you give me time, I can feel however I want about something.
However, things that I've felt for a longer time (the ridiculous amount of time that I was dating her), the harder it is to change.

The only downside about being able to decide how I feel about something is that if I don't force an emotional response, there often isn't one...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: GreekGeek on February 12, 2012, 01:16:33 AM
Nawh, it's so cute to hear ya guys talk so sensitively.

Personally, I hate love and I hope to never fall in love again.
My last crush was a total disaster.

Disaster capital letters disaster.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on February 12, 2012, 06:59:54 AM
<etf rants about perspective on love>

I, personally, believe that when you love someone they make you want more for yourself, for them, and for everyone. They make life brighter, not just by being around. They make you want to be a better person, change for the better, or just make you feel amazing about who you are. Because they love who you are. It's not just about falling for their traits, physical attributes, etc. It's also about the effect they have on your life.

Personally, I'd find it hard to love someone that treated me like dirt and made no aspect of my life better, whatsoever. Part of why I love my boyfriend so much is because he makes me want to be a better person which, without really knowing it, is what I've wanted all along.

</etf rants about perspective on love>
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on February 12, 2012, 07:03:43 AM
I'd agree with that. Good sum up.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: GreekGeek on February 12, 2012, 01:48:37 PM
Agree, although it's easy to talk like that when there is somebody who loves you for who you are.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 12, 2012, 03:58:12 PM
Agree, although it's easy to talk like that when there is somebody who loves you for who you are.

Yeah.

Also ETF I never said Margaret treated me like dirt? Why would I still be best friends with her if she treated me like dirt?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on February 12, 2012, 06:44:46 PM
Agree, although it's easy to talk like that when there is somebody who loves you for who you are.

Yeah, it's nice to think that's easy to find, but it seems more people these days are confused about whether or not that's the case -.- It's much harder with freakin' Twilight (setting unrealistic expectations), TV dramas (stereotypes), computer based matching (a search engine sorting and matching by irrelevant things) and obsession with...coitus >__>

Just noticing this, but a lot of singles I know are obsessed about at least one of those and complain about being single but never give a thought about when/whether there was someone who liked them the way they were.

/n00b rant
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: GreekGeek on February 12, 2012, 07:44:12 PM
^ I know there are people who like me the way I am, but these are not the people I fall in love with usually. And even if I do, the feeling's never mutual.

Point is, most guys I fall in love with, are superficial bitches, only looking at what's on the outside. But never mind, enough of this whining of mine.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 12, 2012, 09:46:32 PM
Yeah.

Also ETF I never said Margaret treated me like dirt? Why would I still be best friends with her if she treated me like dirt?
She never gave a damn about my feelings.
^This could be interpreted as "She treated me like dirt". It could mean "She was blind to/didn't care about mah love". Just sayin
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on February 12, 2012, 09:49:34 PM
If we made an NSM version of Midsummer's Night Dream, who would be who?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 12, 2012, 09:51:39 PM
Me and Mashi would be everybody. Which reminds me, we still need to read through the entire thing on tinychat.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: blueflower999 on February 12, 2012, 10:10:27 PM
If we made an NSM version of Midsummer's Night Dream, who would be who?
I would probably be Demetrius XD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Mashi on February 12, 2012, 10:12:55 PM
i call the pretty angels
idk if there are even angels in it
also sfk i havent read it because we havent voice acted it in the chat :(
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Cobraroll on February 12, 2012, 10:54:34 PM
If there is a random stone or tree standing along a road somewhere mentioned in the piece, that would probably be me.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on February 12, 2012, 11:11:08 PM
You could be one of the actors that are supposed to perform in the wedding. :D

Yeah we just started reading it and I don't remember really anything from when I originally read it (5 years ago. D:)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Wrydryn on February 12, 2012, 11:13:34 PM
I think we should actually do this in tinychat. Yes?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on February 12, 2012, 11:19:51 PM
^This could be interpreted as "She treated me like dirt". It could mean "She was blind to/didn't care about mah love". Just sayin

Thanks SFK. I was gonna go and look for that quote. But yeah. And guys, even if I didn't have someone like that I'm still right. Now enough of your pity parties. Is it easier for me to think like that? Yes. Does that make me any less right? No.

</annoyed>

Also Slow, I recall you telling me she found out you basically had a huge thing for her and kind of made fun of you? Didn't really care? Etc?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 13, 2012, 04:37:55 AM
Thanks SFK. I was gonna go and look for that quote. But yeah. And guys, even if I didn't have someone like that I'm still right. Now enough of your pity parties. Is it easier for me to think like that? Yes. Does that make me any less right? No.

</annoyed>

Also Slow, I recall you telling me she found out you basically had a huge thing for her and kind of made fun of you? Didn't really care? Etc?

No, Margaret would NEVER make fun of me for that. What basically happened is she didn't feel the same way and so felt awkward and I think hoped I would just get over it.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: GreekGeek on February 13, 2012, 11:14:06 AM
No, Margaret would NEVER make fun of me for that. What basically happened is she didn't feel the same way and so felt awkward and I think hoped I would just get over it.

That's sad, but something you can handle I guess. What did you think of that reaction? Can you be normal friends or are your feelings keeping you from a regular friendship?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 13, 2012, 12:51:29 PM
I don't have feelingd for her anymore, we're really good friends.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: GreekGeek on February 13, 2012, 01:17:44 PM
That's good to hear  ;)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on February 13, 2012, 08:43:28 PM
^ I know there are people who like me the way I am, but these are not the people I fall in love with usually. And even if I do, the feeling's never mutual.

Point is, most guys I fall in love with, are superficial bitches, only looking at what's on the outside. But never mind, enough of this whining of mine.

That's sad...I guess I've heard this (http://blogs.scientificamerican.com/bering-in-mind/2011/02/14/my-lust-a-valentines-day-confession-and-the-psychology-of-infatuation/) before from this blogger (Jesse Bering) I sometimes read from.

---

I acted in "A Midsummer Night's Dream" back in high school. I played Quince -.- which if I recall correctly, was one of the clowns...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on February 13, 2012, 09:47:48 PM
*Actors, XD.

Anyways, I guess I'm sorta looking for a relationship right now but not really trying at all?  :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: GreekGeek on February 13, 2012, 11:11:49 PM
*Actors, XD.

Anyways, I guess I'm sorta looking for a relationship right now but not really trying at all?  :P

That's good, since relationships are usually coming when you aren't expecting it at all and when you mostly need it. Things will be well =)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on February 14, 2012, 01:54:56 AM
That's good, since relationships are usually coming when you aren't expecting it at all and when you mostly need it. Things will be well =)

Haha, exactly. Just when you stop looking at someone like some kind of object xD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: GreekGeek on February 14, 2012, 03:51:57 AM
Haha, exactly. Just when you stop looking at someone like some kind of object xD

I still do to be perfectly honest. Maybe that's why *goes in reconsideration*
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: DrP on February 14, 2012, 06:04:19 AM
Im sort of looking but not trying. I just dont have time for a relationship.

Though there are these girls who sit next to me in music... any of them will suffice.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on February 15, 2012, 02:35:10 AM
Ok what the hell. Seriously somebody tell me if I'm overreacting.

Told my gf we were going out to dinner tonight. Went to town over the weekend to get a couple things to give as a gift, paying drivers along the way to get me there. Got a pretty thoughtful gift for her based on an inside joke and wrote on a card, all that stuff you're supposed to do. Overall, I'm trying to say I put a lot of work into it.

What do I get?

A chocolate bar.

But not just any chocolate bar- a Hershey's chocolate bar. The thing wasn't even wrapped. She just handed it to me.

Now granted, she did say how wonderful of an evening it was, she apologized that it wasn't as planned out, and she did thank me for it all afterwards. I don't really know what to think. But I know my college student bank account is certainly not happy. Bah. I'm not basing our relationship based on the things we get, but it just seemed very odd.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on February 15, 2012, 02:41:28 AM
If you're going to make a big deal over a single instance like this which sure seems like a small slip, then you're doing it wrong.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on February 15, 2012, 02:47:55 AM
I guess it just tells me that she didn't care too much. That's all. Didn't put any time into it.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 15, 2012, 02:54:29 AM
Not that she didn't care enough...more like you cared a little too much. It's not a bad thing, but it's nothing to freak out over.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on February 15, 2012, 03:04:00 AM
That does sound pretty sucky though, I'll admit.

My boyfriend doesn't care for Valentine's Day, I've known this. Never expected him to do anything. But last year around this time I was talking about how I had always gotten flowers for the past few years on Valentine's Day. He said he'd send me some the next (this) year. I'm not that surprised he forgot and I don't plan on saying anything because it's not really a big deal.. but it kind of sucks. :/ Maybe I'm just expecting too much. It's not like he doesn't make me feel loved every day otherwise.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on February 15, 2012, 03:07:47 AM
That does sound pretty sucky though, I'll admit.

My boyfriend doesn't care for Valentine's Day, I've known this. Never expected him to do anything. But last year around this time I was talking about how I had always gotten flowers for the past few years on Valentine's Day. He said he'd send me some the next (this) year. I'm not that surprised he forgot and I don't plan on saying anything because it's not really a big deal.. but it kind of sucks. :/ Maybe I'm just expecting too much. It's not like he doesn't make me feel loved every day otherwise.

This may be the part I was forgetting.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on February 15, 2012, 03:09:24 AM
Rule No. 1 - Expect nothing.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Wrydryn on February 15, 2012, 03:29:02 AM
Ok what the hell. Seriously somebody tell me if I'm overreacting.

Told my gf we were going out to dinner tonight. Went to town over the weekend to get a couple things to give as a gift, paying drivers along the way to get me there. Got a pretty thoughtful gift for her based on an inside joke and wrote on a card, all that stuff you're supposed to do. Overall, I'm trying to say I put a lot of work into it.

What do I get?

A chocolate bar.

But not just any chocolate bar- a Hershey's chocolate bar. The thing wasn't even wrapped. She just handed it to me.

Now granted, she did say how wonderful of an evening it was, she apologized that it wasn't as planned out, and she did thank me for it all afterwards. I don't really know what to think. But I know my college student bank account is certainly not happy. Bah. I'm not basing our relationship based on the things we get, but it just seemed very odd.

At least you didn't get a potato.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on February 15, 2012, 03:29:30 AM
I've never really agreed with that rule. I think the full one is "give 100% and expect nothing in return." A relationship is meant to be mutually beneficial, so aren't there natural expectations that go with that? I can't think of one that's otherwise. Following that rule seems like it'd be like reading a fantasy tale.



Wry you got a potato?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Wrydryn on February 15, 2012, 03:31:41 AM
Nope, but getting a potato would be nice. You get a nice symbolic gift and dinner in one nice convenient package!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 15, 2012, 03:39:55 AM
I gotta admit, getting a potato would be pretty awesome. I don't know why, but it would be. Rather that than some cheap chocolates.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on February 15, 2012, 03:48:54 AM
Because you wouldn't expect it. WTF leads to bliss.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on February 15, 2012, 03:51:55 AM
As long as it's shaped like a heat, it's appropriate. You can poke holes in it and microwave it...or maybe that's just sweet potatoes.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on February 15, 2012, 03:53:52 AM
As long as it's shaped like a heat, it's appropriate. You can poke holes in it and microwave it...or maybe that's just sweet potatoes.

Haha. It's a pun.

And if it's shaped like a heart it'd be sweet hearts.... or sweet tarts. teeheehee
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Wrydryn on February 15, 2012, 03:56:14 AM
I now urge you all to buy sweet potatoes, cut them into the shape of a heart, and give them to your significant other.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on February 15, 2012, 04:21:33 AM
I've been reading this thread for a while and I've realized that most of you are far too young to be stressing out over these things. Aren't most of you in high school? Most of the issues described here all revolve around one fatal flaw: young people are selfish. We all are, don't try to deny it, it just comes part of the package of being young. It's just as well, I doubt any of you here are in these relationships hoping for it to last for years. If you are then I wish you the best. But since most of you are in high school, do you really think that your bf/gf are thinking totally selflessly. I know I didn't when I dated, and it's clear that neither are most of you; and that's fine. You are at a point in your life where you have very few responsibilities, maturation comes when those responsibilites grow.

I say "expect nothing" because I mean just that, expect nothing. Expectations come with time and habit, which in situations like these amounts to the order of many months, years possibly. If you give your bf/gf a gift out of the kindness of you heart, good for you; but unless they practice the same thing regularly, then they won't reciprocate. That's not a reflection on either of you, but its just a measure of longevity. After a year or so, you may find the two of you going out regularly, exchanging random little trinkets every now and then, and begin treating each other as a constant factor in each other's lives.

For those of you who have your eye on someone special, talk to them. You don't have to waltz up to them and ask them out, just find a common interest and start talking. If you want to date someone, figure out what you are looking for. If you just want to get into a relationship just to "give it a shot", I guarantee that it will not last very long unless you both decide that it is something worth pursuing. If you want to be dating someone for years to come, then figure out if they want the same.

Also, be wary of the distinction between Love and Lust. Both are powerful emotions that often feel the same upon first glance. An easy, but lengthy way to distinguish to two is to wait it out. Feelings of Lust will always give way to the next flavor of the week, Love is a bit stronger and will last longer. Be careful though, Love is not permanent, it is a fleeting emotion that requires constant nurture to keep alive and fresh. Every couple of months or so do something big romantically. Gestures like these are good way to keep things alive and prevent falling into a rut.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on February 15, 2012, 05:10:27 AM
Don't get me wrong, when I was in the relationship, I wanted it to last as long as possible.

I think at one point it may have been the same with her, but... she was the one who cut it off.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Wrydryn on February 15, 2012, 05:18:50 AM
I honestly think we could make our own season of How I Met Your Mother with the content in this thread.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: fingerz on February 15, 2012, 06:00:38 AM
I've been reading this thread for a while and I've realized that most of you are far too young to be stressing out over these things. Aren't most of you in high school? Most of the issues described here all revolve around one fatal flaw: young people are selfish. We all are, don't try to deny it, it just comes part of the package of being young. It's just as well, I doubt any of you here are in these relationships hoping for it to last for years. If you are then I wish you the best. But since most of you are in high school, do you really think that your bf/gf are thinking totally selflessly. I know I didn't when I dated, and it's clear that neither are most of you; and that's fine. You are at a point in your life where you have very few responsibilities, maturation comes when those responsibilites grow.
So true! I have learnt the exact same thing, but not through experience. I just know that at our age, relationships don't usually last and people don't take it seriously.

I say "expect nothing" because I mean just that, expect nothing. Expectations come with time and habit, which in situations like these amounts to the order of many months, years possibly. If you give your bf/gf a gift out of the kindness of you heart, good for you; but unless they practice the same thing regularly, then they won't reciprocate. That's not a reflection on either of you, but its just a measure of longevity. After a year or so, you may find the two of you going out regularly, exchanging random little trinkets every now and then, and begin treating each other as a constant factor in each other's lives.
Good! I'll keep that in mind for the future, especially if it's someone very important to me.

For those of you who have your eye on someone special, talk to them. You don't have to waltz up to them and ask them out, just find a common interest and start talking. If you want to date someone, figure out what you are looking for. If you just want to get into a relationship just to "give it a shot", I guarantee that it will not last very long unless you both decide that it is something worth pursuing. If you want to be dating someone for years to come, then figure out if they want the same.
Some more good advice! Thank you! I always have trouble talking to a particular someone, so this should help me. :D

Also, be wary of the distinction between Love and Lust. Both are powerful emotions that often feel the same upon first glance. An easy, but lengthy way to distinguish to two is to wait it out. Feelings of Lust will always give way to the next flavor of the week, Love is a bit stronger and will last longer. Be careful though, Love is not permanent, it is a fleeting emotion that requires constant nurture to keep alive and fresh. Every couple of months or so do something big romantically. Gestures like these are good way to keep things alive and prevent falling into a rut.
SO TRUE! Some of my friends are idiots and are all into the lust thing. I would never find someone attractive if they didn't have a wonderful and unique personality. :)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jamaha on February 15, 2012, 09:32:36 AM
Quote from: bash.org
#151227 +(10246)- [X]
IronChef Foicite: well, there's a lot of reasons
IronChef Foicite: i mean, roses only last like a couple weeks
IronChef Foicite: and that's if you leave them in water
IronChef Foicite: and they really only exist to be pretty
IronChef Foicite: so that's like saying
IronChef Foicite: "my love for you is transitory and based solely on your appearance"
IronChef Foicite: but a potato!
IronChef Foicite: potatos last for fucking ever, man
IronChef Foicite: in fact, not only will they not rot, they actually grow shit even if you just leave them in the sack
IronChef Foicite: that part alone makes it a good symbol
IronChef Foicite: but there's more!
IronChef Foicite: there are so many ways to enjoy a potato! you can even make a battery with it!
IronChef Foicite: and that's like saying "i have many ways in which I show my love for you"
IronChef Foicite: and potatos may be ugly, but they're still awesome
IronChef Foicite: so that's like saying "it doesn't matter at all what you look like, I'll still love you"
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 15, 2012, 01:08:08 PM
So true! I have learnt the exact same thing, but not through experience. I just know that at our age, relationships don't usually last and people don't take it seriously.
Good! I'll keep that in mind for the future, especially if it's someone very important to me.
Some more good advice! Thank you! I always have trouble talking to a particular someone, so this should help me. :D
SO TRUE! Some of my friends are idiots and are all into the lust thing. I would never find someone attractive if they didn't have a wonderful and unique personality. :)

Same, I had this conversation with roz recently: music >>>>> sex
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on February 15, 2012, 02:39:37 PM
I honestly think we could make our own season of How I Met Your Mother with the content in this thread.

CHALLENGE ACCEPTED.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: GreekGeek on February 15, 2012, 05:00:27 PM
Maestro, you want to become my psychiatrist? I'm sure you have more stuff to tell than she does.
And your potato discussion is just hilarious, I'm sorry. If someone would give me a potato, I'd just feel insulted. Yes, I'm aware of my nose being oversized.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on February 15, 2012, 09:44:06 PM
Maestro, you want to become my psychiatrist? I'm sure you have more stuff to tell than she does.

Gee. Thanks.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: GreekGeek on February 15, 2012, 10:58:21 PM
Gee. Thanks.

Nawh, I didn't mean you sweetie, I meant my psychiatrist, who is female.
Sorry for any psychological harm done =*(
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on February 15, 2012, 11:16:56 PM
GUYS.

GUYS. WE HAVE TO START GIVING OUT POTATOES TO PEOPLE.
How much do they cost, anyways? And what would we package them in? XD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: GreekGeek on February 15, 2012, 11:21:56 PM
^Great idea!

A pound of potatoes costs approx 1,50 euros over here. We should package them in stuffed ninsheetmusic teddy bears.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: DrP on February 16, 2012, 12:56:11 AM
GUYS.

GUYS. WE HAVE TO START GIVING OUT POTATOES TO PEOPLE.
How much do they cost, anyways? And what would we package them in? XD
Go to Costco.

Get the 25 pound bag of Idaho Russets (the worst and cheapest) for like 6 dollars. and send send send.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Wrydryn on February 16, 2012, 01:54:23 AM
Quote from: bash.org
#151227 +(10246)- [X]
IronChef Foicite: well, there's a lot of reasons
IronChef Foicite: i mean, roses only last like a couple weeks
IronChef Foicite: and that's if you leave them in water
IronChef Foicite: and they really only exist to be pretty
IronChef Foicite: so that's like saying
IronChef Foicite: "my love for you is transitory and based solely on your appearance"
IronChef Foicite: but a potato!
IronChef Foicite: potatos last for fucking ever, man
IronChef Foicite: in fact, not only will they not rot, they actually grow shit even if you just leave them in the sack
IronChef Foicite: that part alone makes it a good symbol
IronChef Foicite: but there's more!
IronChef Foicite: there are so many ways to enjoy a potato! you can even make a battery with it!
IronChef Foicite: and that's like saying "i have many ways in which I show my love for you"
IronChef Foicite: and potatos may be ugly, but they're still awesome
IronChef Foicite: so that's like saying "it doesn't matter at all what you look like, I'll still love you"

Glad to see someone knows the source!


CHALLENGE ACCEPTED.

And it will be LEGEND- wait for it.... -DARY!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on February 16, 2012, 02:21:24 AM
Maybe this can be the relationship talk show you two were going to have?
Except better.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 16, 2012, 03:13:42 AM
And it will be LEGEND- wait for it.... -DARY!
Haaaaaaaaaaaaaave you met Whirr?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on February 16, 2012, 03:53:11 AM
Maestro, you want to become my psychiatrist? I'm sure you have more stuff to tell than she does.
And your potato discussion is just hilarious, I'm sorry. If someone would give me a potato, I'd just feel insulted. Yes, I'm aware of my nose being oversized.
I would, by my rates go up exponentially after the 6th hour, starting $20 per hour.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: DrP on February 16, 2012, 04:32:20 AM
^Fraiser Crane, Radio Psychologist.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on February 16, 2012, 04:59:38 AM
I would, by my rates go up exponentially after the 6th hour, starting $20 per hour.

*Asks the furniture salesman for free while lying down in one of the show room sofas*

1) I just realized I have been on a date...2 years later >__>
2) Don't really want to say much more about stuff right now about this topic other than "I complain a lot"
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Olimar12345 on February 18, 2012, 06:48:19 AM
Okay...I'm gonna need some advice...

I have a good friend at work, whom I've known for a couple years now. Working with her makes working there really fun-It can really turn around a bad day just seeing her smile as she walks in. We've only really been buddies at work since she's been living with her bf for a few years now, and I was cool with that. He was a cool guy to hang out with-and really funny too! Of course, I've always seemed to have a bit of a crush on her.(Lol, I'm in high school again!)However, I'd never tried to do anything about, it since they made such a great couple. Today on her break he broke up with her. Nobody saw it coming. I spent the last three hours there comforting her, but they made me leave because of our policy on overtime.(they literally make you leave the store since you're in uniform :<) I told her to call/text me if she needed anything.

What should I do? I can't stand to see her like this...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: DrP on February 18, 2012, 06:58:38 AM
Well, if I was in this situation...

I'd call her in the morning/text her saying "Good Morning! How are you feeling! Know that I'm here for you :D". Being positive, supportive and comforting helps. Let her do what she wants to do and go along with it (unless it's detrimental to recovery). Make her a cake or cookies or some sort of comfort food! Offer assistance or something. Take her out to do something fun (if you do stuff outside work)... For example, I took one of my friends to one of our outdoor malls here and then took her to CPK and had an enjoyable time. It was a "get your mind off him and spend time with your best friend" situation. Even going out jogging together is a great way to get her mind off it... especially if it's a nice day!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Olimar12345 on February 18, 2012, 07:13:55 AM
Thanks, I'll do that. It's just that I don't know where she's going to be staying-they moved here from michigan for her bf's job, so I doubt she has any family out here. I'd let her stay with me, but unfortunatly I'm still at home and won't be moving out until august:( (and my family would'nt just let her stay with us+it would be weird lol.).
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nakah on February 18, 2012, 07:35:58 AM
Consolidation is good, but don't give the impression that you're trying to flip it around so that the two of you can start dating. Beware the friend zone.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 18, 2012, 08:01:01 AM
Goddamn friend zone.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on February 18, 2012, 08:05:14 AM
Okay...I'm gonna need some advice...
This is the best place to get advice, but maybe not the best place for good advice. XD

A little bit joking about that, but anyways, you need to find a balance between comforting her and the friend zone. D:
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Olimar12345 on February 18, 2012, 08:06:32 AM
Thanks, guys. It means alot. I'll try my best.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on February 18, 2012, 08:12:41 AM
No but really, if it looks like you're setting yourself up for a relationship with her this soon, it'll look really bad.
At the same time, opportunities can disappear quickly and may never show themselves again.

But yeah, at least try to cheer her up, but don't over-exert it.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on February 18, 2012, 08:17:25 AM
Same, I had this conversation with roz recently: music >>>>> sex

<3333333333

Also

(http://img710.imageshack.us/img710/4769/relationshipsri.jpg)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Olimar12345 on February 18, 2012, 08:20:10 AM
But yeah, at least try to cheer her up, but don't over-exert it.
Definitely. I'm honestly more concerned for her right now than anything. But later down the road if the opportunity comes I might try a relationship with her.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: GreekGeek on February 18, 2012, 11:30:04 AM
I agree with all that has been said before. Try to comfort her, but try to let her make the decisions, so she'll know you're there for her. And watch out not to become too close in a physical way. She'll probably be a bit suspicious when it comes to men, when she has just been let down by her bf, and she'll maybe overreact when she gets the idea you're trying to hit on her. Thing is, if she has feelings for you, they will always come out in the end. So don't worry if she starts dating again and maybe even picks up a new bf, trying to forget what happened. Be there for her as her comforting, sweet friend, but watch out being friend zoned.

Hope this makes sense. Good luck ;) 
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 19, 2012, 06:11:11 AM
But yeah, at least try to cheer her up, but don't over-exert it, if you know what I mean.
*fix'd
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Winter on February 20, 2012, 08:05:38 AM
(http://img710.imageshack.us/img710/4769/relationshipsri.jpg)

Heh. That guy..
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jamaha on February 24, 2012, 10:10:14 PM
Jamaha: So, uh, would you like to go out for a coffee?
Girl: Sure! (OMG YES)
Girl: But, you know, as friends. (wait, what)
Girl: I have a boyfriend. (NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO--)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: insaneintherain on February 24, 2012, 10:44:47 PM
MOST middle school relationships never work out... I've seen too many.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 24, 2012, 10:50:15 PM
Lol it's middle school.

Also good to see you took down your douchebag-ish thread saying how great you are for a thirteen year old.

E: Nope, nvm. It's just moved.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 24, 2012, 11:11:08 PM
ALL middle school relationships never work out... I've seen too many.
*fixed

Middle School relationships are a joke.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: K-NiGhT on February 24, 2012, 11:12:07 PM
*fixed

Middle School relationships are a joke.
Thank you.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Mashi on February 25, 2012, 01:32:39 AM
How I Imagine School Relationships, Middle School in Particular:

"Hey there, girl, whadya say about meeting me at the monkey bars so I can buy you some ice cream and apple juice!!!!!!!!!"
"omg youre my prince in shining armour.  of course!!!!!!!!!"
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on February 25, 2012, 01:44:43 AM
Middle School relationships are a joke.

I agree. -.- Admittedly I thought something was wrong with me back then because no guys liked me. But I'm glad I never got into anything back then.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 25, 2012, 04:49:14 AM
I repeat: IT'S MIDDLE SCHOOL XD

How I Imagine School Relationships, Middle School in Particular:

"Hey there, girl, whadya say about meeting me at the monkey bars so I can buy you some ice cream and apple juice!!!!!!!!!"
"omg youre my prince in shining armour.  of course!!!!!!!!!"

This made my day. Beyond belief. I love you so much Mashi, I forgive you for not being very active in my game.

*fixed

Middle School in general is a joke.

*Fixed.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on February 25, 2012, 05:05:51 AM
Jamaha: So, uh, would you like to go out for a coffee?
Girl: Sure! (OMG YES)
Girl: But, you know, as friends. (wait, what)
Girl: I have a boyfriend. (NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO--)

At least you tried xD I haven't even gotten to that.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on February 25, 2012, 06:46:03 AM
On the topic of Mashi's middle school dating thing..


I wrote an essay on the Amish and learned some things. Found out the Amish can date a lot like typical folk (more "courting"-ish) and young men will usually drive their carriages up to their possible date.

"Oh hey there pretty lady wanna ride in my buggy?"

How could you say no to that?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jamaha on February 25, 2012, 11:08:08 AM
At least you tried xD I haven't even gotten to that.

I know! Instead of "Damn, I just got rejected" I was like "Damn, I just asked a girl out."
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Wrydryn on February 25, 2012, 04:24:49 PM
How about those elementary school relationships?
It was so strange seeing someone in a relationship that long ago and in that grade.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 25, 2012, 08:09:23 PM
I know! Instead of "Damn, I just got rejected" I was like "Damn, I just asked a girl out."
lol, I've had that feeling before.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on February 25, 2012, 08:10:56 PM
I know! Instead of "Damn, I just got rejected" I was like "Damn, I just asked a girl out."

It would be a real rejection if she said no :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jamaha on February 25, 2012, 10:21:49 PM
I know, not a real rejection. Still, same result.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on February 26, 2012, 12:17:36 AM
How about those elementary school relationships?
It was so strange seeing someone in a relationship that long ago and in that grade.

Oh my fucking god. The stories I could tell you.

This one bitch I was friends with in 2nd grade had her 'boyfriend' tell me to stay away from her. -_-
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FluteNinja on May 15, 2012, 03:46:09 AM
Question: When you catch your ex staring at you (a lot) and then she looks away when you catch her, what does that mean?

I found the right thread:P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on May 15, 2012, 04:02:43 AM
I've been that person so I would know.  It either means you have a bat in the cave and she doesn't want to embarrass you, or, more likely, even though you broke up, she still likes you and can't take her eyes off you, but she is too afraid to confront her feelings and talk to you.  Trust me, been there, done that, and if you tell her you are aware of it, and you don't want to get back together, she'll be crushed.  I guess either ignore it, or if you do tell her, don't be a douche and play the still-friends card unless you really mean it.  Though I'm not an expert on love, so you may want a second opinion.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on May 15, 2012, 04:07:57 AM
you have a bat in the cave
wut
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on May 15, 2012, 04:26:00 AM
It depends on the reason you broke up in the first place. Emotions are usually cyclical, with love often falring up every now and then a subsiding after a while, this is usually what happens when people say they've fallen out of love. It's not that you stopped loving each other, its just that those feelings aren't as strong at the moment. Love needs to be built up in relationships, otherwise it get stagnant and loses its hold on you. And it is possible to care for someone else without having a strong feeling as love to back it up.

If your break up was something along these lines then most likely her feelings for you are flaring up again, and possibly the same for you as well.

If it was less amiable, then she might be either be reconsidering (doubtful) or just reminiscing.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FluteNinja on May 15, 2012, 04:45:10 AM
She dumped me because we're going to different high schools and wanted to make it easier on the both of us-.- (I call BS)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on May 15, 2012, 04:57:37 AM
Anytime distance becomes a factor in a relationship, it makes it that much harder for it to work. Not only do you get to see each other less, but now trust becomes a bigger issue than it every was. It's one thing to trust your partner if their down the street, or even across the city; much less so across an entire state. Given you two don't have your means of transportation, going to two separate schools might as well be like you two are living in different states. The temptation alone proves to be too much for some people, and as such want to remove the temptation altogether, which usually means ending the long distance relationship.

Chances are she still likes you, but doesn't want to hurt you if she were to stray while you two were apart. Having a physical presence is very important in a relationship.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Harvest on May 15, 2012, 04:57:59 AM
My girlfriend says we have sex too much and I don't take the relationship seriously.

Stupid.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on May 15, 2012, 05:40:41 AM
(http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m3i28jOa6Z1qg9sv2.jpg)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on May 15, 2012, 05:53:12 AM
(http://img20.imageshack.us/img20/7112/57613210151681092850092.jpg)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on May 15, 2012, 10:48:13 PM
My girlfriend says we have sex too much and I don't take the relationship seriously.

Stupid.

That's just crazy.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on May 16, 2012, 01:12:14 AM
TMI -.-

Also, Dude should fix that link. I'm curious about what it is.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on May 16, 2012, 01:23:18 AM
What link?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on May 16, 2012, 01:26:45 AM
http://img20.imageshack.us/img20/7112/57613210151681092850092.jpg

???
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FluteNinja on May 16, 2012, 01:27:15 AM
My girlfriend says we have sex too much and I don't take the relationship seriously.

Stupid.

TMI.  There are more younger people on this website than you think
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: blueflower999 on May 16, 2012, 01:29:03 AM
TMI.  There are more younger people on this website than you think
It's not THAT bad compared to some other things I've seen. *Looks at Dude*  :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FluteNinja on May 16, 2012, 01:30:31 AM
Should I be afraid?  :-[
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on May 16, 2012, 01:31:44 AM
TMI.  There are more younger people on this website than you think
You youngin's shouldn't be on threads titled "Relationships" anyway *sits on a rocking chair*
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FluteNinja on May 16, 2012, 01:32:22 AM
Touche
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on May 16, 2012, 04:41:46 AM
Just a question for you guys... is it weird to date someone with the same name as a sibling?

Thing is, one of my friends is awesome and I'd love to ask her out. She's funny, smart, cute, amazing musician, overall awesome. And she has the same name as my sister. It just seems to me like it'd be kind of...strange. Thoughts?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on May 16, 2012, 04:53:18 AM
It's only strange if you believe it is. If you feel strongly enough for her, then you'll get over it rather quickly, since you'll be able to distinguish the two. It might make family dinners a little akward at first, but at the end of the day it really doen't matter.

If it does bug you that much, then your feelings for her just aren't strong enough to reconcile that fact. That or there are some other issues that need to be worked out.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on May 16, 2012, 05:00:08 AM
What Maestro said. However your relationship will be the butt of numerous jokes.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Raymondbl on May 16, 2012, 12:11:44 PM
Just a question for you guys... is it weird to date someone with the same name as a sibling?

Thing is, one of my friends is awesome and I'd love to ask her out. She's funny, smart, cute, amazing musician, overall awesome. And she has the same name as my sister. It just seems to me like it'd be kind of...strange. Thoughts?

That shouldn't even be a factor in your relationship.  Go for it.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FluteNinja on May 16, 2012, 02:10:01 PM
Just a question for you guys... is it weird to date someone with the same name as a sibling?

Thing is, one of my friends is awesome and I'd love to ask her out. She's funny, smart, cute, amazing musician, overall awesome. And she has the same name as my sister. It just seems to me like it'd be kind of...strange. Thoughts?
I would go for it.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on May 16, 2012, 03:12:30 PM
Come up with a nickname if it bothers you that much? But it's not like you're thinking of your sister while talking to her :p
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sir Dino on May 16, 2012, 04:36:18 PM
Come up with a nickname if it bothers you that much? But it's not like you're thinking of your sister while talking to her :p
It's not much of a big deal. But if your really find it awkward, just give her a nickname (only if she likes it) or just give your sister a nickname. or just stop speaking to your sister.

But I never bother with relationships yet.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on May 16, 2012, 05:00:43 PM
http://img20.imageshack.us/img20/7112/57613210151681092850092.jpg

???
What about it? The image is displayed fine on my computer.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on May 16, 2012, 05:01:41 PM
Yep same, I blame China
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sir Dino on May 16, 2012, 05:13:31 PM
I blame China
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: DrP on May 16, 2012, 08:04:18 PM
The Great Firewall Strikes Again!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on May 16, 2012, 08:34:59 PM
Pretty sure she's in HK right now so there shouldn't a problem... but oh well
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on May 17, 2012, 12:34:07 AM
Lol maybe it's imageshack being stupid here. And yes, I'm in HK...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sir Dino on May 17, 2012, 01:39:52 AM
Cool! ..don't mean to go off topic, but how is it in HK?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on May 17, 2012, 02:45:30 AM
Haven't really been sightseeing so much, it's mostly paperwork so far and looking around malls. They're all starting to look the same...

Anyway a bit more on topic is that the guys here are a bit of a disappointment XD Everyone has the same glasses, skin problems (probably from the heat and not washing their face enough) and wear the same shirt and/or tie.  A shower would help them a lot...

This is the only place I've been to where everyone spends the entire time staring at their phones on the train or train platform and not even look up. So antisocial xD So they shouldn't complain about being single...the don't seem to want attention ::)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sir Dino on May 17, 2012, 03:03:21 AM
lol, I had a feeling that people in HK would be glued to their cellphones. xD So yeah, sorry China! we have no worries about your antisocial-ness! :) (for a second, when you all were saying "HK", I thought you meant.. hello kitty xD)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on May 17, 2012, 03:35:05 AM
Haha, it's actually completely different in China...the girls really take the time to make themselves look good and the guys are a lot more social despite having phones and stuff. I went to a park once and there were all these nerdy* photographers just walking around asking girls if they could take their picture. Several guys asked me too lol XD

*by Chinese standards
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sir Dino on May 17, 2012, 03:49:48 AM
Asians boys/men do tend to be closer to one another (by prior experience/Asian cultures, not by racism ways). ..but never knew about the photo taking stuff. xD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on May 17, 2012, 05:49:56 AM
You clearly have never seen Asian tourist groups.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Mashi on May 17, 2012, 05:55:43 AM
Asian countries are generally constituted of collectivist countries, so I would imagine that whatever Asian tourist groups you may be referring to may be aberrant if they weren't group-oriented.  Not sure about what you're referring to when you say that, but even something such as bickering among each other may reflect a degree of interdependence, considering that they're able to bicker with each other as a family would.  But again, I'm not sure what you're implying when you refer to the tourist groups, so...!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on May 17, 2012, 06:11:41 AM
Photos, everywhere
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: DrP on May 17, 2012, 07:21:04 AM
When I was in Rome, in front of the Basilica Saint Mary Maggiore, two FULL busses of Azn tour groups let out and 2 minutes later, I swear each tourist (and all of them had cameras) had taken AT LEAST 20 photos each...

Not to mention they mobbed the church (which kind of pissed off the priests a bit, as they were trying to get Confessions done)... it was quite a sight.

And this is totally the stereotype
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sir Dino on May 17, 2012, 06:28:33 PM
Not to mention they mobbed the church (which kind of pissed off the priests a bit, as they were trying to get Confessions done)... it was quite a sight.
Wish i'd seen that.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on May 17, 2012, 11:24:23 PM
You see, this isn't actually off topic because we are simply conversing the relationships of asian tourists with the culture which they are visiting.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Raymondbl on May 18, 2012, 12:18:25 AM
^lol  I was just about to say we were getting off topic

… I sorta like my 8 year old neighbor...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sir Dino on May 18, 2012, 12:23:31 AM
… I sorta like my 8 year old neighbor...
<Aamir refrians from any comment on what read in the above comment> ... </Aamir refrains from any comment on what he read in the above comment>
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on May 18, 2012, 12:28:26 AM
… I sorta like my 8 year old neighbor...
Pedobear approves.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sir Dino on May 18, 2012, 12:31:45 AM
^ *exactly what Aamir did not want to say, but thanks Dude for pointing that out
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Raymondbl on May 18, 2012, 12:33:42 AM
No, it's not pedophilia, it's just she's cute and pretty, and my feelings aren't the romantic type. Do ya get what I mean? :\
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sir Dino on May 18, 2012, 12:37:24 AM
.... sort of....
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Raymondbl on May 18, 2012, 12:40:13 AM
I just feel that she's really cute and I should protect her/make her happy.  Brotherly/protective feelings? 
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sir Dino on May 18, 2012, 12:41:56 AM
....Sure, I guess so. If you don't want anyone to bother her (including yourself), it's not making you PB. :)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on May 18, 2012, 12:43:41 AM
*cough*



One of my friends just asked a girl out by saying "Excuse me, I couldn't help but notice that you have a very good hip structure for birthing children, would you like to go on a date?"

Obviously, she said yes.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on May 18, 2012, 01:09:18 AM
^This.  Has to be the best pick-up line I've ever heard.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on May 18, 2012, 01:41:23 AM
Complimenting a girl's boobs subtly... "YOUR kids will never go hungry"
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Mashi on May 18, 2012, 01:50:09 AM
My father is about 10 years older than my mother.  That means that my mother wasn't even born when my father was in 5th Grade!

In other words, simply because a person is somewhat younger than you doesn't mean that love between the two isn't possible.  Of course, I'm not saying that adults should be dating 8 year olds, but the possibility of marrying them when they're older is certainly possible!

But acting as an older brother to a girl is super cute and you should totes do that Raymondbl.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on May 18, 2012, 02:06:17 AM
Complimenting a girl's boobs subtly... "YOUR kids will never go hungry"

Oh God XD It doesn't work for everyone...

I just feel that she's really cute and I should protect her/make her happy.  Brotherly/protective feelings? 

xDDDDDD if you say so.


In other words, simply because a person is somewhat younger than you doesn't mean that love between the two isn't possible.  Of course, I'm not saying that adults should be dating 8 year olds, but the possibility of marrying them when they're older is certainly possible!


Lol I remember hearing in music class that Robert Schumann when he was 18 met Clara Wieck when she was 9 (he was taking lessons from her dad).  They got married xD It doesn't get weirder than that...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on May 18, 2012, 02:09:14 AM
Actually....my dad is 13 years older than my mom so age difference doesn't matter--after a certain point, that is. While you're 13 and she's 8, no. She hasn't even started...developing...yet and you've still got some years ahead of you as well. But when you're like 25 and she's 20? I don't think there's a big deal.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on May 18, 2012, 06:41:59 AM
My moms 7 years older than my father. But yeah, I've never been asked out by a cheesy pick up line, sadly.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on May 18, 2012, 09:38:48 AM
^Me neither :(
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on May 18, 2012, 06:34:03 PM
It seems impossible to find a guy with common sense these days, I don't know why I bother -.-

/rant
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sir Dino on May 18, 2012, 06:43:17 PM
All most of us guys here have common sense; we're born with it.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on May 18, 2012, 07:01:24 PM
nowadays, common sense is an oxymoron.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on May 18, 2012, 07:43:47 PM
Last night I was talking to my boyfriend and was rather impressed by how well he could read me. Idunno, it's just weird. I've always thought about how I want someone who really knows me, now I've got someone that knows me better than I do. Just thinking out loud, sort of.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sir Dino on May 18, 2012, 07:56:26 PM
Last night I was talking to my boyfriend and was rather impressed by how well he could read me. Idunno, it's just weird. I've always thought about how I want someone who really knows me, now I've got someone that knows me better than I do. Just thinking out loud, sort of.
(i'm guessing) That's the start of eternal relationship.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on May 18, 2012, 08:47:54 PM
It's not, reading someone does not mean a good relationship, it just means good people skills (in a sense).
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sir Dino on May 18, 2012, 09:00:47 PM
I wonder if UGC has an relationships... xD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on May 18, 2012, 09:03:26 PM
I have, and I'm great at reading people, doesn't make for a good relationship on its own at the end of the day.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on May 19, 2012, 01:33:53 PM
I have, and I'm great at reading people, doesn't make for a good relationship on its own at the end of the day.

This is true ;P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Raymondbl on May 19, 2012, 02:07:28 PM
I'd say I'm fairly good at reading people too.  It's great for picking someone for a relationship. 
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: fingerz on May 20, 2012, 10:53:12 PM
Very true. I have a horrible habit of toying with people who have an interest. :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: insaneintherain on May 23, 2012, 02:09:19 AM
I wonder if UGC has an relationships... xD
That made me LOL surprisingly hard.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: DrP on May 24, 2012, 08:27:58 AM
Something huge may have changed...

I'll let you guys know if it did!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on May 24, 2012, 04:51:39 PM
I'm still the same oblivious person...Doesn't look like that will change anytime soon xD

So can anyone tell me if it's some weird psychological thing?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: fingerz on May 24, 2012, 11:52:52 PM
Hahahaha! No, it's to do with reading emotions. I'm (usually) very good at reading people's body language and most of the time I can pick up the subtle hints. It's a skill, that's all. :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on May 25, 2012, 12:09:52 AM
Actually it's usually fairly blatantly obvious when someone wants to go out with you, it's a matter of acting.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on May 25, 2012, 03:04:33 AM
Really? I usually realize things like that too late (like years too late sometimes-.-)...but I'm not so clueless about other things xD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on May 25, 2012, 03:14:11 AM
Really? I usually realize things like that too late (like years too late sometimes-.-)...but I'm not so clueless about other things xD
O_O yeah.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on May 25, 2012, 03:18:47 AM
^Has happened to me. Actually, I knew she was totally in to me(Dropping "subtle" hints like, "I love you," and scooting extra close to me) But I wimped out, and lost my chance. Oh me.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jamaha on May 25, 2012, 09:03:12 AM
Dropping subtle hints like, "I love you,"

Okay...so, um. Am I the only one whose definition of "subtle" doesn't exactly fit here?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on May 25, 2012, 11:12:38 AM
Yeah, that's really not subtle.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on May 25, 2012, 11:34:07 AM
Keep forgetting sarcasm does not work on internet. should fix that
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jamaha on May 25, 2012, 01:41:11 PM
Oh.

Let me just recalibrate my sarcasm radar. *beep*

Guess the damn thing was broken again.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on May 25, 2012, 02:08:06 PM
Are you ignoring all those obvious signs or do you just think they're joking?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on May 25, 2012, 04:22:31 PM
Actually it's usually fairly blatantly obvious when someone wants to go out with you, it's a matter of acting.
Unless you're the kind of person that isn't even making eye contact with that person. o.o

Well it's mostly because she knows I like her and so just avoid her, and even if I did I'm fairly certain she's not allowed to date anyone.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on May 25, 2012, 04:35:48 PM
'Not allowed to date'

Yahhh I used to hear that all the time xD. 'Not until you're 25' they said...in reality they're getting nervous since I seem to be taking their advice seriously.

The eye contact thing is interesting. I've been told that I don't make a lot of eye contact. But when I did, I guessed correctly what fat sis was going to pick in a game of rock paper scissors xD. Maybe I should do it more and make everyone else the nervous ones.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on May 25, 2012, 04:54:27 PM
You're suppressing your natural psychic abilities.... O:
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on May 25, 2012, 05:10:54 PM
You're suppressing your natural psychic abilities.... O:

Hmm well I was right about a few things but that doesn't make me psychic lol. The rock paper scissors was an interesting example. I made eye contact with her for a second and something in my head just screamed to me about what she was going to pick o__O

I had 1/3 of a chance of getting it right without any of that, so it wasn't something really far out that it couldn't have been pure luck.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on May 25, 2012, 07:10:35 PM
You're suppressing your natural psychic abilities.... O:
I agree, Ruto...you're holding yourself back!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on May 26, 2012, 08:00:46 AM
Haha, well let's not jump to conclusions...I think at least one person's had something similar happen. I don't think studies of ESP have been done (or accepted), you just hear some random instances of it happen. I have a friend who told me her grandma went to a psychic, who said that she'd die with only one of her children beside her in a foreign country. The grandma was obviously freaked out, but it came true :/ (The grandma had to flee the country soon after because of war, and only one of her kids managed to leave the country too) o__o I don't know if that's too vague to be random.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on May 28, 2012, 02:20:49 AM
I can't decide if it's cute or annoying that anytime I say 'I wanna know!' my boyfriend says

can you show me?

what?

somethings familiar about the strangers like me

(http://weknowmemes.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/oh-you-dog.jpg)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on May 28, 2012, 03:06:44 AM
Oh god every time I see that dog...


WHY IS IT SO AMUSING.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on May 28, 2012, 08:12:59 PM
I can't decide if it's cute or annoying that anytime I say 'I wanna know!' my boyfriend says

can you show me?

what?

somethings familiar about the strangers like me

HAHA! That's hilarious!  You do know that line is from a song in Tarzan, right?  That guy is a keeper.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on May 29, 2012, 01:33:49 AM
HAHA! That's hilarious!  You do know that line is from a song in Tarzan, right?

...no shit. also ETF's a disney FANATIC.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on May 29, 2012, 02:48:18 AM
Just making sure, but how in the metric hell was I supposed to know that?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on May 29, 2012, 03:16:51 AM
All of her posts everywhere
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on May 29, 2012, 11:41:13 AM
:3
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: fingerz on May 29, 2012, 11:00:22 PM
Just making sure, but how in the metric hell was I supposed to know that?
I didn't know hell could be measured in metric units... :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on May 29, 2012, 11:02:57 PM
Sheikah was slyly making a joke about Americans' knowledge of the metric system.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on May 29, 2012, 11:08:48 PM
I so AMERICAN I didn't even realize he used the word metric in that sentence until fingerz pointed it out
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: fingerz on May 30, 2012, 10:47:50 PM
I love metric units! They actually make sense!

I don't get why Aussie Nintendo doesn't change Pokemon height/weight back to metric units like the Japanese games... What the hell is 9 lbs and 3 foot 7??? :(
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Olimar12345 on May 30, 2012, 10:50:09 PM
What the hell is 9 lbs and 3 foot 7??? :(

he he he, I know what those are!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: fingerz on May 30, 2012, 10:54:05 PM
That's why I love playing the Japanese games and reading 1.75 m and 128 kg. Makes so much more sense... :D
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on May 30, 2012, 11:01:27 PM
Not to us. XD because we have nothing to compare that to to realize how much that actually is.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on May 30, 2012, 11:29:31 PM
Ohh well it's not like the Pokemon weights make much sense :P Even if Wailord was filled with air, it wouldn't weigh 877lb being 47 ft tall...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: DrP on May 31, 2012, 12:27:02 AM
I love metric units! They actually make sense!

I don't get why Aussie Nintendo doesn't change Pokemon height/weight back to metric units like the Japanese games... What the hell is 9 lbs and 3 foot 7??? :(
To go to kg, divide lbs by 2.2

To go from feet to meters is harder: take the amount of feet, multiply by 12. Then add to the inches next to the 7. THEN multiply by 2.54 and then you're in centimeters

...

I hate our measurements system.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Mashi on May 31, 2012, 12:36:08 AM
Couldn't you just multiply by 3.2 for feet to meters?

EDIT: Oh, inches. Fractions are your friends!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: shadowkirby on May 31, 2012, 12:43:08 AM
Girls seem to dislike me.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on May 31, 2012, 01:11:18 AM
Haha girls like me usually (not usually in a romantic way) but it's totally my fault I'm not in a relationship.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: shadowkirby on May 31, 2012, 01:14:22 AM
Haha girls like me usually (not usually in a romantic way) but it's totally my fault I'm not in a relationship.
I have tons of friends who are girls. Just none who would actually go out with me.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on May 31, 2012, 02:02:54 AM
I have tons of friends who are girls. Just none who would actually go out with me.

^here we go. That's pretty much me.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on May 31, 2012, 04:27:13 AM
I have tons of friends who are girls. Just none who would actually go out with me.

Kind of the same here, but in reverse -.-
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on May 31, 2012, 04:32:35 AM
^Proof that being friend zoned isn't gender-specific! D:

Actually for me it's the fear that the attempt of asking will just mess up a potential friendship. :/
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: DrP on May 31, 2012, 04:39:07 AM
^This.


Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: fingerz on June 01, 2012, 06:02:29 AM
^Very true. I don't see anyone in my friendship group like that anymore though.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Raymondbl on June 02, 2012, 12:20:48 AM
Actually for me it's the fear that the attempt of asking will just mess up a potential friendship. :/

I would ask her out.  If they ruin the friendship because of that then she's not very smart. 
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on June 02, 2012, 12:36:37 AM
It's most definitely not that simple.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on June 02, 2012, 02:26:06 AM
It's most definitely not that simple.
^what he said
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on June 02, 2012, 01:54:05 PM
^what Kefka said

That annoying guy from school messaged me again, asking me how I was and whether I was in HK (I think? Weird grammar)...I think I know where this is going, but I don't know what to say...HELP!!!

I'm not really interested in any of this business right now -.-
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on June 02, 2012, 03:17:35 PM
What is HK?

If he tries to take things further than you want them to go(like, say, being friends) then just be all Nawthx kbai. Be dismissive, but don't be rude or mean while doing it.

Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on June 02, 2012, 03:50:54 PM
HK = Hong Kong

It's the same guy that was annoying me during the field trip, the one who kept whining to me about how to do this assignment that he was too lazy to do himself (his own words) and how he thinks I should go shopping, be more feminine and dress better -.-

Bring friends seem to be pushing it right now -.-
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on June 02, 2012, 07:07:22 PM
why do you allow him to correspond with you
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on June 02, 2012, 07:10:08 PM
^this
You should just tell him he's annoying imho.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on June 02, 2012, 09:05:13 PM
Bring friends seem to be pushing it right now -.-
Quite. After that little description of him, forget politeness and just tell him to gtfo. Also, what form of trickery allowed him to get your number in the first place?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on June 02, 2012, 10:36:03 PM
He emailed me actually...he might have tried calling while I was away, but I wouldn't pick up in any case. I just don't have the time/energy for this sorta thing.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: insaneintherain on June 05, 2012, 02:26:04 AM
Just went through a breakup, but then arranged "Still Alive" and it made me feel all happy inside, squashing the remains of love. MWAHAHA  8)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on June 05, 2012, 02:59:46 AM
Sorry to hear that. Go find and listen to "A Dark Knight" from The Dark Knight soundtrack. It will totally make sense with what you're feeling. Also no cheating, listen to all 16 minutes. It's the most beautiful thing ever and will enhance your feelings on the situation.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: insaneintherain on June 06, 2012, 05:35:13 AM
Sorry to hear that. Go find and listen to "A Dark Knight" from The Dark Knight soundtrack. It will totally make sense with what you're feeling. Also no cheating, listen to all 16 minutes. It's the most beautiful thing ever and will enhance your feelings on the situation.
Don't be sorry, it was actually a good thing. I realized I was in love with the "old her", not the "current her". It's a thing I often slip in to.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on June 09, 2012, 09:18:01 PM
Single.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on June 09, 2012, 09:28:44 PM
Single.
what happen?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on June 10, 2012, 12:49:35 AM
Single.
How u b? ;)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on June 11, 2012, 07:10:15 AM
Single.
If it was a good break-up: *High Five* :)

If it was a bad break-up: *Consolation High Five* :(
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Zunawe on June 11, 2012, 08:38:03 AM
Single.

You aren't alone. (I just realized the irony in that statement.) I have never been, nor do I want to be (at the moment), in a relationship.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on June 11, 2012, 02:09:09 PM
Wow how original
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Zunawe on June 11, 2012, 07:36:55 PM
I'm struggling to understand that. . . Did somebody already say that here? This is literally the second time I've been on this thread.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on June 11, 2012, 07:45:27 PM
I think that's 95% of people on this forum. Because 95% of people are LIARS.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Zunawe on June 11, 2012, 08:03:17 PM
Liars about what?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on June 11, 2012, 08:13:32 PM
Nah I just meant lots of other people including several on here talk and think like that. MaestroUGC in particular said something exactly like that.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Zunawe on June 11, 2012, 08:38:33 PM
Lol, so I'm not alone in the world!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: shadowkirby on June 11, 2012, 09:45:31 PM
Guys help I think I may have asked someone ouy
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on June 11, 2012, 09:46:48 PM
It's not that I choose to be single just for the sake of it, nor for a lack of caring. I just haven't found someone with whom I'd be willing to take that leap. I realize that sounds cliche, but I don't want to spend the energy building a relationship that I know will not be long term, to the order of years.

Also ETF, sorry to hear that, did you care for him deeply?

@shadow, ok, what's the issue?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: shadowkirby on June 11, 2012, 09:47:59 PM
I've never had a girlfriend before and I don't know what to dooooo
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on June 11, 2012, 09:54:02 PM
Nobody ever knows what to do, my advice would be to take it one day at a time.

Do you like this person at least?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: shadowkirby on June 11, 2012, 09:55:31 PM
Yes, considering I DID ask her out...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on June 11, 2012, 09:57:29 PM
Well then enjoy your date. There's no need to panic over nothing, at the very least, even if this doesn't develop into a relationship at least you two will have had a good time.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on June 12, 2012, 03:01:25 AM
Liars about what?
nor do I want to be (at the moment), in a relationship.
That
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on June 12, 2012, 03:19:29 AM
The thing is, people want a long term relationship but they also realize that's not very likely at a younger age.  :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on June 12, 2012, 03:39:43 AM
@SFK and Maestro

It's not that I choose to be single just for the sake of it, nor for a lack of caring. I just haven't found someone with whom I'd be willing to take that leap. I realize that sounds cliche, but I don't want to spend the energy building a relationship that I know will not be long term, to the order of years.

I'd like the attention but it sounds like a lot of work. Plus there's no way to tell if it's going to be rewarding enough at the end, unlike a degree or job. Right now it seems like my classmates (most are recent graduates) have one or the other, but not both [a relationship and a career]. At this point, I don't really think a guy is worth a PhD -.-

I was just talking to my dad about what my plans were in the next few years and he actually congratulated me (!) for not being so attached to anyone XDDD He pointed out how unhappy he was with my sisters' choices of guys and their general 'now that I have a guy I can stop being ambitious' attitude that comes from it. Which makes it impossible for them to get further degrees or even promotions. He also added that there's plenty of time to get a good person (aka 'someone he'd approve of') since you'd usually see the ones with a good education later on. 
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on June 12, 2012, 04:28:24 AM
At this point, I don't really think a guy is worth a PhD -.-
..oh. I guess you're right.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on June 12, 2012, 02:27:02 PM
Single.

Nevermind.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on June 12, 2012, 02:40:17 PM
Well alright then, the Status Quo really is God.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on June 12, 2012, 03:56:19 PM
Well alright then, the Status Quo really is God.

Nah.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on June 12, 2012, 06:34:28 PM
Nevermind.
*High-five*
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on June 12, 2012, 09:39:01 PM
Nevermind.
:<
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on June 14, 2012, 10:34:26 AM
Were you hoping to pick me up on the rebound, Dude?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on June 14, 2012, 05:25:44 PM
Maaaaybe.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FluteNinja on June 16, 2012, 11:53:17 PM
The thing is, people want a long term relationship but they also realize that's not very likely at a younger age.  :P
^Hell Yeah.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: insaneintherain on June 23, 2012, 07:27:36 PM
What do you do if you like a lot of girls, but none of them strongly enough to really make a decision on who to go for?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on June 23, 2012, 07:33:37 PM
Wait a while, it's probably just temporary feelings of lust more so than any strong feelings. After a while stronger feelings will persist while anything else will subside.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on June 23, 2012, 08:50:51 PM
What do you do if you like a lot of girls, but none of them strongly enough to really make a decision on who to go for?

You stop being such a little whore.

What Maestro said.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on June 23, 2012, 08:54:41 PM
Silly ETF, that only applies if he goes for all of them, or at least more than one.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on June 23, 2012, 08:56:32 PM
Yeah, I like more than one girl...a lot of people do
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on June 23, 2012, 09:03:11 PM
That's perfectly natural, it's all part of the human condition.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: insaneintherain on June 23, 2012, 09:37:25 PM
You stop being such a little whore.

What Maestro said.

...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on June 24, 2012, 07:38:05 AM
Don't worry, you'll eventually get used to our sense of humor. XD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: insaneintherain on June 24, 2012, 03:08:05 PM
:-D I actually am, but I was just being ironic. I think reading the modernized version of the creation story (by one of the guys on the site with a hood on his profile pic) really helped. xD

Got it narrowed down to one! And I think it's mutual :-)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on June 24, 2012, 05:16:12 PM
Oh goodness. SFK, stop corrupting the children.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Raymondbl on June 24, 2012, 06:35:37 PM
I like several girls, but have an order of preference.  I know what I want.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on June 24, 2012, 08:00:24 PM
:-D I actually am, but I was just being ironic. I think reading the modernized version of the creation story (by one of the guys on the site with a hood on his profile pic) really helped. xD
I hear that guy is totally awesome.

Oh goodness. SFK, stop corrupting the children.
NEVER.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Harvest on June 26, 2012, 05:27:19 AM
Girlfriend wants to marry me and have my children.

I'd like to go back in time to my 16 year old self and tell him someone will want those things from him in a few years and watch his head explode.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on June 26, 2012, 05:34:44 AM
*claps*

Congrats Harvest. Are you going to go through with it?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Harvest on June 26, 2012, 05:37:38 AM
Well, yes, but we have to wait a few years considering university and stuff...I'd like a degree and a job first.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on June 26, 2012, 05:40:08 AM
Well, yes, but we have to wait a few years considering university and stuff...I'd like a degree and a job first.
Yeah, having stable income is a good idea when considering having teh babies.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: insaneintherain on June 26, 2012, 05:48:08 AM
Yeah, having stable income is a good idea when considering having teh babies.
I read somewhere that the average cost of raising a child over the course of years 1-18 costs roughly 285k. It's a very rough estimate, and almost impossible to calculate accurately.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on June 26, 2012, 06:24:43 AM
Psh you guys worry too much. Babies just need a rug for sleep, a toilet, and some raisins right?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on June 26, 2012, 07:59:24 AM
Psh you guys worry too much. Babies just need a rug for sleep, a toilet, and some raisins right?

...I'm calling CPS xD

Well anyway I can't think of a worse time for this kind of decision to be made. It's impossible to raise an infant while still in school. Also doubt it's that easy to just find a job and be financially stable that soon after.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on June 26, 2012, 08:06:54 AM
Somebody once told me there is no "good time" to have children. If you sit around and wait for the circumstances that will allow you to raise a child, you'll be waiting either forever, or until the option is gone. Just don't choose to have kids while you can't spend time to raise them (school).
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on June 26, 2012, 08:25:24 AM
Just don't choose to have kids while you can't spend time to raise them (school).

Yup. I dunno where my classmate would find time to do anything if her mom/cousins didn't help her by babysitting her 1 year old...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on June 26, 2012, 02:00:45 PM
That's awesome Harvest :)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Harvest on June 26, 2012, 10:18:49 PM
...I'm calling CPS xD

Well anyway I can't think of a worse time for this kind of decision to be made. It's impossible to raise an infant while still in school. Also doubt it's that easy to just find a job and be financially stable that soon after.

This isn't happening right now.  We have both agreed that it needs to happen at some point.  After school at least.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on June 28, 2012, 05:19:07 AM
^Bf has been telling me that for a while. The fun part is I don't want kids, and he wants at least 3-4. We'll see who wins in the end I guess.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on June 28, 2012, 06:43:08 AM
^Since he's not the one that's going to have them, it's pretty obvious xD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on June 28, 2012, 06:44:14 AM
^Since he's not the one that's going to have them, it's pretty obvious xD
There's always adoption. Which imo is the better option for our current circumstances.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on June 28, 2012, 07:11:09 AM
You might want to be careful around this subject, this is an issue that most won't concede on either side of the argument. While yes, one of you may yeild later, but often times just knowing your partner doesn't want the same life goals you do is enough to start questioning the future of the relationship.

We're all young here, and while most of us have a pretty good idea of what we want out of life, just don't bank on everything turning out the way you hoped.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on June 28, 2012, 09:37:04 AM
^Bf has been telling me that for a while. The fun part is I don't want kids, and he wants at least 3-4. We'll see who wins in the end I guess.
What Roz wants: (http://i923.photobucket.com/albums/ad71/Jub3r7/roz-1.png)
What her boyfriend wants: (http://i923.photobucket.com/albums/ad71/Jub3r7/rozb.png)

Compromise: (http://i923.photobucket.com/albums/ad71/Jub3r7/compromise.png)
Note that's it's not two children but that it's half of each of 4 children.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on June 28, 2012, 03:24:24 PM
^ You just made my day Jub. x)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on August 02, 2012, 01:38:00 PM
*revives this topic*

Guys, I think I'm in love! <3
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: blueflower999 on August 02, 2012, 07:55:29 PM
Who's the lucky girl?  :D
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: universe-X on August 02, 2012, 09:26:50 PM
There's a topic for this? :o
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on August 03, 2012, 12:19:52 AM
Yes now share your personal love life and allow us to share words of wisdom with you! The Love Doctors are in.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on August 03, 2012, 12:41:08 AM
Yes, I have multiple doctorates, including:

-Lovology
-Intimate Studies
-Body Linguistics
-Historical Romances, and
-Chemistry

I also have a Masters in Amorous Psychology.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on August 03, 2012, 12:46:45 AM
Lol you forgot one I could actually make fun of.  :P

Anyway, I'm too picky. And can't really be motivated in this kind of thing.
Title: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on August 03, 2012, 01:15:16 AM
Lol you forgot one I could actually make fun of.  :P

Anyway, I'm too picky. And can't really be motivated in this kind of thing.
It's true. Rutato has rejected all of my advances :p
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on August 03, 2012, 01:52:43 AM
lololololololololol
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on August 03, 2012, 02:03:24 AM
It's true. Rutato has rejected all of my advances :p

It's okay buddy. The sushi girl wants you. ~le hug
Title: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on August 03, 2012, 02:30:56 AM
It's okay buddy. The sushi girl wants you. ~le hug
She's so cute <3
Title: Re: lationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on August 03, 2012, 02:32:14 AM
Like I told you, man, ask her if they're hiring! :D
Title: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on August 03, 2012, 04:38:28 AM
Like I told you, man, ask her if they're hiring! :D
"hi, are you hiring? Also, can I have yo numbah?"
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: universe-X on August 03, 2012, 05:44:30 AM
^works every time :P

As far as relationships go, I had a pretty good relationship that started in January and ended in May, we're still fairly good friends now.
And I'm in a "friends with benefits" sort of relationship with 2 others, but no sex or anything.
Title: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on August 03, 2012, 05:51:15 AM
^works every time :P

As far as relationships go, I had a pretty good relationship that started in January and ended in May, we're still fairly good friends now.
And I'm in a "friends with benefits" sort of relationship with 2 others, but no sex or anything.
That's no fun :p
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: universe-X on August 03, 2012, 05:57:12 AM
That's no fun :p
lol, I'm a "waiting til marriage" type of person :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on August 03, 2012, 06:07:46 AM
Mashi, Marty and I had a very interesting conversation.

Among other things, we discussed the potential for multiple "true loves," whether your true love could be in love with somebody else, and the idea that the opposite of love isn't hate--it's indifference.

I love these types of conversations (no pun intended).
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on August 03, 2012, 06:15:29 AM
Of course hate isn't the opposite of love, it's apathy.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on August 03, 2012, 06:24:47 AM
Because hatred still show that you care about the other person, and have strong feelings for him/her. Indifference/apathy doesn't entail that. The biggest heartbreak isn't "I hate you," it's "I love you, but I'm not in love with you."
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on August 03, 2012, 07:02:30 AM
Everyone is so philosophical about this.

I guess most of the stuff I know was from listening to a friend talk about marriage for like 8 months. Lol I'm such a noob. And selfish apparently -.-
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Mashi on August 03, 2012, 07:11:26 AM
You're all frivolous.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on August 03, 2012, 07:16:48 AM
You're all frivolous.
(http://www.zeldawiki.org/images/thumb/a/ac/Makar.png/250px-Makar.png)

...I'm halfway there.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Mashi on August 03, 2012, 07:18:38 AM
A+++++++++
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on August 03, 2012, 03:15:51 PM
Who's the lucky girl?  :D

Her name is Juulia, and she has broken my record in Tetris. :P
I met her by the most romantic way ever. Actually, that story was my first post in NSM. I'm now here in Estonia with her. :D
We have soon been together for 2 months. It's funny, first it was fun but then it got serious. I've never been in a relationship that has lasted over 3 months. :P
She isn't so into music or video games as me, but she's just wonderful. <3 I hope that this relationship works!

PS: I've never got dumped. 8)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on August 04, 2012, 02:39:19 AM
I've never been the dumper, even if I can tell a relationship isn't working I wait for them to dump me because I'd rather be the one getting hurt by being dumped than hurting them by dumping them.

...Yeah.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on August 04, 2012, 02:44:28 AM
That's a bad mindset. Really, really bad.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on August 04, 2012, 02:44:57 AM
:( well god.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: universe-X on August 04, 2012, 02:52:04 AM
^Just saying, if the relationship isn't working out well, you should love yourself enough to not have to deal with pain when you don't have to and to know when to let something like that go ;x
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on August 04, 2012, 02:53:02 AM
Take everything I say with a grain of salt seeing as I've never actually been in a relationship :P just seems bad to wait for the other person to dump you when you're in a bad relationship :-\
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on August 04, 2012, 03:03:31 AM
If you are in a bad relationship at no point should you think to yourself "I'll wait until they feel the same."

If that day never comes, you've convinced yourself to stick around against your own happiness. Or that day could come, but you've had a change of heart, making the break-up more harmful. If you ever feel that there's nothing keeping you two together, then there's no reason for you to stick it out, odds are they feel the same way. Otherwise the break-up will be far messier than if you wait, because not only will feelings be hurt, but you both will have lost time to both get over it and move on.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: fingerz on August 04, 2012, 03:10:23 AM
Everyone is so philosophical about this.

I guess most of the stuff I know was from listening to a friend talk about marriage for like 8 months. Lol I'm such a noob. And selfish apparently -.-
What! You're advice works a gem! :D
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on August 04, 2012, 05:06:06 AM
If you are in a bad relationship at no point should you think to yourself "I'll wait until they feel the same."

If that day never comes, you've convinced yourself to stick around against your own happiness. Or that day could come, but you've had a change of heart, making the break-up more harmful. If you ever feel that there's nothing keeping you two together, then there's no reason for you to stick it out, odds are they feel the same way. Otherwise the break-up will be far messier than if you wait, because not only will feelings be hurt, but you both will have lost time to both get over it and move on.

I never said how I've done it is a good way.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on August 04, 2012, 07:18:16 AM
I've never been the dumper, even if I can tell a relationship isn't working I wait for them to dump me because I'd rather be the one getting hurt by being dumped than hurting them by dumping them.

...Yeah.

I dump people if I see that this relationship won't work. I don't want to be in a relationship if I don't want to.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on August 04, 2012, 08:05:33 AM
What! Your advice works a gem! :D

Ohh thanks :D I try to learn as much as I can before I do stuff. It's like lab, can't do the experiment without reading the procedure first because you'd just end up with broken glass, toxic fumes and ten people running and screaming for their lives.

Or as Akira put it, "First you must fill your head with wisdom, then you can hit ice with it."

I dump people if I see that this relationship won't work. I don't want to be in a relationship if I don't want to.

"I"?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on August 04, 2012, 02:38:17 PM
I'm too boss to get dumped. 8)
Somebody has to tell that this relationship is over. That's usually me.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on August 04, 2012, 07:59:25 PM
You're missing the point entirely -.-
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: universe-X on August 04, 2012, 08:16:38 PM
I'm too boss to get dumped. 8)
Somebody has to tell that this relationship is over. That's usually me.
lol, I'm sorry, but I don't think that streak's gonna last very long with an ego like that. just saying.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on August 04, 2012, 08:42:31 PM
I've had only one legitimate relationship and I wasn't the dumper nor the dumped. We kinda just drifted away from being a couple and back to being good friends.

Yeah, relationships are silly. Frivolous, you might even say.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on August 05, 2012, 09:24:25 PM
lol, I'm sorry, but I don't think that streak's gonna last very long with an ego like that. just saying.
I'm FSM-Reapr and this
(http://www.personalblimp.com/images/front_page.jpg)
is roughly a third of the size of my ego.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on August 05, 2012, 09:50:22 PM
Just remember that being a dickwad is a bannable offense.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on August 05, 2012, 09:59:11 PM
Gee, why are everybody so serious around here?! IT WAS A JOKE!!!

And no Slow, you don't have to post that picture again.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: K-NiGhT on August 05, 2012, 10:02:31 PM
(http://i3.kym-cdn.com/entries/icons/original/000/003/189/heath_ledger_joker.jpeg)

okay i will
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: universe-X on August 06, 2012, 02:15:34 AM
Back on topic: What are y'all's opinions on pursuing a relationship with your best friend?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on August 06, 2012, 02:22:33 AM
I did that once and because of that I hardly talk to her now.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on August 06, 2012, 02:25:38 AM
I did that once and because of that I hardly talk to her now.
:( I'm sorry.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on August 06, 2012, 02:47:58 AM
I agree with Jub...

In addition, I'm also going to rant that relationships ruin everything -.-
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: universe-X on August 06, 2012, 02:49:31 AM
I agree with Jub...

In addition, I'm also going to rant that relationships ruin everything -.-
Idk, I sorta pursued something like that. Once we broke up, we didn't talk for 2 months before continuing as normal.

And why do relationships ruin everything? o.o
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on August 06, 2012, 03:19:40 AM
From what I'm observing, you need to do everything with the other person. Apparently any other person becomes trash you can just throw money/ridicule at and have them go away.

I think there's a possibility I'm being spied on again so I don't really want to say more than that.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: universe-X on August 06, 2012, 03:43:15 AM
From what I'm observing, you need to do everything with the other person. Apparently any other person becomes trash you can just throw money/ridicule at and have them go away.

I think there's a possibility I'm being spied on again so I don't really want to say more than that.
...well shit.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on August 06, 2012, 03:57:35 AM
From what I'm observing, you need to do everything with the other person. Apparently any other person becomes trash you can just throw money/ridicule at and have them go away.

I think there's a possibility I'm being spied on again so I don't really want to say more than that.
That all depends on the person. What exactly are you observing?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on August 06, 2012, 04:04:07 AM
Yah Ruto you're unfairly judging relationships based only on your observations of others :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on August 06, 2012, 04:27:04 AM
Well I'm observing the people that live with me (unfair, I guess) -.- Honestly their behavior on the phone and in public is extremely annoying and I don't want to be like that.

In addition to that, it seems that no one here is going to let me do the same anyway. Jealousy problems, time constraints, and other stuff I'm supposed to do at home. I don't have a chance.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on August 06, 2012, 04:36:50 AM
You know, there's no obligation for you to behave like that, right?

Chances are if you're going to end up in a relationship they're going to understand the kind of person you are. If they don't then you've rushed into something neither of you were ready for.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on August 06, 2012, 04:53:59 PM
Back on topic: What are y'all's opinions on pursuing a relationship with your best friend?
Being in a relationship with someone who's already your best friend shouldn't really change the relationship you already have with them. More one-on-one outings and a more open possibility of sexual activity(from holding hands to kissing to sexy time), but that's about it. People put labels on everything: THIS IS BEST FRIEND WHO IS GIRL, THIS IS GIRLFRIEND WHO IS BEST. It's the same damn thing, it's just the relationship gets viewed differently by others.

Those are my thoughts.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on August 06, 2012, 07:51:44 PM
Back on topic: What are y'all's opinions on pursuing a relationship with your best friend?
My best friend in the entire world is a girl - a pretty beautiful one. I know she views me as her best friend in the entire world too. I've known her for 4 years (I knew she existed for 7 years). I Met her 'cause we both play sax in our school band. We're pretty close, tho I dunno why she's hanging with me so much, 'cause I'm probably not that interesting. Anyways, we're that kinda friends that always hugs when we meet each other and say goodbye, no prob holding hands with each other, some friendly kissing...
There was a period where we thought "hell, lets just make it official!" - Nothing changed between us! We were as good as the same friends we were before - tho I know lots of people who consider what we were WAY more than friends, which we kinda were - We were kissing as friends. Seeing how pointless it was to make it official, 'cause we both enjoyed "friendship" instead of "dating", we broke up, and we're still as close as ever. We still hug, we still hold hands, we still kiss each other - I think I prefer it this way, but I might get a problem if I met someone else - 'cause then I'd at least have to stop kissing this girl.
You asked about opinions on pursuing a relationship with your best friend. I'd say it would depend on how close you are to your best friend.
Being in a relationship with someone who's already your best friend shouldn't really change the relationship you already have with them.
This was my case. In my pack of friends it's me and her who are closest. We might've been extra close compared to other best-friend-couples, but making my best friend my girlfriend didn't change, and shouldn't have changed, our relationship.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on August 06, 2012, 08:07:31 PM
Back on topic: What are y'all's opinions on pursuing a relationship with your best friend?
I would be devastated if a relationship between me and my best friend wouldn't work. That's why I keep relationships and friends separated. I'm too afraid that we wouldn't talk to each other anymore.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on August 06, 2012, 08:14:21 PM
I would be devastated if a relationship between me and my best friend wouldn't work. That's why I keep relationships and friends separated. I'm too afraid that we wouldn't talk to each other anymore.
I'm sooo(o) glad that didn't happen to me - My best friend is irreplaceable. What's weird to think about is; Chances were, that could've happened :o
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on August 08, 2012, 05:06:57 PM
I'm sure everyone here will find love, exept those:
(https://i.chzbgr.com/completestore/12/8/6/QVX8ZjLLS0mxkGDF1_z8uQ2.jpg)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on August 08, 2012, 05:28:39 PM
It happens.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on August 09, 2012, 02:37:48 AM
I'm sure everyone here will find love, exept those:
im sorry mashi, i'll try harder
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Mashi on August 09, 2012, 02:39:51 AM
try harder for what
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on August 09, 2012, 02:45:28 AM
mashi wants me to explicate in the skype chat room but ive been banned from the computer so whoops
Title: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on August 14, 2012, 10:16:10 PM
Sushi girl gave me her name. Annie <3
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Zunawe on August 14, 2012, 10:48:45 PM
Sushi girl gave me her name. Annie <3
lol. What I imagined:
"Hello, I'm Annie. How may I help you?"

Not saying that's what happened, just something that popped up.
Title: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on August 14, 2012, 11:43:15 PM
lol. What I imagined:
"Hello, I'm Annie. How may I help you?"

Not saying that's what happened, just something that popped up.
She asked for my name since I gave it in an earlier visitation and I guess she wanted to verify or something. I introduced myself first then asked for her name since that's the proper way I do things.

She's so cute <3
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Zunawe on August 14, 2012, 11:55:19 PM
Maybe I should eat more sushi. :)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on August 15, 2012, 12:08:02 AM
Damn. My ex-girlfriend is so freaking hot, but definitely NOT worth getting back together for...f-ing puberty.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: universe-X on August 15, 2012, 12:23:06 AM
Ohh that struggle of looks vs. personality.

Thankfully the girls I'm interested in for now have both.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on August 15, 2012, 12:33:18 AM
Damn. My ex-girlfriend is so freaking hot, but definitely NOT worth getting back together for...f-ing puberty.

mmd
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on August 15, 2012, 01:03:39 AM
She asked for my name since I gave it in an earlier visitation and I guess she wanted to verify or something. I introduced myself first then asked for her name since that's the proper way I do things.

She's so cute <3

Yes! Next time try to ask her out!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on August 15, 2012, 01:07:46 AM
Yes! Next time try to ask her out!

Quantum Field Theory!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on August 15, 2012, 01:22:37 AM
She asked for my name since I gave it in an earlier visitation and I guess she wanted to verify or something. I introduced myself first then asked for her name since that's the proper way I do things.

She's so cute <3
AWWWW YEAH, TAKING IT TO THE NEXT LEVEL.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on August 15, 2012, 01:46:42 AM
Shado where are the stalker pics
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: universe-X on August 15, 2012, 04:01:07 AM
Shado where are the stalker pics
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: K-NiGhT on August 15, 2012, 04:11:51 AM
She asked for my name since I gave it in an earlier visitation and I guess she wanted to verify or something. I introduced myself first then asked for her name since that's the proper way I do things.

She's so cute <3

 8)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Pit0010 on August 15, 2012, 01:44:39 PM
looolll this topic is nice :)

but for me...kinda awkward to say it lol....

\(•A•\)===33
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on August 15, 2012, 01:49:20 PM
Shado, congratulations! :)

I'm so happy for everybody today! idk why...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Cobraroll on August 15, 2012, 10:20:09 PM
Relationship status change!

From: Eternally Single

To: Officially giving up.

Yay.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on August 15, 2012, 10:25:24 PM
Nice
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on August 15, 2012, 10:31:30 PM
Relationship status change!

From: Eternally Single

To: Officially giving up.

Yay.

(http://i0.kym-cdn.com/entries/icons/original/000/003/619/Untitled-1.jpg)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on August 15, 2012, 11:47:14 PM
Damn. My ex-girlfriend is so freaking hot, but definitely NOT worth getting back together for...f-ing puberty.
friends with benefits ;)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on August 15, 2012, 11:57:19 PM
friends with benefits ;)


...I didn't wanna say it.

...Already tried that. Still didn't work.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on August 16, 2012, 02:44:43 AM
Relationship status change!

From: Eternally Single

To: Officially giving up.

Yay.

:( I guess that means more science fairs for you to go to. But hey, won't you have more time for yourself?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Cobraroll on August 16, 2012, 08:37:23 AM
:( I guess that means more science fairs for you to go to. But hey, won't you have more time for yourself?

Science fair? Not really sure if I've ever been to one, or if the campus can be called a continous one.

And if I get more time for myself now, well, the day only has so many hours.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on August 16, 2012, 02:02:59 PM
This is a big day for me. I know I love my girlfriend, and I think she loves me too. It's only been 2 months, but love is blind.

I'm asking her to marry me tonight. Wish me luck!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on August 16, 2012, 02:21:47 PM
;D Ohhoo GOOD LUCK!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: TheZeldaPianist275 on August 16, 2012, 04:01:54 PM
This is a big day for me. I know I love my girlfriend, and I think she loves me too. It's only been 2 months, but love is blind.

I'm asking her to marry me tonight. Wish me luck!

WHHHOOOOAAA!!  GO FSM!!!  Pray for ya!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: blueflower999 on August 16, 2012, 04:04:28 PM
This is a big day for me. I know I love my girlfriend, and I think she loves me too. It's only been 2 months, but love is blind.

I'm asking her to marry me tonight. Wish me luck!
O_O

Good luck!
I would recommend dating for more than two months before you propose, though...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on August 16, 2012, 04:53:50 PM
This is a big day for me. I know I love my girlfriend, and I think she loves me too. It's only been 2 months, but love is blind.

I'm asking her to marry me tonight. Wish me luck!
We'll keep your seat in the "My life sucks Thread" warm for ya.

I'm kidding, gl bud.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: TheZeldaPianist275 on August 16, 2012, 05:09:39 PM
We'll keep your seat in the "My life sucks Thread" warm for ya.

I'm kidding, gl bud.

That's terrible. XD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on August 16, 2012, 06:20:35 PM
Good luck FSM! Now that you've shared that I expect to hear results as well! :D
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on August 16, 2012, 06:29:29 PM
I will tell tomorrow. 2 hours and it's go-time.

*hands are very sweaty*
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on August 16, 2012, 06:56:07 PM
Good luck, but I wouldn't rush into such a huge commitment. If it's what you want, go for it, don't let me or anybody else stand in the way of your future.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on August 16, 2012, 06:58:03 PM
Don't worry, the actual wedding won't be for a long time(I hope). :3
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on August 16, 2012, 08:11:03 PM
Science fair? Not really sure if I've ever been to one, or if the campus can be called a continous one.

And if I get more time for myself now, well, the day only has so many hours.

A campus doesn't count. I mean, a real science fair XD Where people have posters and talk about their work.

I don't have enough time for everything I want to do as it is -.- even without someone to constantly badger...

Good luck, but I wouldn't rush into such a huge commitment. If it's what you want, go for it, don't let me or anybody else stand in the way of your future.

Yahhhh. I've heard this kind of thing from some married and unmarried friends...Those are a bit personal so I don't think I'll give more details here. Generally when I hear engagement, a wedding is no more than a year off though.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on August 16, 2012, 09:54:07 PM
Good luck bud
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: fingerz on August 17, 2012, 07:57:05 AM
Yeah, good luck FSM! Hope it all goes well! At least you're not me, nothing EVER goes to plan when I try and do something... XD

Actually, not true! Scored a slighty-more-intimate conversation with a special someone yesterday and now I'm going to perform for her next week on the piano. :D
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on August 17, 2012, 01:29:41 PM
She said:
YES!!! XD
I'm so happy! Let me tell you how I purposed: We went to eat in an expensive restaurant, then after we had talked for while, I proposed which was hard because:
I tripped today and broke my knee.
So you can imagine that it was hard. But extremely romantic. I gave her a golden ring that has few little diamonds in the inner side of the ring, which is supposed to let her know that she's beautiful inside also! Guys, she actually said: "Yes!!! Yes yes yes!!! *screams a little bit* I will marry you!!!"
That was the happiest moment in my life! Do not ever and I mean ever doubt the power of love!

<3
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: TheZeldaPianist275 on August 17, 2012, 03:18:16 PM
She said:
YES!!! XD
I'm so happy! Let me tell you how I purposed: We went to eat in an expensive restaurant, then after we had talked for while, I purposed which was hard because:So you can imagine that it was hard. But extremely romantic. I gave her a golden ring that has few little diamonds in the inner side of the ring, which is supposed to let her know that she's beautiful inside also! Guys, she actually said: "Yes!!! Yes yes yes!!! *screams a little bit* I will marry you!!!"
That was the happiest moment in my life! Do not ever and I mean ever doubt the power of love!

<3

:D :D :D

Happy for you!!!  Hope you guys have a great and happy life together!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Cobraroll on August 17, 2012, 04:31:49 PM
Congrats, Reapr!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on August 17, 2012, 04:37:34 PM
Thanks guys!  :)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on August 17, 2012, 05:47:32 PM
Nice man! Congrats. I was worried that 2 months wasn't very long, but evidently she had the same feelings. Did you decide on a wedding date? Did you get any applause? :D

(Oh btw, it's "proposed")
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on August 17, 2012, 05:53:20 PM
We promised that we won't get married until we finish our studies. And yes, we got a huge rain of applause! :D
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on August 17, 2012, 07:13:09 PM
Congratulations!  ;D
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: blueflower999 on August 17, 2012, 07:28:42 PM
Yay!  Congrats, FSM! :D
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Spyro on August 17, 2012, 08:15:27 PM
Congrats FSM!  ;D
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: universe-X on August 17, 2012, 08:27:01 PM
Whoa ho ho, congratulations FSM! :)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on August 17, 2012, 08:36:05 PM
Thanks guys!(once more) :D

Actually, the story how I met her, was my first post in NSM.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on August 17, 2012, 08:38:55 PM
Eeee!! Congrats FSM! :D I'm so happy for you guys! <3
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on August 17, 2012, 08:59:58 PM
Thanks Nebu! :D Ilu2!


I changed my avatar for a day.  :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Pit0010 on August 19, 2012, 03:52:15 AM
nawwwwww! congrats FSM!!!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on August 19, 2012, 03:59:44 AM
Wow you're asking her to marry you? Good luck bro!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on August 19, 2012, 04:39:38 AM
Wow you've asked her to marry you? Good job bro!
fixed i guess.

Edited because mashi told me to.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: dahans on August 19, 2012, 08:22:26 PM
Congrats FSM! ;)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on August 19, 2012, 08:26:46 PM
What questions would one ask someone to get to know them better?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on August 19, 2012, 08:29:27 PM
What color panties are you wearing now?

In all honestly, I have no clue.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FluteNinja on August 19, 2012, 09:37:25 PM
Awesome job FSM :)
Dodongo dislikes
Dodongo likes
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on August 19, 2012, 09:41:45 PM
Soooo people are basically pressuring me to pursue a relationship. What pisses me off is that they don't think I'll do it on my own?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on August 19, 2012, 10:06:38 PM
At the end of the day, the decision is up to you. No amount of peer pressuring matters when you make your final choice to get into a relationship, you make the choice, not them. So you need to make sure you are in the mind-set to pursue a relationship.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on August 20, 2012, 02:20:03 AM
Being pressured into a relationship is pretty much friends asking for you to entertain them with all the drama. Rarely, I've found, is it actually because they're interested in you being happy in that relationship.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on August 20, 2012, 02:33:53 AM
What questions would one ask someone to get to know them better?

Hmm I guess questions about her interests, what does she like, etc.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on August 20, 2012, 02:39:02 AM
Mention music :D
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on August 20, 2012, 04:02:58 AM
Mention Pokemon :D

Fixed for great justice! :P

But yeah you can ask her if she likes music, what's her favorite group/artist; you can also ask her if she likes video games, tv shows, etc.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on August 20, 2012, 05:52:01 AM
What questions would one ask someone to get to know them better?
How long you been working here?
Do you go to school? Where?
Video games. You liek?
On a scale of 1 to 10, how likely will reproductive activities occur between us in the near future?
You seen any good movies lately?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on August 20, 2012, 05:53:43 AM
How long you been working here?
Do you go to school? Where?
Video games. You liek?
On a scale of 1 to 10, how likely will reproductive activities occur between us in the near future?
You seen any good movies lately?
*takes notes*
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on August 20, 2012, 08:19:44 PM
Today I started to search for a home for us. :)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on August 21, 2012, 01:06:34 AM
How long you been working here?
Do you go to school? Where?
Video games. You liek?
On a scale of 1 to 10, how likely will reproductive activities occur between us in the near future?
You seen any good movies lately?

You're not serious about #4, right?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on August 21, 2012, 01:16:15 AM
Aaugh you are such a bitch aren't you....I can understand if you don't want to be friends with me anymore but I don't think ignoring me completely is called for, especially when you still have my flash drive from last year and I need it back.

Although, let's be honest...I'd be fine without the flash drive if you would just talk to me.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on August 21, 2012, 01:39:01 AM
I found this kind-of funny.  Not to be mean, it was just very apropos.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on August 21, 2012, 01:42:49 AM
Aaugh you are such a bitch aren't you....I can understand if you don't want to be friends with me anymore but I don't think ignoring me completely is called for, especially when you still have my flash drive from last year and I need it back.

Although, let's be honest...I'd be fine without the flash drive if you would just talk to me.
That flash driving-hoarding bitch!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on August 21, 2012, 01:46:22 AM
That flash driving-hoarding bitch!

I KNOW RIGHT
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on August 21, 2012, 02:37:39 AM
Slow you are the King of spontaneity.

This isn't M******t is it? :O
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on August 21, 2012, 02:42:41 AM
You're not serious about #4, right?
Not serious? It's the important question of all!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on August 21, 2012, 02:43:18 AM
Slow you are the King of spontaneity.

This isn't M******t is it? :O

nope don't worry
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on August 21, 2012, 02:54:15 AM
Not serious? It's the important question of all!

You like ice cream cone hats? -.-
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Mashi on August 21, 2012, 02:57:54 AM
It's Teragram.
omg margarets name backwards is best
shes 1/12th as massive as the earth but omg
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on August 21, 2012, 03:17:17 AM
XDDDDDD
Title: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on August 21, 2012, 03:20:32 AM
You like ice cream cone hats? -.-
(http://cn1.kaboodle.com/hi/img/2/0/0/165/c/AAAAAnlVVwMAAAAAAWXHyw.jpg?v=1224625033000)
Yes
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on August 21, 2012, 03:21:50 AM
You like ice cream cone hats? -.-
Of course! It's the most DELICIOUS hat there is!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Zunawe on August 21, 2012, 03:30:04 AM
Cheeseburger hat. . .
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on August 21, 2012, 03:39:03 AM
Ice cream hat >>>>>>>>>>> Cheeseburger hat
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on August 21, 2012, 04:12:19 AM
(http://i662.photobucket.com/albums/uu347/deku_nut/558668_10151052124513791_1531172579_n.jpg)

It's not as fun as it looks...
Title: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on August 21, 2012, 08:41:47 PM
Why am I so awkward?
She probably doesn't want to go out with some jobless loser like me.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on August 21, 2012, 08:43:12 PM
Well then get a job and start being a winner.

There, that seemed simple enough.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on August 21, 2012, 09:19:30 PM
Shadoninja, a winner is you and if she can't see that, MAKE her see it.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on August 21, 2012, 11:46:45 PM
Why am I so awkward?
She probably doesn't want to go out with some jobless loser like me.

That is so not a factor
Get a job if you want one, don't get a job to impress some girl.

Shadoninja, a winner is you and if she can't see that, MAKE her see it.

Also ^this
Title: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on August 22, 2012, 12:15:08 AM
Im not gonna get a job to impress a girl, but I do need one.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Zunawe on August 22, 2012, 01:20:29 AM
^Hat tester.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on August 22, 2012, 01:39:56 AM
She wasn't ignoring me!!!

On another note, there are opportunities for relationships EVERYWHERE all of a sudden. I say all of a sudden, but is it just that I haven't seen them before? Either way, nobody I'd really consider a relationship with so I'll keep holding off.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on August 22, 2012, 03:14:56 AM
UGH!!  Why are females so vexing?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on August 22, 2012, 03:35:25 AM
UGH!!  Why are females so vexing?
If things were easy, it probably wouldn't be worth it.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on August 22, 2012, 05:07:59 AM
UGH!!  Why are females so vexing?

1) Don't call girls/women "females" 2) I think the same way about guys XD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on August 22, 2012, 02:34:19 PM
1) Don't call girls/women "females"
My apologies.

But I want to know, is it a normal girl thing to say "I love you" to guys and not mean it, and not say it to who you might mean it?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on August 22, 2012, 02:37:49 PM
It's a normal thing for anyone to say "I love you"to anyone else and not mean anything. Love has become a fairly dead word.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on August 22, 2012, 02:39:19 PM
Interesting.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on August 22, 2012, 03:13:40 PM
Lolololol "I love you" doesn't mean anything if you're not actually in a relationship
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Mashi on August 22, 2012, 03:22:34 PM
SlowPokemon, I love you.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on August 22, 2012, 03:24:55 PM
Well it's comforting to know that this means I'm not going crazy and I still have a shot.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on August 22, 2012, 03:58:44 PM
I remember my old roommate who used to talk to her boyfriend on the phone all the time in college saying that before she went to bed. That was before she dumped him and then started dating someone else a few weeks after. So what you said probably has some truth to it.

That being said, I don't say it if I don't mean it XD I usually just say 'good night'.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on August 22, 2012, 04:08:49 PM
SlowPokemon, I love you.

I love you as well, you lascivious beast
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Mashi on August 22, 2012, 04:11:29 PM
;)
Also, good night, Ruto.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on August 22, 2012, 10:36:54 PM
I love you as well, you lascivious beast

A+++++++++ :D

;)
Also, good night, Ruto.

Hahaha I meant I'd use that to say good bye to someone xD I just think it's meaningless to use that to end a conversation all the time...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on August 23, 2012, 12:57:48 AM
A+++++++++ :D
Don't encourage her you fools D:
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on August 23, 2012, 12:02:21 PM
lol you're one to talk
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on August 23, 2012, 06:49:40 PM
what.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on August 23, 2012, 09:27:10 PM
::)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on August 29, 2012, 01:21:29 AM
So I think I have a "Sushi bar girl" crush on the girl that sits behind me in Public Speaking. THANK GOD it's a class where I'm forced to speak to her for a grade!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on August 29, 2012, 01:41:12 AM
Are "sushi bar girl" crushes a thing now
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on August 29, 2012, 03:16:50 AM
Yes
if you have a crush you have to refer to it as a sushi girl crush
Blame Shado :3
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on August 29, 2012, 03:21:01 AM
Yes
if you have a crush you have to refer to it as a sushi girl crush
Blame Shado :3
*changes identity and moves to antarctica*
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on August 31, 2012, 07:24:29 AM
So, some BITCH decided to take my seat next to cute girl today. And then we were assigned a project in which we were to work with a partner over the next two weeks and the same BITCH asked cute girl to be her partner before I had the chance. WHAT A BITCH, STEALIN' MAH WIMMINS!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on August 31, 2012, 07:30:07 AM
This may surprise you but girls actually aren't flattered when you refer to them or their friends as bitches
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on August 31, 2012, 05:14:41 PM
.....watt.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on September 01, 2012, 02:39:59 AM
This may surprise you but girls actually aren't flattered when you refer to them or their friends as bitches

Yeah, I found it pretty insulting -.-

In other news, this weird guy that keeps complimenting my hair passed by me in the street. This is the third time I've seen him and I don't even know his name or why he's even around. The other times it was in the train station, but it's weirder on the street since I'm not exactly standing around waiting for the train. He should really stop, it's creepy.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on September 01, 2012, 02:50:47 AM
This old man did that to me at church. He leaned over and whispered "I love your hair". Apparently he does that to every little girl with red hair, but its a little weirder when I'm not a little girl
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on September 01, 2012, 03:02:37 AM
There's at least a million people in Manhattan and I dunno how this same guy's found me several times. The first two times he asked me if I had a boyfriend and this time I just quickly said "thanks" and walked away -.- It creeps me out -.-
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on September 01, 2012, 03:03:06 AM
^Stalker D:
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on September 01, 2012, 03:07:13 AM
That's what I thought when I saw him the second time. The third time, I was walking down the street where I lived -.- There's a possibility of stalking, I guess.

(http://i.imgur.com/WENVx.gif)

Srsly guys -.- I said "no" the first time, what makes him think I'll change my mind?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on September 01, 2012, 05:21:22 AM
This may surprise you but girls actually aren't flattered when you refer to them or their friends as bitches
Yeah, I found it pretty insulting -.-
So apparently it's only okay when LITERALLY EVERYONE ELSE ON THE FORUM uses the word to describe a woman they disapprove of?(Do I even need fucking examples?)

Because that makes sense.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on September 01, 2012, 05:24:51 AM
I've never done it, and I don't think I've seen anyone else so so either. Also, she doesn't belong to you, so why are you getting all possessive?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on September 01, 2012, 05:32:04 AM
GOD DAMN, I WAS JOKING. You guys are making want to smash my face through a table right now. Seriously.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on September 01, 2012, 05:33:18 AM
Just ignore it, Kefka's a prick and it's not worth arguing with him
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on September 01, 2012, 05:40:13 AM
We now interrupt this thread for KITTENS:

(http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-2FWqYMQ1AtI/T_EYI96U2kI/AAAAAAAABzk/7wpJD8xEaH0/s1600/sleepy-ginger-kittens.jpg)
(http://t0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcR2BdPtMQclwfOPUoiCPmTHz8ePVJv6hvyNA3oFG15NQYt4hiMNJQ&t=1)
(http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_MQlLQc8r_NE/TDUYnqMhX3I/AAAAAAAAGhE/KHRLjBa9SHc/s1600/Jubilee_KittensA.jpg)
(http://petcaregt.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2008/11/kitten-sleeping1.jpg)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on September 01, 2012, 05:42:57 AM
D'AWWWWWW
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Yugi on September 01, 2012, 05:43:09 AM
So, some BITCH decided to take my seat next to cute girl today. And then we were assigned a project in which we were to work with a partner over the next two weeks and the same BITCH asked cute girl to be her partner before I had the chance. WHAT A BITCH, STEALIN' MAH WIMMINS!
*cough* happens to me all the time *cough*
We now interupt this thread for KITTENS:
That, sir is going on my sig.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on September 01, 2012, 06:19:54 AM
GOD DAMN, I WAS JOKING. You guys are making want to smash my face through a table right now. Seriously.

it's just one of those things that are more offensive when it's said by someone who aren't expected to have that kind of opinion. Like how pretty much all women would get mad if you call them sluts or whores (whether they are feminists or not). You really didn't need to call her a bitch, maybe just "some girl." -.-

Just ignore it, Kefka's a prick and it's not worth arguing with him

Gahhh, don't make Kefka seem like the angry feminist here -.- It's me, I swear.

Here, have a hammy.


Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on September 01, 2012, 06:49:54 AM
^I was trying to convey a ridiculous amount of outrage towards the harmless action of taking a seat. And "some girl" just seemed too logical and reasonable of a term to use.

But sorry for being offensive, Ruto.
Title: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on September 04, 2012, 11:15:40 PM
She has a boyfriend >.>
Title: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on September 04, 2012, 11:20:18 PM
NOOOOOOOO Shado I'm sorry. You guys can still get to know each other though.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on September 05, 2012, 12:29:19 AM
Mmmmm that seems hella awk though considering everything up to this point was in a romantic interest.

Just bail, eat a tub of ice cream to get the moping out of your system, and move on.  You'll find another.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on September 05, 2012, 01:28:26 AM
I figured Shado was keeping everything subtle actually....  :-\
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: K-NiGhT on September 06, 2012, 04:25:15 AM
She has a boyfriend >.>
awww...sorry Shado :(

on a lighter note:

The friend zone. I have escaped it.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on September 06, 2012, 04:35:18 AM
1) Sorry shadow
2)Escaped the friend zone? is that even possible?
3) I've been placed in the limbo between the friend zone and dating, it doesn't really make sense.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: K-NiGhT on September 06, 2012, 04:38:14 AM
2)Escaped the friend zone? is that even possible?
Its possible! I did it literally 45 minutes ago.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on September 06, 2012, 04:38:54 AM
details my friend, details please
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: K-NiGhT on September 06, 2012, 04:42:11 AM
Well, I started going out with this girl on the last day of 8th grade. We were together until February of the next year when she broke up with me because we never did anything (as we weren't able to drive) Well, I promised myself this year that I would ask her out on the first day of school. Well that didn't happen. so I waited an extra two weeks :P

quick fact: she's also in the story and has an account on the site.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on September 06, 2012, 04:45:57 AM
what?? o:
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on September 06, 2012, 04:47:13 AM
Well, well, well.  It seems the winds, they are a-changing.  Good on ya' mate.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on September 06, 2012, 04:48:01 AM
awww...sorry Shado :(

2)Escaped the friend zone? is that even possible?

As long as it's not a horse pen, which is where I'm pretty much dumping all the creeps into.

@other replies
...Anyway, it just seems to be a matter of effort -.- But not too much or it's the horse pen :/
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: K-NiGhT on September 06, 2012, 04:48:19 AM
Who's the only person in the story that you don't know right away who they are? [/hint]
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on September 06, 2012, 04:51:24 AM
Taylor
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: K-NiGhT on September 06, 2012, 04:52:03 AM
Taylor
dingdingding
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on September 06, 2012, 04:53:03 AM
Damn NINJA!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: K-NiGhT on September 06, 2012, 04:56:22 AM
But yeah, things are lookin up :) just thought I'd give y'all hope. IT'S TOTES POSSIBLE!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on September 30, 2012, 07:02:56 PM
le bump

Is anyone(else) here engaged/married?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on September 30, 2012, 07:23:54 PM
As I'm gay, I'm not engaged nor married.

'Cause the damn gov'ment be hatin on me... That and I'm super shy. ::)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on September 30, 2012, 08:15:07 PM
Well me, Roz, and Hugo are married to ETF.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on September 30, 2012, 08:32:09 PM
Okay, decided to ask a question, because I honestly have no idea what to do.

What would be an extremely romantic surprise for the girlfriend, when you want to tell that you're sorry for being busy and not spending as much time with her than you're supposed to?


totes longest question ever
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on September 30, 2012, 08:42:16 PM
As I'm gay, I'm not engaged nor married.

'Cause the damn gov'ment be hatin on me... That and I'm super shy. ::)

Get married in Canada. Problem solved!

Well me, Roz, and Hugo are married to ETF.

Yes and she's the best wifey ever <3

Okay, decided to ask a question, because I honestly have no idea what to do.

What would be an extremely romantic surprise for the girlfriend, when you want to tell that you're sorry for being busy and not spending as much time with her than you're supposed to?


totes longest question ever

Just take a day off and spend it with her. I guess you could do something she really likes, but I suck at romantic stuff so I can't help you much.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on September 30, 2012, 08:55:17 PM
Then it wouldn't be a surprise... :(

Roz, what's the most romantic thing a guy could do for you?
Just answer that.


My most romantic thing what I've ever done was that I took her on a picnic on a rowing boat at night while the moon was shining.
Gosh, that must be like the only romantic thing I've done! D:
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on September 30, 2012, 08:58:53 PM
So I've begun liking another girl, one who I think will be much better for me (and vice versa) than my ex.I don't wanna ask her out yet (I might ask her to Prom when the time comes), but I think in a few weeks I might tell her how I feel.

Any ideas how I could do it?

Ninja'd: aw, FSM, you studmuffin ;)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on September 30, 2012, 09:09:00 PM
;) I highly recommend a boat ride. ;) If you can't find a boat then ask her out for a cup in Starbucks and tell her how you feel!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on September 30, 2012, 09:16:53 PM
FSM YOU NEED ROMANCE?

Be all like "WANNA COME RIDE WITH ME TO A BORING PLACE?" It might take a bit of convincing but I'm sure she'll eventually agree to come with ya. NEXT, drive to some mountains and go to a cliff overlooking a bunch of stuff all DRAMATICALLY. Then, get out and have a delicious dinner next to the cliff, prepared by a chef(preferably French) who you hired to serve you dinner on the DRAMATIC cliff. Then be all like, "GIRL, I KNOW THINGS HAVE BEEN TOUGH BUT I LOVE YA WITH ALL MY HEART. BABY, YOU'RE MY FOREVER GIRL." And then ummmmm some other stuff might happen next, if you catch my drift.

That's what I'd do if I lived near mountains. Or could hire a chef. Or had a girlfriend. yeah.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on September 30, 2012, 09:34:59 PM
hey sfk wanna come ride with me to a boring place
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on September 30, 2012, 09:38:15 PM
No girlfriend?! WHAT IS THIS MADNESS!!! With those tips you should be like the Casanova of NSM!

Too bad there's no mountains near where I live. :( But there are lots of VERY dramatic cliffs here! Too bad there are always motorways/highways(what's the word?) under those cliffs...

I wonder how can people make a cliff dramatic...
*starts playing Van Halen*

ninja'd
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on September 30, 2012, 09:43:45 PM
I fail at romantic advice so I can't help you at all sorry :C
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on October 01, 2012, 12:36:22 AM
What would be an extremely romantic surprise for the girlfriend, when you want to tell that you're sorry for being busy and not spending as much time with her than you're supposed to?

Act out this scene:


Lol jk. If it wasn't freezing where you are, what about some kind of botanical garden? Mashi can say that the New York one with that Monet exhibit was totally awesome and it had a ton of indoor and greenhouse stuff. --> http://www.nybg.org/ There could be something that's closer to where you live lol. Though I wouldn't say no to something awsm like...what do girls like again? xD

As I'm gay, I'm not engaged nor married.

Come to NY lol. Not upstate though.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on October 01, 2012, 09:02:25 AM
There's a girl in my class, who's trying to make life suck for me (when we're together with other people, that is), like bullying me, but when we're alone, she can't let my hands go.
What's the diagnosis (as Slow would put it)?
I really really dislike this girl...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on October 01, 2012, 02:35:45 PM
The classic "Girl makes you miserable because she actually likes you" situation.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on October 01, 2012, 05:01:46 PM
There's a girl in my class, who's trying to make life suck for me (when we're together with other people, that is), like bullying me, but when we're alone, she can't let my hands go.
What's the diagnosis (as Slow would put it)?
I really really dislike this girl...
Why do you dislike her?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on October 01, 2012, 06:22:23 PM
There's a girl in my class, who's trying to make life suck for me (when we're together with other people, that is), like bullying me,
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on October 01, 2012, 06:45:50 PM
And yet
but when we're alone, she can't let my hands go.

She may in fact like you a lot. I think you should ask her out to catch her off guard.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on October 01, 2012, 07:00:17 PM
I thought he already had a girlfriend?! :o
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on October 01, 2012, 07:28:03 PM
I thought he already had a girlfriend?! :o
If that's true, than why is he holding hands with another woman HMMMMMM?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on October 01, 2012, 08:02:37 PM
She may in fact like you a lot. I think you should ask her out to catch her off guard.
That doesn't change the fact the I dislike her.. She's not really a 'good person' when we're alone either,
And no; i don't have a girlfriend - Fsm is probably refering to my bestfriend tht i posted about awhile ago..
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on October 01, 2012, 08:14:32 PM
My best friend in the entire world is a girl - a pretty beautiful one. I know she views me as her best friend in the entire world too. I've known her for 4 years (I knew she existed for 7 years). I Met her 'cause we both play sax in our school band. We're pretty close, tho I dunno why she's hanging with me so much, 'cause I'm probably not that interesting. Anyways, we're that kinda friends that always hugs when we meet each other and say goodbye, no prob holding hands with each other, some friendly kissing...
There was a period where we thought "hell, lets just make it official!" - Nothing changed between us! We were as good as the same friends we were before - tho I know lots of people who consider what we were WAY more than friends, which we kinda were - We were kissing as friends. Seeing how pointless it was to make it official, 'cause we both enjoyed "friendship" instead of "dating", we broke up, and we're still as close as ever. We still hug, we still hold hands, we still kiss each other - I think I prefer it this way, but I might get a problem if I met someone else - 'cause then I'd at least have to stop kissing this girl.
You asked about opinions on pursuing a relationship with your best friend. I'd say it would depend on how close you are to your best friend. This was my case. In my pack of friends it's me and her who are closest. We might've been extra close compared to other best-friend-couples, but making my best friend my girlfriend didn't change, and shouldn't have changed, our relationship.
This made me think that Jompa has a girlfriend.

ninja'd: okay
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on October 02, 2012, 10:50:20 PM
Goddamn double post :(

I decided to take her to a spa. I already bought her a massage. And before that we go soak in hot tubs.

Also, I'm planning to go US studying for 2 years. She will graduate this year, but I don't know if she would come with me... Goddamn, this is hard. :(
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on October 03, 2012, 01:57:04 AM
If you are going to be marrying this girl, one would assume she'd be living with you. Have you talked to her about it, and if so, what did she say?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on October 03, 2012, 03:39:51 AM
Yeah, probably not a discussion that shouldpop up the day before the wedding. "I love you so much. I'm so glad we're getting Oh btw... WE'RE MOVE 3000 MILES AWAY FROM EVERYTHING YOU KNOW AND LOVE NEXT WEEK. KAY, LOVE YA, BAI!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on October 03, 2012, 06:23:43 AM
@Maestro No, I haven't even told her yet about my plans. She'll finish her studies this year, so I'm sure it would work. I hope.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on October 03, 2012, 06:34:51 AM
Don't wait, this is a big change and a big move; by telling her now you give time to at least plan and prepare for it.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on October 03, 2012, 03:39:43 PM
To be really honest I don't think she's likely to come with you if you do. Unless she's studying too, foreigners are only allowed to stay for about 6 months in the States (unless you do other paperwork). Even if she's here, she can't legally work.  It seems pretty shallow to bring her here just to keep you company for 2 years.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on October 03, 2012, 04:02:39 PM
^I know. :(
That's why this is hard. But I couldn't live without her. :(
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on October 03, 2012, 04:22:15 PM
You should talk to her about it. What if she doesn't want to live in the US for 2 years? You shouldn't just "hope everthing works" because it might not. Talk to her about it and if she wants to follow you, then she can start making all the paperwork she needs to stay in the US for more than just 6 months.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on October 03, 2012, 04:24:24 PM
I'm waiting for the right moment to tell.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Clanker37 on October 03, 2012, 05:22:14 PM
I'm waiting for the right moment to tell.
The best moment is now. Just call her and be like, "I want to talk." Then take her out to a nice dinner and over the course of dinner (Maybe after after a few alchoholic drinks) say,"Right, now I invited you here because I'm going to the USA for 2 years. You wanna come?" And viola! Subject is notioned and what ever comes after that would be the best outcome of all.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on October 03, 2012, 05:29:54 PM
^ -.-'

She has exams this week, and on Saturday I'll take her to the spa. So I'm waiting for the right moment.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on October 03, 2012, 05:33:50 PM
How sure are you about coming to the States?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on October 03, 2012, 06:04:21 PM
I hate to brag, but I'm pretty much the best pianist and jazz-guitarist from the people in my age of my school.
I've been in touch with the school now for a while, investigating the opportunities I could have by going there.
I'm already planning my audio tape I'll send there. If they like my tape, they'll invite me to live auditions in there in March. If I get there, I'll start in August(if I recall).

I'm sure I'll get there, if I decide to.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on October 04, 2012, 01:40:34 AM
And viola!

Not sure if intentional or not
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Clanker37 on October 04, 2012, 04:08:06 AM
Not sure if intentional or not
Not intentional. I just suck at spelling :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on October 04, 2012, 04:23:45 AM
I hate to brag, but I'm pretty much the best pianist and jazz-guitarist from the people in my age of my school.
I've been in touch with the school now for a while, investigating the opportunities I could have by going there.
I'm already planning my audio tape I'll send there. If they like my tape, they'll invite me to live auditions in there in March. If I get there, I'll start in August(if I recall).

I'm sure I'll get there, if I decide to.
Where in the US? Sorry if Im interrupting something, but I keep waiting to walk into someone somewhere and freak out because I know them
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on October 04, 2012, 10:46:06 PM
I told her.

I'm not leaving alone. :D
We have spent the entire evening to see possible choices for her.
She'll try to get in the NYIT.

Yaaay *no smiley face can express a big smile like this*
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on October 04, 2012, 10:54:35 PM
yay FSM! :D
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on October 05, 2012, 12:57:07 AM
That's great! Very glad to see it worked out.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on October 05, 2012, 02:52:12 AM
I told her.

I'm not leaving alone. :D
We have spent the entire evening to see possible choices for her.
She'll try to get in the NYIT.

Yaaay *no smiley face can express a big smile like this*

LIKE A BAWSS

Props, man.

Also this:
She really must love you!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: TheZeldaPianist275 on October 05, 2012, 04:04:00 AM
I told her.

I'm not leaving alone. :D
We have spent the entire evening to see possible choices for her.
She'll try to get in the NYIT.

Yaaay *no smiley face can express a big smile like this*
:DDDDD  So happy for you, Reapr!  She really must love you!  Congrats!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Clanker37 on October 05, 2012, 04:14:31 AM
I told her.

I'm not leaving alone. :D
We have spent the entire evening to see possible choices for her.
She'll try to get in the NYIT.

Yaaay *no smiley face can express a big smile like this*
Congrats FSM!  :D
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: blueflower999 on October 06, 2012, 08:47:20 PM
Wow, that's great, FSM!  :D
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on October 14, 2012, 03:46:35 AM
Ohh that's great. Easier said than done sometimes though :/

So this guy that my friend says is flirting with me invited me to go to the meetings at this school club. I don't really know what to say...he's nice but I'm not really into interested in anything, really. Also I don't like being flirted with -.-
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on October 14, 2012, 03:52:07 AM
Ohh that's great. Easier said than done sometimes though :/

So this guy that my friend says is flirting with me invited me to go to the meetings at this school club. I don't really know what to say...he's nice but I'm not really into interested in anything, really. Also I don't like being flirted with -.-
What's the club? Chess club? Anime Club?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on October 14, 2012, 04:04:28 AM
AZN club
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on October 14, 2012, 07:59:02 PM
What, did he ask you there again? :P  And man, you have so little that there's only a single club... we have like 10 different clubs with hundreds of peoples in each lolz
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on October 14, 2012, 08:32:34 PM
The club's meeting tomorrow, that's why...heeeeelp. If I could go without it turning awkward I'd go. Plus next week I have the excuse not to go because of a concert so I'm good then.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on October 15, 2012, 07:21:58 AM
Dunno you might as well go and if he confirms your suspicions and starts getting awkward you can shut him down hard so you don't have to worry about it again

Well, shut him down hard nicely.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on October 17, 2012, 02:00:11 AM
I finally have a girlfriend!  Though it feels weird calling her that, since she's my best friend and neither of us know anything about dating, so we are just continuing to do what we've been doing, hanging out/going to movies and such, but know with an actual name for it.  Nothing could possibly ruin the rest of my day! ;D
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on October 20, 2012, 06:06:20 PM
I will move in with my angel tomorrow.

I have to sell my old apartment. :( I love this house, even though it's wayyy to big for me. 3 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms lol. 

BUT, I get rid of the day care center downstairs. :DDDDDDDDDD Stupid noisy pokemonz...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: TheZeldaPianist275 on October 21, 2012, 02:26:19 AM
I will move in with my angel tomorrow.

I have to sell my old apartment. :( I love this house, even though it's wayyy to big for me. 3 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms lol. 

BUT, I get rid of the day care center downstairs. :DDDDDDDDDD Stupid noisy pokemonz...

...before getting married?

Forgive TZP for asking awkward question.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on October 21, 2012, 07:42:10 AM
loool you Americans ::)

In here marriage usually comes after moving in with your partner.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Yugi on October 21, 2012, 07:46:46 AM
loool you Americans ::)

In here marriage usually comes after moving in with your partner.
Wait, you not american?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on October 21, 2012, 07:48:31 AM
I come from Bejing.

Ni hao.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on October 21, 2012, 08:08:59 AM
loool you Americans ::)

In here marriage usually comes after moving in with your partner.

It  usually does here, too.

TZP is  cray.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: davy on October 21, 2012, 11:22:57 AM
I come from Bejing.

Ni hao.

I didn't know that there was a place called Bejing in Finland.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on October 21, 2012, 11:24:18 AM
that's because it's in the chinatown of finland
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: blueflower999 on October 21, 2012, 01:43:49 PM
*Mind is blown*
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: TheZeldaPianist275 on October 21, 2012, 01:56:40 PM
It  usually does here, too.

TZP is  cray.

Not necessarily supposed to....
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on October 21, 2012, 08:42:20 PM
It's a difference of morals. I personally wouldn't move in with my partner until we were married either. TZP is not cray.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on October 21, 2012, 09:14:58 PM
It is a very common thing for a couple in the US to move in together before marriage, heavily evidenced in popular culture as well as actuality.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: TheZeldaPianist275 on October 22, 2012, 07:18:40 PM
It is a very common thing for a couple in the US to move in together before marriage, heavily evidenced in popular culture as well as actuality.

I know.  It just seems like marriage actually forces people to think about the commitments they make, as opposed to just rushing into a huge relationship.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on October 29, 2012, 01:32:51 AM
So what are all of your opinions on making a relationship "facebook official"?

Personally, I think it's unnecessary, frivolous even, to be required to let your 200+ "friends" know that you are dating someone before its acknowledged by the public.  I suppose that's just the society we live in, but if two people want to be together, why do we need to advertise it on facebook?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on October 29, 2012, 01:43:19 AM
BECAUSE IT DOESN'T MATTER IF ITS NOT ON FACEBOOK. GOSH
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on October 29, 2012, 01:45:19 AM
So what are all of your opinions on making a relationship "facebook official"?

Personally, I think it's unnecessary, frivolous even, to be required to let your 200+ "friends" know that you are dating someone before its acknowledged by the public.  I suppose that's just the society we live in, but if two people want to be together, why do we need to advertise it on facebook?

Well, if you have any crazy stalker "friends" on Facebook thatare über into you and are like obsessing about you and want to have your babies, then I would think telling the world (if not mostly them) that you are TAKEN. Granted, that would only really work if you didn't know who your crazy stalker was. But also, then others wouldn't know if you were lying or what.

Just an opinion I'd throw out there. I personally don't care either way.

EDIT: Ninja'd.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: TheZeldaPianist275 on October 29, 2012, 02:17:26 AM
So what are all of your opinions on making a relationship "facebook official"?

Personally, I think it's unnecessary, frivolous even, to be required to let your 200+ "friends" know that you are dating someone before its acknowledged by the public.  I suppose that's just the society we live in, but if two people want to be together, why do we need to advertise it on facebook?

SFK's right. Sure. Why not.  Unless it's a secret.  But it's not a big deal.   It's not like it's only official once you post it.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on November 27, 2012, 09:19:38 PM
Wow, this thread was half way down the second page, guess everyone's love lives have been pretty good.

Mine sucks.

My girlfriend, Nicole, broke up with me today.  She said, and I quote, "I think we should just be friends."  This came out of nowhere, I had seen her earlier today and she gave no implications towards such action.  She said that we would still be able to talk and hang out, but the dating part was awkward, as she said she likes me "as a really good friend."  Now I'm rather sad.  Even though I know she's still there, I feel like she's gone and I can't do anything about it.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BonusPwnage on November 28, 2012, 03:44:15 AM
^Women-we'll never understand them. Sorry to hear that.

Ummmmmmm okay...relationships...okay...hold on...relationships...okay...gimme a sec...uh...hmmm.
Once I hugged a girl. That counts, right?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Waddle Bro on November 28, 2012, 04:01:47 AM
^Women-we'll never understand them.
This coming out from a 14-year old? Just saying. >.>

I can't say that I would know anything about relationships, but maybe you two weren't meant to each other. There will be someone else, I'm sure of it. Sorry Sheikah and better luck next time.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on November 28, 2012, 04:16:36 AM
This coming out from a 14-year old? Just saying. >.>

I can't say that I would know anything about relationships, but maybe you two weren't meant to each other. There will be someone else, I'm sure of it. Sorry Sheikah and better luck next time.
Wisdom can come from the most unlikely of places...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on November 28, 2012, 04:21:46 AM
This coming out from a 14-year old? Just saying. >.>

We were all 14 once...once.

 I was madly in love with a girl once, but that whole thing fell to shit. Hahaha, that's actually a big part of the reason I joined the site! Wow...I never realized that if I hadn't broken up with that chick, I might have never joined NSM....how terrible!

NSM>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>my ex.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on November 28, 2012, 05:02:54 AM
This coming out from a 14-year old? Just saying. >.>

I can't say that I would know anything about relationships, but maybe you two weren't meant to each other. There will be someone else, I'm sure of it. Sorry Sheikah and better luck next time.
You're 14 too bro, both of you, shut up.
I feel like any rebuttal to the situation would make me look like a desperate fool, lying to myself about the past, but I know that one day, when the awkwardness is gone, we will be together again, I'm sure of it. (says the fool)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Yugi on November 28, 2012, 05:05:47 AM
We were all 14 once...once.
I was never 14.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on November 28, 2012, 05:09:27 AM
Im almost fifteen guys! Be happy for me :P

And sheikah sorry but Ive got no advice for you. All the relationships in my school are so ridiculous that even the teachers make fun of the couples.

On another note, are guys always as extremely obvious (and silly) as to when they like a girl, or is that just the guys in my school
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on November 28, 2012, 06:35:11 AM
On another note, are guys always as extremely obvious (and silly) as to when they like a girl, or is that just the guys in my school
ha. ha ha.

ha.

sigh
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on November 28, 2012, 06:36:55 AM
^Women-we'll never understand them. Sorry to hear that.

Ummmmmmm okay...relationships...okay...hold on...relationships...okay...gimme a sec...uh...hmmm.
Once I hugged a girl. That counts, right?

why does everyone think women are super mysterious and cryptic when it comes to relationships oh my god men can be that way too

stop applying it just to women
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on November 28, 2012, 06:42:29 AM
why does everyone think women are super mysterious and cryptic when it comes to relationships oh my god men can be that way too

stop applying it just to women

Agreed -.-
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Waddle Bro on November 28, 2012, 06:57:58 AM
why does everyone think women are super mysterious and cryptic when it comes to relationships oh my god men can be that way too

stop applying it just to women
This was exactly what I was thinking.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BonusPwnage on November 28, 2012, 10:59:50 PM
why does everyone think women are super mysterious and cryptic when it comes to relationships oh my god men can be that way too

stop applying it just to women
I wasn't, that's just how it is around where I live.
This coming out from a 14-year old? Just saying. >.>
I'm not trying to be some all-powerful swami or anything, I'm just talking from my own experiences.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on November 28, 2012, 11:04:57 PM
It sounded like you were. I'm not going to continue with this, but that's not a good mindset to have. Just saying.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BonusPwnage on November 28, 2012, 11:17:42 PM
It sounded like you were. I'm not going to continue with this, but that's not a good mindset to have. Just saying.
I know that's how it sounded, that's why I was trying to say that's not how I meant it to sound. I'm not going to continue this either (*gasp* we must be twins) because I didn't think everyone would get so worked up over one comment. By the way, it's not a mindset, it's a choice, out of a couple. Depending upon the situation one is in, one should respond to their surroundings appropriately, instead of blindly following an expression they heard the day beforehand.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: TheZeldaPianist275 on November 29, 2012, 03:05:56 AM
Very sorry to hear that, Sheikah :(  This might cheer you up, and is relevant:

Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on November 29, 2012, 03:08:42 AM
Hahaha Blimey Cow videos are pretty entertaining
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: TheZeldaPianist275 on November 29, 2012, 03:10:52 AM
^True dat.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: shadowkirby on January 03, 2013, 09:05:08 AM
Eric
wat r u doin
Eric
stahp
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Yugi on January 03, 2013, 10:58:32 AM
Eric
wat r u doin
Eric
stahp
?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: GaryOak on January 03, 2013, 12:11:25 PM
One day when I was going home from university I saw the most perfect girl ever. There is this walking path which has two long flowerbeds on each side. That girl was walking on the edge of the other flowerbed. JUST HOW CUTE IS THAT. Little kids do stuff like that but 20~ years old girl? So goddamn cute...that was the woman of my life. Never saw her face tho but she had brown shoulder length hair, long coat, hat and mittens. Even with this information I haven't seen her again, I guess. If only I had seen her face ; _ ;.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on January 03, 2013, 02:41:39 PM
SPEAKING OF RELATIONSHIPS.

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TO MY MAJESTICAL AMAZING HUSBAND. ILU. YOU'RE MY FAVE (AND ONLY) HUSBAND. It has been 4 fabulous years. And here's to many more. *cheers* <4

btw hugos my husband
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: HugoMeister on January 03, 2013, 02:43:21 PM
ditto
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on January 03, 2013, 07:00:16 PM
First is the worst, Second is the best.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: shadowkirby on January 10, 2013, 04:47:21 AM
So I may have done something very stupid
Or I may have gotten a girlfriend
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on January 10, 2013, 04:56:32 AM
Isn't that the same thing?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on January 10, 2013, 04:57:14 AM
Sounds about right, good luck, you'll need it.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on January 10, 2013, 05:09:40 AM
So I may have done something very stupid
Or I may have gotten a girlfriend
Same thing. But good job, bro.

Speaking of relationships, my bassist just got his first girlfriend and my other friend started getting really weird about it, especially the part where he was basically saying, "OMG, UR GONNA HAVE SEX AND STUFF. SEXSEXSEX." with his girlfriend in the same conversation.AND APPARENTLY I'M THE WEIRD ONE for thinking that's a little pervy and such. This same friend also is one of those guys whose entire personality revolves around his fascination with his own sexual conquests, even though ever girl he's ever slept with is FUCKING INSANE. LIKE, I'M SERIOUS. BATSHIT MOTHER FUCKING CRAZY.

I hate young people.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: GaryOak on January 16, 2013, 03:18:36 PM
I has a problem. There's one girl who obviously has a crush on me. I like her too but the thing is that I don't really want a girlfriend. Or I'd rather say that I don't think that I'm capable of having a relationship. I've always thought that I would be a lousy boyfriend. Most of the time I just want to be alone and she would probably want to hang out as much as possible. But I don't want to reject her either if it comes to that she confesses her feelings to me straight and clear. Part of me still isn't totally against of the idea of having a relationship. Sometimes it feels like a right thing to do and sometimes it feels just way too complicated.

Why is it impossible for me to be just good friends with any girl goddammit.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on January 16, 2013, 03:41:02 PM
I has a problem. There's one girl who obviously has a crush on me. I like her too but the thing is that I don't really want a girlfriend. Or I'd rather say that I don't think that I'm capable of having a relationship. I've always thought that I would be a lousy boyfriend. Most of the time I just want to be alone and she would probably want to hang out as much as possible. But I don't want to reject her either if it comes to that she confesses her feelings to me straight and clear. Part of me still isn't totally against of the idea of having a relationship. Sometimes it feels like a right thing to do and sometimes it feels just way too complicated.

Why is it impossible for me to be just good friends with any girl goddammit.
I would go for it. Tell her you'd need some time alone she'd probably understand. You'll never know unless you try. If it works, great, if not than you've gained some relationship experience.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on January 16, 2013, 04:39:06 PM
I was in similar situations a few times. And I really regret not acting on it. I'd recommend going for it, regrets suck.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on January 16, 2013, 04:49:02 PM
I has a problem. There's one girl who obviously has a crush on me. I like her too but the thing is that I don't really want a girlfriend. Or I'd rather say that I don't think that I'm capable of having a relationship. I've always thought that I would be a lousy boyfriend. Most of the time I just want to be alone and she would probably want to hang out as much as possible. But I don't want to reject her either if it comes to that she confesses her feelings to me straight and clear. Part of me still isn't totally against of the idea of having a relationship. Sometimes it feels like a right thing to do and sometimes it feels just way too complicated.

Why is it impossible for me to be just good friends with any girl goddammit.
Relevant
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tXmLRHnoSAs
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: GaryOak on January 17, 2013, 01:40:01 PM
I guess you guys are right. This is something I would be very regretful about if I don't act at all.

Relevant
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tXmLRHnoSAs

Now I am officially terrified.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MassiveMayhem on February 09, 2013, 06:46:52 AM
Ugh, so Dani (my girlfriend) and I have been getting in these little stupid arguments all day.
She plays League of Legends and tends to ignore my texts throughout the day which after a while gets really annoying. So I told her why, and she starts finding ways that it isn't her fault, blaming it on "my phone." I've been texting Slow all day so it's not my phone. Ugh, and shes been picking fights all day. Shes not on her period btw (for those with early speculations), and I don't know what to do. Shes been doing this often and it's getting overwhelming. What do I do...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 09, 2013, 10:09:57 AM
Shes not on her period btw (for those with early speculations),
Considering its been proven that the menstrual cycle has no actual effect on a woman's emotions(other than being pissed off because of getting cramps and such), I'd say that rules it out as a possible reason.

Mabye somethings bothering her. Or maybe her LOL games are just getting super intense.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Toby on February 09, 2013, 04:21:04 PM
My name is The Boy Who Cried Wolf, I am single and looking for a girlfriend.



Lol jk XD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MassiveMayhem on February 09, 2013, 05:06:10 PM
It's just one of those things that blow over overnight, so it's no big deal. Just frustrating.
Well she was obviously bothered by something, what's worse is that she wouldn't tell me. It's ok though we're fine.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on February 10, 2013, 07:56:41 AM
I'm like Forever Alone AND Good Guy Kelsey over hurr...

Turns out somebody told Ayla I liked her, so when I noticed her kinda acting down on Facebook tonight, she confronted me about it, very smartly (albeit on Facebook). So I explained everything to her, from the fact that I had begun to like her from the beginning of the semester to my plan to have asked her to prom. She took it all very well. I explained how the fact she liked another guy would look bad on my part if I asked her anyway (I also took into account the feeling of the guy, as apparently he liked her back :o).

Because of this conversation, which was the BEST rejection I've ever gotten from a girl i liked, I feel like we respect each other more because of the revelation. I swear, her reaction to the truth, and the way she understood what I was explaining to her just made me want to like her more...even though she asked me to try not to like her anymore (How one does that is beyond me)...no matter. We're still great friends, and that's all that matters.

For those that don't know, I've actually lost a few great friends bacause I told them I liked them. One of which virtually saved my life just this past April. the same weekend I met her, too...sigh.

I'll be forever alone. Yet, I'll forever be the good guy.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on February 10, 2013, 07:58:57 AM
*claps* What a good man

And once again... MOVE TO SOUTH JERSEY DAMMIT
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 10, 2013, 08:00:14 AM
Hang in there sport. One day you'll look back on these high school escapades with nostalgic, smiling amusement and fondness.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on February 10, 2013, 08:03:44 AM
You're young, it happens. The fact that she liked somebody else and he liked her in return meant you didn't have much of a shot anyway. At least you got all that off of your chest, which makes you feel better in the long run.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on February 10, 2013, 08:05:46 AM
Hang in there sport. One day you'll look back on these high school escapades with nostalgic, smiling amusement and fondness.
Melancholy quote FTW.


*claps* What a good man

And once again... MOVE TO SOUTH JERSEY DAMMIT
thanks ::)

And Bubbles, will you please take me back? I promise not to stray too far anymore (even though I'm technically still on hiatus).


EDIT: Ninja'd
You're young, it happens. The fact that she liked somebody else and he liked her in return meant you didn't have much of a shot anyway. At least you got all that off of your chest, which makes you feel better in the long run.
true, true. but women are frivolous and change their minds alot. just days before  that, she was moping about how she saw his arm around another girl...it was his sister xD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on February 10, 2013, 08:07:28 AM
Yes, so look on the brighter side: Rebound!

That's actually a very unhealthy attitude, don't do that. I was just going for the joke.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on February 10, 2013, 08:10:19 AM
And Bubbles, will you please take me back? I promise not to stray too far anymore (even though I'm technically still on hiatus).
Fine, but only because you asked nicely. ignoring nthe fact that he went after another woman when we were engaged
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Yugi on February 10, 2013, 10:25:06 AM
Turns out somebody told Ayla I liked her
Murder them.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on February 10, 2013, 01:42:56 PM
guise it will be valentine's day soon

Start asking your Valentine's!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Mashi on February 10, 2013, 01:52:42 PM
Take a train from NYC and then fall in love with a super pretty girl you see on the other side of you on the seating.
Then buy her some ice cream and date her and marry her and live happily ever after.

And if that doesn't work, you've probably met Ruto, Saria, and me, so who cares about love???


Anyhow, everything will be fine, Kman96.  To be quite honest, I feel it's too early for you to fall in love yet.  I would recommend waiting until after college or once you have a vocation.  That way, you'll have a much better idea of what you're doing in life and are set in necessities.  Not to mention (and I mean no offense by this, since it applies to mostly everyone) that you'll be both mentally and emotionally mature by then.  You'll be able to mitigate your feelings and rationalise them to an extent.  Love isn't a huge movie; we're living reality, which is much different.  Your plan to ask her to prom may have been ideal, but it wasn't necessarily utilitarian.  Speaking to her about it was a much better direction, I feel, so I'm glad you ended up going that route.

Anyhow, if you want my philosophy on all of this, I don't think you should pursue a relationship.  I never quite understood the purpose of gong through some awkward phase in which one asks another to be a boyfriend or girlfriend.  I feel that if you're truly close to someone, you never should need to go through that phase.  It'll be greyed out.  So long as you both enjoy being with each other, your relationship will progress without either's urging.  The best way to find something is by not looking for it at all, after all.


And if worse comes to worst, you always have us to love... if you know what I mean. ;)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Cobraroll on February 10, 2013, 11:48:26 PM
Single Awareness Day coming up! This will be my 21st consecutive!

Yay for studying in a place with twice as many boys as girls...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Mashi on February 10, 2013, 11:50:25 PM
ill date you cobraroll
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 10, 2013, 11:51:20 PM
Just tell everyone you and your valentine are inseparable

Because your valentine is your hand
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jamaha on February 11, 2013, 12:05:46 AM
Yay for studying in a place with twice as many boys as girls...

Twice as many, wow. I can only dream of that good a ratio.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Pit0010 on February 11, 2013, 09:36:07 AM
hohoh...valentine's day....wooo....time to spend time with my video games and cuddle up with them :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 12, 2013, 01:40:37 PM
You know what sucks. The fact that this song is the story of my life.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on February 12, 2013, 01:42:54 PM
Reel Big Fish ftw
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 12, 2013, 02:01:35 PM
ReelBig Fish ftw

Srsly best movie ever and beautiful music score
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 12, 2013, 05:01:06 PM
Reel Big Fish ftw
FSM is now the collest person on NSM.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on February 12, 2013, 05:03:13 PM
now?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Toby on February 12, 2013, 05:36:43 PM
Take a train from NYC and then fall in love with a super pretty girl you see on the other side of you on the seating.
Then buy her some ice cream and date her and marry her and live happily ever after.

And if that doesn't work, you've probably met Ruto, Saria, and me, so who cares about love???


Anyhow, everything will be fine, Kman96.  To be quite honest, I feel it's too early for you to fall in love yet.  I would recommend waiting until after college or once you have a vocation.  That way, you'll have a much better idea of what you're doing in life and are set in necessities.  Not to mention (and I mean no offense by this, since it applies to mostly everyone) that you'll be both mentally and emotionally mature by then.  You'll be able to mitigate your feelings and rationalise them to an extent.  Love isn't a huge movie; we're living reality, which is much different.  Your plan to ask her to prom may have been ideal, but it wasn't necessarily utilitarian.  Speaking to her about it was a much better direction, I feel, so I'm glad you ended up going that route.

Anyhow, if you want my philosophy on all of this, I don't think you should pursue a relationship.  I never quite understood the purpose of gong through some awkward phase in which one asks another to be a boyfriend or girlfriend.  I feel that if you're truly close to someone, you never should need to go through that phase.  It'll be greyed out.  So long as you both enjoy being with each other, your relationship will progress without either's urging.  The best way to find something is by not looking for it at all, after all.


And if worse comes to worst, you always have us to love... if you know what I mean. ;)

Poetry
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on February 14, 2013, 06:15:42 AM
TL;DR JUB3R7 EXPLAINS HOMESTUCK TROLL ROMANCE.
Homestuck makes love so much more complicated once it explains troll romance (alien race in different universe)

Spoilers because large amounts of text so all of your ships can multiply exponentially.
The four quadrants are:

Spoiler
Matespritship, the flushed quadrant ♥
Moirallegiance, the pale quadrant ♦
Auspisticism, the ashen quadrant ♣
Kismesissitude, the caliginous quadrant ♠
Matespritship and moirallegiance are part of the red romance (redrom) group, which means that they revolve around more positive emotions. Auspisticism and kismesissitude, on the other hand, belong to the black romance (blackrom) group, which means that they revolve around more negative emotions. Matespritship and kismesissitude are part of the concupiscent group, and revolve around more sensual emotions. Moirallegiance and auspisticism, on the other hand, are of the conciliatory group, and revolve around more platonic emotions.

Red Romance (Redrom)
These types fall under the pity hemisphere of troll emotions, and are associated with the color red. They are tied to strongly positive emotions.

Matespritship/Flushed Quadrant ♥
Spoiler
The one most like human love/romance. Matesprits have a strong feeling of affection for one another - though troll psychology being what it is, courtship can be just as violent as that between kismeses, and indeed it can flail between one and the other. It is one of the two concupiscent relationships, those that deal with reproduction, the other being kismesissitude. Matespritships's quadrant is known as the flushed quadrant.
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Moirallegiance/Pale Quadrant ♦
Spoiler
Moirallegiance is a process that occurs between a troll and their "moirail" (also informally known as a palemate). It is a form of guardianship, but it isn't simply about being platonic soul bros forever.
A troll is compelled by fate to watch over their moirail and keep them in line. Despite the platonic appearance of this role (as we currently understand it) to us humans, trolls consider it a type of romance. Moirallegiance may also entail pacifying one's partner if they would normally be dangerous to others or to themselves.
It is one of the two conciliatory relationships, the other being auspistice. As it is a redrom, it is linked to pity in the same way that black romance (blackrom) is linked to hate.
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Black Romance (Blackrom)
These types fall under the hate hemisphere, and are associated with the color black. They are tied to strongly negative emotions.

Auspisticism/Ashen Quadrant ♣
Spoiler
An auspistice is a "facilitator" of some sort between two others, mediating interactions between them and keeping their relationship functional.
Auspisticized pairs have been shown to be potentially caliginous to some degree, as the emotions between two auspisticized trolls are similar to those of kismeses but are interfered with by the auspistice. Unlike the other quadrants, ashen feelings have only been shown and have suggested to be only felt by the auspistice and not the two parties in the mediated relationship.

If the mediator does a poor job or is uninterested in keeping the peace, the two might delve into more torrid emotions, as stated above. Without auspistices, widespread black infidelity is guaranteed. It is one of the two conciliatory relationships, those more platonic to humans, the other being moirallegiance.
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Kismesissitude/Caliginous Quadrant ♠
Spoiler
This is what a troll feels towards someone known as their kismesis. This is linked to hatred, and it is necessary that both parties feel hatred towards each other. Not any kind of hatred will do, since there is such a thing as platonic hatred amongst trolls (similar to the human concepts of hatred and platonic love).

In other words, kismesissitude seems to be based on a mix of hatred and sexual attraction. As it thrives on a rivalry between two trolls, defeating or killing your kismesis is discouraged, since obviously there wouldn't be a relationship anymore. It is one of the two concupiscent relationships, those that deal with reproduction, the other being matespritship, and it has been shown that like with matespritship kissing is considered an appropriate expression of kismesissitude.
One might say that the most appropriate human concept which is somewhat synonymous to kismesissitude would be "potent arch-rivalry".
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Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: shadowkirby on February 14, 2013, 07:22:33 AM
My good friends, it would appear that I have feelings for a girl. I do not know how to act upon these feelings, and therefore am feeling "butterflies" in my stomach. These feelings are also causing confusion, and a number of other unwelcome side effects. I really do wish that women were simpler.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 14, 2013, 07:25:07 AM
Yeah, one of those side effects being that one of your friends hates me now. ::)

All in a day's work.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: shadowkirby on February 14, 2013, 07:25:41 AM
It's okay, I still love you <3
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 14, 2013, 07:32:30 AM
I am totally a jerk though. But I'm a lovable jerk. You two-timing bastard.

OH so that girl I met at teh Reel Big Fish concert. Well, it turns out she's already in a relationship,unfortunately. Her girlfriend looks very pretty.

My life in a nutshell, basically.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on February 14, 2013, 07:34:49 AM
Punch her in the face. That's how I get all the ladies. And some men too.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Yugi on February 14, 2013, 07:39:45 AM
Her girlfriend looks very pretty.

She's a lesbian?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on February 14, 2013, 08:05:07 AM
Punch her in the face. That's how I get all the ladies. And some men too.
lol
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BonusPwnage on February 14, 2013, 01:33:16 PM
So yesterday I asked a girl to dinner for Valentine's day. She threw her Iced Tea in my face.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 14, 2013, 01:36:11 PM
If it was unsweetened, I'm sorry bro. If it was sweet tea, maybe she wants you to be her sweetheart.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on February 14, 2013, 05:48:18 PM
Don't complain about me posting too personal stuff - I used a damn spoiler-tag, so it should be fine...:

Jompa's Interesting Valentine's Day Story
Read about the girl, and how much I hate her
I think I've mentioned the girl I DISLIKE, earlier (page 37, I think).
The whole "bullying" thing has stopped, and now she's just clingy. And I mean clingy as fuck!!!!!!! It's awful!
I know I will sound like a horrible person, but this what I think about her:
She is a horrible person. Totally just the worst person in my class. She's so fucking clingy!!!!!!!!!! She's NOT-funny - like anti-funny... She's an annoying freak with nothing better to do on her spare time than stalking ME..

And her outer appearance is bad as well:
She just smells awful, all the time. She's not good looking in the slightest. She's short (for what that's negative).

And I really should mention (since I'm in a music high school and all):
SHE IS THE WORST MUSICIAN I'VE EVER MET!!!!!! HOLY SHIT, IT IS JUST RIDICULOUS HOW BAD SHE IS!!!!!!
She plays the Viola, and is probably the worst Viola player ever considering being serious about music.
She is worse than "normal non-musical" people in music theory!!!!!!!!! That is pretty critical!!!
She is CONVINCED that she can sing, but she is actually the worst girl I've ever heard, and the whole "convinced" part just complicated things. She is a terrorist with her singing...
She is incompetent on the piano, even though we all have to take lessons. She is what you call "hopeless".
Hopeless...
Hopeless...
Hopeless...
And... she bought a saxophone, JUST so she could have me lecturing her about it privately.... D:
just... fuck her...

People do have a tendency to exaggerate.
BUT I ASSURE YOU: I am not exaggerating about all this.

There is no reason for me to even be tempted to like her. And with "like" I mean "not-dislike", not "like like", because atm I am close to slightly hate her.

Friends in my class obviously gets ideas. And I suspect that she's been going around spreading rumors that we're in a "complicated" relationship, because that's what I hear from people..
Pisses me off.

Every day for me is 40% about avoiding her! Yes, it's a part of my routine.
And her everyday-routine is 90% about searching for me!! It's true!!

She camps outside of school until I'm done with my classes, every fucking day.

Something she does that I just don't get is:
Since she always waits for me, we walk to the bus stop together, and take the same bus.
So we sit next to each other on the bus, where I actually have to hide my hands from her (CLINGY AS FUCK!!!!)
And then: After a couple of stops, 99% of the time I have to change bus, but she lives in the direction the bus goes.
So I have to get off, while she could just sit there, and get home quick and smoothly.
BUT NOOOO!!!!! She has to get of as well, so she can stay with me while I wait for the next bus D: D: D: D:
Jesus.... what's the point of that?!!

And all of this just because I helped her find her phone, the first day of school. After that she's obviously been in love with me.. D: Guh...

I have lots of love interests, but I'm not looking for a relationship AT ALL.
But when people (girls) get the wrong ideas, and think I'm with someone, they kinda start avoiding me.. Because you wouldn't want to have anything to do with someone's love-life right?
So even though I'm not going for any of the girls, it's still pretty sad to not be able to be friends with them.. The reason I'm not looking for a relationship is because of this..
So my world is to a great degree messed up, because of her..

Besides I wouldn't dare to get a girlfriend. I have some friends who would NOT accept that :P And my ex would be furious.

The story is in the other Spoiler-tag.

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Story:
Now, the story:

read the stuff above

Lets call her "Girl X".

Girl X came to me this morning, in english class, and asked if I was done at school at 14:45.
And that is actually the time I'm done on normal thursdays, because I have saxophone as my last subject.
I was a bit surprised (though, she stalks me) that she knew such a detailed time, because 14:45 isn't a very normal time to end classes at my school, and I didn't even know when I was finished myself (I don't really pay attention to the time).

If you've read the stuff above, you know that a lot of my everyday-life is about avoiding her.

So what came out of my mouth as an answer, was "No".
I don't know why I lied, but I guess it has become a reflex for me.

I think we left that at that, because our teacher started talking.
Nothing else than "how did she know the time" crossed my mind..

[Important for the story]
The first thing my teacher did when she came in, and everyone was listening, was to bring up a letter.
The letter was from a girl that is in our class, but have only been at school for three days or so..
No one had heard from her since the day she stopped coming, and she haven't been answering any messages when we've tried to reach her..

The letter said something like this:
"Dear class.
Sorry I haven't been to school in a while.
I've had some issues in my life and therefore been unable to come, but I'll probably be back in a couple of weeks.
I hope you will enjoy these lollipops!"

Along with the letter, the girl had send 32 lollipops - one for each of us in the class.
So we all loved her for a moment, and ate the lollipops.
[/Important for the story]

Back to Girl X:

(In my school; we split up the school day in four "sessions")
Now, I didn't speak to Girl X much the next two sessions.
That was not coincidental - I had to run away from her when recess started between second and third session.
So I just played some saxophone in a rehearsal room. But I later found out that she was watching through the window from the outside...

After third session, which was math (and I don't have math with her), I started walking down to the rehearsal room where I have saxophone lesson.
AND SHE WAS WAITING OUTSIDE.... SHE HAS PIANO ON THE FOURTH FUCKING FLOOR!!!!! WHY WOULD SHE COME ALL THE WAY DOWN TO THE BASEMENT!!!!!!???!?!?! .......

So there we stood. I was just waiting for the fifteen minutes to pass, and she was just there....
Then she asked again: Wether or not I was done 14:45.
And I knew I were; since she had asked earlier..

This time I answered "yes", because I knew she would start investigating if I said I had some more classes or something - BESIDES: She would just camp outside for me anyways.... -.-

Then she said that she wanted me to wait for her until she was done 15:00.
Now, if I were to say "no" I wouldn't really be able to back it up with a reason (other than hating her), so I said fine.

Waiting to go into the room was awful, because I had to stand there with her, and every minute together with her gives me the creeps, and gives her pleasure..

Then some guy from our class walked by, and she started talking a bit to him, because they were apparently supposed to have their piano lesson together.
This was my chance!

I grabbed my sax, and walked behind her towards the room where I was supposed to have my lesson, and knocked on the door (even though I was still two minutes early, and probably pissed of my sax teacher, who were in the middle of lunch..).
As a sort of "notice" that I was going inside, I told Girl X "goodbye", while she was still in conversation with the other guy..

That's when:

She turned away from him, and said: "See you afterwards, right?"

I don't know about in English, but in Norwegian THAT IS A FUCKING WEIRD THING TO SAY!!

OF COURSE it didn't come as a surprise, since she's stalking me full-time and all, but that is a fucking weird thing to say, really..

"Yeah," I responded with half my body inside the rehearsal room. I was actually hoping to avoid keeping my promise, but that wasn't an option anymore.. I couldn't just "forget" anymore.

After my sax hour, I was prepared to meet her and walk/bus home with her. So I went outside the main entrance, and was now leaning towards a wall or something with my sax on my shoulder.

I took up my iPhone and went on Facebook, to see if there was anything new:
That's when I saw the notification that someone had posted a picture on the "1996 musicians on Foss"-page, which is the page where every music student in the first year are a members. We are two music classes (33+33).

The picture was of a boy and a girl in my class. And they were eating lollipops.
The picture came with text:
"Hah take that 1E (my class is 1F and the other class is 1E)!
We get to eat Valentine's Day lollipops sent from our beloved classmate, while you get nothing blah blah blah..."

That's when I realized:
The reason the absent girl sent us lollipops (which literally translates to "love" in norwegian), was because..
TODAY IS VALENTINE'S DAY!!

I am not an idiot. I understood that the reason Girl X, the girl that is in love with me, was so desperate to walk home with me after school, was because today is Valentine's Day, and she's the type to consider this day sacred, so I figured she wanted to express her feeling in a matter..

EXATCLY 15:00 I pressed "send" and sent her the message I had written.
It said:
"Come now, I have really really really bad time today! If you don't hurry, I'll have to leave without you." <-- in norwegian of course..

I was hoping she wouldn't turn up.
I decided to give her five minutes, and start walking exactly 15:05 if she didn't show.
I was praying inside that she wouldn't turn up.
But it's Girl X we're talking about here. She wouldn't miss out on this for the world.

15:01 she pushed the door open, and we immediately started walking.

The excuse I came up with to "have bad time today" was that a friend of mine was supposed to leave town and I had to hurry to fetch my Cornet that was lying at his place.

Normal routine from here on:
- Walking to the bus stop.
- Waiting for the bus.
- Sitting on the bus.
- Hiding my hands from her - though she managed to fetch my left hand when I wasn't paying attention.
- Departing from the bus - even though she lives where the bus is going.
- Walking to the stop across the street, and waiting for the next bus with her

When I was within range of reading what said on the electronic notice board above the bus stop, I could read when the next bus would come:

9 minutes!?
Why are there so few busses at this hour!?

Now, for what we've been waiting for:
She dragged me away from people, and over to a place where there there wren't any people standing waiting for the bus.

I'm not gonna start a detailed explanation of how it went down, but she super-formally confessed.
I think she was trying to make me feel like I had no choice.
She just told me that she had liked, no LOVED, me since the first time she spoke with me.
And after talking for a long time (four minutes actually, according to the bus-noticeboard-thingy), she was finished.
She made it very clear that she had some personal fantasies that we were already a couple, and wanted everything to be as they were, just a little more intimate.

I hadn't been saying anything during it all.
I had been trying to maintain a face that didn't "show" how I felt about it all.

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I'm kinda expecting this to be a feature every girl has:
When you say: "No, I don't like you" --> They wanna know WHY!?

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I'm not gonna go into detail about how she nagged me about "WHY?" after this, but...
I got a bit stressed out. I GOT PISSED!!.. ...you could say.

And since I deep down straight up DISLIKE her;
I did the "foolish" thing of telling her how I really felt.

The phrase "I mildly hate you" came up more than it should have. Please don't judge me..
That is how I feel about her. I do mildly hate her.

She tried to touch me, so I backed up.
Then she tried to embrace me, so I grabbed her arms and held them away from me.

Now, at this point we were standing rather close to each other. Almost in an embrace.
THIS IS WHEN SHE TRIED TO KISS ME..

I shouted right in her face: "Stop it!"
And tried to push her away, but now she had grabbed by arms, and again tried to embrace me.

I took control again by grabbing her arms the way I had before, and shouted more to her.
"Stop it! I don't like you, go away!"

Her subconscious monster awakened:
We were still standing very close SOOOO... She head-butted me!
Then ran off crying.
She probably hurt her head a bit, but when she hit my forehead she managed to get a direct hit on my only pimple, leaving me in intense pain, bleeding from my forehead. It still hurts really bad, and I think she might've left me with a small scar..



That's it..
That's how it went down.
I'm very relieved, finally being able to tell her how I really feel, since she's been having ideas and stuff, and I've had to keep it a secret.
I don't think of this as such a bad thing at all.
And the best thing about this is that I am actually HAPPY it all turned out like the crazy mess it did!
Because now I probably don't have to talk to her ever again.
So... *smiley face* :D



Call me an asshole if you must. Please.


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Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 14, 2013, 06:03:22 PM
Holy fuck I don't know whether to cry or laugh

I almost cried and I also burst out laughing

That's a fantastic story, whatever comes of the situation. I doubt she's going to just leave you alone.

I would apologize for overreacting but also let her know you aren't interested. She did confess her love for you, even if you hate her you owe her that.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on February 14, 2013, 06:04:39 PM
Oh my god. I. I dont even know what to say.

Are people actually that INSANE?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on February 14, 2013, 06:13:35 PM
It is some story, huh? :)
I think she might come to me tomorrow being all like, "can we please stay friends" or something like that.
Slow, in my whole "explanation" to her about how I felt, I did apologize to her quite a lot, and made it very clear in an easy-to-understand-way that I don't like her, though some sharp words like "mildly hate" came up a lot.
I don't wanna sound mean (like I can go back now..), but the only reason the situation turned out like it did is because she was shocked and got pissed, and as I said, I'm glad, because this might mean she'll stay away from me from now on.. ..might... :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on February 14, 2013, 06:20:59 PM
Cool story bro.

Laughed hard. XD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on February 14, 2013, 06:36:26 PM
My good friends, it would appear that I have feelings for a girl. I do not know how to act upon these feelings, and therefore am feeling "butterflies" in my stomach. These feelings are also causing confusion, and a number of other unwelcome side effects. I really do wish that women were simpler.
*squeals*

but its not ayla right
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: shadowkirby on February 14, 2013, 06:40:52 PM
no
it's someone who I think Kman used to like?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on February 14, 2013, 07:02:02 PM
That story, combined with your avatar, Jompa, screams:

I'm from an Anime. Listen to the Story of my People.

Seriously.


Good God, I can't begin to tell you how scripted that all seemed. Are you sure there aren't hidden cameras around you, you may be on a hidden reality show.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Olimar12345 on February 14, 2013, 07:04:22 PM
^My thoughts exactly! xD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on February 14, 2013, 07:28:32 PM
No, but it is true! I'm sorry my day was so unbelievable!
My avatar doesn't have anything to do with this, does it?
And I really wouldn't be able to come up with that on my own, I lack fantasy!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Olimar12345 on February 14, 2013, 07:50:45 PM
I believe you, I just found it funny that it sounded so scripted.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on February 14, 2013, 07:59:56 PM
I guess you're right.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 14, 2013, 08:10:34 PM
Okay, my problem with lesbinism apparently having a war on my love life is bad, but this is just FUCKING BRUTAL.

I am very sorry for you Jompa, but at least you have a bunch of awesome stories to come from this girl.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on February 14, 2013, 10:32:20 PM
Oh, I'm happy, SFK :)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 14, 2013, 10:36:00 PM
Maybe she'll finally take a hint. XD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on February 14, 2013, 10:39:38 PM
Well she head butted him, so that's doubtful.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on February 14, 2013, 10:59:57 PM
She's done that some times in the past, as well, but then it was just one of her ways of being clingy (yes, she is that weird). This time it was much more violent.
Though I think it felt worse for me than was intended, since she bullseyed my pimple DX
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on February 14, 2013, 11:01:57 PM
She's headbutted you BEFORE? As in, this wasnt the FIRST time?

Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on February 14, 2013, 11:08:19 PM
Yes, but that wasn't intended to hurt me, i think? Idk what goes on with her head..

My locker is right where her desk is, so she used to headbutt me when I had to bend over right next to her..
Aaand I'm just now realizing how idiotic that sounds.. I am afraid I've gotten used to her being a total weirdo. D:
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on February 14, 2013, 11:16:53 PM
Yes, but that wasn't intended to hurt me, i think? Idk what goes on with her head..

My locker is right where her desk is, so she used to headbutt me when I had to bend over right next to her..
Aaand I'm just now realizing how idiotic that sounds.. I am afraid I've gotten used to her being a total weirdo. D:
It seems as if poor Jompa needs a "real" solution to this situation. D:

I suppose more talking won't help? Maybe talking with her parents or other family members?? Or do you not suppose those would make the situation any better?? :S
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on February 14, 2013, 11:48:53 PM
I just don't want anything to do with her.
Might be a little hard, since she's in my class, but I hope she also wants to keep some sorta distance..

I did actually get another confession, as well, by a (cute) girl from my old class.
She came to get of her chest that she likes me, and therefore she wants us to be friends like we were when we were in the same class.

But that just left me feeling friendzone'd.. :p
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BonusPwnage on February 14, 2013, 11:52:44 PM
That was an...interesting story, to say the least. If I may add, I'm not to sure your problems are over, with the way things were left off, but at least she may keep some distance from now on.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on February 15, 2013, 12:34:13 AM
"Some distance" is WAY better than how it originally was/is.
But now I feel like I am in a situation where I could tell her that I don't want to be around her, if I can build up the guts in such a situation, that is...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on February 15, 2013, 01:46:06 AM
Dafuq did I just read
Oh well I guess you should've told her you didn't like her ages ago, that would've probably hurt her less. And she would've stopped stalking you earlier too.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 15, 2013, 02:11:31 AM
I just don't want anything to do with her.
Might be a little hard, since she's in my class, but I hope she also wants to keep some sorta distance..

Haha I'm going through something similar myself. I think it'll be fine as long as she doesn't keep pursuing you. The awkwardness will eventually dissipate.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on February 15, 2013, 02:15:35 AM
But that just left me feeling friendzone'd.. :p
I've never understood that... you can't force people to like you more than just "as a friend"... :P

Haha I'm going through something similar myself. I think it'll be fine as long as she doesn't keep pursuing you. The awkwardness will eventually dissipate.
Some people keep feelings (grudges, more like it :P) for quite some time, unfortunately...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on February 15, 2013, 04:27:33 AM
@Jompa: O.O xDDDDDD WTF. LOLOLOLOL (too many emotions to express)


Today is Valentime's day. and I'm wearing all black, from head to toe (including my top hat!). Does anyone else find this symbolic???


Also, I printed this out and gave it to Ayla as a valentine:

(https://i.chzbgr.com/maxW500/7041477376/h3BAB1956/)

She absolutely adored it. She laughed her ass off after looking at it and every time she looked at it again, she laughed even harder. Before you say, "well maybe she was laughing at you and not the Valentine," don't. She would never do that, and I would be able to tell if she was being insincere. It was almost as if I had made her day, which made me happy, because the guy who apparently likes her hasn't asked her out yet, so I guess I'm just there to push her along while she waits...and I wait...either way, it was perfect and she loved it, making me pretty happy. Then Shadowkirby walked in out of nowhere...


Anyways,
it's someone who I think Kman used to like?
yup.  I was über obsessed with her in like 7th grade, and yeah, she's cute, and also a superNERD. like, nerdier than me and eric. and my nerdy, I mean like smart, not like geeky, but like ocd about grades. she's incredibly attractive yes, but we're just friends now :)

uhhhh...and I told shadow this, but I had an inkling she may like me...the past week has been interesting.

in all, black equals no soul valentines, chainsaw bears are romantic, and smart hot girl.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 15, 2013, 04:59:50 AM
My favorite valentine I saw today:

(http://25.media.tumblr.com/1a91970ec008d05dcdf69002b3702e75/tumblr_mhx1moggZA1qik7k6o1_1280.jpg)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on February 15, 2013, 05:21:08 AM
Best valentine I've seen. Ever.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Pit0010 on February 15, 2013, 08:30:03 AM
My favorite valentine I saw today:

(http://25.media.tumblr.com/1a91970ec008d05dcdf69002b3702e75/tumblr_mhx1moggZA1qik7k6o1_1280.jpg)


That...was the best thing I have seen today. XD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on February 15, 2013, 04:25:52 PM

Then Shadowkirby walked in out of nowhere...
CLIFFHANGER

(http://i2.kym-cdn.com/entries/icons/original/000/006/725/desk%20flip.jpg)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on February 15, 2013, 04:30:32 PM
Spoiler
She didn't come to school today~
[close]



Hah, those Valentine's cards are great! :D
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BonusPwnage on February 15, 2013, 05:11:52 PM
Spoiler
She didn't come to school today~
[close]



Hah, those Valentine's cards are great! :D
Well, this story just gets bette and better!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: DonValentino on February 15, 2013, 05:25:24 PM
Woah, indeed. :o

His story is something I could see in an anime or something, btw. :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 15, 2013, 05:26:01 PM
"The next day, Haruhi didn't come to school."
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on February 15, 2013, 05:28:34 PM
It's almost ridiculous and contrived enough for opera. Can I claim the rights to this story, if need be?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 15, 2013, 05:55:17 PM
It's almost ridiculous and contrived enough for opera. Can I claim the rights to this story, if need be?

"You'd never get away with all this in a play, but if it's loudly sung and in a foreign tongue, it's just the sort of story audiences adore--in fact, the perfect opera!" (http://youtu.be/U0n04m__mJ0?t=2m30s)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on February 15, 2013, 06:30:04 PM
Haha, that as an opera?! That could be very cool. :p
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on February 15, 2013, 06:51:57 PM
Hah, those Valentine's cards are great! :D
I saw this and thought the NSM valentines were done :(

"The next day, Haruhi didn't come to school."
XDDD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on February 15, 2013, 09:05:57 PM
Spoiler
She didn't come to school today~
[close]

Probably suffering from self-induced depression. :P

It's almost ridiculous and contrived enough for opera. Can I claim the rights to this story, if need be?
'twould be a great show, Maestro, I am sure.

"You'd never get away with all this in a play, but if it's loudly sung and in a foreign tongue, it's just the sort of story audiences adore--in fact, the perfect opera!" (http://youtu.be/U0n04m__mJ0?t=2m30s)
;D
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: TheZeldaPianist275 on February 16, 2013, 01:57:23 AM
XDDDDDD That's hysterical.  It really is absurd enough for something like that.

Jompa, are you okay?? I'd still be a bit traumatized.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on February 16, 2013, 02:16:58 AM
I don't think I am traumatized :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: shadowkirby on February 21, 2013, 03:53:55 AM
Aaahhhhhh wwhhhhhyyyyyyy
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on February 21, 2013, 04:42:58 AM
What shadowkirby tell us your woes
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on February 21, 2013, 04:55:16 AM
^What he said
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on February 21, 2013, 04:56:47 AM
Yes, let us pass down our months of collective wisdom to you.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on February 21, 2013, 05:10:14 AM
Yes, let us pass down our months of collective wisdom to you.
It takes a village... uh, online community... to raise a... uh, solve your problems!! :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: shadowkirby on February 21, 2013, 07:07:08 AM
No problems, just suspense. I told a girl I liked her, and I have no idea what she thinks!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on February 21, 2013, 08:13:56 AM
Better than an instant rejection.

Then again maybe its just a postponed one.

/o\
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Pit0010 on February 21, 2013, 08:58:41 AM
No problems, just suspense. I told a girl I liked her, and I have no idea what she thinks!


I hate it when they have to answer later. 'The suspense is KILLING ME!' But yet again...he/she..would have to think about it and predict how the future might be.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: shadowkirby on February 24, 2013, 01:47:04 AM
I was rejected.
While I may not be entirely happy with the way things turned out, you know what?
I'm going to get back up, and continue on with life. I'll hopefully run into someone else down the road, and this whole thing will start over again like it always does. And who knows? Maybe things will turn out better next time.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: blueflower999 on February 24, 2013, 01:49:58 AM
Wow, great job being positive, Shadow! I'm sure you will!  :D
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 24, 2013, 01:55:19 AM
Tough it out bro, I feel for you :( At least you were brave enough to try, right?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: shadowkirby on February 24, 2013, 01:55:43 AM
Yup! :D
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Pit0010 on February 25, 2013, 08:34:31 AM
Good think brah! The future is what only matters :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on February 27, 2013, 10:45:26 PM
Hopefully this wall of text won't scare people away--

One of my best friends is a girl. We met in 8th grade and in 10th grade she asked me out. I refused, because I felt like we were just friends. 4 years later we've both matured and I don't get along with / have as much fun with anyone as well as I do with her. We check in with each other weekly to see how the college experience is going and just to chat. When I go home for summer/winter breaks, we hang out all the time. My mom has jokingly claimed her as one of her kids because of how much we hang out and how our families get along with each other.

The simple way of putting it is that I am undeniably attracted to her personality. We both have the same sense of humor, value our academics, love outdoor activities, mock each other at every possible moment... She's honestly that kind of person I would want to be with for the rest of my life.

The issue I'm facing is that I'm not physically attracted to her in the least. I feel shallow saying how that affects my decision. But at the same time, it really is important that a couple loves each other inside and out. She's not obese, but she is bigger than most girls. Nothing stands out to me that says "wow you're beautiful" like has happened with girls in past relationships. Even the thought of kissing her grosses me out a little.

I don't know. Has anyone felt like this before? There is no one I would rather spend time with, but I also don't feel attracted to her. I know she still likes me... but I also don't want a relationship to ruin the friendship we have. Irl friends think I should do it. They argue that it'll be a long search to find someone who I'm just as compatible with. It's a really hard decision-- whether or not to pursue this.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on February 27, 2013, 11:21:17 PM
The simple way of putting it is that I am undeniably attracted to her personality. We both have the same sense of humor, value our academics, love outdoor activities, mock each other at every possible moment... She's honestly that kind of person I would want to be with for the rest of my life.

The issue I'm facing is that I'm not physically attracted to her in the least. I feel shallow saying how that affects my decision. But at the same time, it really is important that a couple loves each other inside and out. She's not obese, but she is bigger than most girls. Nothing stands out to me that says "wow you're beautiful" like has happened with girls in past relationships. Even the thought of kissing her grosses me out a little.

I don't know. Has anyone felt like this before? There is no one I would rather spend time with, but I also don't feel attracted to her. I know she still likes me... but I also don't want a relationship to ruin the friendship we have. Irl friends think I should do it. They argue that it'll be a long search to find someone who I'm just as compatible with. It's a really hard decision-- whether or not to pursue this.
In my opinion, if you like her personality- absolutely love it- that should be enough. If you decide that you merely want to remain friends with her, that's fine (friendships such as that are a great asset for both of you), but just realize that physical attraction is not the only part of a true relationship, something that many people in our modern times (and even in the past) fail to recognize.

Your friends are right, in a way, but in the end, the decision is yours.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 27, 2013, 11:31:18 PM
As much as I hate how much physical appearance rules over us, I'm afraid that is an important factor. You can't marry a girl whom you can't kiss without being grossed out.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: GaryOak on February 27, 2013, 11:33:45 PM
I disagree with your irl friends. If you're not physically attracted to her at all the relationship would likely end up hurting both of you badly and ruining your friendship. Especially if you really meant...

The issue I'm facing is that I'm not physically attracted to her in the least. I feel shallow saying how that affects my decision. But at the same time, it really is important that a couple loves each other inside and out. She's not obese, but she is bigger than most girls. Nothing stands out to me that says "wow you're beautiful" like has happened with girls in past relationships. Even the thought of kissing her grosses me out a little.

that last part.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on February 27, 2013, 11:34:14 PM
You still see her as unattractive even after all those years? I've found that after I know someone for a week or so I don't even notice anymore. The only advice I can give is that under ABSOLUTELY NO CIRCUMSTANCES tell her this. Honesty is not always best when it comes to stuff like this, and I would rather not know because "ignorance is bliss"
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Toby on February 27, 2013, 11:46:46 PM
I have a good friend who's a girl, I've known her for nearly all my life and we will always be friends.. It's one of those friends were you don't talk to much in school, don't meet up with but when you're ever with them you have so much fun.. Or is it just me that has that kind of friend?
Our families are close and that and when I was younger I use to plan out a secret wedding with her and I sort of sent her valentines cards but we would never go out with each other. I love her but as a friend.


I think that's what's happening with you (last sentence) you love her a lot but as a friend, like if she had a cardio arrest or whatever their called attack thingy  you'd get her help and try your best to get her back  but you wouldn't give her CPR... If that makes sense.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on February 27, 2013, 11:47:45 PM
The only advice I can give is that under ABSOLUTELY NO CIRCUMSTANCES tell her this. Honesty is not always best when it comes to stuff like this, and I would rather not know because "ignorance is bliss"
Yeah! She'll headbutt you!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on February 27, 2013, 11:50:09 PM
As much as I hate how much physical appearance rules over us, I'm afraid that is an important factor. You can't marry a girl whom you can't kiss without being grossed out.
It only rules over you if you let it... but then again, maybe I'm just "abnormal." Maybe I place too much trust in people...

I can understand if people are like this:
(http://www.idnq-guide.com/img/mon/boss/xantan_2.gif)
But I don't think people are like that. :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Toby on February 27, 2013, 11:51:24 PM
Wait forget that last thing I said about CPR, a lot of people would give anyone CPR.. :L
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on February 27, 2013, 11:54:31 PM
@Bubbles lol no I won't say that to her. Don't worry.

I've found that after I know someone for a week or so I don't even notice anymore.

That's exactly the state that I'm at. I'm like "meh" when I see her. I'm not thinking she's ugly or anything. But I feel like I should feel more than "meh" if I'm considering dating her :l

you love her a lot but as a friend

That's a good way of putting it.

My opinion lately has been right with what Slow said. At the very least I'm going to give it some time. Thank you all for your input.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 28, 2013, 12:11:57 AM
Yeah! She'll headbutt you!

I cannot stop laughing
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MassiveMayhem on February 28, 2013, 01:34:17 PM
In my own experience, I've had two girlfriends who were "on the heavy side."
My girlfriend right now is not "slim." but she's honestly perfect for me. I always thought I liked skinny girls and yadadada, but really you begin to realize that most overweight girls have the heartiest personalities and are the best to be around, you can't deny it. And I do feel shallow saying it, I contemplated on dating her because of her weight (and a combination of not really wanted a girlfriend). But I'm glad I went for it, it's a year an one month right now. :)

If you honestly have feelings for your friend, go for it. You might love her more than you think.
 
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on March 01, 2013, 03:55:27 PM
Today, two weeks and one day after Valentine's Day...
Today, two weeks and one day after Valentine's Day - Girl X is back!

In the time space between then and now, we haven't spoken.
In normal circumstances speaking together at least once would seem inevitable, but the reason for this has been caused by many factors:

Firstly:
Valentine's Day happened on a Thursday, so that's the start of the time space.
And as I posted the day after; she didn't come to school on the Friday.
And then what happened was that the whole next week was winter break.
So the first time I saw her after Valentine's Day was that Monday, more than one weeks later!
Now, we didn't speak together Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday nor Thursday, but...
Today, Friday, she did:

Today's school day was like this:

- First session: Norwegian class
Nothing special regarding the Girl X situation..

- Second session: AML - Anvendt musikklære (translates to "music theory")
This is where she spoke to me:
Since I'm the class-, no, the school-genius when it comes to music, EVERYONE always comes to copy my homework before AML.
Even though she tried her hardest to act like a total bitch, she asked to see my homework. That's it. That's all there was.

- "Big Recess" - is what we call the 45 minute long recess between the second and the third sessions - basically, lunch.
We did go to the same store in the same kinda "group" of people, but nothing more.

- Third session: Language
I have Spanish, Girl X has German. So nothing happened here.

- Fourth session: English
Our teacher had to leave. So we got a ton of work we had to deliver online, before class was over.
What happened here was that she came to me, and said she wanted to work with me..?
And so we worked together. Ta-da.

- When class was over:
I was gonna walk to the tram station with a guy in my class, and Girl X came along!
I and Girl X take the bus so it wasn't long before we separated ways with the guy.
So when we were walking from the tram station to the bus stop, Girl X asked "whatever happened to our holding-hands-thing?"

WELL FUCK!!.... FUCK...
AND THE BEST REPLY I COULD COME UP WITH WAS "well, it's too cold for that now..." FFUUUUCK!!!!!
.....
....

So she stopped me and asked what I feel about her and I answered that I didn't think anything special of her.. -.- -.- .... -.-
And she also came with all that crap about her getting the "impression" that we were in love with each other and blah bla....
But I only said that I didn't think anything special of her, and that's not really the truth - I mean, I hate her!!

And then we took the bus together to where I have to get off.
She COULD just stay on the bus, because she lives where the bus goes, but NOOOOOOO.... she HAS to get off too, and wait with me...
So we did that, and I took the bus home, and here I am......

Fucking hell, I thought I was done with her... D:































[close]
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on March 01, 2013, 05:35:48 PM
Sounds like she's trying to repress any negativity she gets from you, there's something going on in her deep down that's probably very, very bad.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Toby on March 01, 2013, 06:52:43 PM
Omg she scares me.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on March 01, 2013, 09:05:57 PM
Sounds like you just got a crazy on your hands.  Only choice is to shut them down super hard imo.  Just expunge all elements of the situation.

Then again she might just be delusional and never get over it.
Title: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on March 01, 2013, 09:16:54 PM
Ya at this point she just thinks you're teasing her. It's time to have a sit-down conversation and be clear and adamant.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Toby on March 01, 2013, 09:37:36 PM
Headbutt her.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on March 01, 2013, 09:54:12 PM
Ya at this point she just thinks you're teasing her. It's time to have a sit-down conversation and be clear and adamant.
This is probably the best solution. If not, though:
Headbutt her.
That's a good one too. :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: TheZeldaPianist275 on March 01, 2013, 10:44:15 PM
Headbutt her.

WHY did this make me laugh so hard
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on March 02, 2013, 12:33:40 AM
Same, it kinda mmd
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on March 02, 2013, 12:51:07 AM
I feel like it's such a weird situation (in addition to it being weird, if that mad sense?), by which I mean: It has been over two weeks.
I mean, she MIGHT want me to like "forgive" her, or idk.
What I mean is, that I don't feel like I can do anything about her will to make me like her.
But I really don't want things to be like they are,

so if she keeps up being all crazy,
Headbutt her.
I will consider!! :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Toby on March 02, 2013, 12:56:37 AM
Whatever country you're from must really be strange, nothing like that would happen where I'm from. Heck, if it happened where my irish cousins are from you 2 would be snogging!


For whatever reason you snog someone where my cousins are from to see if you 2 should go out.. Usually they don't.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on March 02, 2013, 11:23:03 AM
Norway's not strange,
it's the best damn place to live on earth <-- fact!

sorry, I just had to brag about my amazing country there...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on March 02, 2013, 12:06:04 PM
jompa plz

everybody knows that finland is the best place to live
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on March 02, 2013, 12:17:55 PM
Food for thought:

How do you know when you love someone?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: DonValentino on March 02, 2013, 03:22:13 PM
Told'cha she would return. -.-
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on March 02, 2013, 04:00:22 PM
Food for thought:

How do you know when you love someone?
Step aside kids, FSM is here to answer this question.

You just do. There is no way to describe that feeling, but damn, it's the best feeling in the world to realize you love somebody.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on March 02, 2013, 08:27:39 PM
FSM is actually secretly:
(http://www.hindujagruti.org/denigrations/ongoing/images/theloveguru.jpg)
I still don't understand how people hated this movie.

Anyways, I don't think anyone on this site really can understand what love means. Maybe if ya go ask someone whose been married to the same person for 40 or 50 years and is still happy to be with them what love is, they could really tell you. I think they would have a much better answer than a bunch of introverted, hormone crazed youngsters(aka The NSM Community)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on March 02, 2013, 10:39:24 PM
Yes, but I was bored and curious as to what you guys thought.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on March 02, 2013, 10:41:17 PM
You just do. There is no way to describe that feeling, but damn, it's the best feeling in the world to realize you love somebody.
Hmmm... personally, it was the best feeling in the world when I beat Ruby Weapon after a few hours of summon-spamming (Hades kept it paralyzed, but you couldn't use it every single turn, I believe). :P

Anyways, I don't think anyone on this site really can understand what love means. Maybe if ya go ask someone whose been married to the same person for 40 or 50 years and is still happy to be with them what love is, they could really tell you. I think they would have a much better answer than a bunch of introverted, hormone crazed youngsters(aka The NSM Community)
That depends on who specifically it is that you're asking.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on March 03, 2013, 05:29:40 PM
What is love?


Baby don't hurt me.


Don't hurt me.


No more.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on March 03, 2013, 05:44:25 PM
What is love?


Baby don't hurt me.


Don't hurt me.


No more.
<3

*headbangs*


...




*breaks car window*


DAMMIT!

Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on March 04, 2013, 10:19:46 PM
Sounds like you just got a crazy on your hands.  Only choice is to shut them down super hard imo.  Just expunge all elements of the situation.

Then again she might just be delusional and never get over it.

Hahaha that's your advice for everything.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on March 05, 2013, 01:22:33 AM
Bluntness is one of the most effective methods of getting your point across :D
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on March 05, 2013, 02:43:02 AM
You? Blunt?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on March 05, 2013, 04:56:25 AM
Okay, in that case...guys drive me crazy enough to consider a life of celibacy. Lol.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on March 07, 2013, 07:21:21 AM
Nah you'll get over your apprehension and realize we are just Too Cool  8)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Toby on March 08, 2013, 12:43:56 AM
Ugh, this is so strange but I think I might like a girl in first year... I'm in third year and well I never thought it would every happen I mean I think second years are ewwie and most first years are ewwww but she's so mature for her age and she's friends with loads of third year girls and we get on reallllly well. But what's a few problems?

She's too young at the moment
A lot of guys in my year 'would pump her mad' -.- and I try help her with this
Oh and She's my friends little sister!!

They've already jokingly been annoying me for 'chatting her up' (they don't know) but yeh, I still don't know if I actually do or if I just reaaaallly like her as a friend (at lunch I HAVE to talk to her, she's so fun to talk to!)



So yeh, how do I test out if I do like her or if it's just friends and will this or should this ever work out?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: TheZeldaPianist275 on March 08, 2013, 04:22:41 AM
Right off the bat:  First year and third year?  Does that correspond to American 9th and 11th grade?

And 'too young?' What determines too young?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on March 08, 2013, 04:25:30 AM
As in

First year = Freshman

Third year = Junior
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on March 08, 2013, 07:17:18 AM
I have a friend who started dating a girl when she was a freshman and he was a senior, and it is a little odd at first, but only assholes really make a fuss about that stuff, especially if it's committed relationship. Some of them are ehhhhhh(cuz, ya know older person taking advantage of younger person...sexually), but in a relationship between two respectable individuals committed to one another, age should not matter..unless..ya know...one of them's liek 6 or something. Then there might be an issue.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ASH501ST on March 08, 2013, 07:30:30 AM
All I know is don't fall for a girl who hates video games, and video game music, and basically everything you like cus that didn't work out so well for me.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on March 08, 2013, 07:42:36 AM
Well opposites attract...and end up very unhappy with each other.

Always date a person that has similar tastes to you. Or they'll just be a constant source of disappointment. There was a girl I was into in high school, and we got on talking about music and I asked the most important question I know of when seeing if I'm compatible with a girl: "Do you like Modest Mouse?"
"No, their music is really bad."(It was something like this)

And all attraction I had  to her immediately vanished. You don't like Mouse, get out of the house. My ultimate motto in dating.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Pit0010 on March 08, 2013, 07:59:45 AM
hahaha ^ is that soo?

Yeah I would go for someone who has very similar interests and has a good personality :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ASH501ST on March 08, 2013, 08:04:54 AM
and if you can beat them in Brawl with Pikachu you know your with the wrong girl.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on March 08, 2013, 03:52:09 PM
Pikachu is fawking badass D:<
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Toby on March 08, 2013, 04:24:49 PM
I know!! I don't get why people don't like pikachu, it's the best pokémon, aint it?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on March 08, 2013, 05:01:46 PM
Quote
After third session, which was math (and I don't have math with her), I started walking down to the rehearsal room where I have saxophone lesson.
AND SHE WAS WAITING OUTSIDE.... SHE HAS PIANO ON THE FOURTH FUCKING FLOOR!!!!! WHY WOULD SHE COME ALL THE WAY DOWN TO THE BASEMENT!!!!!!???!?!?! .......

So there we stood. I was just waiting for the fifteen minutes to pass, and she was just there....
Then she asked again: Wether or not I was done 14:45.
And I knew I were; since she had asked earlier..

This time I answered "yes", because I knew she would start investigating if I said I had some more classes or something - BESIDES: She would just camp outside for me anyways.... -.-

Then she said that she wanted me to wait for her until she was done 15:00.
Now, if I were to say "no" I wouldn't really be able to back it up with a reason (other than hating her), so I said fine.

Waiting to go into the room was awful, because I had to stand there with her, and every minute together with her gives me the creeps, and gives her pleasure..

Then some guy from our class walked by, and she started talking a bit to him, because they were apparently supposed to have their piano lesson together.
This was my chance!

I grabbed my sax, and walked behind her towards the room where I was supposed to have my lesson, and knocked on the door (even though I was still two minutes early, and probably pissed of my sax teacher, who were in the middle of lunch..).
As a sort of "notice" that I was going inside, I told Girl X "goodbye", while she was still in conversation with the other guy..

That's when:

She turned away from him, and said: "See you afterwards, right?"

This EXACT SAME THING happened to me yesterday again...
Like the ABSOLUTELY EXACT same thing as the excerpt above!

But this time, I didn't wait for her.
When I was well on my way home (about when I had changed busses), she sent me a text, asking "where are you, did you leave already?" and I replied "oh sorry, I got out a bit early, and so I totally forgot about you, sorry about that"...
And then the unorthodox thing of her not replying occurred, so I figured she got really mad.

Now, today:
She didn't speak to me AT ALL.

BUT....

After school finished, I decided to hang out there a bit longer, just to avoid bumping into her at the bus stop, or something.
There wouldn't be anything weird about staying behind as a lot of people usually do, because of the school revue, which is being held this week. So I just sat beside one of my classmates while he played some game on the PC, but the whole purpose of doing so kinda failed when:

She also stayed. OBVIOUSLY waiting for me. OBVIOUSLY!!

So I just decided to wait longer, but of course, the people that stayed behind did so because they were gonna get busy, and one after another they left, so when the guy I was sitting with left, I gave up.. I decided to leave too.

And as any sane person would predict, she had been waiting for me to leave, all along..
Even though she hadn't spoken with me, she walked with me towards the bus stop, and on this little walk she started talking to me again and stuff..

One of the things she brought up was how mad she got when I forgot to bus home with her yesterday, and she was acting all pissed.. -.-

I remember writing in the FIRST of these posts that 99% of the time, I have to change bus.
The 1% where I don't need to do so, is in the case where the "33"-bus arrives instead of the normal "31"-bus.
And today, the 33-bus came <-- taking this bus means that SHE is the one that has to get of mid-way to change bus, while I can just sit back and relax, all the way home <-- it's not like it matters to her, like I've said before, she gets of the bus anyways to wait for the next bus with me..

So anyways, today the cool bus arrived.

And there we sat.

Then on the stop before she has to get off, someone came aboard the bus.
This was my uncle!

So I said hi, and then Girl X asked who this person was.
I told her he was my uncle.

And then my uncle asked "Is this your girlfriend?"

And Girl X replied "Yes!" ........

Can you imagine what went through my head at that moment? She's putting me through torture, holy shit....

She did start saying something, but I interupted her and said "what? no, what are you talking about?".
And she started looking at me super-intensely! :O

I turned to my uncle and said "it's not true, she's not my girlfriend!"

She did not head-butt me, but she did start crying.
This happened right about when the bus stopped and the doors opened.
So she got up, still crying, and ran out of the bus, crying.. -.-



This is so ridiculous!
Guys, just what am I gonna do about her?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on March 08, 2013, 05:23:11 PM
Jompa, the more you post and complain about her and shit, the more I know that you two are going to fall madly in love with one another.

There's an entire musical on YouTube by one of my favorite amateur production companies that highlights the idea that your true love is often the person you initially dislike. Trust me, man. Its coming for you. Why else would you be so aware of her absence? Because you think about her ALL THE TIME. Just imagine what will happen to you if she just disappears altogether. Sure, it'd be great! She wouldn't annoy you anymore, no more rumors, etc. But deep down inside you'll be hurting because this girl, who weasled her way into holding such a high importance in your life (positive or negative, it doesn't matter) just disappeared off the face of the earth and she took that part of you with her. If I were to assume correctly, I would think you'd have a hard time trying to find something to fill that now-emptyspot.

Face it, man. She is your density.

/BacktotheFutureReference
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on March 08, 2013, 05:36:40 PM
I assure you, you are wrong!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on March 08, 2013, 05:48:26 PM
Denying it is only making it worse, man. ::)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on March 08, 2013, 06:07:01 PM
Holy shit an actual guy who doesn't want a girlfriend. :O

gay
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Toby on March 08, 2013, 06:08:55 PM
Quote
And then my uncle asked "Is this your girlfriend?"

And Girl X replied "Yes!" ........


OMG what a freak, next time you get out of school just run away from her
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on March 08, 2013, 06:09:43 PM
Good show, good show:

Me and My Dick, by Starkid Productions. It'll teach you some life lessons, kids. Also, you'll never look at your penis the same way ever again. (this is only Act 1, Part 1. you have to watch the whole thing for the full effect.)


EDIT: Ninja'd.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on March 08, 2013, 06:47:24 PM

OMG what a freak, next time you get out of school just run away from her
But she camps outside school for me!!??! D:

@Kman: NOOOO, I hate her!!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: TheZeldaPianist275 on March 08, 2013, 07:44:56 PM
That's getting really creepy.  O_o  Jompa, just be firm.  Headbutt her if you need to.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sir Dino on March 08, 2013, 07:56:22 PM
Or just express the true feelings you have for her Jompa, stop hiding them XD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on March 08, 2013, 08:25:47 PM
Quote from: Aamir
I talk too much

<3
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on March 08, 2013, 08:29:09 PM
Jompa is gonna marry this girl so friggin hard.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on March 08, 2013, 08:30:11 PM
Quote from: someone
SFK talks too much
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on March 08, 2013, 09:01:51 PM
Oh stop it XD Maybe she'll be tolerable in a few years. Just keep reminding her not to get too close to you in the meantime.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sir Dino on March 08, 2013, 09:29:51 PM
Jompa is gonna marry this girl so friggin hard.
He just doesn't wanna admit it <3

and now i'll shut up~
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on March 08, 2013, 09:39:55 PM
Jompa is gonna marry this girl so friggin hard.
He just doesn't wanna admit it <3
This^^^ <3

I love how we have the same mindset ::)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on March 08, 2013, 10:04:49 PM
-.-
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on March 08, 2013, 10:41:12 PM
But she camps outside school for me!!??! D:
Friggin' spawn campers. >:(
Try channeling your inner James Bond/Sly Cooper/Solid Snake and be stealthier when she's near.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on March 08, 2013, 10:45:12 PM
i'll go with the Sly Cooper one
..actually, I do try to do that every day, but she's super-fast! It's totally nuts, I mean - the second the teacher says we're finished, she stands there, ready to walk to the bus with me..
It is almost impossible to avoid her! The only way to do so is if my last class is somewhere else than her last class, but even then she is still super-fast..
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on March 08, 2013, 10:56:14 PM
Spoiler
Then on the stop before she has to get off, someone came aboard the bus.
This was my uncle!

So I said hi, and then Girl X asked who this person was.
I told her he was my uncle.

And then my uncle asked "Is this your girlfriend?"

And Girl X replied "Yes!" ........

Can you imagine what went through my head at that moment? She's putting me through torture, holy shit....

She did start saying something, but I interupted her and said "what? no, what are you talking about?".
And she started looking at me super-intensely! :O

I turned to my uncle and said "it's not true, she's not my girlfriend!"

She did not head-butt me, but she did start crying.
This happened right about when the bus stopped and the doors opened.
So she got up, still crying, and ran out of the bus, crying.. -.-
[close]



This is so ridiculous!
Guys, just what am I gonna do about her?
Eeh, I feel bad for you Jompa: she doesn't understand that she can't force you to love her. She's a very desperate person.

Jompa, the more you post and complain about her and shit, the more I know that you two are going to fall madly in love with one another.

Face it, man. She is your density.

/BacktotheFutureReference
Not always true, no, especially in a case like this. This is heavy!

Holy shit an actual guy who doesn't want a girlfriend. :O
Jompa isn't the only one: I can't stand people who have a boyfriend/girlfriend "just to have one."
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on March 09, 2013, 12:59:09 AM
BDS, Kman and FSM were both making jokes with those comments. No need to disagree.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on March 09, 2013, 01:31:28 AM
BDS, Kman and FSM were both making jokes with those comments. No need to disagree.
Actually, that is kinda how I feel. Who knows what the future holds!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sir Dino on March 09, 2013, 01:45:35 AM
It's a battle with its own destiny..~
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on March 09, 2013, 04:06:02 AM
You know, Jompa, you seem to exert quite a bit of emotional energy over this girl. You clearly plan you entire day around her, and don't make any reall attempts to avoid her. (You waited a little at school? That's hardly avoiding someone.) You've expressed your felings before (to hilarious results) yet you really don't make the effort to do something about it.

Sure, she's clingy, but how much harm has she really caused you? She clearly hasn't done and emotional of mental damage, otherwise you'd make greater efforts to deal with the problem.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on March 09, 2013, 04:49:12 AM
You know, Jompa, you seem to exert quite a bit of emotional energy over this girl. You clearly plan you entire day around her, and don't make any reall attempts to avoid her. (You waited a little at school? That's hardly avoiding someone.) You've expressed your felings before (to hilarious results) yet you really don't make the effort to do something about it.

Sure, she's clingy, but how much harm has she really caused you? She clearly hasn't done and emotional of mental damage, otherwise you'd make greater efforts to deal with the problem.
This is what I was trying to say. Maestro just made it sound smarter.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on March 09, 2013, 04:54:53 AM
Holy shit an actual guy who doesn't want a girlfriend. :O

gay

-.- REALLY? It's comments like these that bother the hell out of me. I personally don't really want a girlfriend, but that's mostly because I hate 90% of teenage girls, no matter how attractive they might be. Same goes for guys. Teenagers in general are a terrible species.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MassiveMayhem on March 09, 2013, 05:06:12 AM
It's hard to find a good girlfriend, would blame you for not wanting one.
Our generation is so bad, like you said 90% of them are not dateable/wantedbyanyone
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on March 09, 2013, 05:21:47 AM
-.- REALLY? It's comments like these that bother the hell out of me. I personally don't really want a girlfriend, but that's mostly because I hate 90% of teenage girls, no matter how attractive they might be. Same goes for guys. Teenagers in general are a terrible species.
Yep; I can agree with that (a bit ironic for me, though? :P).
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sir Dino on March 09, 2013, 06:25:51 AM
Maestro just made it sound smarter.
like he always does, making crap sound like quantum physics.

But I have to agree, Jompa, why make such a big deal if she hasn't affected you emotionally? (or the point is probably being missed..)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on March 09, 2013, 06:35:28 AM
Oh, she's obviously affected him emotionally, but I don't think it's been nearly as negative as he's wanting it to be.

He does a lot of complaining, but seems very ready to go on endlessly about her. Indifference is one thing, but there's something here that's he doesn't want to dismiss.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on March 09, 2013, 06:39:32 AM
True fact: the opposite of love is not hate; it's indifference.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on March 09, 2013, 06:48:25 AM
Exactly. Both love and hate are emotions, indifference means the thought or idea does not rate in one's mind or heart. Indifference is a terrible disease to inflict on someone.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on March 09, 2013, 06:59:14 AM
That's why "I love you, but I'm not IN love with you" is one of the most devastating things ever
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on March 09, 2013, 09:32:12 AM
I'll give you guys a summary:

I don' like nor love her.
In fact, I hate her.
So affected me emotionally, she has, but in the most negative way three is. Hate.
She is the one who loves, and therefore stalks me.
I have to avoid her everyday, because as we all know; she's totally nuts.
I did wait at school to avoid her, as I said, she had already been ready to go when class was finished, and waiting was the only way to avoiding her.
Maestro, Kman and the other Maestro are wrong, so the three of you can just go hide your heads in the sand. <3
C'mon, after all you've read, who could possibly fall in love with this girl?
She fucking head-butted me!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on March 09, 2013, 09:48:40 AM
You seem to be busy convincing yourself you hate her. If you really hated her, you'd spend as many chances as you'd get putting her down one way or another. You clearly don't want to do that. My argument to you is that, while you don't love, or particularly like her, but she's obviously not going away, and you aren't pushing her away either.

My argument is this: Re-evaluate your relationship to her, with her, regarding her.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on March 09, 2013, 09:56:36 AM
Maestro, I think you are a bit high on the love doctor drug right now.
Everything you come with is all this "oh, but you real fealings blah blah blah..." and that's just a load of bullshit!
I don't need to convince myself that I hate her, because I already know that for sure.

Have another look at the summary - it is totally correct.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on March 09, 2013, 10:26:33 AM
Suit yourself, it just takes far more effort to hate someone when you can just as quickly write them off and leave them behind.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on March 09, 2013, 02:22:11 PM
You seem to be busy convincing yourself you hate her. If you really hated her, you'd spend as many chances as you'd get putting her down one way or another. You clearly don't want to do that. My argument to you is that, while you don't love, or particularly like her, but she's obviously not going away, and you aren't pushing her away either.

My argument is this: Re-evaluate your relationship to her, with her, regarding her.

Hey now. He obviously doesn't like her much. Just because you get worked up about something doesn't mean you're in love with him/her.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sir Dino on March 09, 2013, 07:16:24 PM
What Maestro1 is trying to say is that Jompa shouldnt put too much emphasis on someone he hates. But itll be up to him to figure da restz~
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on March 09, 2013, 11:27:26 PM
sure
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BonusPwnage on March 30, 2013, 02:19:02 PM
I think (or rather, hope) I speak for everyone when I say that the level of emphasis on this strange girl is a bit extreme. Jompa, I don't think anyone is disregarding the seriousness of your situation, nor are they telling you what you're feeling for you. Everyone is just simply saying that the amount of influence this girl has on your life is what's negative, not the fact that you like her or hate her. The best course of action you could take is make an attempt to ignore her, or just put her down. If what you've been saying is true (all up to the fact that she's been stalking you) then feelings shouldn't be spared. No one is doubting you, Jompa, but the way you've been reacting to your situation is somewhat unexpected.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on March 30, 2013, 03:45:37 PM
But she's absolutely insane!!
I believe I have full rights to emphasize as much as I want. Doesn't need to mean anything from my part, but in this case I do it because I hate her, because she's fucking nuts.

In other news...
She has been texting me at least four times every day during easter break, and I haven't replied to any of them..
..but she just keeps texting me..
She's basically just having a conversation with herself.
^Now, to my point:
Can anyone help me come up with an excuse why I "haven't seen" any of these messages?  ???
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Mashi on March 30, 2013, 04:06:37 PM
I don't know how people are rallying around the idea that Jompa has secret feelings for this person, to be honest.  Freud has been dead for about a century now, we're beyond his frivolous ideas.  Generally, if someone abhors another with this type of passion, he/she isn't trying to repress an emotion.  If Jompa really loved this girl, why would he be restraining his feelings for her?  It's not logical and I think it's rather conspicuous that he's extremely distasteful of her.

I think you should just tell her that she's negatively affecting your life and causing you distress.  And then proceed to telling her you would like her to stop being a nuisance (and don't try to sugarcoat things either.  Don't be cruel, but just tell her how you feel without seeming harsh).  And if she doesn't concede to your actions, you may have to take some sort of actions (whether it be informing the school principle, speaking to her parents, etc).  Don't make up excuses for the text messages, be honest and stern.  If she doesn't have a clue when you tell her things directly, she won't be any more dissuaded if you make excuses, I would imagine.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on March 30, 2013, 04:10:04 PM
Jompa, just be a man and tell her that you don't want any kind of relationship with her, instead of making excuses. I think you just like the fact that somebody's fancying you. Otherwise you would have made it clear to her that you're not into her.

plus i'm sick of you whining about her
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on March 30, 2013, 04:30:05 PM
You guys are really smart, and I do realize that coming up with an excuse for the texts is a bad idea, but guys, I told her already!
It's not that she doesn't take a hint, it's more like she refuses to give up. And it's no good trying to be psychological about this girl, because she's crazy.
I think you just like the fact that somebody's fancying you. Otherwise you would have made it clear to her that you're not into her.
in other words, this^ isn't really right
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Mashi on March 30, 2013, 04:32:23 PM
Then I suggest taking more initiative and contacting some form of authority.  If you can't do anything about it, you'll have to be sterner about it.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: TheZeldaPianist275 on March 30, 2013, 04:37:55 PM
Then I suggest taking more initiative and contacting some form of authority.  If you can't do anything about it, you'll have to be sterner about it.

Listen to Mashi, you'll live longer.  Jompa, everything he's said is right.  Be honest, be firm.  Rinse and repeat if needed.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on March 30, 2013, 04:38:41 PM
Yah, I'm pretty sure that counts as harassing.

ninja'd
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on March 30, 2013, 04:41:44 PM
In homestuck, hate is a type of romance. just saying
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on March 30, 2013, 04:43:42 PM
Look, she's no problem right now, as I sit here with my computer ignoring her texts, so it's not like I'm gonna do anything now,
but there will soon be a day where all this craziness resumes, and when that day comes; I'll do whatever necessary to make her stay away from me.

In homestuck, hate is a type of romance. just saying
I still hate her
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on March 30, 2013, 04:44:54 PM
This isn't homestuck, though. Jompa's situation is real and we should handle it like it's an actual problem.

Have you tried calling your service provider and blocking her number? (if that's possible...)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on March 30, 2013, 05:13:57 PM
Have you tried calling your service provider and blocking her number? (if that's possible...)
I don't think I'm quite there yet(?) - I mean, I don't feel like these text she's been sending me this week is the main problem. They are a cheap price to pay for being free from her for a week.

But in speculation: if I did that, and purposely made her find out, that could might be a way to make her go away.

well, idk, I'll deal with this when she becomes a problem again. And I'll just ignore the texts, until tuesday.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on March 30, 2013, 05:30:47 PM
How did she get your number? xD

A bit unrelated, but back when one of my sisters were in middle school, this punk kid who liked her got our number (it was a landline) and kept calling for some weeks. We got the dean involved and he didn't call anymore. Text messages aren't really the same thing though so I think you'd just have to tell her no. Or fake a relationship with another girl or guy who's willing to help you out.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on March 30, 2013, 05:35:53 PM
And all of this just because I helped her find her phone, the first day of school. After that she's obviously been in love with me.. D: Guh...
^Well, right after this, she asked for my number, so I gave it to her, unknowing of what where to come..
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on March 30, 2013, 06:22:32 PM
How did she get your number? xD
lol

Probs one of her friends who knows Jompa, gave it to her.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on March 30, 2013, 09:40:23 PM
^Well, right after this, she asked for my number, so I gave it to her, unknowing of what where to come..
actually^
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on March 30, 2013, 09:56:52 PM
She has been texting me at least four times every day during easter break, and I haven't replied to any of them..
..but she just keeps texting me..
She's basically just having a conversation with herself.
^Now, to my point:
Can anyone help me come up with an excuse why I "haven't seen" any of these messages?  ???
Be honest. Get some people to help you with the situation; if you try to work alone, you'll get nowhere. You need to DRILL IT into her head (not literally!!).

Or just tell her that you couldn't find the phone for a few days. :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on March 30, 2013, 10:05:37 PM
actually^
lol I somehow missed that post
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on March 31, 2013, 02:47:55 PM
I don't really know how you can be any more direct actually. As much as I think tricking her is a bad idea, what if you just introduce her to someone else? Or at least find her a new friend. It seems weird to me that girls would want to be with a guy all the time.

In other news I'm in an odd situation where people really need to quit playing matchmaker. I'm really not interested in that kind of thing, since someone wants my attention every second and it's distracting me from work.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BonusPwnage on April 02, 2013, 03:39:50 AM
But she's absolutely insane!!
I believe I have full rights to emphasize as much as I want.
I wasn't saying you couldn't (sorry if I came off that way), but I do agree with Mashi. Due to the seriousness of the situation, it's time to take a higher level of action. I really don't know if anything else is better for you right now.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on April 02, 2013, 06:18:36 AM
Yeah.
Well it's tuesday morning right now, so I'll probably meet her today.. That'll be fun.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on April 02, 2013, 07:14:23 AM
I dont understand whats so hard about saying "i dont like you in that way, I dont like you at all, I dont want to be friends with you, please leave me alone or I will literally get a restraining order"
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on April 02, 2013, 07:15:58 AM
I dont understand whats so hard about saying "i dont like you in that way, I dont like you at all, I dont want to be friends with you, please leave me alone or I will literally get a restraining order"
Although it may seem as if I'm repeating the same thing over and over (TWG'ers will know :P): You can't convince people who won't listen.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on April 02, 2013, 12:42:53 PM
ask Ruto

He's in a pretty bad situation, plus this girl is the type to go tell everyone how much of a jerk he is if he does that.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on April 02, 2013, 03:09:58 PM
I dont understand whats so hard about saying "i dont like you in that way, I dont like you at all, I dont want to be friends with you, please leave me alone or I will literally get a restraining order"
If you cut out the part about the restraining order, I literally said that to her, on Valentine's Day when this whole thing started.
And I did actually tell her once more, but that I don't think I've told you guys about (I probably didn't feel like it was worth mentioning here, because it apparently didn't matter to her).

So if anyone cares, since I said I'd probably meet her today as easter break is over now:
She really wasn't a problem today, because I didn't really have any subjects with her, but she did insist on walking to the bus stop together.
That is when I was saved! Because a boy and a girl in my class that I am good friends with also came to the bus stop (they usually don't take the bus, but when they do, they take the same bus as me), and they of course stopped to chat with us, so I was sorta saved from being alone with Girl X  :)
So they took the bus with us :) But even though she now would have company on her ride home after I have to get off, she still chose to get off and wait with me for my bus -.-
Didn't have to wait long though :)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on April 02, 2013, 04:55:14 PM
See, then I see you keep agreeing to meet with her so it starts seeming like you are still accepting her presence but ehhhh

Guess I haven't ever had to deal with a crazy stalker ::)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on April 02, 2013, 05:29:06 PM
See, then I see you keep agreeing to meet with her so it starts seeming like you are still accepting her presence but ehhhh
When she insists we go home together, I don't have to agree, it happens regardless - 'cause that's when her stalking activates for full, and she starts camping around places I have to go past, like the main entrance and stuff..

I remember once, when I was going to take the elevator from the fourth floor and down, and she was already on her way down the stairs - she saw me in the elevator right after it closed (which you can see through because the side facing the stairs is made of glass), and she started running. She ran down the whole building to catch up with me.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: shadowkirby on April 14, 2013, 12:09:49 AM
Guys
What the hell am I doing wrong
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on April 14, 2013, 01:26:23 AM
I can't help you if you're gonna go all "15 year-old girl facebook status" when going about asking questions.

BE SPECIFIC.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on April 14, 2013, 01:35:51 AM
Don't worry about it I guess?

My problems are much worse -.-
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on April 14, 2013, 01:52:32 AM
Guys
What the hell am I doing wrong
Yes.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on April 14, 2013, 02:37:17 AM
I can't help you if you're gonna go all "15 year-old girl facebook status" when going about asking questions.

BE SPECIFIC.

THIS OMG

Vaguebooking is one of my big pet peeves
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MassiveMayhem on April 14, 2013, 03:41:20 AM
Those "talks" you have with the girlfriend.

Bleh
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: shadowkirby on May 04, 2013, 06:05:44 AM
I like Kelsey, it's official.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on May 04, 2013, 06:06:20 AM
me too man we should go on dates together
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on May 04, 2013, 06:08:04 AM
I like Kelsey, it's official.
damn you.

I wash my hands of this nonsense.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on May 04, 2013, 01:06:36 PM
I like Kelsey, it's official.

*fangirls*
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Mashi on May 04, 2013, 03:03:52 PM
but kman96 and i are already dating
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on May 04, 2013, 03:09:38 PM
you told me that you aren't dating other men!!!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Mashi on May 04, 2013, 11:22:29 PM
kman96 isnt a men hes a man96
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on May 04, 2013, 11:48:10 PM
our whole relationship has based on a cake!!!

that was a lie!!!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MassiveMayhem on May 08, 2013, 05:01:55 AM
So my girlfriend and I are taking a break. Lately we've been arguing so much and it's like we've been so far into the relationship, she seems to not try as hard anymore. But that's not how it works. I couldn't stand it anymore, how much effort I put into the relationship and nothing in return. And on top of that, the fact she'd dismiss any problem we had in the relationship, and prioritize other people and stupid video games in place of me. It's not self centered, I'm her boyfriend. I don't deserve it.
She never saw it coming, me telling her I want a break. She felt so secure in the relationship that she didn't have to try, or even worry of me leaving. Now I just don't know what to do.

Leave: And don't have to worry about being hurt and disregarded again. I don't think she deserves another chance.
Stay: She proves me wrong and changes. I trust her enough to change. But, I have a really hard time doing that right now.

I need some advice. I've given her a chance before and I'm not explaining the issue with that. I feel like she doesn't deserve another.

It's just, I've poured so much of myself into this relationship to just leave. But, I have good reason to.
I just haven't been happy this past month or so, and I want things to get better. Whether I have to leave or stay and cross my fingers....
I'm exhausted.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on May 08, 2013, 05:16:34 AM
So guess who's back in the game? That would be me.

First relationship I've been in since, like, junior year. Kinda nice knowing there's someone who truly appreciates my sexiness.

OH! and as for your troubles MM, if you're relationship isn't making you happy, there really isn't point to it is there? I mean, if it's a constant source of stress or unhappiness, ending it or at least taking a break is the obvious choice. Maybe it'll make her appreciate you a bit more.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MassiveMayhem on May 08, 2013, 05:27:00 AM
The thing is she now realizes. I haven't talked to her in a few days but apparently her anxiety of me leaving her is so bad she'll be up literally all night and stuff.
But the thing is, I don't feel sorry. And I'm afraid to come back because what if she doesn't change and does the same to me again and hurts me, then I'd feel stupid for coming back and wasting my time. I'm not sure what to do....
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on May 08, 2013, 05:32:53 AM
Hmm, I personally don't think you should stay with her if you don't feel comfortable anymore. From my experience, people change, and it lasts for a couple of weeks, max a couple of months... and then it's as if they didn't change at all. At the same time, I don't think someone should change for the sake of a relationship, but that's beside the point. Plus if you've already given her a chance before, and you really don't feel like she deserves another one... and yeah, she was obviously gonna realize now that you said you want to take a break. I guess talking to her could be a good idea too.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on May 08, 2013, 05:33:13 AM
If she's hurting you, it's not worth it. Don't let anyone guilt trip you into staying in a relationship.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MassiveMayhem on May 08, 2013, 05:36:42 AM
Thanks guys.

It's just, I'm what you call "too nice." No matter who it is, I ALWAYS care for others before myself. And obviously that can get me in trouble. Its something I can't help, I'm not the type of guy that thinks only of himself. It's very complicated between us. I'm incredibly confused and terrified.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on May 08, 2013, 05:54:08 AM
Never be afraid to walk away from toxic people in your life. It may hurt at first, but you'll be happier.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on May 08, 2013, 06:11:37 AM
I know someone who was very unhappy in his relationship; basically he didn't love his girlfriend anymore, but he didn't want to hurt her, so he didn't want to break up with her. It lasted for months. They were both very unhappy, and when his girlfriend had enough she dumped him. This is pretty much the worst thing one could do. You end up hurting yourself and your partner by not trying to hurt them, and it just makes the whole thing worse.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Yugi on May 08, 2013, 07:08:24 AM
Wait a bit first, this might be a small change in personality for your girlfriend and might only be for a short period of time. If she hasn't changed after a few weeks, then break up.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on May 08, 2013, 12:05:19 PM
Don't listen to the thirteen year old. I've been hearing about this for a few months and it doesn't really sound like a healthy relationship :/ it sounds like she's constantly prioritizing others before you and frequently ignores you, sometimes overreacting to small things too. It's a decision you ultimately have to make yourself.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on May 08, 2013, 01:14:39 PM
Why are people who have no experience over relationships trying to give advice to others who have?

-__________________________-
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on May 08, 2013, 03:15:35 PM
I don't think she deserves another chance.
There you have it^

And congratulations SFK!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on May 08, 2013, 03:21:54 PM
Why are people who have no experience over relationships trying to give advice to others who have?

-__________________________-

Hey now, I don't have any experience but I have talked with him extensively about this.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on May 08, 2013, 03:51:03 PM
Well I meant these youngsters we have here. :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on May 08, 2013, 05:53:40 PM
I haven't had any experience either but I can still offer advice...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on May 08, 2013, 08:23:23 PM
There is nothing good that comes from a toxic relationship. It's better to end it now while you are taking a break than to get back together for a few weeks to end it anyway.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MassiveMayhem on May 08, 2013, 10:22:13 PM
The thing is FSM I find that the ones who have never been in any kind of relationship give the best advice. Mostly because they're the observers and understand a lot more.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Yugi on May 08, 2013, 11:10:02 PM
Don't listen to the thirteen year old. I've been hearing about this for a few months and it doesn't really sound like a healthy relationship :/ it sounds like she's constantly prioritizing others before you and frequently ignores you, sometimes overreacting to small things too. It's a decision you ultimately have to make yourself.
I guess relationships are something I shouldn't try to give advice with?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on May 08, 2013, 11:14:57 PM
Great advice, people^^

So my former classmates have either started getting married or having children without getting married (there's one that's married with kids too). Anyway I don't know what to think about that, other than I feel sorry for myself for having to hear about it -.- But now that I did hear about all their mishaps and stuff I think I want something completely different! I came to this conclusion recently xD I'm slowwww.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on May 08, 2013, 11:22:27 PM
Heh I mean I didn't exactly think before that I would want to not wait to get married or have kids but I guess being in a more serious situation makes you actually think about it more seriously o:
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on May 09, 2013, 12:36:49 AM
ROFLMAO
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on May 09, 2013, 01:11:18 AM
i wasnt making a joke
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on May 09, 2013, 01:24:43 AM
I know XD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BonusPwnage on June 15, 2013, 05:15:40 AM
I'm tired, confused, and I really just need to say this. Okay, so I'm finishing ninth grade, and today we had the Freshman Dance (my middle school goes 7-9, so it's the last dance at Tamanend and it's a big deal, almost like prom). My brother had a date and I didn't, but my parents didn't give me the option of staying home. So I went, and the first thing I saw was the girl I like, who looked stunning in a light blue dress. I tried to ask her to the dance last week, but that's a whole other tangent, so I wont get into that. I decided I might as well try again, so outside while we were waiting to get into the school I tried to ask her out again. As it would happen, the most annoying kid in school kind of pulled me away, talking about sports or something like that. Throughout the entire night, I didn't see her at all. That is, until the last dance, which was a slow dance. As everyone got into pairs, I could see everyone on the dance floor. I saw her, alone, and made my way towards her. But just as I got halfway there, this other girl stepped in front of me and asked me to dance. Under normal circumstances, I would be thrilled, but I only like this girl as a friend, and I couldn't say no and hurt her feelings. So I didn't get to dance with the girl I liked, but one of my friends. Unfortunately, I'm fairly certain that my friend actually likes me, and I was contemplating whether or not to pull her in close as I danced. I ended up just kind of awkwardly dancing with about 10 inches between us, and I think I might have hurt her feelings. After I got out of there, the dance ended and some people were sticking around talking. I caught this girl that I liked alone, and started talking to her. I was trying to firgure out how to tell her I liked her, so I mentioned that I wanted to slow dance with her. She said, "Really?", but by her tone I couldn't tell if she was happy or angry. As I was about to reply, this guy interrupted the conversation by asking her out. He literally just stepped in front of me and asked her (to which she replied with a "yes"). I didn't even know what to say, and when she turned to me to continue the conversation, I kind of just shrugged her off (which I fell bad about). I got really pissed when the people around me started complaining about minor things, like breaking a nail or losing some lipstick. I may be overreacting, but I just don't know what to make of this.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on June 15, 2013, 05:56:50 AM
That is why I am glad I do not have emotions to hinder me.
Spoiler
(http://investorplace.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/06/grumpycat.jpg)
[close]


But, seriously:
You should've told her directly before that other guy interrupted. Which brings me to the point that that guy was rather rude, at least for the sole reason of interrupting your conversation so... rudely! :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on June 15, 2013, 09:36:56 AM
Lol wat r gurls?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BonusPwnage on June 15, 2013, 12:41:50 PM

But, seriously:
You should've told her directly before that other guy interrupted.

Yeah, you have a point there. I guess I'm not used to talking to girls that I like.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on June 15, 2013, 02:48:06 PM
That is why I am glad I do not have emotions to hinder me.
(grumpy cat)

Oh, it's another zinger from the hilarious BlackDragonSlayer
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: TheZeldaPianist275 on June 15, 2013, 05:13:09 PM
-__- stop being mean Slow

Yeah, Bonus, that's an awkward situation.  It's probably best never to ask someone out in the middle of a crowd .__.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on June 15, 2013, 05:27:03 PM
Girl X is transferring to England~ That is good news!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: TheZeldaPianist275 on June 15, 2013, 05:35:29 PM
XD I was about to ask
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on June 15, 2013, 08:48:58 PM
Oh, it's another zinger from the hilarious BlackDragonSlayer
I laughed harder than I should have.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BonusPwnage on June 15, 2013, 09:45:42 PM
Yeah, Bonus, that's an awkward situation.  It's probably best never to ask someone out in the middle of a crowd .__.
Yeah, that's why I was trying to get her alone.
Girl X is transferring to England~ That is good news!
After all that's happened, that's good news indeed!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on June 16, 2013, 01:09:12 AM
Oh, it's another zinger from the hilarious BlackDragonSlayer
Aaah, entertaining.

Girl X is transferring to England~ That is good news!
That is most certainly good news; congratulations (would that be proper to say in a situation such as this?)! :D
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on June 16, 2013, 08:47:14 AM
congratulations (would that be proper to say in a situation such as this?)! :D
Haha I guess :P Well it is kinda mean, but I believe congratulations is appropriate. ;D
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on June 18, 2013, 11:04:34 PM
Met a beautiful girl at Bonnaroo when Bernhoft was playing on Friday. Hung out with her the whole day and night, and most of Saturday. We split up, planning to meet up a bit later. Couldn't find her the rest of the festival. Don't have her phone number. Only know her first name and I can't find her on Facebook. BUT I KNOW SHE LIVES IN FLORIDA. AND WITHIN REASONABLE DISTANCE TOO.

FUCK FUCK FUCK FCUK FACKK FKDJDFKNDKJVFNLDKVNDK DJV<NDJKVNKJDNLFI
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ricky on June 19, 2013, 06:48:20 AM
That sucks, you had lots of chances to get more information about her though.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on June 19, 2013, 07:50:50 AM
Hung out with her the whole day and night
high five
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on June 19, 2013, 05:04:18 PM
That sucks, you had lots of chances to get more information about her though.
Bro, you don't get it. At Bonnaroo, anyone you talk to, you feel like you've already known them for years and are just striking up a conversation with a buddy. Everyone is just that friendly. The fact that I know her first name is a lot, considering I had talked to people there for hours during down time and not even got that much. Because you never feel the need to introduce yourself.
high five
Aw. Yeah.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on June 19, 2013, 08:28:03 PM
I planned this super romantic boat trip for tomorrow evening. It's gonna be awsm.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on June 19, 2013, 08:28:36 PM
Looking forward to it :)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on June 19, 2013, 08:31:56 PM
srry the boat is for mashi and me

i booked a room for us in this motel for this weekend tho
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on June 19, 2013, 08:33:38 PM
Aww, then Jub3r7 and I have nowhere to go.

So I guess we'll have to comfort each other.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on June 19, 2013, 11:27:15 PM
Nah, don't worry about me, SlowPokemon. Go take care of FSM while Mashi and I run around New York City and save the world.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on June 19, 2013, 11:33:17 PM
jub3r7

more like

DEAD3r7
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on June 19, 2013, 11:41:51 PM
dead3r7?

More like bigsig hidden in a spoiler tag
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on June 20, 2013, 06:21:11 AM
as long as he doesn't find out about my affair with massive mayhem then i should be fine
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MassiveMayhem on June 20, 2013, 06:25:13 AM
...........Oooooh boy
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on June 20, 2013, 06:28:31 AM
(http://check.animeblogger.net/wp-content/uploads/2007/02/ccs-ep02-screen000.jpg)

Shh I'm not actually here
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on June 20, 2013, 02:33:56 PM
as long as he doesn't find out about my affair with massive mayhem then i should be fine

Oh.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on June 21, 2013, 09:08:37 PM
So I'm thinking about using online dating, but I don't know if I'm ready yet or not... I've never had a relationship with anyone so I'm a little nervous...

Aahhh I just don't knowwww...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on June 21, 2013, 09:13:44 PM
Dude if we date would that count as online dating??? If so then I say yes
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on June 21, 2013, 09:15:53 PM
By online dating I mean people who I can actually meet up with who are also online.

I still love u though (islut)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on June 21, 2013, 09:18:20 PM
I'd say go for it, (probably) doesn't hurt to branch out and try something new.  Helps with all sorts of things like being more confident with yourself and overall well-being :D  Just be wary that those sometimes have a higher concentration of undesirable individuals..
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on June 21, 2013, 09:20:43 PM
Well all of my experience of online dating is focused on my computer's calendar

Get it

Calendars have dates

HAHAHAHAHA

...I know where the door is, thank you...

Ninja'd

dude i say we gogogo to a gay bar and ill be ur wingman
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on June 21, 2013, 09:26:49 PM
i don't think there are gay bars in findlay though lol
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on June 21, 2013, 09:28:35 PM
*not sure did you mistype Finland or is that your home town* lol

I'm assuming the second option.

Edit: *highly assuming
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on June 21, 2013, 09:32:10 PM
Findlay is NOT my hometown, it's just where I live as of now.

Zionsville will always be my hometown <3
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on June 22, 2013, 12:11:11 AM
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on June 22, 2013, 06:47:41 AM
[6/21/2013 10:48:08 PM] Mashi: lol
[6/21/2013 11:35:15 PM] Mashi: omg youre going to be online dating this is going to be the cutest thing ever, omg
[12:28:21 AM] Dude: what
[12:28:38 AM] Dude: why is that cute?
[12:28:40 AM] Dude: lol
[1:08:58 AM] Mashi: because
[1:09:01 AM] Mashi: it is so cute
[1:09:07 AM] Dude: but whyyy
[1:09:25 AM] Dude: I'll try and find a hot one
[1:09:25 AM] Mashi: ur a cyootie 3.141592653...
[1:09:28 AM] Mashi: ;)
[1:09:32 AM] Dude: lol
[1:09:34 AM] Mashi: find one that likes touhou
[1:09:37 AM] Dude: OMG
[1:09:38 AM] Dude: YES
[1:09:51 AM] Dude: I doubt i can find one in findlay though
[1:09:53 AM] Dude: meh
[1:09:58 AM] Dude: I'll make him like touhou lol
[1:38:49 AM] Mashi: Yaaaaaaaay.

now i don't wanna do it. ._.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BonusPwnage on June 22, 2013, 02:40:57 PM
now i don't wanna do it. ._.

“Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”
—M. Kathleen Casey

[Insert more inspiring quotes here.]
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on June 22, 2013, 06:53:40 PM
i was kidding but thx.

now what site should i sign up on?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on June 22, 2013, 09:24:53 PM
CHRISTIAN FUCKING MINGLE.COM

BEST DATING SITE OF ALL TIME.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on June 22, 2013, 09:29:58 PM
nothx
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on June 22, 2013, 09:32:21 PM
nothx

OMFG DUDE WHAT IF YOU TROLLED EVERYONE THERE IT WOULD BE THE BEST THING EVER
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on June 22, 2013, 09:35:04 PM
But... that's mean.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on July 07, 2013, 04:22:22 PM
Hey guys, what do you when you really miss a girl you can't see for two months?
There is this dear friend of mine that was in my junior high school band.
We had some romance going on during band camp this year(though we aren't dating), and I have totally fallen for her.
But after band camp she left for Sweden and is staying there for two more months - and I can't talk to her because she's without internet.

The big problem is, I miss her a lot. I wouldn't imagine that it would suck this much. I can't stop thinking about her for more than ten minutes.
Anyone ever felt the same way? What can I do to stop thinking about her? I thought time would be the answer, but it's been two weeks..
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on July 07, 2013, 04:26:36 PM
I'd go visit her.

That's what I did.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: DrP on July 16, 2013, 06:33:08 AM
i don't think there are gay bars in frisco though lol
Yes there are. Lots of them.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on July 16, 2013, 11:46:01 PM
Yes there are. Lots of them.
well i'm not in california and i don't want to move :|
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on July 25, 2013, 08:05:11 PM
Tomorrow. Tomorrow is the day.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on July 25, 2013, 09:53:59 PM
SFK, I better receive an invitation to the wedding!!!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on July 26, 2013, 05:09:40 AM
well i'm not in california and i don't want to move :|

Hahaha but you should totally go off to explore new places! It's kind of fun in a scary way xD I'm only saying that because I can't drive.

Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on July 27, 2013, 01:55:38 AM
Hey I am not a bad driver most of the time
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on July 27, 2013, 04:05:07 AM
I didn't say you were xD Still, not being able to drive is why I haven't been on a road trip yet/rural places.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: shadowkirby on November 04, 2013, 12:24:26 AM
I'm getting married
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on November 04, 2013, 01:00:45 AM
MY BEST FRIEND AND MY FIANCÉ ARE GOING BEHIND MY BACK WTF
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on November 04, 2013, 01:12:46 AM
MY BEST FRIEND AND MY FIANCÉ BEHIND MY BACK WTF
wait you and shadow are getting married?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on November 04, 2013, 01:39:21 AM
wait you and shadow are getting married?
no...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on November 04, 2013, 01:44:39 AM
wait you and shadow are getting married?

lolwat
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on November 04, 2013, 01:55:19 AM
Oh I thought you meant that shadowkirby was your best friend and your fiance and that he was telling people behind your back.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Yugi on November 04, 2013, 05:11:55 AM
dying
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MasterProX on December 05, 2013, 04:50:44 AM
The girl problems continue.

I don't even know what I'm doing or what to do anymore.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on December 05, 2013, 04:55:31 AM
Details!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on December 05, 2013, 05:21:04 AM
Huh I never thought people thought dating was such a big deal.

Anyway does she think you're creepy? If so, try working on your appearance. Just the simple stuff you can do everyday, a six pack isn't really worth the time or effort unless you really want to get fit. Leave her alone unless you're working on a class project, don't try to see her after school unless she asks to...be really good at something that she might end up asking you for help on...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on December 05, 2013, 09:52:22 AM
Okay, NSM really, really needs help with the ladies and I feel that I somehow am the member here with the most expertise in this field.

SFK's GUIDE FOR GETTING ALL TEH LADIES:

STEP 1: GET THAT SIX PACK MOTHERFUCKER. I have one and I know from experience that it's fantastic. You never want to purposely show it off the avoid looking douchey, but if you happen to be shirtless and you're a skinny white guy, girls will be all "I AM SURPRISED BY YOUR HAWT BOD" and will want to rub it. Like, literally every time. It's a fucking magnet. Personal experience has taught me this. BUT DON'T STOP THERE. Improve your entire physique, not just to get girls, do it for yourself. The great philosopher Socrates once said a human body that has never reached it full potential was a wasted one. Once you start exercising and eating better, you'll feel more healthy, more confident, and girls WILL notice because, believe it or not, girls love a hot nerd guy just as much as guys love a hot nerd girl. And it's especially to your advantage because hot nerd guys are an even rarer breed of human than their female counterparts.

STEP 2: UPDATE THAT WARDROBE MOTHERFUCKER. Clothes can say a lot about a person. It can show you status in a business,society, or wealth. And more importantly, being well dressed let's people know you care about yourself. I personally love wearing clothes that make me look good. I feel more confident and know that I'm making a good first impression with women, acquaintances, and people in general. For skinny white dudes, I recommend American Apparel for t-shirts that fit well(and are extreme comfortable), maybe some flannel if you can pull it off, and definitely slim cut or skinny pants. Further more, invest in a nice watch(Fossil makes great ones for a modest price, I recommend a leather strap). And when you wear long sleeves, roll those suckers up. For some reason, a majority of girls love it when a guys sleeves are rolled up. Maybe because often when a guy rolls up his sleeves, he's about to do some serious fucking work and girls like that? Dunno. If you want some good places for clothes or just a link to something stylish, hit me up.

STEP 3. HYGIENE....MOTHERFUCKER. Seriously, too many geeks and nerds seem to be out of touch with the fact that their smell, not their "niceness", is often the deciding factor when not attracting girls. SHOWER ONCE A DAY, YOU FILTHY, FILTHY BOYS. Now, I don't actually use shampoo personally, because hair actually is much healthier if you only wash it with water(soap washes away all those healthy oil and shiz from your hair). But some people have oilier hair than others. And ALWAYS use body wash. Especially the armpits and crotch, which account for a lot of your stank.  But more importantly if how your hair is cut and styled. Get a cut that informs the ladies that, yes, you do indeed give a damn and you look damn good doing it. Often you can leave you hair nice and messy and as long as the cut itself is stylish and your wearing a well put together outfit, it makes people think your just leaving messy on purpose because you're that cool. Also, brush your teeth in the morning. Nobody likes bad breathe. If you don't have time, Orbitz is your friend.

Seriously, a hair cut, a new outfit, and an exercise regiment will get you miles closer to being the super fly ladies man you always wanted to be.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MasterProX on December 05, 2013, 10:22:13 AM
Skimmed through your guide just now, will read it more thoroughly in the morning.

1)  I HAVE THAT SIX PACK MOTHERFUCKER.
2)  Hmm... will look into this more later...
3)  Since my hair is messy as shit and impossible to fix up in the morning, I just wet it so it's not as... tall (if that made sense).  I assume that's not enough?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on December 05, 2013, 01:57:08 PM
Oh man, did he just say he's the most experienced when it comes to da ladiez? cuz fsm is in the house and the screams of the fangirls fill the room

It's all about that confidence and charisma, man. I'd seriously say fuck everything else if you have confidence. Most of SFK said are for you to feel more confident around women, it doesn't mean by just doing those things girls will be all over you.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on December 05, 2013, 05:36:44 PM
LOOK WHO'S RETURNED, JUST TO UPSURP MY AUTHORITY!

DAMN YOU FSM, DAMN YOU.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on December 06, 2013, 02:41:41 AM
1) Haha being fit is nice and it really does make me stare at you for more than a second but it's not really necessary if you're an engineer or something XD *cough*

2) I don't really like American Apparel but that's because their CEO or something is a total creep. Uniqlo is good for the lazy guys that like to wear more than just t-shirts. Everything is so plain but in lots of colors so you can't really go wrong with what they have.

3) Lol I was going to mention that but I didn't want to be offensive xD Girls tend to know if you haven't showered, shaved or washed your face way more easily than you think they do because they have a better sense of smell.

If you're lazy with your hair, cut it really short so you don't have to brush it.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on December 06, 2013, 03:21:53 AM
Uhhh the point about shampoo is somewhat valid, but you should still be washing it at least semi-often with more than just water for most people at least, unless you never go outside and spend all your time in some sanitized lab ._.

But yes, many people seem to think that their stench is somehow not noticeable (perhaps they have become accustomed to it themselves??)

They are wrong.

AA has some comfy T shirts but I can't speak for anything else they have.  I do enjoy Uniqlo for being decently stylish and inexpensive.  And I also kinda like the minimalism to an extent.
Just don't be one of those kids that only ever wears super unflattering t shirts (giant, bad designs) or a trenchcoat.  That is automatic people-repellent right there.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on December 06, 2013, 03:41:58 AM
Yeah!!!

Keep posting because no one on Facebook is funny. Distract me from my own problems!!!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: dahans on December 07, 2013, 09:16:57 AM
Everyone on NSM seems to have a Sixpack.... haha I don't believe you :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on December 07, 2013, 09:39:04 AM
Contemplating doing a douchey selfie to defend my abdomen's honor, but positive it will only further damage my honor as a person.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on December 07, 2013, 09:52:35 AM
just add a duckface and everything will be ok
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MasterProX on December 07, 2013, 10:08:23 AM
And add ten pounds of makeup too. Then you'll be fine.

By the way, I told Jackie not to tell anyone that I asked her out and failed miserably (for the tenth goddamn time). She told Olivia, her best friend... who has a habit of telling everyone all the secrets she learns about me.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on December 07, 2013, 11:09:02 AM
Your mistake was assuming a high school girl wouldn't gossip just because you said not to.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MasterProX on December 07, 2013, 11:42:41 AM
My mistake was befriending her in the first place.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on December 07, 2013, 05:58:02 PM
Just move on. Seriously, I had my heart stomp into a bloody pulp by a girl a few months back and I'm willing to bet our relationship was far more intimate than yours with this Jackie girl. But you get over her, you move on. Because only you can create your own happiness. Letting anyone else control it will lead to bad things. And then eventually you'll meet a far prettier, nicer girl who actually wants a real relationship with you. And when this Jackie hasn't crossed you mind for a week or two, when you do think about, you'll know she was never worth a cent of your energy.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on December 07, 2013, 08:33:18 PM
Everyone on NSM seems to have a Sixpack.... haha I don't believe you :P
Hahaha I don't think everyone said they did xD

Contemplating doing a douchey selfie to defend my abdomen's honor, but positive it will only further damage my honor as a person.

just add a duckface and everything will be ok

If everyone thinks highly of you already they would know that's a joke :D

...

Yeah, wait for someone better. You never know whether the girl you really, really liked might be posting on facebook about a baby daddy in a few years...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on December 08, 2013, 10:09:39 AM
There is a saying that says "All people.will make you suffer, you have to people.worth suffering for" but I am ever more quickly finding that there are no people suffering for.In the long run, everyone will let you down in an unforgivable way. So instead of trying to accommodate for other mistakes, take what you need from people and forget about. Whether its money, sex, or other selfish purposes, you are the only person who you can ever trust not to let you down. Fuck who you want and take what you want. No regrets. Because people and love and caring will only make.you suffer. That's literally the only.lesson I've.learned about love. Relationships aren't worth it.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on December 08, 2013, 10:22:48 AM
Have you been drinking? xD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on December 08, 2013, 10:23:42 AM
There is a saying that says "All people.will make you suffer, you have to people.worth suffering for"
silliest lesson ever
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Mashi on December 08, 2013, 10:36:51 AM
I disagree.  There's a colossal amount of altruism and kindness in the world to go around.  And even if one were to disagree with that notion, we're a long way forward from a few centuries ago, when torture and sacrifice were ubiquitous, humans were made slaves, people were dying of sickness, etc.  And I believe that we are definitely approaching the ideal for morality in humanity.

There's a quote from Game of Thrones that I liked (though, I'm paraphrasing) that stated "The more people you love, the more of a Hell your life becomes."  Now, although I don't mean to dissuade people from loving as many people as possible, the only reason I bring this up is to make a comment that love and caring can be difficult, and they're arduous tasks if you have many loved ones.  Such as the usual example of having to choose between saving only one of two children from drowning; it's lose-lose either way.

But what I find amazing is that we end up caring for one another in the end.  Ruto, for example, has always looked out for me.  I would probably have no idea what I was doing with my life if she weren't selfless enough to give a helping hand so often!  In much the same way, Kefka helps me with questions I have about Maths whenever I have one, Bird and verm verm are always sticking up for me, and many others here!  Yet none of them ever expect anything back out of it.  I'm not as put-together as Ruto or as intelligent as Kefka or as absolutely amazing as Bird and verm verm, so it's not as if I can reciprocate their kind actions.


I still advocate the idea of forming relationships when one is settled in life (such as when one finds a stable job or is soon to find one).  I feel there's too much pressure and misapprehension when trying to form a lifelong relationship of romantic love with someone when the two people are still dependent on their parents!  So MasterProX, don't belittle yourself or feel too bad.  It's human to err, so certainly try to move on.  I wouldn't discourage you from trying your hand again at love if it so happens in the future, so stay confident and keep your head up!  If you choose not to pursue a relationship, it's your decision, but don't let this mishap cloud your judgement.  I do agree with SuperFireKirby to an extent that you forge your own destiny; you're the only person that can make yourself happy.  If you're unhappy outside a romantic relationship, a romantic relationship won't correct that issue.  Any gossip on recent events are certain to die down eventually, so don't let anything provoke your or make you feel ashamed.

EDIT: Ohhh, that might explain why his previous two posts have such antithetical tones, Ruto.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FSM-Reapr on December 08, 2013, 10:41:59 AM
I respect that Mashi takes his time to write responses that are like one metre long.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on December 08, 2013, 07:37:34 PM
Have you been drinking? xD
Nailed it!

First time I've ever drunk posted. Probably the last. As you might infer, my mind is not in a good place right now. :b
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Mashi on December 08, 2013, 09:58:53 PM
I don't like drunk SuperFireKirby, you're perfect enough the way you are. :(
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on December 08, 2013, 10:17:20 PM
There is a saying that says "All people.will make you suffer, you have to people.worth suffering for" but I am ever more quickly finding that there are no people suffering for.In the long run, everyone will let you down in an unforgivable way. So instead of trying to accommodate for other mistakes, take what you need from people and forget about. Whether its money, sex, or other selfish purposes, you are the only person who you can ever trust not to let you down. Fuck who you want and take what you want. No regrets. Because people and love and caring will only make.you suffer. That's literally the only.lesson I've.learned about love. Relationships aren't worth it.
such brilliance. much grammar. wow.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on December 08, 2013, 11:43:12 PM
such brilliance. much grammar. wow.

ily
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on December 09, 2013, 05:37:48 AM
Hey, I'd like to see you do a better job typing a paragraph while drunk, stoned, and using a phone.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on December 09, 2013, 10:58:01 AM
looks like we have a new Harvest in town.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Waddle Bro on December 09, 2013, 02:25:07 PM
So yeah children, there's your prime example when it comes to ladies.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on January 28, 2014, 10:59:51 PM
Wow, I had to bump this off the second page. You go nsm for being good with the ladies ::)

Anyway, my school's Cotillion is coming up, and its custom to bring a date. Since the beginning of the school year, my friend (who goes to a different school) has been sending me pictures and names of guys that she thinks I should take with me. I've never met any of them (and a few she hasn't met either), and the only real characteristic they have is height. I don't want to go alone to the dance, but at the same time I don't want to resign to a complete stranger who is at the same altitude as me? I think I'm supposed to choose soon though since there's all this paperwork you have to fill out if your date isn't from your school
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on January 28, 2014, 11:18:26 PM
Just pick a person with the same taste in music as you. I have never met anyone who liked the same music as me the I didn't become super good friends with. Seriously, you can learn a person's entire personality by they're musical tastes.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on January 28, 2014, 11:25:19 PM
I don't want to go alone to the dance, but at the same time I don't want to resign to a complete stranger who is at the same altitude as me?
Excuse me if I'm being insensitive, but it seems as if the problem lies mostly in your indecisiveness- I'm not sure what advice I could offer other than decide what you think will be best for you. If you're really bothered with going with somebody you don't know, then I'd say going alone would be better... and vice-versa if you're more bothered by going alone (which is what SFK is suggesting).
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on January 28, 2014, 11:29:26 PM
Meeting new people is always a positive thing. Do it whenever possible.

So yes, I highly recommend going with someone you don't know.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on January 29, 2014, 12:09:37 AM
Just pick a person with the same taste in music as you. I have never met anyone who liked the same music as me the I didn't become super good friends with. Seriously, you can learn a person's entire personality by they're musical tastes.
But I don't have a taste in music! (Unless anime openings count...)

And I'm more worried about the overall awkwardness if I take a guy I've never met, especially if I meet him the night of the dance. People at my school tend to be...showy when it comes to relationships, and we might stick out

But SFK you make a good point. I suck at meeting new people, so this could be a good opportunity for me. After all, its only Cotillion.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on January 29, 2014, 01:02:30 AM
Wow, I had to bump this off the second page. You go nsm for being good with the ladies ::)

Anyway, my school's Cotillion is coming up, and its custom to bring a date. Since the beginning of the school year, my friend (who goes to a different school) has been sending me pictures and names of guys that she thinks I should take with me. I've never met any of them (and a few she hasn't met either), and the only real characteristic they have is height. I don't want to go alone to the dance, but at the same time I don't want to resign to a complete stranger who is at the same altitude as me? I think I'm supposed to choose soon though since there's all this paperwork you have to fill out if your date isn't from your school
But bubbles you ARE a guy :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on January 29, 2014, 01:43:49 AM
So? I can date guys if I want to. No one ever said I was straight.

+1 for bubbles
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on January 29, 2014, 01:49:54 AM
Yeah, it's a new age with new thoughts and ideas. I date men all the time (but I save all of my lovin' for the ladies).
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on January 29, 2014, 04:46:19 AM
But SFK you make a good point. I suck at meeting new people, so this could be a good opportunity for me. After all, its only Cotillion.
Actually I'm getting kinda nervous and unsure again...Should I make an effort to meet him before the dance? I kinda want to meet him in a crowd of other people (or just not one on one), but the only way I could do that is by making my friend throw a party which I'm not sure she's comfortable with.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on January 29, 2014, 04:58:00 AM
But bubbles you ARE a guy :P
So? I can date guys if I want to. No one ever said I was straight.

+1 for bubbles
Yeah, it's a new age with new thoughts and ideas. I date men all the time (but I save all of my lovin' for the ladies).
xDDDDDDDDDDDDDD

I have no words...Nocturne still doesn't get it!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on January 29, 2014, 05:07:19 AM
Actually I'm getting kinda nervous and unsure again...Should I make an effort to meet him before the dance? I kinda want to meet him in a crowd of other people (or just not one on one), but the only way I could do that is by making my friend throw a party which I'm not sure she's comfortable with.

I mean, you're meeting them through your friend, right? I can imagine it wouldn't be quite as awkward if you just casually hung out with the guy and your friend once.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on January 29, 2014, 05:37:57 AM
Well this one in particular I'm actually meeting through my friends friend... Meanwhile my friend has never met him before
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on January 29, 2014, 07:11:14 AM
xDDDDDDDDDDDDDD

I have no words...Nocturne still doesn't get it!

IT JUST OCCURRED TO ME THAT NOCTURNE PROBABLY JOINED AFTER BUBBLES DID THE THING SO HE DOESN'T KNOW
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Yugi on January 29, 2014, 08:37:45 AM
Remember when I changed my gender to female to fuck around with people?

That was great.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on January 29, 2014, 08:39:58 AM
:P I don't remember that.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on January 29, 2014, 08:47:42 AM
Remember when I changed my gender to female to fuck around with people?
So I'm guessing you were fed up with not getting any as a man?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Waddle Bro on January 29, 2014, 02:15:05 PM
(http://www.switch180daily.com/.a/6a014e8b0ebca4970d01a510a77767970c-pi)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BonusPwnage on February 01, 2014, 10:47:20 PM
Spoiler
(http://www.switch180daily.com/.a/6a014e8b0ebca4970d01a510a77767970c-pi)
[close]
I'm so using this sometime.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Yugi on February 01, 2014, 10:52:05 PM
BonusPwnage, have you played No More Heroes?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on February 01, 2014, 10:53:09 PM
does that have anything to do with relationships
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BonusPwnage on February 01, 2014, 10:53:46 PM
...I'll leave you alone forever now.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Yugi on February 01, 2014, 10:55:51 PM
does that have anything to do with relationships
No but he just posted and I recognized his personal text as something from No More Heroes
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on February 05, 2014, 12:19:17 AM
Just something random I guess it applies but how do you get rid of crushes?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 05, 2014, 12:31:23 AM
Not sure what you're asking.

Someone who has a crush on you? Ask them, politely, to leave you alone or just avoid them if you're not good at confronting people.

How to get rid of feelings for another person? Quickest way to do that is to find someone new, I've found. They basically replace the last person. Or eat lots of Ben & Jerry's if your female cuz that's what they do, apparently(I do it to, but out of fatness and not depression)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FireArrow on February 05, 2014, 01:24:13 AM
or just avoid them if you're not good at confronting people.

No, that's just selfish. You'll make their life hell just so you can avoid a confrontation.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on February 05, 2014, 01:33:28 AM
I mean there's this person who I think is really awesome but I just want to be friends and not have a crush on her.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on February 05, 2014, 02:48:47 AM
How to get rid of feelings for another person? Quickest way to do that is to find someone new, I've found. They basically replace the last person.

This. Works wonders.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on February 05, 2014, 03:05:55 AM
This. Works wonders.
Except I don't want ANYBODY.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on February 05, 2014, 03:14:00 AM
Fall in love with your work then.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on February 05, 2014, 03:15:45 AM
Except I don't want ANYBODY.
Well, you could always become cold and emotionless like me...

If you really really don't want anybody, I guess you'll just have to "convince" yourself of that: overcome your emotions, so-to-say (I don't know how else to describe this).
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on February 05, 2014, 03:58:30 AM
Yeah, what SFK said.

Though there is another important thing: are you already friends with the girl, or do you just kinda watch her/say one or two words to her once in a while? Be honest with yourself; if you barely even talk then you should probably get there first

Update on my Cotillion stuff: I've had the guys number for like a week or two now and I haven't even texted him. I'm hoping for either someone else or meeting him first, since getting a random message saying "Hey you don't know me but my friend's friends saw you and thought you were tall and cute and do you want to go to my school's dance with me" is a pretty awkward and obvious last resort
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on February 05, 2014, 04:05:43 AM
Update on my Cotillion stuff: I've had the guys number for like a week or two now and I haven't even texted him. I'm hoping for either someone else or meeting him first, since getting a random message saying "Hey you don't know me but my friend's friends saw you and thought you were tall and cute and do you want to go to my school's dance with me" is a pretty awkward and obvious last resort
Try to arrange a meeting before then, if possible!... so you can decide if you need to find somebody else... :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on February 05, 2014, 05:10:07 AM
I mean there's this person who I think is really awesome but I just want to be friends and not have a crush on her.

Ain't gonna happen unless you start messing with biochemistry :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FireArrow on February 06, 2014, 04:41:43 AM
I mean there's this person who I think is really awesome but I just want to be friends and not have a crush on her.

As a gay person, story of my life. I just try to "friend zone" all of my friends to avoid any awkward emotions. In short, make sure the friendship comes before you have any chance to develop emotions for the person, then the concept of a relationship with said person will seem really weird (you can't completely make yourself not feel anything.) If you already have a crush on her, then the only way you can alleviate that is by being open with her. If she knows your not interested in a relationship than your feeling be easy to accept and deal with.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on February 06, 2014, 05:06:21 AM
(you can't completely make yourself not feel anything.)
Um...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on February 06, 2014, 05:59:37 AM
Just something random I guess it applies but how do you get rid of crushes?

I really thought you meant you wanted someone killed.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on February 06, 2014, 06:12:44 AM
I really thought you meant you wanted someone killed.

literally crush them for the sake of the pun
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 06, 2014, 06:17:11 AM
worth it no regrets
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 08, 2014, 06:26:19 AM
Fuck my luck. First I meet a nice girl, she has a boyfriend. Then I meet a super awesome girl, she has a fiance. Then I meet a girl who looks like Ramona Flowers and is also pretty dang cool, and married. Meanwhile, the only girls interested in me I either don't find appealing or just want to have sex with me, which I also find unappealing. I absolutely hate the idea of casual sex.

I thought I'd have someone significant in my life by this point, or at least at some point HAD someone significant. But it's been nothing missed opportunities and disastrous relationships. And when I finally met someone I truly cared for, someone that gave my life new purpose and made me want to actually be somebody, my heart got kicked in ass.

I am so fucking lonely.[/bipolardepressionrant]
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on February 08, 2014, 07:30:11 AM
We're at that age now SFK. The age where friends have serious girlfriends and everyone we're interested in is already at that point too. Hanging out with old friends becomes less frequent between classes, said girlfriend, and jobs. Before you know it you need to find someone to date to not feel lonely. Then engagements, then you feel behind the curve again... etc etc.

Not sure what the point of that was, but my school has a "ring by spring" tendency so all of my friends are getting engaged ;_;
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: DrP on February 08, 2014, 09:17:20 AM
I've stopped even caring about a relationship. I've wanted one throughout college (and nothing happened -- and the only one was a "kind of" relationship for 3 months in high school) and I am coming to a realization that I should have one. I mean, expenses are cut in half and you can do fun things together (in my case, I want a traveling buddy).

Especially now, since I am now in the working world and with a bunch of people at different stages in their life, relationships are hard to find... and even more especially since I am busy all the time. But, there is always hope and you guys still have a year or two left of college and anything can happen.

Or there is always that chance that if you move someplace new, things can happen.

And worst part is I fall for so many girls and there is always that friend-zone wall or some other metaphor that stops me one step to the end.

So, just hang in there. Things happen for a reason and surely you'll find someone

Worst part is now if I want to get married, I need to start looking at marriage criteria, not just girlfriend criteria.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on February 08, 2014, 06:08:41 PM
Not sure what the point of that was, but my school has a "ring by spring" tendency so all of my friends are getting engaged ;_;
Omg already two of my "good" friends (I say good because they were good friends, but they moved quite a while ago so I haven't seen them) who are a grade above me just got engaged, and it makes me go bonkers because they're only about a year or two older than I am...I thought it would be a while before this happened, but now that only means that...THEY are coming...


First comes love...
Then comes marriage...
Then comes...a baby in a baby carriage.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 08, 2014, 06:26:30 PM
People who even think about marriage before they're 25 are cray-cray. There's so much shit that happens during your 20s, you don't know where the hell you'll end up and long-term commitments are just begging to be broken.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on February 08, 2014, 06:26:58 PM
That's crazy. I don't know how people can get engaged for years and manage to save up for a wedding at that age (right out of high school/college). I'm just saying that because a wedding reception (not the ceremony) costs about $50,000+.

I personally see it like you're throwing a sack over her head but not quite running off in your horse yet. I knew one guy who got engaged suddenly and then called it off a few months later. It's sad but then what do you expect if you wait so long from engagement to wedding? Also they are probably rushing into it for sex.

@SFK
If they're dissatisfied with their relationship, they's start looking around >__> but don't you have any friends that have friends that are single? A lot of my friends are XD but I don't know whether you'd be interested or not since they're all older than you and live in New York or Boston xD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on February 08, 2014, 07:35:22 PM
My parents got married when they were 18. 25th anniversary is this year, so I really try to not make presumptions about early engagements unless I know them really well.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on February 08, 2014, 07:41:40 PM
There's no right or wrong age for marriage, because it ultimately just takes effort from the people involved to make it work. Also, what kind of reception are you having that costs $50,000?

My wedding reception is just going to be in a warehouse that's painted solid white and only have a single table that only has unmarked cups of various colored drinks on it. No chairs.

Total cost, couple hundred bucks, maybe more for the painting.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on February 08, 2014, 11:15:06 PM
There's no right or wrong age for marriage, because it ultimately just takes effort from the people involved to make it work. Also, what kind of reception are you having that costs $50,000?

My wedding reception is just going to be in a warehouse that's painted solid white and only have a single table that only has unmarked cups of various colored drinks on it. No chairs.

Total cost, couple hundred bucks, maybe more for the painting.
Maestro: efficiency expert of the year
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on February 08, 2014, 11:16:37 PM
Chairs are for the weak.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on February 09, 2014, 12:20:39 AM
My wedding reception is just going to be in a warehouse that's painted solid white and only have a single table that only has unmarked cups of various colored drinks on it. No chairs.

Total cost, couple hundred bucks, maybe more for the painting.

Lol that sounds fun xD Must be an azn thing to have a super expensive reception then. Basically you'd have 20 tables (small receptions, 50 for large ones), 10-12 people per table, with an 8 course dinner that includes steak, lobster, sharkfin soup, duck, roast pork, vegetarian stuff, stir fried dishes, fried rice, and an open bar and bottles of champagne for every table, dessert, wedding cake, an MC, photographer, space rental...the bride would also change into several different outfits for the night like one of those super elaborate traditional dresses and some Western ones, wedding photographers...etc. Plus if you're closely related to the bride or groom's family, expect to give her gold jewelry or jade.

I knew a few people that got married that young lol. But they're way out in the country and didn't go to college, so there was less pressure to get a real career and more to start having kids. I honestly don't know what you would do in the country for a job, but it doesn't work in the city. There's the college degree, master's...yeah you'd be busy enough with that. Someone I talked to today said being married while you're in school is a bad idea since you'd feel like you can't do both, even without kids -.- The guy that broke off his engagement went to med school so I don't blame him at all. Also he was kind of awkward.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on February 09, 2014, 12:25:51 AM
Of course there may be some situation where it isn't exactly bad to have a super early marriage, but I would argue that in general it is unwise as unless you have some sort of funky remote-marriage going on it immediately puts constraints on your living and working situation to a much larger extent than you would have had in previous stages of the relationships.

I guess for some hicks that know nothing besides some barn and a field, sex and kids and a family is pretty much the only clear thing in mind, but there really is much more to do in the world that everyone should at least attempt to explore when they're young.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on February 09, 2014, 12:40:59 AM
some barn and a field sex and kids and a family

xD what's a field sex

Also gold diggers. Gold diggers are cool with it. Except that after a while they get disillusioned and want to go do something else in their lives except gold digging. It's tougher to start when you have a bunch of crying kids, then some teenagers and then a bunch of twenty year olds that are all in college studying subjects you didn't know existed or working and earning a lot more than a drug store cashier. I got part of that from "Malcolm in the Middle."

Edit:
I should also add that I don't think it's a really, really bad idea but it's incompatible with most lifestyles I know in the city. Without a college degree or better, you'd only be able to get a working class income. If you're a woman and you marry right after your college degree and have kids, your husband is stuck paying off the degree for a few years, or your parents are. Most colleges I know cost money, and not the kind of money that you can make working as a cashier or receptionist. If your parents just shelled out $100,000 for a degree you're never going to use, they would definitely be resentful now or later. And you're going to be a decent person and help them out when they need it, right? I think in that case, the parents wouldn't want you to go to college at all.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on February 09, 2014, 03:32:29 AM
xD what's a field sex
The strange powers of commas.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on February 09, 2014, 04:41:45 AM
i accidentally a punctuation
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on February 09, 2014, 05:18:22 AM
It's okay lol I thought it was a new thing.

But what kind of job can you do without college that can support a family? Some people say a high school degree is all you need but every kind of school has different standards, so there are at least a few I would think that would graduate students that are barely literate ._. which is one of the major reasons for people needing college anyway.

Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 09, 2014, 09:17:08 AM
A lot of trade schools and shiz I suppose. Some don't give college degrees and just train you in whatever career you're planning on going into. College is becoming an slowly archaic system in the US anyway, but there's nothing in the forefront to replace it so people will just keep on going because it's "expected" of them.

But marriage is dumb. I don't know why, but I can easily see myself in a lifelong, committed relationship but I just can't see myself getting married. If I did get married tho, I'd do it in a forest. It'd be cheapo and whey coller than some stuffy old chapel.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: DrP on February 09, 2014, 09:51:32 AM
That's the more modern thing people are doing... not getting married, but being in a life-long relationship.... and they still have kids and do whatevs. It's mostly what's happening in Scandinavia now.

It makes it easier if there's a divorce-like circumstance and it just makes more sense a lot.

And personally, being 21, I have no idea where my life is going to lead me, whether it be a marriage with kids, a life-long relationship or even just living the high life on my own (though i'd still want someone to travel with)... It all depends on what's gonna happen.

Also, America puts too much emphasis on getting a college degree. It's been like this since the 70s and expected, but before, all you needed was a high school diploma and some trade school for a year or two. It makes much more sense and it's a lot cheaper.

Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on February 09, 2014, 08:21:50 PM
But without marriage there's no real commitment?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 09, 2014, 08:32:09 PM
Um, yeah there is. You don't need to be married be committed. In fact, I'd argue non-marital lifelong partners are far more committed to each other because they don't have marriage as a crutch to keep them together. My cousin has been with his girlfriend for, I think, 14 years now and all is going well for them.

Though I think we need to think of a better term for people who are in a lifelong relationship but aren't married that's better than life partner, since that's usually just the PC term used to describe gay relationships/marriages, and girlfriend/boyfriend seems far too juvenile.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on February 09, 2014, 08:54:50 PM
I feel like marriage discourages cheating more than just a relationship. I don't have any statistics on that, but yah.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 09, 2014, 08:58:07 PM
Something like 95% of all married people have had at least one extra-marital affair.

So no.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on February 09, 2014, 09:37:27 PM
I'm seeing anywhere between 20% and 50%, this (http://www.nbcnews.com/id/17951664/ns/health-sexual_health/t/many-cheat-thrill-more-stay-true-love/) being just one of those sources.

Stats plz.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on February 09, 2014, 09:39:37 PM
Marriage gives legal protection, rights and tax breaks. Lol SFK :DDDD

Funny thing was, there was an article about a polygamist on Yahoo's front page today and the most concern was how the tax forms would look like if the single legally married couple of the household could afford all the 17/25 children still living with them.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on February 09, 2014, 09:53:27 PM
Ohh this

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Infidelity#Incidence

The last ones says:

Relationships: 30-40%
Marriages: 18-20%

Of course there are lots of problems with this. First, what counts as infidelity (flirting with someone at the workplace might not be considered by some, doing stuff with a dirty magazine, chatting online, etc) and deciding if there is any kind of factor to correct for when it comes to marriage..xD How awkward. But whether or not marital status has anything to do with changing a person's behavior/feelings towards others that they consider attractive, I'd have to say that it won't.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on February 10, 2014, 05:38:08 AM
Eh, I think I might have been citing a different statistic relating to infidelity. Dunno, considering I did zero research before making that estimate other than the old "I think I read this somewhere".
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on February 10, 2014, 06:35:49 AM
It's okay because I believed you at first XDDDDDDDD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on February 10, 2014, 09:12:27 AM
*A wild etf appears*

Jumping on the marriage topic, I want to be married one day.

If we're going to be together forever, or plan to be, whatever. Why not? Legal benefits!

That being said, I'M FUCKING TERRIFIED. Don't tell Dan, k. I want to get married one day, I know it. BUT I'M SO SCARED. I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHY. It's terrifying putting a ring on it and knowing that if I have to I can't get out. Even if I believe completely that we'll always be able to talk about things and such. There's just something scary about it. Idk. I'm all over the place, sorry.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on February 10, 2014, 09:36:55 AM
that if I have to I can't get out.

last I recall ring =/= blood pact unbreakable by space or time ._.;;
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 10, 2014, 01:47:03 PM
*A wild etf appears*

Jumping on the marriage topic, I want to be married one day.

If we're going to be together forever, or plan to be, whatever. Why not? Legal benefits!

That being said, I'M FUCKING TERRIFIED. Don't tell Dan, k. I want to get married one day, I know it. BUT I'M SO SCARED. I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHY. It's terrifying putting a ring on it and knowing that if I have to I can't get out. Even if I believe completely that we'll always be able to talk about things and such. There's just something scary about it. Idk. I'm all over the place, sorry.

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=PrRDrz53Q1E
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Waddle Bro on February 10, 2014, 04:48:49 PM
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=PrRDrz53Q1E
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=33liUdf3xN0

Jayma Mays' voice just crowns it.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on February 10, 2014, 07:15:49 PM
last I recall ring =/= blood pact unbreakable by space or time ._.;;

No, but it makes it a lot harder. DIVORCE TAKES TIME.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on February 10, 2014, 11:19:52 PM
^Civil union. Problem solved.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: blueflower999 on February 10, 2014, 11:25:49 PM
If you have to consider divorce and commitment before marriage then you're probably not marrying the right person.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on February 10, 2014, 11:34:53 PM
Or you're a human being who acknowledges the fact that things can change and not everything can be predicted.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on February 10, 2014, 11:38:30 PM
Or you're a human being
check
who acknowledges the fact that things can change
only if I let them
and not everything can be predicted.
yes they can!

Seriously though he said BEFORE marriage.  You would think (hope?) that when you're marrying someone you won't want to leave them.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 10, 2014, 11:42:26 PM
I think he just worded it strangely. It's something that's impossible not to worry about, not because you don't trust the person but because you can't help feeling scared. It shouldn't prevent you from getting married though.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: blueflower999 on February 10, 2014, 11:44:13 PM
Or you're a human being who acknowledges the fact that things can change and not everything can be predicted.
Life can be unpredictable, but that doesn't mean that you say "Ah screw it, whatever happens happens" when making a commitment like marriage.  :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on February 10, 2014, 11:44:48 PM
Thousands of people do everyday.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 10, 2014, 11:45:43 PM
Doesn't mean they should. Marriage isn't really something to be taken lightly. Though it is becoming more and more that way.

Also we just passed the two year anniversary of this thread this week.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on February 10, 2014, 11:50:23 PM
I never said it was a good thing. The thing is marriage is a risk you're either willing or unwilling to take. Infidelity is only one thing that can go wrong in a relationship, there are still far more variable that will impact a marriage than that.

If the idea of getting married frightens or worries you now, then don't get married now. Don't even plan for it. Don't even fantasize about marrying someone if it concerns you that much. Just be with them and grow with them until you think you can handle it.

Or unless you guys figure out something else that works for you.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on February 10, 2014, 11:51:37 PM
I think you'll be fine if you know when exactly to bail out (meaning you don't stay in an unhappy marriage for a decade) and you didn't throw a huge wedding reception...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on February 10, 2014, 11:55:42 PM
Ruto you don't seem to enjoy the idea of marriage in and of itself, do you?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on February 11, 2014, 12:01:58 AM
Quote
things can change
only if I let them

Scenario: You marry a woman, live happily for a few years, but then, due to circumstances out of your control, she undergoes some traumatic event. Her personality changes, as can be expected, but being a good person, you stay with her so that she can have at least one good thing in her life. Yet, this isn't enough, as she starts lashing out at you at every given opportunity, making it impossible to actually be there for her. You try counseling, you try therapy, she is either unaccepting of or unresponsive to it all. There is no longer any reason for you to be with her, as all of your best efforts have failed to remedy the situation, and so you split apart. Would you say that you let that happen? You assume too much of your own abilities, and not enough of random chance.

Quote
not everything can be predicted
yes they can!

I suppose, if we were given an infinite amount of time, resources, and sensory capability, then yes, everything could be predicted down to the atomic level. However, we do not now, nor will we ever, have these things. There are so many things that can change the course of a relationship that we will never have the ability to fully predict, and that is why it's sensible for ETF to be worried about the implications of such a commitment.

Life can be unpredictable, but that doesn't mean that you say "Ah screw it, whatever happens happens" when making a commitment like marriage.  :P

But...that's my point. I'm saying that by ETF considering divorce and commitment before marriage, this says nothing about the person she'd be marrying. It says that she's being careful and NOT just saying "Ah screw it, whatever happens happens".
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on February 11, 2014, 12:11:33 AM
I was thinking about this over the weekend (don't ask me what started it).

You know how people complain that there's no punishment for cheating? Why not just make it a standard thing that couples can write into their marriage contracts (or make a separate one) that outlines the repercussions for cheating? Obviously you would define what that entails in advance. It's not exactly the most romantic thing, but if I found out my wife was sleeping with another man and we got in a divorce, I would be more than happy to take all of our possessions, or whatever is allocated through the deal.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on February 11, 2014, 12:15:24 AM
I do believe you can already do that in a prenuptial agreement. In fact, that's the whole point of the document.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on February 11, 2014, 12:18:59 AM
I think he just worded it strangely. It's something that's impossible not to worry about, not because you don't trust the person but because you can't help feeling scared. It shouldn't prevent you from getting married though.

I really hope that was a typo.

As has been said, it has nothing to do with the person I'm marrying. I'm just being realistic. I know that even the most perfect relationships can fall apart. That's just life, and it's scary. Shit happens, y'know?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 11, 2014, 12:20:12 AM
I really hope that was a typo.

Haha no, I was talking about Blueflower. No worries Miss Jordan.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on February 11, 2014, 12:23:24 AM
You can either fear life and hide, or embrace it and move forward.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on February 11, 2014, 12:24:04 AM
o ok

I was like 'SLOW OF ALL PEOPLE?!'

You can either fear life and hide, or embrace it and move forward.

Doesn't mean I'm gonna rush into marriage until I'm ready.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on February 11, 2014, 12:27:21 AM
There's no such thing as "I'm Ready".
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 11, 2014, 12:29:56 AM
There's no such thing as "I'm Ready".

but I'm spongebob squarepants
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on February 11, 2014, 12:31:26 AM
you have no idea how bad i was resisting to post something like that
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on February 11, 2014, 12:33:16 AM
There's no such thing as "I'm Ready".

I disagree. Once I feel I'm mature enough I will marry.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 11, 2014, 12:45:34 AM
Snap snap snap
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on February 11, 2014, 03:19:39 AM
@spit

What...whoever said that? If you did something wrong and never get caught, you don't get punished. Not that I'm encouraging anything of the sort lol. It's not just about cheating. And trying to go to counseling first anyway is probably a better idea xD

*Cue the stuff that was in the Simpsons*

(http://matthewpury.files.wordpress.com/2013/12/homer_leering.jpg)

Making an ass of yourself at a party is one example. Here's an the part of the episode I couldn't find a video for:

[At Rev. Lovejoy's marriage encounter retreat]
Ned: Sometimes Maude (God bless her), she underlines passages in my Bible because she can't find hers.
Homer: [mutters] Oh.  Lucky they don't keep guns in the house.
   
(Now it's Homer's turn to list Marge's faults.)
   
Rev.:  Marge is going to tell us about your faults, why don't you tell us about hers?
Homer: Oh, she's perfect.
Rev.:  Come on, Homer, what are her faults?
Homer: Well, sometimes it can be annoying.
   
(Then it's Marge's turn.)
   
Marge: He chews with his mouth open, he gambles, he hangs out at a seedy bar with bums and lowlifes.
Homer: [covers his face] Oh, it's all true!
Rev.:  Homer, don't interrupt.
Homer: Sorry.
Marge: He blows his nose on the towels and puts them back in the middle!
Homer: I only did that a couple of times!

(Hours later)

Marge: [hoarsely] He drinks out of the carton. He never changes the baby. When he goes to sleep, he makes chewing noises. When he wakes up, he makes honking noises. Oh, oh, and he scratches himself with his keys. I guess that's it... Oh, no, wait. He kicks me in his sleep and his toenails are too long, and yellow.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on February 11, 2014, 03:33:26 AM
Oh yah I agree Ruto. I'm just giving a simple example.
If couples can create a harsh incentive to prevent behavior that threatens their marriage, I don't see why more people don't do it.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on February 11, 2014, 03:57:15 AM
"Because I know we'll never cheat on each other, we're in love."

Something along those lines.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on February 11, 2014, 04:21:31 AM
I guess people want to have faith in their partner. I personally think what Spit said is a good idea.
If I'm getting married I think I'm gonna be in a civil union first. If things end up not working divorcing isn't gonna be a pain, and if things work out I'll get married (fo real)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: fingerz on February 12, 2014, 02:23:54 AM
"Because I know we'll never cheat on each other, we're in love."

Something along those lines.
Hahahaha! It's so true! But even I, with my incredibly unrealistic views of love, know that there's always a possibility to be tempted. Works when you're single, doesn't work very well when you're taken... Better yet, restrain from doing it at all. XD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on March 02, 2014, 08:04:49 PM
Dun dun dun I'm back
so there's this prom thing and all my girl friends except one apparently have all been asked and they came to me and told me I should bring the last friend but just "asking" isn't enough apparently.
What sort of tacky stuff are girls into?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Waddle Bro on March 02, 2014, 08:44:51 PM
Guys controlling the dancefloor.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on March 02, 2014, 09:24:37 PM
Dun dun dun I'm back
so there's this prom thing and all my girl friends except one apparently have all been asked and they came to me and told me I should bring the last friend but just "asking" isn't enough apparently.
What sort of tacky stuff are girls into?

I was basically in the same situation and kinda just awkwardly asked so... can't help you there :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on March 03, 2014, 03:04:00 AM
Dun dun dun I'm back
so there's this prom thing and all my girl friends except one apparently have all been asked and they came to me and told me I should bring the last friend but just "asking" isn't enough apparently.
What sort of tacky stuff are girls into?
Depends on the dance. If its actually prom, it'd be better to do something fancy (like decorate her car, give her flowers/candy, etc). If its just a smaller thing like Cotillion or Homecoming you could just ask her. Unless shes really high maintenance she won't mind it as a simple question.

For prom, creativity is best. This one girl in my fourth period class was getting a single anonymous rose every period, then the guy revealed himself at the end of the day. Something cute like that should work

On this subject, I got asked on Friday :D Totally a surprise for everyone, especially since I didn't think anyone would actually ask me. The best part is apparently he turned down some other FAR more attractive (like holy shit more attractive) girl and chose me instead god knows why, i have no find his hidden motive
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on March 03, 2014, 03:21:14 AM
Depends on the dance. If its actually prom, it'd be better to do something fancy (like decorate her car, give her flowers/candy, etc). If its just a smaller thing like Cotillion or Homecoming you could just ask her. Unless shes really high maintenance she won't mind it as a simple question.

For prom, creativity is best. This one girl in my fourth period class was getting a single anonymous rose every period, then the guy revealed himself at the end of the day. Something cute like that should work

On this subject, I got asked on Friday :D Totally a surprise for everyone, especially since I didn't think anyone would actually ask me. The best part is apparently he turned down some other FAR more attractive (like holy shit more attractive) girl and chose me instead god knows why, i have no find his hidden motive
I have no idea what it is xD but it is called a "prom"
they all just swarmed me like girls do and asked me if I was taking her...
One of them got a board with the candy messages on it and one got some roses I think...
I don't just want to do something like that to make it seem dull...
how would you prefer someone to ask you to a dance?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on March 03, 2014, 03:27:36 AM
It doesn't have to be anything too impressive. Food they like is always good. For example, I knew a guy who had Wetzel's Pretzels shape some pretzels to spell out "PROM?".
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on March 03, 2014, 03:38:36 AM
The best part is apparently he turned down some other FAR more attractive (like holy shit more attractive) girl and chose me instead god knows why, i have no find his hidden motive
"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder," as they say.

It doesn't have to be anything too impressive. Food they like is always good. For example, I knew a guy who had Wetzel's Pretzels shape some pretzels to spell out "PROM?".
(http://www.zbrushcentral.com/attachment.php?attachmentid=333064)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on March 03, 2014, 03:47:49 AM
http://pusheen.com/post/42150292045

or bears

(http://i662.photobucket.com/albums/uu347/deku_nut/1517571_10151977645493791_1873735811_n_zpsd3c0ae4c.jpg)

But you might not be bear-level yet.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on March 03, 2014, 04:34:32 AM
Is cake good?  Apparently girls like candy, do they like cakes that say prom in icing?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on March 03, 2014, 04:39:18 AM
welp be careful not to look like you're overdoing it either :P  Might be alrightttt since I know people do elaborate things but just consider that ._.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on March 03, 2014, 04:48:16 AM
4 cupcakes with one letter on each of them.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on March 03, 2014, 05:27:13 AM
Yeah, definitely go for the cupcakes over the cake.

But it sounds like you are just asking her because you're being told to, so like kefka said don't go too overboard. If its just as friends, candy, a teddy bear, or the cupcake thing should be fine
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on March 03, 2014, 05:48:15 AM
You guys are really not good at this "prom" thing, are you? Don't worry Nocturne, I got your back on this. Here's what you do:

First, you'll need red paint and a brush. Now go to her neighborhood and paint a red X on every house in there except hers. Now she and her family may or may not start freaking out because they didn't get an X on their house, so the next step is to kill her household's first-born son. No son? Youngest daughter it is! Is it her? Then just, like, key their car or something. Anyway this'll get them super scared and shit. That's when you show up, barely chested, flexing your manly pectorals in splendiforous brilliance. She'll be all like, "My hero!". But that's when one of your friends shows up, pretending to be the culprit behind all the terrorizing acts of terror. Now you're all like, "I'LL PROTECT YOU!" and you fight him. Now take out your trusty bowie knife and proceed to stab him in the chest, carving the word "PROM?" into the chest cavity of his soon-to-be corpse. Then he dies. Then you guys bone or something.

Prom.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on March 03, 2014, 06:08:13 AM
If you don't get arrested for vandalism first.

But at least you'll still get laid in prison. Or laid on.

Whichever you prefer.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: braixen1264 on March 03, 2014, 06:37:22 AM
...Its 11:35pm and I just asked my crush out via facebook.
Apparently she really liked me. I'm at a loss for words haha.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on March 03, 2014, 07:47:59 AM
...Its 11:35pm and I just asked my crush out via facebook.
Bad. Shame on you.

Apparently she really liked me. I'm at a loss for words haha.
Good. Congratulations!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on March 03, 2014, 02:01:38 PM
Okay I'll do the cupcakes thing then!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Waddle Bro on March 03, 2014, 03:11:25 PM
DANCE NUMBER.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: fingerz on March 03, 2014, 10:48:20 PM
...Its 11:35pm and I just asked my crush out via facebook.
Apparently she really liked me. I'm at a loss for words haha.
Wow, I'm amazed that worked out. I've always been told to NEVER ask someone out via technology. Then again, I can't say that's entirely true. I'm yet to get to the stage of asking anyone out. :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: braixen1264 on March 03, 2014, 10:52:33 PM
Wow, I'm amazed that worked out. I've always been told to NEVER ask someone out via technology. Then again, I can't say that's entirely true. I'm yet to get to the stage of asking anyone out. :P
Idk, but it's just way easier too.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: fingerz on March 03, 2014, 10:54:17 PM
Hahahaha! You don't have to see their face, I suppose. Personally, I think confronting someone in real-life would make it much more satisfying. :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: braixen1264 on March 03, 2014, 10:59:37 PM
Hahahaha! You don't have to see their face, I suppose. Personally, I think confronting someone in real-life would make it much more satisfying. :P
Haha yeah, it's just that it's harder to face possible rejection face-to-face, in my opinion. If they would say yes, I can see your point. :p
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Waddle Bro on March 03, 2014, 11:01:23 PM
Technology is so unromantic.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on March 03, 2014, 11:43:47 PM
Congrats! But trust me, it stops being even remotely acceptable later on XD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: braixen1264 on March 04, 2014, 12:38:01 AM
Lololol
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on March 04, 2014, 03:26:12 AM
Congrats! But trust me, it stops being even remotely acceptable later on XD

Not really xD Maybe when you're older than 30 :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: fingerz on March 06, 2014, 02:03:45 AM
Well it's not like some people can help it, can they? *COUGH* :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on March 06, 2014, 03:08:55 AM
Update: She said yes
of course
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on March 06, 2014, 05:09:56 AM
Congrats. Did you go with the cupcakes?

Also,
Not really xD Maybe when you're older than 30 :P

Ehhhhhh. Idk. It's definitely a lot less acceptable, and if you're to accept the cliche that women like confidence (and that seems to be pretty true for a lot of people), it seems pretty bad for an adult/near adult not to have the balls to ask in person :/ not that I'm saying that asking somebody out is one-sided as far as gender goes, but still. I've actually gotten asked out through friends before, and it definitely had some part in my saying no (another part was that I literally talked to the girl for 5 minutes, so it was a little weird for her to be so forward yet not want to do it in person). Just in general, in person > not in person. It may be less comfortable at the time, but it's much better in the long run.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Pit0010 on March 06, 2014, 08:55:14 AM
Wow, I'm amazed that worked out. I've always been told to NEVER ask someone out via technology. Then again, I can't say that's entirely true. I'm yet to get to the stage of asking anyone out. :P


Well it's not like some people can help it, can they? *COUGH* :P


....(death stare)....
 >:(  sus~
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on March 06, 2014, 10:36:11 PM
It's easier for me to close the chat program than to run away in real life.

I remember back when I was a kid when this guy tried to ask this girl out, and the whole class was staring at the two when he was asking. The girl turned pink and I think with that kind of pressure, you don't actually do what you would want to do?

(It was also creepy because they were both 11. Ick...)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on March 06, 2014, 11:51:27 PM
cooties too stronk
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on March 07, 2014, 01:01:00 AM
It's easier for me to close the chat program than to run away in real life.

I remember back when I was a kid when this guy tried to ask this girl out, and the whole class was staring at the two when he was asking. The girl turned pink and I think with that kind of pressure, you don't actually do what you would want to do?

(It was also creepy because they were both 11. Ick...)

I mean, first of all there's a difference between doing it in person and doing it in public XD

Second, I'm not sure if you're talking about the person asking or being asked running away, haha. Either way though, for the person asking, it's better not to run away/close out of that sort of thing if you want to stay friends after that, because you're at least made to discuss it rather than pretending that it didn't happen, which wouldn't really solve anything. Unresolved tensions like that are awful, in my experience.
For the person being asked, running away/closing out is kind of just rude, really :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on March 07, 2014, 03:26:02 AM
I ran away from a girl who asked me out xD. I was in 6th grade and thought she was really weird and people had been telling me for days that she was gonna ask me... guess the anticipation got the best of me.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on March 07, 2014, 03:43:28 AM
Being asked, I guess? There was this guy that was being all creepy to me online some years back (Concerto can tell you this too). In real life, he really could have done more than just talk, you know. I did tell him I wasn't interested first, of course.

cooties too stronk
eww cooties *swats at air*
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on March 07, 2014, 05:58:39 AM
Being asked, I guess? There was this guy that was being all creepy to me online some years back (Concerto can tell you this too). In real life, he really could have done more than just talk, you know. I did tell him I wasn't interested first, of course.

Is this...that guy?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on March 07, 2014, 07:18:48 AM
Is this...that guy?

That guy from my old college that would randomly find me sometimes on my way to class (so I'm in a hurry and not have time for chatting much), that was messaging me at 1 am asking me to drink with him, or to come over to his room and study (lounge is better, thanks), and then pretty much got more disturbing after that.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: DrP on March 07, 2014, 07:39:14 AM
^le french guy???

But I have done lots of thinking recently about my current relationship status.

Right now, I am perfectly fine being single (I'm still getting my groove at work, completely broke for the first year I'm living here and the fact I am enjoying my alone time), but there always comes a point where I feel like I would be so much happier in a relationship.

I mean, I keep thinking that I want to share my life with some girl that I adore very much, when we can go hiking and wine tasting on the weekends and enjoy eating awesome food at really awesome restaurants and can travel around the world together and enjoy each others' company.

I have all these feelings pent up inside with almost no one on which to project them... and not to mention all my friends are away at school or a different part of the world. Needless to say, I feel someone is absent and I need more.

The best (or worst) part of all of this is that I am horrible with relationships, since I only had 1 relationship in high school that was a "kind of" relationship (we never said that we were or weren't in one), but it was evidenced in the fact that I had a $600 texting bill (also evidences the fact I'm old when my old cellphone plan allotted 300 texts... and that was ALOT).

I don't know what to think about all this and I am realizing this is going to be hard for me. I have never been really close with anyone (not even my family).

Hell, if I can't find a girl with who I can share my life, I can make some guy friends and live with them and travel around with them, too.

idk what to think now. Ugh.

/rant
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: shadowkirby on March 07, 2014, 06:31:20 PM
I'm sorta in the same boat as you, DrP.
I've had only one super-serious relationship, and looking back on it, it really was NOT worth it.

And I'm wondering if relationships are (for me at least) even worth the time.

What I want to do is just have a close group of friends who I go on adventures with.

Kman may be my best friend, but he's always really busy, and he puts work before anything else (Which is good, but frustrating.)

I was recently in my school's production of guys and dolls, though, and everyone who was in that (or at least most of us) are hanging out outside of school. We've formed a drama club, and we're going to see a movie on Saturday.

But with all that being said, I really don't like being alone.

And next year, I'm going to be the most alone I've ever been. The majority of my IRL friends are graduating and going on to college, while I'm stuck in another year of high school due to screwing around too much my freshman year.

This means I'll be seeing Kman even less, if at all.

And I don't know if I can do that.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: DrP on March 08, 2014, 04:41:30 AM
Yeah, I hear you.

I have to put work ahead of everything right now, which is good because I can't spend extra money on going out with anyone right now or even hanging out with friends for an extended period of time.

I would've liked to stay in college for another year to be surrounded by friends, but that means LITTLE to NO income and remaining stagnant for a year essentially.

Now that I am working hella long hours, I have some money to pay bills, but I have nothing to do otherwise.

At least you'll head to college in a year.. All it takes is a year and you can move on!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on March 08, 2014, 05:26:22 AM
Nope, not the French guy XD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: fingerz on March 09, 2014, 10:22:45 PM
Yeah, bad experiences don't help... After engaging in a relationship with someone I didn't really like in that way for a few months, it scarred me for life. I get awkward if I hug females now and I feel sick if I start to think of anyone in a way more than friends. XDD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on March 10, 2014, 04:53:43 PM
There is this girl I've been madly in love with for like ages, and that I think about absolutely every day. But when I met her today, for the first time in about two weeks, I realized that she had changed. When I then talked to her I suddenly realized that I am not in love with her anymore.
I don't know if it's just temporarily, but I really can't say I'm in love with her anymore.
Drastically loosing the feelings I had for someone is one of the wierdest things I've ever experienced. A lot of crazy feelings have now just started popping up, like some sorta relief, and a slight depressesion. The state of my mind is so weird I don't think I can stand up for the rest of the day. I'll just go to bed, I think.
Sorry, I just really needed to vent this out to get my mind straight.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on March 10, 2014, 06:44:01 PM
Love is not a permanent state of emotion, it tends to come and go in cycles whenever you fall for someone and as such it takes a bit of work to maintain that state of bliss. That said, it is entirely possible that you fell out of love for her and that's completely natural. Once you leave that state of being, you tend to notice the person far differently than before, and odds are that she didn't change that much, but your perception of her did.

Don't worry about it or freak out because of this. It's completely natural and part of being human. Just take a moment to sort out these thoughts and feelings and see if she really changed or you are just seeing her in a more objective light.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on March 10, 2014, 07:41:37 PM
Relationships are weird
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jompa on March 10, 2014, 09:52:56 PM
Love is not a permanent state of emotion, it tends to come and go in cycles whenever you fall for someone and as such it takes a bit of work to maintain that state of bliss. That said, it is entirely possible that you fell out of love for her and that's completely natural. Once you leave that state of being, you tend to notice the person far differently than before, and odds are that she didn't change that much, but your perception of her did.

Don't worry about it or freak out because of this. It's completely natural and part of being human. Just take a moment to sort out these thoughts and feelings and see if she really changed or you are just seeing her in a more objective light.
thanks for writing that. After drowning my thoughts in hours of aggressive sax-jamming I think I've concluded that I've just plainly fallen out of love with her, for some reason or another. I'm over that little depression, but now it just feels so weird; I can't remember the last time I didn't have someone I was in love with.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on March 11, 2014, 12:41:40 AM
After drowning my thoughts in hours of aggressive sex-jamming.

Definitely what I read.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on March 11, 2014, 01:02:17 AM
^Same here
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on March 11, 2014, 06:44:22 AM
I can think of at least one person that I like more and more every time I talk to them xD I don't ever see a possibility of falling out of love completely.

Heyyy I read sax the first time until you guys posted that. Now I got it confused with what you guys said D:
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on March 11, 2014, 06:42:25 PM
Yeah, if you really get hit hard by da lovins, its difficult to shake even with the passage of time. This I know far too well. And it sucks, big time.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on March 11, 2014, 07:42:30 PM
SFK keeps getting suckerpunched by life
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nakah on March 11, 2014, 09:57:24 PM
thanks for writing that. After drowning my thoughts in hours of aggressive sax-jamming I think I've concluded that I've just plainly fallen out of love with her, for some reason or another. I'm over that little depression, but now it just feels so weird; I can't remember the last time I didn't have someone I was in love with.

Adding to what Maestro said: In my experience, as you get older, and you experience other personalities on a larger scale; when looking back at that one person you sort of realize that there are these underlying qualities about their personality that you realize weren't all that attractive to begin with. You may not even be fully aware of why, but you know you don't feel that near-obsessive draw towards that person. That's definitely a relief in my book. The only thing you have to forgive yourself for is the time you can't get back investing into that someone. Who really cares though since it's all a learning experience in the end.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on March 11, 2014, 10:16:07 PM
Indeed. Also hello Nakah, it's been a while
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on March 11, 2014, 11:53:39 PM
Apparently I'm absolutely terrible at talking to someone who I like/likes me...today was pretty embarrassing
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on March 11, 2014, 11:57:02 PM
Oh god I know that feel. There's this really really cute guy I like/liked/idk what the heck it is anymore and whenever I ran into him in the laundry room or at dinner or something he would say hi and I'd just sort of freeze and stammer something awkward
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on March 12, 2014, 12:33:16 AM
But it wasn't even when I was talking to him, but afterwards I started seriously blushing and shaking im such a fucking wimp
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on March 12, 2014, 02:26:37 AM
Adding to what Maestro said: In my experience, as you get older, and you experience other personalities on a larger scale; when looking back at that one person you sort of realize that there are these underlying qualities about their personality that you realize weren't all that attractive to begin with. You may not even be fully aware of why, but you know you don't feel that near-obsessive draw towards that person. That's definitely a relief in my book. The only thing you have to forgive yourself for is the time you can't get back investing into that someone. Who really cares though since it's all a learning experience in the end.

True, I've pretty much ended up losing all attraction towards all of my exes, regardless of who ended the relationship. Doesn't stop me from my current hopeless romantic obsession, though :/

But it wasn't even when I was talking to him, but afterwards I started seriously blushing and shaking im such a fucking wimp

Me at the end of a romantic snowman-building date with this girl I'd been talking to over winter break: invite her into my room to hang out for a bit longer, she has to go to work right after so she can't sit or take off her jacket or anything, so we're both just standing awkwardly, making light conversation that we both know can't continue for over like five minutes, she has to leave and I'm just like, caught in the limbo of "to hug or not to hug", end up hugging but it's after an awkward pause, she's leaving through the hallway and I just walk out of sight and start silently cussing myself out. And that's set the tone for the rest of our interaction to date.

So, yeah, I know how you feel.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on March 12, 2014, 02:53:35 AM
I keep becoming really good friends with people and then suddenly realizing I hate everything about them.

This is really annoying.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on March 12, 2014, 04:06:07 AM
Me at the end of a romantic snowman-building date with this girl I'd been talking to over winter break: invite her into my room to hang out for a bit longer, she has to go to work right after so she can't sit or take off her jacket or anything, so we're both just standing awkwardly, making light conversation that we both know can't continue for over like five minutes, she has to leave and I'm just like, caught in the limbo of "to hug or not to hug", end up hugging but it's after an awkward pause, she's leaving through the hallway and I just walk out of sight and start silently cussing myself out. And that's set the tone for the rest of our interaction to date.

Awkward xD might have been better not to have made her come out of her way if she couldn't stay for more than a few minutes. There isn't really a good outcome to that. She could end up being late for work and then quietly blame you for it.

I keep becoming really good friends with people and then suddenly realizing I hate everything about them.

This is really annoying.

Are you looking on purpose or...? I think there's a term for that, but I don't recall it.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on March 12, 2014, 05:17:44 AM
Ugh I know, but she didn't even tell me until we got to my room XD there wasn't too much I could do, except not be an awkward fuck about it, but that wasn't too successful...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on March 12, 2014, 05:40:50 AM
Haha well she didn't speak up, so she's probably awkward about stuff too! xD I guess the next time that happens, tell her to just go to work so she won't get in trouble :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on March 12, 2014, 06:22:20 AM
I keep becoming really good friends with people and then suddenly realizing I hate everything about them.

This is really annoying.
Slow, you just need to look at positives in people focereal. It doesn't mean overlooking negative aspects, since flaws make us human. But don't let negative things affect why people are your friends, since they must've done something right to become your friend in the first place.

SFK keeps getting suckerpunched by life
If my experience has taught me anything, its that all girls worth investing time in are either engaged, secretly awful, or lesbians. Emphasis on that last one cuz I am magnetically pulled to girls with short hair, so you can imagine it tends to create problems for me.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: DrP on March 12, 2014, 08:14:42 AM
If my experience has taught me anything, its that all girls worth investing time in are either engaged, secretly awful, or lesbians. Emphasis on that last one cuz I am magnetically pulled to girls with short hair, so you can imagine it tends to create problems for me.
I blame Florida for all that. Florida is like 90% weirdos, so yeah..

We should have gone to bars when you were in San Diego (except we both weren't 21 then...)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on March 12, 2014, 08:40:08 AM
Yeah, Florida has some strange folks. And I'm usually hanging around the strangest of the strange. And you know if someone's weird by my standards, they're fuckin' weird.(Sunday I had the pleasure of almost witnessing two large, bisexual, alcoholic goth females decorated in excessive amounts of tattoos pull out their breast in a bar. I managed to avert my eyes in time. One was possibly transgender, the other often tries to perform sexual acts on drunken men in the bar, with moderate success.)

I go to that bar every Sunday just to hang out with a borderline alcoholic dude and a girl I like who's in a committed relationship with a guy she loves.

Luckily I'll be out of this state by this time next year with an AA and no direction.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on March 12, 2014, 10:15:41 AM
Haha well she didn't speak up, so she's probably awkward about stuff too! xD I guess the next time that happens, tell her to just go to work so she won't get in trouble :P

Ugh, that was a while ago, from the way things are going I don't think things are gonna end well with her XD

Good news though, this RIDICULOUSLY CUTE GIRL (LIKE, QUITE POSSIBLY THE CUTEST GIRL I'VE EVER MET) was flirting with me in the elevator today. When we were walking into the building we did the whole "one person holds the first door, the next goes in and opens the next door for them" thing; it was pretty adorable, if I do say so myself. And then we talked some more in the elevator. Bad news is, I got out of the elevator without knowing her name, and I don't even know what floor she lives on because she was going to the penthouse (we have a study lounge there).

Welp, guess I'll have to go to the study lounge more often. What a great excuse to be productive.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on March 12, 2014, 10:25:25 AM
Warning: that can just as well mean 0 romantic interest, as those are fairly standard just friendly interactions :P

Not that it feels or is bad to have that sort of companionship!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on March 12, 2014, 10:28:55 AM
Haha no yeah, I know that XD usually I'm really bad at reading people, so I don't make those kinds of assumptions, but from our conversation in the elevator, she was pretty blatantly flirting. She laughed a lot, and was blushing at one point, and just...general cues
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on March 12, 2014, 02:53:03 PM
Haha no yeah, I know that XD usually I'm really bad at reading people, so I don't make those kinds of assumptions, but from our conversation in the elevator, she was pretty blatantly flirting. She laughed a lot, and was blushing at one point, and just...general cues

Yeah, that's def flirting :) Some people just aren't familiar enough with it to recognize it haha. though tbh just forget about girls and start playing for the other team because hotdamn
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on March 12, 2014, 11:37:30 PM
though tbh just forget about girls and start playing for the other team because hotdamn
This

I need straight guys but they confuse me because why
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on March 12, 2014, 11:49:42 PM
Straight guys are so dumb. I can't believe how obsessed they are with sex

Edit: Just in case this sounded offensive, what I mean by this is that so many guys are motivated purely by sex and they just give no thought about anything else. I hate that
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on March 12, 2014, 11:53:53 PM
Yeah, Florida has some strange folks.

http://www.reddit.com/r/FloridaMan

When we were walking into the building we did the whole "one person holds the first door, the next goes in and opens the next door for them" thing; it was pretty adorable, if I do say so myself. And then we talked some more in the elevator.

I used to do that with my old professor. And no xD

I don't even know what floor she lives on because she was going to the penthouse (we have a study lounge there).

Welp, guess I'll have to go to the study lounge more often. What a great excuse to be productive.

(http://i662.photobucket.com/albums/uu347/deku_nut/47400d04-24b1-4684-9754-c8c0170601dd_zps9be3a6ca.png)

Just sayin'
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Waddle Bro on March 13, 2014, 01:56:51 AM
Straight guys are so dumb. I can't believe how obsessed they are with sex
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on March 13, 2014, 02:19:43 AM
Straight guys are so dumb. I can't believe how obsessed they are with sex

Edit: Just in case this sounded offensive, what I mean by this is that so many guys are motivated purely by sex and they just give no thought about anything else. I hate that
That sounds like a bias that isn't actually based on any fact or observation at all.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on March 13, 2014, 02:48:40 AM
That sounds like a bias that isn't actually based on any fact or observation at all.
I think "stereotype" would be a better word.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on March 13, 2014, 03:21:35 AM
That sounds like a bias that isn't actually based on any fact or observation at all.
I think "stereotype" would be a better word.

...It's still true.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: fingerz on March 13, 2014, 04:23:56 AM
Straight guys are so dumb. I can't believe how obsessed they are with sex
WHOA! ALRIGHT THEN! You're not a straight guy either? Not motivated by sex, Slow? :P

No, I kid. It's concerning how many people think about that, though, particularly men. It's not just men, though... XD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on March 13, 2014, 05:50:59 AM
When we were walking into the building we did the whole "one person holds the first door, the next goes in and opens the next door for them" thing; it was pretty adorable, if I do say so myself.

I used to do that with my old professor. And no xD

SHE BLUSHED AND GIGGLED DAMNIT, IT'S DIFFERENT
Also, the last girl I did this with ended up essentially asking me out after having talked for all of five minutes, so idk, maybe your professor was actually into you XD

penthouse
(http://i662.photobucket.com/albums/uu347/deku_nut/47400d04-24b1-4684-9754-c8c0170601dd_zps9be3a6ca.png)

Just sayin'

Cost of attendance is over $60,000 a year, I'd say having a penthouse study lounge in a dorm is pretty reasonable XD (not that I actually pay that much, but yeah)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on March 13, 2014, 05:55:23 AM
That sounds like a bias that isn't actually based on any fact or observation at all.
I guess it fits well with the genero frat/douchey guy stereotype, and a lot of this forum seems to have had the misfortune of only having such despicable company.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on March 13, 2014, 06:19:46 AM
so idk, maybe your professor was actually into you XD

Oh no you didn't! :o 1) He's married 2) I deserved that A!!!

Friend of a friend pays $5000 rent/month for a place with some penthouses and elevators. But I guess your school owns the building and it's not all coming out of your pocket. I don't care so much where I live as long as it's an education. IIRC Marie Curie lived in a tiny apartment with no heat in her college days, so she slept with all her room's furniture piled on top of her for warmth. It certaintly motivated her to try even harder and built character #dailystruggle
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Clanker37 on March 13, 2014, 10:10:51 AM
Straight guys are so dumb. I can't believe how obsessed they are with sex

Edit: Just in case this sounded offensive, what I mean by this is that so many guys are motivated purely by sex and they just give no thought about anything else. I hate that
I thought it was an evolutionary thing. Like male's evolutionary role is to shag anything that moves, so they do.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on March 13, 2014, 02:15:39 PM
WHOA! ALRIGHT THEN! You're not a straight guy either? Not motivated by sex, Slow? :P

No, I kid. It's concerning how many people think about that, though, particularly men. It's not just men, though... XD

No I'm not quite straight, and I'm not motivated by sex either xD I care way more about intellectual pursuits than sex

And yeah girls are horny af too but they'll at least talk to people they aren't interested in having sex with, whereas a lot of guys won't
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on March 13, 2014, 03:25:50 PM
I talk to you all and I do have a vested interest in having sex with, like, at least 6 of you.

You know who you are...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on March 13, 2014, 03:43:05 PM
No I'm not quite straight, and I'm not motivated by sex either xD I care way more about intellectual pursuits than sex

And yeah girls are horny af too but they'll at least talk to people they aren't interested in having sex with, whereas a lot of guys won't
I just talk to my friends
regardless of gender
of course I talk about different stuff with girls
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on March 13, 2014, 04:02:34 PM
I talk to you all and I do have a vested interest in having sex with, like, at least 6 of you.

You know who you are...

shit
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: K-NiGhT on March 13, 2014, 05:01:33 PM
I talk to you all and I do have a vested interest in having sex with, like, at least 6 of you.

You know who you are...
my room. 10 PM sharp.

be there.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on March 13, 2014, 07:40:53 PM
shag

(http://www.ollieanddarsh.co.uk/blog/wp-content/uploads/2013/09/austin-powers-3.jpg)

Sorry, it's just that when I realize that people in other countries actually use words I only know from Austin Powers, I get kind of excited...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on March 13, 2014, 09:32:07 PM
shit
my room. 10 PM sharp.

be there.
Well now we know 3 of the 6
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Yugi on March 13, 2014, 09:42:34 PM
Well now we know 3 of the 6
care to make it a foursome
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on March 14, 2014, 01:20:53 AM
(http://www.ollieanddarsh.co.uk/blog/wp-content/uploads/2013/09/austin-powers-3.jpg)

Sorry, it's just that when I realize that people in other countries actually use words I only know from Austin Powers, I get kind of excited...
:D <3
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on March 14, 2014, 05:33:53 AM
my room. 10 PM sharp.

be there.
Haha, nonono. You will be ready for the sex when I say so. When I say "Drop 'em", you should already be naked.

care to make it a foursome
Now, now, folks. There's plenty of Maestro to go around.

If you know what I mean...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Clanker37 on March 14, 2014, 09:43:38 AM
There's plenty of Maestro to go around.

If you know what I mean...
Oh yes. How we know...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on March 15, 2014, 02:55:13 AM
Heracles did 50 in one night and got everyone pregnant with sons somehow.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heracles#Affairs
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on March 15, 2014, 03:01:22 AM
And people call that impressive?

I call it a warm-up.

Alright, that's enough of that for now.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on March 15, 2014, 03:06:28 AM
To be fair he was drunk wasn't he?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on March 18, 2014, 03:30:41 PM
I'm getting married in a week and a half. Shit is getting real
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Mashi on March 18, 2014, 03:37:23 PM
omggggggggg
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on March 18, 2014, 04:06:38 PM
wa. Forlz?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on March 18, 2014, 04:13:16 PM
Yes forlz
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on March 18, 2014, 04:38:20 PM
Wow, congrats!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on March 18, 2014, 06:26:43 PM
Wow, so sudden!

Congrats :D
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on March 18, 2014, 08:00:02 PM
Wow, so sudden!
much love
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Waddle Bro on March 18, 2014, 08:38:15 PM
I'm getting married in a week and a half. Shit is getting real
</3
dreams crushed
crying
I need rebound
where's slow

That deadline doe. Wish I could be there, would had most definitely come if I had the age and money to travel.

Tell your bf to never let go. Gotta come up with a Pokemon gift.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: TheZeldaPianist275 on March 18, 2014, 08:55:41 PM
Dropping in to congratulate Roz!  :D
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: blueflower999 on March 18, 2014, 10:12:59 PM
Congratz Roz!!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on March 18, 2014, 10:36:03 PM
</3
dreams crushed
crying
I need rebound
where's slow

That deadline doe. Wish I could be there, would had most definitely come if I had the age and money to travel.

Tell your bf to never let go. Gotta come up with a Pokemon gift.

xDDD Hmm, maybe I should send a card too!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on March 18, 2014, 11:04:09 PM
Wow that's great! Good for you two. Where is it gonna be held?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on March 18, 2014, 11:10:55 PM
Thanks everyone! We're going for a civil union frst because we're flat broke and a wedding is kind of a hassle to plan in the middle of the school year. We're planning on getting married in the near future though. I should totes invite my NSM crew (which means pretty much everyone) to the wedding hehe :D
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on March 18, 2014, 11:23:25 PM
I expect my invitation to be encrusted with sapphires and the dried tears of baby miniature horses.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on March 18, 2014, 11:30:12 PM
It should be doable.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on March 21, 2014, 06:00:09 AM
Thanks everyone! We're going for a civil union frst because we're flat broke and a wedding is kind of a hassle to plan in the middle of the school year. We're planning on getting married in the near future though. I should totes invite my NSM crew (which means pretty much everyone) to the wedding hehe :D

OH MY GOD. CONGRATS WIFEY. <3
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: DrP on March 21, 2014, 06:27:06 AM
Yay Roz!!! Congrats!

(now if only you guys were getting married in July because I'll be in Canada then! -- but that doesn't matter)

i really want to send you a card or something

(or like a plusle & minun or some other male/female pokemon duo dressed up in a wedding gown and tux)

Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on March 21, 2014, 05:22:44 PM
Thanks guys <3
Well if you really wanna send a card or something know that I moved so my address changed =P
My brother owns our previous house so it doesn't really matter if you send it to my old address I guess
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on March 25, 2014, 03:31:45 AM
Ah shit kinda late but congrats roz!!!!!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on March 25, 2014, 11:56:01 AM
wups forgot to post now I can be even later than you /o\

congrats O:
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Pit0010 on March 26, 2014, 07:55:57 AM
what that is such awesome news congrats bro! :D
gonna be an awesome time (y)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on April 08, 2014, 09:13:10 PM
So I'd figured out how I was gonna ask out the girl of my dreams. Our friendship has included building snowmen on a whim, watching pixar movies, going to concerts, and talking about/watching Pokemon, and she is literally the cutest girl I've ever met. I was going to ask her to dinner in a way it's obviously a date (apparently that's not already apparent by just asking a girl to dinner, this college dating scene is confusing), then just be honest with her about how I feel at the end of the date. Credible sources have reassured me this was good, and call me hopeful, but I think she'd have said yes. All of this was set to go down today and tomorrow (I'm pretty familiar with her schedule, wednesday nights are basically the only time she has to do something like that), and then last night I got the GODDAMN STOMACH FLU.

Forget the fact that, due to conference scheduling issues, I'm going to have to beg my professor for a week-long extension on this paper. I'm way more irritated about this.

she's so fucking cute you guys
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on April 08, 2014, 10:04:38 PM
Then ask her out later.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on April 08, 2014, 10:12:08 PM
Haha yeah, it's more just the fact that I have to postpone something I was really excited about that bothers me.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on April 08, 2014, 11:03:23 PM
Ugh lucky sonofabitch. You, ETF, and Roz can all go punch each other with toasters or something while congratulating each other on your success in the game of love.

Meanwhile, SFK is just trying to find opportunities to strike up conversation with a cute YMCA employee. And NSM as a whole remains relatively celibate.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on April 08, 2014, 11:35:36 PM
go punch each other with toasters or something

New favorite NSM quote.

And I mean, we'll see how lucky I really am when I get better and actually ask her, haha.

...as for pickup advice for that cute YMCA girl, perhaps somebody with dating experience outside of the stereotypical "mutual friends already let both parties know that they're into one another" high school experience could help you with that, because I got nothin.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on April 09, 2014, 12:09:11 AM
Lol. As if I wanted a romantic relationship
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on April 09, 2014, 12:45:18 AM
Lol. As if I wanted a romantic relationship
http://www.sadtrombone.com/?play=true
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on April 09, 2014, 02:56:23 AM
Out of curiosity, when is the right time to ask someone if they're single?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on April 09, 2014, 02:58:11 AM
Out of curiosity, when is the right time to ask someone if they're single?
That's a pickup line
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: braixen1264 on April 09, 2014, 02:59:01 AM
Out of curiosity, when is the right time to ask someone if they're single?
Don't. Just ask them out and tell them that if they're already taken, they'd better break up.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on April 09, 2014, 03:36:45 AM
Out of curiosity, when is the right time to ask someone if they're single?

Who asks nowadays, this is what Facebook stalking is for ;)

Don't. Just ask them out and tell them that if they're already taken, they'd better break up.

Zoroark: tapping ass and forgetting names since 2001.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on April 09, 2014, 03:56:15 AM
I haven't thought of asking that question to be a necessity, since I've always gotten to know someone to a point where I would know that fact before I would seriously consider anything else.  I suppose there are those guys that just try to pick up girls wherever, but given that that's their line of thinking it probably doesn't matter at all when/if they ask ._.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on April 09, 2014, 03:59:25 AM
Ohh...I only reluctantly add people on Facebook. Some people really like to hide those facts xD I guess that's not such a good thing to do now ._.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on April 09, 2014, 04:28:51 AM
I think if you just ask someone out or show general interest, they'll usually tell you they're taken unless they're not happy with their relationship or they're a not-nice person.

I dunno, I just watched Office Space again, and I'm feeling really 'don't give a fuck' now. I just might ask cute YMCA girl if she wants to have lunch next time I see her, cuz why not? Like, I just realized I'm at that age where going for a cup of coffee or lunch are now stuff I can do.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on April 09, 2014, 04:49:49 AM
She's gonna say yes 'cause you're awsmsauce. Also lunch and coffee are fun. Doing stuff with someone and not for someone helps with the friendzone problem apparently.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on April 09, 2014, 06:18:25 AM
Yeah, what's the worst that can happen? xD There aren't that many sane people in Florida from what I've heard :P She's missing out!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: DrP on April 09, 2014, 06:36:12 AM
It's really nice when people say yes to coffee or lunch because everyone is busy and I have no social life outside of work at the moment... It'll change in like 8 months, but until then... nothing
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on April 11, 2014, 01:43:12 AM
So, cute ymca girl has a boyfriend. Wonderful...

back to the drawing board...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: braixen1264 on April 11, 2014, 02:02:49 AM
So, cute ymca girl has a boyfriend. Wonderful...

back to the drawing board...
...tell them that if they're already taken, they'd better break up.

Hint hint
Never mind, that's a bad idea. xD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Zunawe on April 16, 2014, 04:21:48 AM
I had to give up a friend last Wednesday because she didn't want to jeopardize her relationship, and I've been feeling terrible since then.

It's kinda a long story. We met in the pit orchestra for Sweeney Todd; after that ended, I got her phone number. She told me she wanted to be careful about texting guys because her boyfriend got jealous, so I was careful about letting her start the conversations. That basically got thrown out the window, and I gave up trying to help. Over spring break we both sent each other in excess of 150 messages a day. Her boyfriend got upset when she told him, as you could imagine, so we decided not to talk over the phone.

After a few days, she asked me for math tutoring, so I agreed, and helped her for a few days. One morning, her boyfriend apparently came looking for her, saw her talking to me, and got really mad about it. I don't know what he said to her or what she said to him, but she ended up telling me that I couldn't be in her life at all anymore, and I'm just really depressed.

Yes, I liked her. Yes, I told her. I also told her that I didn't expect anything at all from her. She also flat out said that she would have gone out with me if she didn't have a boyfriend, and was pretty blatant in general about liking me back as much as she would let herself.

So there's my "My Life Sucks" story... I feel stuck... Maybe saying something will help.
Nope, can't do it. Every single thing I do, every other thing somebody else says, and I could just snap right there. I'm stuck between what I want for myself and what I want for her, and I can't think anymore. She's not going to break up with her boyfriend. But I'm terrified to completely accept the not only possible, but probable outcome that I never talk to her again. And I see her every other day. I feel like exploding.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on April 18, 2014, 09:09:59 PM
Ok, so uh, wow. Everything changed for the better last night.

So, things with that girl I talked about last have still been pretty unclear, but it seems to me that signs point to "trying to let me down easy". I actually no longer care about that though, because...

One night, my friends and I were slightly inebriated, and they convinced me to get a Tinder profile. So I'm like, sure, why not. And even though I got a decent amount of matches, I didn't really do anything on it other than mess around for a while. I wasn't taking it seriously, because it usually ends up being more of a casual hookup app, and I don't really want that; if I did, I've had plenty enough opportunities this semester, anyways...

But then last night I matched with this absurdly cute girl. Her main picture is of her on the iron throne from GoT, and two more are of her in a tardis dress. Off to a great start. I start talking to her, say the amount of TV references in her pictures is impressive, she says thanks, the amount of attractive pictures in yours is impressive, too.
Oh shit, it's on. It is so on.

So we hit it off, talked until like 4 am, and this whole situation just started seeming more and more awesome:
1. She has an awesome sense of humor.
2. She literally brought up Twitch Plays Pokemon without me saying anything to warrant it.
3. HOLY SHIT WAIT SHE LIVES IN MY BUILDING

That last one kind of blew my mind. Like, I've lived in the same dorm as this awesome person for over 6 months, and I haven't even known. And to think I was so worried about things with this other girl who I don't have nearly as much chemistry with. Tinder, I'm sorry I ever doubted you.

Anyways, texting her, it already feels infinitely more like a relationship than with anyone else I've met at college, and we haven't even met up in real life yet (she's out of town for the weekend, urghhh). Once she's back and we're both free, though...goddamn, I am excited.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on April 18, 2014, 09:16:43 PM
Ok, so uh, wow. Everything changed for the better last night.

So, things with that girl I talked about last have still been pretty unclear, but it seems to me that signs point to "trying to let me down easy". I actually no longer care about that though, because...

One night, my friends and I were slightly inebriated, and they convinced me to get a Tinder profile. So I'm like, sure, why not. And even though I got a decent amount of matches, I didn't really do anything on it other than mess around for a while. I wasn't taking it seriously, because it usually ends up being more of a casual hookup app, and I don't really want that; if I did, I've had plenty enough opportunities this semester, anyways...

But then last night I matched with this absurdly cute girl. Her main picture is of her on the iron throne from GoT, and two more are of her in a tardis dress. Off to a great start. I start talking to her, say the amount of TV references in her pictures is impressive, she says thanks, the amount of attractive pictures in yours is impressive, too.
Oh shit, it's on. It is so on.

So we hit it off, talked until like 4 am, and this whole situation just started seeming more and more awesome:
1. She has an awesome sense of humor.
2. She literally brought up Twitch Plays Pokemon without me saying anything to warrant it.
3. HOLY SHIT WAIT SHE LIVES IN MY BUILDING

That last one kind of blew my mind. Like, I've lived in the same dorm as this awesome person for over 6 months, and I haven't even known. And to think I was so worried about things with this other girl who I don't have nearly as much chemistry with. Tinder, I'm sorry I ever doubted you.

Anyways, texting her, it already feels infinitely more like a relationship than with anyone else I've met at college, and we haven't even met up in real life yet (she's out of town for the weekend, urghhh). Once she's back and we're both free, though...goddamn, I am excited.
That sounds...
either creepy or extremely fortunate.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on April 18, 2014, 09:18:42 PM
That sounds...
either creepy or extremely fortunate.

how would you even come to that conclusion, it's the second one
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Psychic_Ness on April 18, 2014, 11:13:59 PM
Guys and Girls:

If you like someone I strongly suggest you be friends with them first for like a year and hold off any initial emotions you may have. Get to REALLYYYY know them or else you're going to be in for a massive, massive, massive, headache. At first, that feeling of having a crush on someone tends to overrule logical decision making. The infatuation period should go away after a while (varies by person). That's when you can really make decisions regarding how much you like the other. During the infatuation period everything is going to amazing. Any small detail any little thing you have in common will be blown out of proportion in your head. Any negative traits will be largely ignored.

Guys approaching girls:

Don't start by asking to lunch or coffee. That stuff only works in movies or if the girl is actively looking for someone at the moment, which is rare. Most girls are either taken or not looking. What are the chances that the girl you end up with in the future is currently single? Not high. Make friends with everyone single or not and have a good time regardless. If it's "meant to be" then you'll both come to some kind of realization eventually regardless of the initial circumstances upon which you met. Conversely, girls that are currently taken shouldn't close themselves off completely. Obviously this does not apply to relationships that have already been established very strongly. One thing to note however is that length of time is not necessarily a good indicator of relationship strength.

So the lunch or coffee thing not working? No of course the girl will be weirded out. The most important thing is that first conversation. Make it meaningful and really try to find common ground. Something that could become chronic. How to make the first conversation happen? If you periodically talk to each other no problem. If you are admiring her from a distance (why do you like her anyway... but ok let's give the benefit of the doubt I am guilty of this kind of affection as well), create a scenario in which you are forced to interact. Make it clever and subtle.

Girls:

You have it easy gtfo.

Thoughts/discussions?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on April 18, 2014, 11:31:50 PM
Yeah...you don't have much real world experience, do you?

If you like someone I strongly suggest you be friends with them first for like a year
If you want to torture yourself and risk infinite friendzoning, sure.

Don't start by asking to lunch or coffee.
Unless you feel like having a nice afternoon with someone you're attracted to, sure.

Most girls are either taken or not looking.
Completely wrong, but sure.

create a scenario in which you are forced to interact.
Yes, because overthinking things make everything better, so sure.

Girls:

You have it easy gtfo.
Not true, but our society has developed the idea that requires men to initiate interaction and dating shit, while women are supposed to wait because if they took the role of "asking out" it could be seen as too forward or even creepy. But with women becoming more and more independent, these social stigmas are likely to change.

You obviously have yet to be introduced to the concept of "Risk and Reward".
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on April 18, 2014, 11:46:33 PM
Girls:
All guys love food.  Easy bait.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on April 18, 2014, 11:58:18 PM
If you want to torture yourself and risk infinite friendzoning, sure.
I don't think getting to know somebody before you start dating them always means getting "friendzoned." Unless I'm mistaken, the point Psychic_Ness is trying to make is that some people don't like it if you try and rush into a relationship.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on April 19, 2014, 12:05:15 AM
But a year? Come on.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on April 19, 2014, 01:08:09 AM
That was really sexist to say girls have it easy. :P Also the fact that you're telling people to be friends for a year before dating tells me you know nothing about dating lololol

Certainly it's fine in some situations but it is not by any stretch of the imagination necessary or even beneficial all the time
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on April 19, 2014, 01:09:17 AM
I'm gonna have to agree with SFK here. The absurdly long year wait aside, getting to know somebody outside of a relationship is completely different than getting to know them in a relationship. I see some of my closest friends reveal parts of themselves to somebody they're dating that I never even knew existed; not to mention, this has happened with a lot of the girls I've dated (one of which was after being friends for two years, so no, it wasn't a "I just didn't spend a long enough time getting to know her" thing). So many people spend all of their time masking some part of themselves that they don't think other people will like, but once they get intimate with somebody, they feel they can finally be open. And that's when you find out whether it'll really work or not.

I don't think getting to know somebody before you start dating them always means getting "friendzoned." Unless I'm mistaken, the point Psychic_Ness is trying to make is that some people don't like it if you try and rush into a relationship.

Well, it doesn't always mean getting friendzoned, but if there's a spark and you don't take advantage of it, it may die down before you have a chance to get to know somebody in a truly intimate manner. And yeah, some people don't like "rushing" into relationships. But not all.

And to recapitulate SFK's point, holy shit a year is such an absurdly long amount of time.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Yugi on April 19, 2014, 01:14:23 AM
I've known someone for a year but she doesn't remember me for half of that year what do I do?????????
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on April 19, 2014, 01:22:50 AM
Well, it doesn't always mean getting friendzoned, but if there's a spark and you don't take advantage of it, it may die down before you have a chance to get to know somebody in a truly intimate manner.
He said "get to know the person," not "isolate them and ignore anything other than friendship," which in and of itself could be considered "friendzoning." :P That should be fairly obvious- it's not like you ignore all common sense just because you don't leap into a relationship right away. Though, he did say to "hold off any initial emotions you may have," which I agree is quite extreme.

Quote
And to recapitulate SFK's point, holy shit a year is such an absurdly long amount of time.
While this is true, he didn't say that you had to for a year; specifically, he said "for like a year." TECHNICALITIES!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on April 19, 2014, 01:37:07 AM
"isolate them and ignore anything other than friendship"

Wait what is "anything other than friendship", because as far as I can tell that only includes being A: enemies, B: neutral acquaintances, or C: in a relationship, and I'm pretty sure none of those fit into his advice, so no, he totally did say that. Maybe not "isolate them" but I really don't see how I implied that, either...

While this is true, he didn't say that you had to for a year; specifically, he said "for like a year." TECHNICALITIES!

why you gotta be like that, BDS
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on April 19, 2014, 02:18:19 AM
Wait what is "anything other than friendship", because as far as I can tell that only includes being A: enemies, B: neutral acquaintances, or C: in a relationship, and I'm pretty sure none of those fit into his advice, so no, he totally did say that. Maybe not "isolate them" but I really don't see how I implied that, either...
You specifically said "if there's a spark and you don't take advantage of it, it may die down before you have a chance to get to know somebody in a truly intimate manner," which, unless I am mistaken, is completely missing the point of what Psychic_Ness had to say.

Also, by "anything other than friendship," I meant "a spark," which is something you mentioned, and I was responding to.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: braixen1264 on April 19, 2014, 02:30:36 AM
Brainwash your crush into making them think they are madly in love with you. Problem solved.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on April 19, 2014, 02:30:43 AM
completely missing the point

irony at its finest

so, let me clarify my own point.

getting to know somebody outside of a relationship is completely different than getting to know them in a relationship

Still not clear? Lemme rephrase that.

getting to know somebody outside of a relationship is completely different than getting to know them in a relationship truly intimate manner

Now, let me point out every paraphrase of "spark" that psychic_ness encouraged us to ignore.

If you like someone I strongly suggest you be friends with them first for like a year and hold off any initial emotions you may have. Get to REALLYYYY know them or else you're going to be in for a massive, massive, massive, headache. At first, that feeling of having a crush on someone tends to overrule logical decision making. The infatuation period should go away after a while
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on April 19, 2014, 02:35:13 AM
Now, let me point out every paraphrase of "spark" that psychic_ness encouraged us to ignore.
The things is, he's not encouraging you to ignore the "spark" in the same manner you're thinking as it of. To word that more properly, he's thinking of something different than you are, but you're thinking of it in a completely different way and applying that to what he said. Of course, I can't speak for him, but I'm merely drawing conclusions from what he said.

But, may you recall that I also said this?
Though, he did say to "hold off any initial emotions you may have," which I agree is quite extreme.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Yugi on April 19, 2014, 02:58:56 AM
Now you see if you wanna get girls

The king's orders are absolute.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Psychic_Ness on April 19, 2014, 03:14:33 AM
Exactly, BDS.

Initially when we like someone, we see everything they do through rose-tinted glasses. Let that phase die down so that you can make better choices. Before you say and feel things you don't really mean. For me personally, infatuation period lasts around 6 months. The less I interact with that person the longer it takes. You should be able to be friends with someone before dating them. I don't believe in relationships that exist only on the intimate level. There isn't much happiness in those from what I have seen.

Yeah...you don't have much real world experience, do you?
If you want to torture yourself and risk infinite friendzoning, sure.
Unless you feel like having a nice afternoon with someone you're attracted to, sure.
Completely wrong, but sure.
Yes, because overthinking things make everything better, so sure.
Not true, but our society has developed the idea that requires men to initiate interaction and dating shit, while women are supposed to wait because if they took the role of "asking out" it could be seen as too forward or even creepy. But with women becoming more and more independent, these social stigmas are likely to change.

You obviously have yet to be introduced to the concept of "Risk and Reward".

Infinite friendzoning. So if the girl wants to friendzone you, don't waste your time considering her and trying to win her over. State your intentions, make sure she is clear about her decisions, then move on. Do you really want someone that doesn't want you? That should definitely be a factor in your feelings for someone, mutuality. It's very difficult for me to like a girl that has no interest in me and that plays out very well in terms of one-sided affection.

Back to the lunch and coffee thing. Unless you've established a reason for them to go with you I suggest not randomly inviting someone to lunch and coffee. Very rarely will a girl say yes to that offer unless she herself feels like taking a risk. Or unless you manage to ask her to lunch and coffee in the most amazing way that really leaves an impression on her.

You don't have to over-think a scenario that forces you to interact with her. You have to think, yes. If it's too difficult, then you probably don't have enough in common with her to be liking her anyway.

I would like to see the day that girls take initiative in asking guys out when they like them. Rather than just gossiping about the guy until word somehow finally reaches the guy and then the guy makes the move.

Is it society or evolution that has shaped this kind of thinking? It's funny that you bring that up because in nature, the guys tend to the ones courting the girls. I think this is because the females tend to be more selective about their partners because their sexual organs are a limited resource etc. There are theories you can read about. Makes sense.


Edit: So there were more posts while i was typing this. Yes I am saying ignore the spark. Ideally I would say "don't let it take control over your" but let's be realistic. The infatuation takes control over us even if we don't acknowledge it. So I'm saying. Whatever it is, give it time. If after x months/years of getting to know them it's still there, THEN there's something worth pursuing to you.

Yes this sounds like dating but dating is inefficient cuz the moment you are dating someone it's exclusive and you are limiting yourself to one person at a time. We put up subconscious barriers to close off other people from getting close to us cuz we already have a dating partner. "Ok , she is my friend so I shouldn't get too close to her cuz then my girlfriend will get jealous. Yeah I probably shouldn't invite her to see that movie alone cuz I shouldn't cuz I have a girlfriend already. But I do want to spend time alone with her." etc. It complicates scenarios that wouldn't need to be complicated. Get to know many people through friendship. Then choose the one that you feel closest to, to date.

@yugi

Don't worry about it and go for it. There was this one girl who I knew in elementary school from 1st to 5th grade. When middle school started we moved and did not see each other again until she popped up after I added a mutual friend of ours on facebook in freshman year of college. I sent her a message on facebook and she actually did not remember me... But we talked about stuff that happened in class and had a great conversation. We hit it off really well and now we're really great friends.

So for you, whether or not she remembers those first 6 months doesn't really matter.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on April 19, 2014, 04:00:36 AM
Laughing too hard to keep arguing, I give up
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on April 19, 2014, 04:02:28 AM
See, all the women come to me, usually in groups of three and then we have all the sexytime.

I call it the Maestro Method of Engaging an Audience and Retaining Their Hearts
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on April 19, 2014, 04:21:03 AM
I call it the Maestro Method of Engaging an Audience and Retaining Their Hearts
MMEARTH
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Psychic_Ness on April 19, 2014, 04:28:50 AM
Laughing too hard to keep arguing, I give up

So the spark thing right? If your relationship solely relies on it, then it's not a very strong one. Enjoy it, but wait it out before taking the relationship a step further.

A year isn't a long time. And if you can't be friends with someone that long without losing interest in each other, then the chance of sustaining a much longer term and deeper relationship is much lower. Yes the only way of finding out whether you can be in a relationship with them is by actually being in a relationship with them. But the foundation of friendship should be there first and this foundation (your common interests, time spent with each other, etc.) will seem better than it actually is during the time when you're infatuated with one another.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Yugi on April 19, 2014, 04:30:45 AM
A year isn't a long time.
> Year
> Not a long time
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on April 19, 2014, 04:32:39 AM
A year isn't a long time, trust me. If you're not paying attention a single year can fly by faster than you can blink.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Yugi on April 19, 2014, 04:40:14 AM
oh god it's 2015 now
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on April 19, 2014, 04:45:44 AM
Fuck it's 2016 I can't believe this
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on April 19, 2014, 04:47:19 AM
See, what did I tell you?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on April 19, 2014, 05:36:17 AM
I was actually going to join in until I realized there's never going to be an end to this

And I'm actually having a bit of relationship troubles as well...but I don't want to say anything publicly because I have a nagging suspicion that he frequents the forums >.>
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on April 19, 2014, 06:10:59 AM
he frequents the forums >.>
indeed I do :3
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on April 19, 2014, 06:13:47 AM
but see youre implying were having relationship troubles which is false
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on April 19, 2014, 06:21:24 AM
I was actually going to join in until I realized there's never going to be an end to this

That's why I decided to follow my gut reaction and laugh my ass off

So the spark thing right?

hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
oh man, too funny
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Psychic_Ness on April 19, 2014, 06:46:47 AM
That's why I decided to follow my gut reaction and laugh my ass off

hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
oh man, too funny

Relax, dude. Clearly things have been working for you without trying what I said so whatever floats your boat.

What I've been describing based off of observation and experiences. Whenever a relationship is falling/ has fallen apart with a girl I used to be involved with, we actually discuss what happened, why it didn't work out, and how we could make future relationships better. The topics I posted were common themes in all my discussions which were generally agreed upon.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on April 19, 2014, 07:15:16 AM
Dude, from what it sounds like, you're trying wayyyyyy too hard. Dating is pretty fucking simple when it boils down to it. Look sharp, be confident, you see a girl who has something that clicks, you talk to her and with the right mixture of timing and dumb luck, you might just get a date.

You should totally get to know someone a bit before moving forward with anything, but you can't be a cautious little ninny or else you'll miss your chance at getting what you actually want. An intimate relationship.

But oh no, what if it doesn't work out and she rejects me or we break up??? Well tough shit, at least you took a shot. So it wasn't meant to be, big deal. Go out there and try again.

You can't just spend your whole life testing the waters or you'll eventually be the only person left on the shore. Grow some balls and take the fucking plunge.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Olimar12345 on April 19, 2014, 07:25:50 AM
I'm loving this xD keep going!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on April 19, 2014, 07:38:05 AM
Sorry, I was being pretty rude there, I'll admit. But yeah, what SFK said; it's kinda along the lines of "you miss every shot you don't take". To me, a relationship ending isn't the worst possible outcome. I really can never see myself predicting long term success of a relationship before actually getting to know what somebody's like in a relationship. It's just such a different state of mind, even (maybe especially) after the "honeymoon phase". A relationship ending just means we gave it a shot, and it didn't work. Every relationship you ever have is going to end, up until the very last one. That shouldn't be discouragement, it should be encouragement to keep actually putting yourself out there until you get to that last one. The only relationships I've ever regretted were, you know, early high school ones where I was just in it for the sake of having a girlfriend. Ever since I've grown out of that, even if a relationship ends on somewhat contentious terms (although I can't say that's really happened to me), I regret nothing. It's not time wasted, we still had fun, we still learned from it. I've been hurt more by my own inaction than I've ever been hurt by a breakup. If you and another person have mutual interest in one another, the grand majority of people will not be willing to wait that year with you, despite whatever awesome chemistry you might have had in a relationship, and will move on.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on April 19, 2014, 07:40:03 AM
Now you see if you wanna get girls

The king's orders are absolute.
Actually, negate everything I said. I just realized Yugi won this argument 2 pages ago.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Psychic_Ness on April 19, 2014, 07:41:41 AM
Dude, from what it sounds like, you're trying wayyyyyy too hard. Dating is pretty fucking simple when it boils down to it. Look sharp, be confident, you see a girl who has something that clicks, you talk to her and with the right mixture of timing and dumb luck, you might just get a date.

You should totally get to know someone a bit before moving forward with anything, but you can't be a cautious little ninny or else you'll miss your chance at getting what you actually want. An intimate relationship.

But oh no, what if it doesn't work out and she rejects me or we break up??? Well tough shit, at least you took a shot. So it wasn't meant to be, big deal. Go out there and try again.

You can't just spend your whole life testing the waters or you'll eventually be the only person left on the shore. Grow some balls and take the fucking plunge.

Well no what I'm describing doesn't require trying hard. It allows relationships to take a steady natural course with gradual increases. Successful relationships seem to be ones that bud slowly over time.

Dating is the same as testing the waters. So is the method I'm proposing. With what I proposed there are fewer social barriers and it allows you to get to know more people at the same time than dating one person. You get to spend as much time as you want with any of the individuals without underlying drama. This allows you to make a better and more informed decision at the end of the day compared to doing so much earlier in the relationship. This is opposed trying with everyone one at a time from the bottom up. Think parallel vs sequential processing.

Edit:

"I regret nothing. It's not time wasted, we still had fun, we still learned from it."

I agree that it's a learning experience and not time wasted. I feel that sometimes the pain associated can be avoided though and you still end up having the same outcome (you're not together and you both understand why).

My personal experience is that I have broken too many hearts and I hate it. I have let the infatuation take over me for a while and then when it's gone I realize I'm not interested anymore and I break her heart.

SFK, I'm not afraid of taking plunges and being rejected and all that stuff. I dislike hurting other people in the process.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on April 19, 2014, 03:00:18 PM
Actually... I'm sort of with FierceDeity on this one...this is kind of hilarious
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on April 19, 2014, 05:08:36 PM
Psychic_Ness is a heart breaker, dream maker, lover taker
don't you mess around no, no, no
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on April 19, 2014, 06:16:29 PM
Ness is good at making conversations
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on April 19, 2014, 06:32:13 PM
Okay so argument after argument people go at it in this thread. How many of you have actually been a relationship that has lasted 6 months +. I am totally curious.

Your mother doesn't count.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on April 19, 2014, 06:33:35 PM
Okay so argument after argument people go at it in this thread. How many of you have actually been a relationship that has lasted 6 months +. I am totally curious.

Your mother doesn't count.
I'm in a relationship with everyone I know
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on April 19, 2014, 07:02:17 PM
Sluuuuuuuuttttttttt
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on April 19, 2014, 07:16:05 PM
How many of you have actually been a relationship that has lasted 6 months +. I am totally curious.

*raises hand*

I'm in a relationship with everyone I know
Sluuuuuuuuttttttttt

hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on April 19, 2014, 07:54:23 PM
Sluuuuuuuuttttttttt
He didn't specify which kind of relationship.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on April 19, 2014, 08:19:28 PM
yeah, there's lots of different kinds of relationships.

though i can't think of any besides hate, love and indifference.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Deku Trombonist on April 19, 2014, 08:47:20 PM
How many of you have actually been a relationship that has lasted 6 months +.
*raises hand*
*still has nothing useful to add*
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Mashi on April 20, 2014, 02:28:28 AM
Okay so argument after argument people go at it in this thread. How many of you have actually been a relationship that has lasted 6 months +. I am totally curious.

does it count if i used time dilation
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on April 20, 2014, 02:45:37 AM
I'm slain
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: DrP on April 20, 2014, 06:18:37 AM
Does my relationship with Microsoft Excel count
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on April 23, 2014, 04:12:14 AM
does it count if i used time dilation

Yes :D

Maybe we should change gears for a bit and talk about functional relationships, then go from there xD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on April 24, 2014, 06:16:35 AM
stuff

So, quick update on this situation, without all of the boring details.
1. We're dating now
2. She's even more amazing than I thought
3. Life is good
4. her roommates need to learn to knock
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on April 24, 2014, 06:50:12 AM
FierceDeity is gettin' it on. I suggest a sock on the door bro.

I have to admit I only skimmed all that arguing but I do agree that Yugi won it with the Persona video.

I do agree that relationships/dating can be pretty simple when it comes down to it.

My strategy for relationships is making each other happy and just fucking giving a fuck about each other. I've been with Dan for over a year now and I think we're doing pretty fucking awesome and we only knew each other for like... 3 days before he asked me out.

Let's all just be happy, k? K. :D

Also, very happy for you FierceDeity!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on April 24, 2014, 11:21:33 AM
Well now I guess I have to go to yet another prom with yet another girl.
This is going to be expensive...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on April 24, 2014, 04:03:15 PM
4. her roommates need to learn to knock
FierceDeity is gettin' it on. I suggest a sock on the door bro.
NSM IS SUPPOSED TO BE LIKE MUSLIM TERRORIST HEAVEN. FULL OF VIRGINS.

COME ON YOU GUYS, QUIT RUINING THIS PLACE WITH YOUR PERFECT GENES AND IMPECCABLE SEXUAL CHARMS. FOR SHAME!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on April 24, 2014, 05:37:47 PM
FierceDeity is gettin' it on. I suggest a sock on the door bro.

...

Also, very happy for you FierceDeity!

I'll have to keep that in mind next time, haha.
And thank you :D

NSM IS SUPPOSED TO BE LIKE MUSLIM TERRORIST HEAVEN. FULL OF VIRGINS.

COME ON YOU GUYS, QUIT RUINING THIS PLACE WITH YOUR PERFECT GENES AND IMPECCABLE SEXUAL CHARMS. FOR SHAME!

Can't believe you excluded nocturne from that, he's clearly rolling in bitches right now
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on April 24, 2014, 05:43:14 PM
Nocturne is 10/10 would bang
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on April 24, 2014, 06:24:50 PM
NSM IS SUPPOSED TO BE LIKE MUSLIM TERRORIST HEAVEN. FULL OF VIRGINS.

COME ON YOU GUYS, QUIT RUINING THIS PLACE WITH YOUR PERFECT GENES AND IMPECCABLE SEXUAL CHARMS. FOR SHAME!

I can't turn this shit off, SFK.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: K-NiGhT on April 24, 2014, 07:19:30 PM
Nocturne is 10/10 would bang
eh i'd give him a low 8, personally.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on April 24, 2014, 07:35:05 PM
Can't believe you excluded nocturne from that, he's clearly rolling in bitches right now
Because anything about being sexy is OBVIOUSLY directed at at Nocturne, duh.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on April 24, 2014, 08:55:40 PM
What is even going on
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on April 24, 2014, 09:36:26 PM
Why don't you tell us, mr. multi-prom
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on April 24, 2014, 10:18:52 PM
Why don't you tell us, mr. multi-prom
Well you all know about the first one
the second one is at MY school and it's with the girl I mentioned way earlier...  So I feel like it might be a little bit awkward.  The whole idea was my mom's, not mine.  Taking your friends to prom just seems weird >.>
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on April 25, 2014, 02:15:34 AM
So, quick update on this situation, without all of the boring details.
1. We're dating now
2. She's even more amazing than I thought
3. Life is good
4. her roommates need to learn to knock

Heyyyy TMI D:

NSM IS SUPPOSED TO BE LIKE MUSLIM TERRORIST HEAVEN. FULL OF VIRGINS.

COME ON YOU GUYS, QUIT RUINING THIS PLACE WITH YOUR PERFECT GENES AND IMPECCABLE SEXUAL CHARMS. FOR SHAME!

Lol but we're none of us perfect :P Also I can't say much about myself in this thread for a good reason but I can always try to be unhelpful. I actually don't have that much experience in dating, I'm just older than you guys so I can tell you stuff you're doing wrong.

One thing I can comment on is that I really like guys that are interesting to talk to and that I can learn stuff from. So I guess that means guys need to offer more than cuteness, cuddliness, good looks, love, money...hahaha XD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on April 25, 2014, 02:53:23 AM
I miss being sexually provocative on here...granted, my love life is going nowhere.

That girl I made out with this past summer will be going to the conference again this year, so if I'm lucky, I might be able to hook up with her again...well, not "hook up," per-say, but...yeah...

There are several girls here that I would love to date, but being a senior makes it practically impossible. Practically as in, attempting it would be useless, because I'm leaving for college in the fall, so why bother getting into a new relationship with someone back home, when I'm going to be living the next four plus years somewhere else? My emotions are all over the place at the moment, but my heart has latched onto a few girls that I know I'm going to miss when I leave.

Does anyone have some suggestions? I was thinking of just talking to them about it near the end of school, but what good would that really do? I'd just let them know that I am attracted to them, or I have feelings for them, but what would the point be? I don't know. Any advice, peeps?

Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on April 25, 2014, 02:55:00 AM
Better to love and lose than never to have loved at all. Of course you could always just say "nah" and wait for college. Though the odds of meeting people in college is, like, zero.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on April 25, 2014, 03:08:54 AM
Kman, think of it this way: if things go awry, you may never be obligated to see those people ever again. If they go well, the people should understand the fact that you're leaving, like, really soon, and they probably shouldn't expect anything long-term. Just be open about your intentions, whatever they are, and if you fail, you get a fresh start in a couple months :P

Though the odds of meeting people in college is, like, zero.

It took me a few seconds to realize who was saying this hahahahahaha
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on April 25, 2014, 03:19:49 AM
Advice: go homo or go home
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on April 25, 2014, 03:27:06 AM
I did once, but most men can't handle 100% unfiltered Maestro.

Most women can't either, but they have the boobs so I try to make more of an effort.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on April 25, 2014, 03:39:10 AM
Maestro filters: the #1 selling sex-related product in the continental US
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Kman96 on April 25, 2014, 03:55:36 AM
Advice: go homo or go home
Well, I'm already at home, so....

Better to love and lose than never to have loved at all. Of course you could always just say "nah" and wait for college. Though the odds of meeting people in college is, like, zero.
Oh, I have definitely loved and lost. I won't lie, I did kind of expect to meet a girl in college, but of course, it's always a gamble.

Kman, think of it this way: if things go awry, you may never be obligated to see those people ever again. If they go well, the people should understand the fact that you're leaving, like, really soon, and they probably shouldn't expect anything long-term. Just be open about your intentions, whatever they are, and if you fail, you get a fresh start in a couple months :P
The thing is, Fierce, that while I had my little moment last summer where I made out with a total stranger, I can't date someone without the honest intention of wanting to see it go further. That's what dating is for me; I'm not saying I intend to marry the girl(s) I date, but instead to get an idea of what I want from a relationship. And that's the thing. these girls aren't girls I could just date for a few months and then leave at the drop of a hat. I want to give them an honest chance. I thought that way about the girl I had a crush on in November. We made out a couple of times, and had a bit of a fling going on for several weeks, but I ended it abruptly because I knew it wouldn't end well. Granted, we're polar opposites morally, and 87% of the time we can't stand each other's presence, so its a wonder how we became attracted to one another in the first place.

I just don't know what to do about those other girls who I'll never get a chance to be with.

EDIT: Ninja'd.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: spitllama on April 25, 2014, 04:26:38 AM

most men can't handle 100% unfiltered Maestro.

Use a condom.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on April 25, 2014, 04:36:59 AM
Use the whole box.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Waddle Bro on April 25, 2014, 04:42:44 AM
Advice: go homo or go home
quote of the year
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on April 25, 2014, 06:29:51 AM
Oh, I have definitely loved and lost. I won't lie, I did kind of expect to meet a girl in college, but of course, it's always a gamble.

Trust me. If there's a time where you're likely to meet someone, it's college. You'll be surprised at how much more you connect with your friends/relationships at college than in high school, because there are (typically) so many more people to "choose" from. In my experience, at least, I thought of some people as my friends and as potential love interests because I spent so much time with them on a daily basis, and so it was really familiarity over everything. But now that I'm almost entirely in control of who I spend my time with, I realize how immature or incompatible a lot of the people I used to spend time with are. It's much less of a "gamble" than in high school, because a lot more people are looking, and there aren't all those pubescent hormones and underdeveloped frontal lobes (or whatever) getting in the way.

The thing is, Fierce, that while I had my little moment last summer where I made out with a total stranger, I can't date someone without the honest intention of wanting to see it go further. That's what dating is for me; I'm not saying I intend to marry the girl(s) I date, but instead to get an idea of what I want from a relationship.

No yeah, I totally understand you. I'm the same way. I was just saying to be honest about your intentions, whatever they are. You'd be surprised at how satisfying (and no I don't mean that kind of satisfying) a relationship can be even if you know it has to end soon. There was this girl at the camp I went to this summer who I only met during my second week of our two-week stay, but we may as well have been "dating". It's not like I only enjoyed it for the physical aspect of the relationship, I truly enjoyed spending that time with her, even though after camp she went back to Brazil, and I may never see her again (though she might be going to college in my area next year, but I didn't know that at the time, haha). The point is, it can still be an emotionally fulfilling experience.

I definitely wouldn't recommend starting anything with somebody if they'd want a long distance relationship throughout the year, because I have honestly yet to see such a relationship not die out (in a blaze of hurt feelings) within the first year. But, if you're truly interested in them, I see nothing wrong with an arrangement like "If we get back over break and neither of us is still seeing somebody, pick it back up", if you were both okay with it (and I do know people who've had this arrangement work). Really, my advice boils down to this: do whatever you want as long as you're respecting the other person's wishes (and would ultimately be okay with it yourself), and whatever happens happens.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on April 25, 2014, 04:03:34 PM
Advice: go homo or go home yo
somewhat fixed but it kinda sounds lame

I tired
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on May 04, 2014, 12:41:15 PM
got tinder

matched up with 2 people.

what do i do now ????

My heart is racing so hard right now i can't do this
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Clanker37 on May 04, 2014, 02:09:25 PM
got tinder

matched up with 2 people.

what do i do now ????

My heart is racing so hard right now i can't do this
Yes you can, you silly. They're probably just as nervous as you.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on May 04, 2014, 02:15:57 PM
BUT I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO SAY AND ETF'S SELF HELP BOOK ISN'T HELPING
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Clanker37 on May 04, 2014, 02:59:00 PM
OK, calm the fuck down. It's not the end of the world. You're being silly.

Just treat like any other conversation. Relax and let them speak. A conversation is a two way street. There's equal pressure on both parties to be involved and you shouldn't be too involved. Ask them about themselves; if they're like any other human whoever lived, they'll think the sun shines right out of they're arse and will love to tell you about themselves; if they turn out to be reserved, well evidently they're just as nervous as you and don't want to smother you.

Just remember that you are fucking awesome and you are capable of fantastic things, least of all a date.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on May 04, 2014, 08:44:50 PM
The great thing about tinder is that there's already knowledge of mutual interest. You don't have to think so hard; they right swiped you for a reason. You can always start by commenting on something you like about their profile; maybe you have a really cool shared interest; maybe they're doing something interesting in one/more of their pictures; maybe they're just really fucking attractive. Whatever it is, you don't have to be afraid to compliment them on it, because you already know that they're interested in you, so as long as you don't compliment them on something really strange ("I LOVE YOUR EARLOBES"), they're bound to be flattered.

As for what you actually want to get out of tinder, all I can say is that, by the end of the first date with anyone, be honest about what you want it to be. Tinder is overwhelmingly used as a hook-up app, but if that's not what you're looking for, there are still a lot of people who actually end up in a relationship (see: me and my girlfriend); you just have to keep matching, keep trying, and look for the right person. Or, if you're like me, go on tinder for shits and giggles (and/or ego boost), not really expecting to use it seriously, and be completely surprised by how amazing one match ends up being.

But seriously, tinder is one of the few situations in which you really don't have to worry, like, at all. Stay calm, message them, and if it doesn't work out, oh well; just keep getting new matches until it does. You have nothing to lose.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on May 05, 2014, 01:49:21 AM
BUT I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO SAY AND ETF'S SELF HELP BOOK ISN'T HELPING

WHAT. D:

sorry i keep getting busy and don't continue it that often

MAYBE AFTER SCHOOLS OUT AND I MOVE I'LL POST THE NEXT CHAPTER. HOPEFULLY.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on May 15, 2014, 04:07:51 AM
Listen up guys (and I guess girls too, but I can't speak from experience): all you need is to be able to play smooth jazz on a brass instrument and you can have any woman you want but still keep the spit thing a secret ok
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on May 15, 2014, 04:26:11 AM
Shit, no wonder I get all the ladies. Jazz trombone 4 lyfe

Also, it's not spit, it's condensation in your breath, damnit!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on May 15, 2014, 04:28:38 AM
same thing: gross
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: fingerz on May 15, 2014, 04:29:28 AM
Well, I play an extremely large, sexy saxophone that's more metal than wood... I see no women. XD

@Bubbles: I saw someone drink it out of their Trombone valve before. :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on May 15, 2014, 04:42:34 AM
Jazz trumpet is best, this is fact.
MAYBE AFTER SCHOOLS OUT AND I MOVE I'LL POST THE NEXT CHAPTER. HOPEFULLY.
BWAHAHA that's never happening. COME ON, PROVE ME WRONG.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on May 15, 2014, 04:52:01 AM
@Nebbles: I saw someone drink it out of their Trombone valve before. :P

WTF whyyyy did you say that xD That was the most scarring thing I remember from music class as a kid xD

Listen up guys (and I guess girls too, but I can't speak from experience): all you need is to be able to play smooth jazz on a brass instrument and you can have any woman you want but still keep the spit thing a secret ok

I guess I can say that women should get a STEM degree and at least one guy from your class or in that field will awkwardly ask you out within a few years. Meanwhile don't brush your hair on a daily basis and wear only dress shirts, jeans and sneakers. No hoodies. Ignore him the first few times to seem cooler than you actually are.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on May 15, 2014, 04:55:18 AM
Ohhhh you're saying that your constant unkempt state is of a strategic nature, and not laziness huh....
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on May 15, 2014, 05:01:54 AM
Ohhhh you're saying that your constant unkempt state is of a strategic nature, and not laziness huh....

D;

It makes me look more hard working during the weekdays! The weekends...yeah it's laziness.

I'd punish you with a pixie cut if I didn't hate it so much! XD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on May 15, 2014, 05:12:01 AM
DOEEEEEEEEET. Pixie cuts are teh best.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on May 15, 2014, 05:40:05 AM
But what will I forget to brush everyday? D:
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on May 15, 2014, 06:04:11 AM
Your teeth, of course! Gum disease will detract all males who aren't truly serious about courting you.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on May 15, 2014, 01:16:53 PM
Or you could do a Link hairstyle like your little felt thing in your picture :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on May 16, 2014, 01:36:45 AM
Aaaaaandddddd this is the reason I don't have a tinder imgur.com/gallery/cinvE
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on May 16, 2014, 02:12:54 AM
...because somebody who was clearly on tinder for the wrong reasons was the catalyst for a mild shitstorm?

EDIT: lol didn't read the whole thing. Clearly at least a level 7 shitstorm. Still, neither of them are even close to the typical person on tinder. Aside from being batshit crazy, that girl was outside of the norm in that she actually wanted a steady relationship. And the guy's just an idiot for being on a DATING app to find friends, despite having a girlfriend. Hell, I deleted the app after meeting my girlfriend (though that was half to stop people from continuously matching with/messaging me long after I'd stopped)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on May 16, 2014, 06:16:01 AM
Or you could do a Link hairstyle like your little felt thing in your picture :P

Heyyy that little felt thing is the best plush Linky anyone can ask for. When you see his round body, corn ears, mitten hands and that perfect little sewn on smile, you'll know.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on August 06, 2014, 05:38:34 AM
uh

if you were talking with someone and they forgot your birthday how upset would you be
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Zunawe on August 06, 2014, 05:58:41 AM
I never expect people to even know my birthday excepting my immediate family.
Title: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on August 06, 2014, 06:17:10 AM
I go to great lengths to not even celebrate my birthday, I never tell anyone my birthday nor make that info available so I don't think it's a big deal. I don't make a fuss about it when it comes up.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on August 06, 2014, 08:10:24 AM
I wouldn't know any of my friends' birthdays if Facebook didn't remind me. Even then, I still forget. Frequently.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on August 06, 2014, 12:48:09 PM
I mean I'm one of those people who has a ridiculously good memory for certain things so I never forget names or birthdays. But others do all the time.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on August 06, 2014, 06:46:41 PM
I mean I'm one of those people who has a ridiculously good memory for certain things so I never forget names or birthdays. But others do all the time.
yeah, same here.  I remember random birthdays and phone numbers without trying, but I can never seem to remember where I put my driving license.
Other people don't seem to, however.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on August 06, 2014, 08:04:38 PM
If you've known this person for a long time and you'd expect them to know it's your birthday, maybe you should care . But I'm with these guys, in that other people have to remind ME it's my birthday because I care so little.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: braixen1264 on August 06, 2014, 08:14:53 PM
Nope, I often forget my own birthday anyway.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Mashi on August 06, 2014, 08:23:47 PM
I struggle to remember birthdays, usually.  Not because I don't care, but because it's difficult for me to have the prudence to remember one particular day in the year.  I leave myself notes about people's birthdays too sometimes, but even then, I forget, since I completely forget about the note until the person's next birthday.  It makes me feel guilty sometimes, to be honest!

I don't celebrate my birthday beyond maybe buying some ice cream, so I don't mind it when people don't remember my birthday.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on August 07, 2014, 02:44:36 AM
eh, I guess I'm ok then. I was just a little worried because I'd be a little upset, plus I actually asked him when his birthday was heh...but that was like 5 months ago and I don't even know if he remembers
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FireArrow on August 07, 2014, 03:20:51 AM
I'd only be concerned if it's someone your really close to, and even then, some people are just plain forgetful.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on August 07, 2014, 06:35:19 AM
So speaking of relationships, I'm kinda actually in one. Which is really fucking weird, because it's literally been years since I've been in an actual relationship. Probably gonna fuck this up really fast. Hope not, because I've never been with anyone who I can make out with while doing Lemon Grab impressions and then call senpai in a japanese schoolgirl voice. That's something you don't find every day.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on August 07, 2014, 07:07:50 AM
I've never been with anyone who I can make out with while doing Lemon Grab impressions and then call senpai in a japanese schoolgirl voice. That's something you don't find every day.

On the one hand, some might consider this TMI, but on the other hand, HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

That's awesome, I'm happy for ya, SFK. I'm sure you'll do fine.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on August 07, 2014, 10:16:02 PM
wat/10
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on September 09, 2014, 07:48:18 PM
Literally every guy I've ever had the tiniest crush on in my school (except for like, 2) (there's a lot) and the guy who likes me are all in one class with me

How am I supposed to breathe LEARN?

/middleschoolproblems
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on September 09, 2014, 09:14:56 PM
Seduce them all and have them do the book learnin' for you.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on September 10, 2014, 12:01:25 AM
^^^Use that feminine charm to slack your way through the class.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on September 14, 2014, 08:35:38 PM
Put back up my OkCupid account for shits and giggles. My ex popped up with like an 85% match. Considering we had absolutely no chemistry from the get-go, I'd say their whole match system is BS.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on October 01, 2014, 07:50:59 PM
can someone please explain the thoughts of a shy guy

because im completely lost and im wondering if its even worth getting stressed over anymore

and no wise guys i know shy guy is a nintendo character
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on October 01, 2014, 08:25:43 PM
The thoughts of a shy guy:

"Wow, that girl is really pretty. Maybe I should go talk to her. No, I'll look like an idiot. But she's so-oh crap, she's coming this way. Shit shit shit, she just sat down next to you. Say something, you moron. Do it. For god sake! Crap, you waited too long, now if you say something, it's gonna be awkward! You missed the window fuck head!"

Girl:"Ummm, hi"

Shy guy: "Hi."

Thoughts: "Hi? That's all you could muster up, you couldn't at least go for small talk or something? Just die, right now."

True story. Seriously, the best way to deal with a shy person is to force them to talk. Usually they want to but just can't figure out how to start.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on October 01, 2014, 08:30:25 PM
The thoughts of a shy guy:

"Wow, that girl is really pretty. Maybe I should go talk to her. No, I'll look like an idiot. But she's so-oh crap, she's coming this way. Shit shit shit, she just sat down next to you. Say something, you moron. Do it. For god sake! Crap, you waited too long, now if you say something, it's gonna be awkward! You missed the window fuck head!"

Girl:"Ummm, hi"

Shy guy: "Hi."

Thoughts: "Hi? That's all you could muster up, you couldn't at least go for small talk or something? Just die, right now."

True story. Seriously, the best way to deal with a shy person is to force them to talk. Usually they want to but just can't figure out how to start.
Yeah, not bad.  Also start off with easy questions and make sure you look interested in what they say otherwise they'll think you don't care.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: K-NiGhT on October 01, 2014, 08:32:40 PM
The thoughts of a shy guy:

"Wow, that girl is really pretty. Maybe I should go talk to her. No, I'll look like an idiot. But she's so-oh crap, she's coming this way. Shit shit shit, she just sat down next to you. Say something, you moron. Do it. For god sake! Crap, you waited too long, now if you say something, it's gonna be awkward! You missed the window fuck head!"

Girl:"Ummm, hi"

Shy guy: "Hi."

Thoughts: "Hi? That's all you could muster up, you couldn't at least go for small talk or something? Just die, right now."

True story. Seriously, the best way to deal with a shy person is to force them to talk. Usually they want to but just can't figure out how to start.
lol this is literally me on a daily basis with all people
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Waddle Bro on October 01, 2014, 08:33:02 PM
The thoughts of a shy guy:

"Wow, that girl is really pretty. Maybe I should go talk to her. No, I'll look like an idiot. But she's so-oh crap, she's coming this way. Shit shit shit, she just sat down next to you. Say something, you moron. Do it. For god sake! Crap, you waited too long, now if you say something, it's gonna be awkward! You missed the window fuck head!"

Girl:"Ummm, hi"

Shy guy: "Hi."

Thoughts: "Hi? That's all you could muster up, you couldn't at least go for small talk or something? Just die, right now."

True story. Seriously, the best way to deal with a person is to force them to talk. Usually they want to but just can't figure out how to start.
This is incredibly accurate and quote of the year.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on October 01, 2014, 08:36:48 PM
Shy guys are the worst tho even if they have a conception that they're quiet and shy and a nice person we're all incredibly self centered and whiny so I'd advise against being interested in one xoxo bye
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Waddle Bro on October 01, 2014, 09:12:12 PM
Shy people have the tendency to become more open when they start to feel comfortable around someone tho

A couple years back I was incredibly shy and lacked self-confidence. Things have gone to the other direction since then B)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on October 01, 2014, 09:19:20 PM
Yeah, I'm basically on the same page. Went from being a introverted outcast in high school to, well, what I am now. Shy guys are usually just people out of their element, and that element just usually happens to be talking to women(or people in general).
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Yugi on October 01, 2014, 10:32:40 PM
is it wrong if I thought we were talking about shy guys from mario
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on October 01, 2014, 10:34:01 PM
It is because that means you didn't read bubbles's post which explicitly states she's not talking about that shy guy
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on October 01, 2014, 10:48:16 PM
Does this make Yugi the wise guy?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Zunawe on October 01, 2014, 11:09:33 PM
Shy guys are the worst tho even if they have a conception that they're quiet and shy and a nice person we're all incredibly self centered and whiny so I'd advise against being interested in one xoxo bye
People who are actually shy are quiet either because they're uncomfortable around people they aren't familiar with or because they don't want to be a bother to other people. Self-centered or whiny people who are quiet aren't shy, they're just bored with what they're doing and/or too conceited to converse with people around them at the time. At least in a sentence. The world's personalities are not composed only of different types of vanity.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on October 01, 2014, 11:18:46 PM
The world's personalities are not composed only of different types of vanity.

This is where you lost me. And make no mistake, most shy people are incredibly self centered and whiny. You don't need to like yourself to care about yourself, and certainly not to feel sorry for yourself.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on October 01, 2014, 11:32:15 PM
True story. Seriously, the best way to deal with a shy person is to force them to talk. Usually they want to but just can't figure out how to start.
I spent a very large chunk of time with this guy one-on-one where I continuously brought up subjects and today he still can't look me in the eye. My problem is that I don't have an opinion on whether I'm into him yet but he sure isn't helping himself and I'm just trying to be understanding.

Slow I kinda see where you're coming from. Basically, shy people are shy because they are uncomfortable in their day to day situation and are very conscious of making a mistake and embarrassing themselves (speaking from experience). The idea is that even if they want to help others, they are still too caught up in what others think of them and are therefore somewhat self centered.

And honestly I don't think a shy guy is right for me because I'm fairly quiet myself, but hey I have to give chances. I just feel like in this situation I'm the one trying harder and its reallyyy weighing me down
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on October 01, 2014, 11:38:42 PM
Shy guys are the worst tho even if they have a conception that they're quiet and shy and a nice person we're all incredibly self centered and whiny so I'd advise against being interested in one xoxo bye
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Zunawe already summed it up quite nicely.

Slow I kinda see where you're coming from. Basically, shy people are shy because they are uncomfortable in their day to day situation and are very conscious of making a mistake and embarrassing themselves (speaking from experience). The idea is that even if they want to help others, they are still too caught up in what others think of them and are therefore somewhat self centered.
Being "conscious of making a mistake and embarrassing themselves" is only one reason for being shy. As Zunawe said, many people who are shy because they're not comfortable around unfamiliar people, which isn't really being self-centered at all (being self-centered in this case, I would think, would mean ignoring other people because you place yourself on such a high pedestal).
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on October 01, 2014, 11:47:12 PM
But what makes you uncomfortable though? I always stayed quiet so I could better understand a new person when I was talking to them but even that can be tied to not wanting to say the wrong thing
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on October 01, 2014, 11:52:08 PM
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idk what you're laughing at, because I said "we" since I was referring to myself as well???

Yeah bubbles got what I was trying to say. Sort of, anyway.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on October 01, 2014, 11:55:54 PM
Shy guys are the worst tho even if they have a conception that they're quiet and shy and a nice person we're all incredibly self centered and whiny so I'd advise against being interested in one xoxo bye
I can't really tell what you're saying because of the lack of punctuation in this post.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on October 02, 2014, 12:09:35 AM
cute
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on October 02, 2014, 12:15:34 AM
Are you trying to offend me? ^_^;
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Maelstrom on October 02, 2014, 12:28:52 AM
Shy guys? Yep, that's me. :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on October 02, 2014, 12:37:53 AM
i think slows definition fits mael more than it does any other shy person in the world, haha

But not all shy people are awful, OK?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Maelstrom on October 02, 2014, 12:48:02 AM
i think slows definition fits mael more than it does any other shy person in the world, haha

But not all shy people are awful, OK?
I'm not even sure what slow said.....
And I'd say most shy people are different online.... :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on October 02, 2014, 02:17:46 AM
i think slows definition fits mael more than it does any other shy person in the world, haha

But not all shy people are awful, OK?

All people are awful though, no? And mael in ways who we are online is more real than who we are outside the Internet tbh ;o
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Zunawe on October 02, 2014, 02:33:58 AM
All people are awful though, no?
This is what that last part was addressing. I think this kind of view on people is cynical (and, on a more personal level, wrong).
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FireArrow on October 02, 2014, 02:51:55 AM
This is where you lost me. And make no mistake, most shy people are incredibly self centered and whiny. You don't need to like yourself to care about yourself, and certainly not to feel sorry for yourself.

As much as I hate to say it, slow is right. Shy people generally don't want to be shy, so when they're alone all the time, the only thing on their mind is how terrible and lonely their life is. Of course, there are situations where people actually don't want to socialize, in which case, while they won't be whiny, they're self centered as all hell to think that they're better than/don't need other people.

I think this is rubbing off the wrong way though. Introverted people aren't bad people, they're just stuck in a cyclical cynical mind set.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on October 02, 2014, 03:15:11 AM
As much as I hate to say it, slow is right. Shy people generally don't want to be shy, so when they're alone all the time, the only thing on their mind is how terrible and lonely their life is. Of course, there are situations where people actually don't want to socialize, in which case, while they won't be whiny, they're self centered as all hell to think that they're better than/don't need other people.

I think this is rubbing off the wrong way though. Introverted people aren't bad people, they're just stuck in a cyclical cynical mind set.
That is a very extreme generalization.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on October 02, 2014, 03:33:30 AM
because all introverts have identical personalities

Maybe YOU fellas have this opinion of yourselves, but I actually agree with BDS for a change, in that you're making really broad generalizations a personality trait that covers a HUGE scope.

But what can I expect from a bunch of stuck up, self-centered, cynical, SHY people. <sarcasm btw
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on October 02, 2014, 03:38:08 AM
This is almost a derail but it's still on topic.
Bubbles' question is answered guys, let's go home.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Roz~ on October 02, 2014, 03:59:04 AM
because all introverts have identical personalities

Maybe YOU fellas have this opinion of yourselves, but I actually agree with BDS for a change, in that you're making really broad generalizations a personality trait that covers a HUGE scope.

But what can I expect from a bunch of stuck up, self-centered, cynical, SHY people. <sarcasm btw

Ily
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on October 02, 2014, 04:09:01 AM
Be careful not to confuse an introvert for being shy. You can have shy extroverts too, people who do very well in social situations but aren't good with new people/things. Whereas typical introverts do very well one-on-one/small groups and in areas they have interests in.

Also, no, not all shy/introverted/quiet people are self-centered. It's just to which degree they get excited about certain subjects. I guarantee you if you were to approach this guy about something he really enjoys (hobbies, sports, area of study, himself) he'll probably perk up if he's just introverted.

If not then you might intimidate or otherwise make him uncomfortable for whatever reason.

Long story short, don't force him out of his bubble, he'll come out when he's ready.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FireArrow on October 02, 2014, 04:25:38 AM
Replace the word "shy" with the word "loner." I don't think we're talking about the same thing. People who are simply not comfortable in unfamiliar situations is not what I'm getting at. I'll agree, My use of the word introvert was probably inappropriate, as it really doesn't pertain to what I'm talking about.

Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FireArrow on October 02, 2014, 04:29:57 AM
Long story short, don't force him out of his bubble, he'll come out when he's ready.

Sorry for the double post, but this is not the way to handle it. Doing this will only make him think you're not interested. I can't remember who, but someone already hit the bulls-eye.

He WANTS to talk to you, he's just afraid to. Your positive social ques will fly right over his head, and any negative ones he's gonna misinterpret and take to heart. So approach him in a way that doesn't give him the chance to misunderstand your intentions.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on October 02, 2014, 04:31:45 AM
Sorry for the double post, but this is not the way to handle it. Doing this will only make him think you're not interested. I can't remember who, but someone already hit the bulls-eye.
It was probably SFK
He's got this down to heart, apparently
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on October 02, 2014, 04:33:38 AM
Yeah, I was mostly posting for the group in general, not just you Fire. I can't say I deal with any introverted/shy people aside from myself on a daily basis, so i'm not a real authority on the issue.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on October 02, 2014, 04:34:15 AM
I can't say I deal with any introverted/shy people aside from myself
I find this funny
It just makes sense
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FireArrow on October 02, 2014, 04:48:55 AM
Yeah, I was mostly posting for the group in general, not just you Fire. I can't say I deal with any introverted/shy people aside from myself on a daily basis, so i'm not a real authority on the issue.

Well, most of my blabbering comes from experience as a person with aspergers syndrome, so it's pretty frivolous for me to assume that it would apply to other people. You're probably just as qualified (if not a thousand times more cuz Maestro wisdom) as I am. :3

I do have to say though, the guy in bubbles situation is literally me. That's pretty much what I do every time I try to make friends/have a crush on someone. The whole "why doesn't he talk to me even though I've already established myself on talking terms with him" comes from a blurring and misunderstanding of social thresholds.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on October 02, 2014, 04:57:25 AM
See, I just step all over the social norms cause I don't have time to wait on people's courtesies.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FireArrow on October 02, 2014, 05:01:30 AM
Where else would new trends come from?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on October 02, 2014, 05:19:15 AM
Sorry for the double post, but this is not the way to handle it. Doing this will only make him think you're not interested. I can't remember who, but someone already hit the bulls-eye.
As of right now though, I'm not interested. The only reason I'm still worrying about this is because I feel like I need to give him more time to do something because of the whole shyness thing. The problem is idk when enough time is enough (as it's been over half a year now...)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FireArrow on October 02, 2014, 05:41:31 AM
If you don't do anything, he wont do anything. He isn't ever going to brave through his shyness, because it's more than just shyness (if it was just shyness, he would at least be talking to you by now.) I hope that answers your quesiton.

I'm not quite sure I understand what your saying though. What are you doing now that you would stop doing when your done giving him more time?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on October 02, 2014, 07:16:06 AM
It sort of sounds like you're just sitting there expecting somebody that has no intentions of doing anything to do something and clearly that is not something that is likely to result in progress in any direction.

You can either make it something you try super hard at (seeeeeeems not worth considering your ambivalent feelings towards the individual anyway), or just say w/e and if mr shy suddenly springs to action when he sees you not trying so hard that could be a neat, though unlikely, bonus.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on October 02, 2014, 08:17:34 AM
It sort of sounds like you're just sitting there expecting somebody that has no intentions of doing anything to do something and clearly that is not something that is likely to result in progress in any direction.

You can either make it something you try super hard at (seeeeeeems not worth considering your ambivalent feelings towards the individual anyway), or just say w/e and if mr shy suddenly springs to action when he sees you not trying so hard that could be a neat, though unlikely, bonus.

Heyyyyy when did you start giving good advice on these kind of things? xD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on October 02, 2014, 02:02:33 PM
I was just thinking that, but regardless it's good advice!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on October 02, 2014, 03:23:04 PM
If you don't do anything, he wont do anything. He isn't ever going to brave through his shyness, because it's more than just shyness (if it was just shyness, he would at least be talking to you by now.) I hope that answers your quesiton.

I'm not quite sure I understand what your saying though. What are you doing now that you would stop doing when your done giving him more time?
It sort of sounds like you're just sitting there expecting somebody that has no intentions of doing anything to do something and clearly that is not something that is likely to result in progress in any direction.

You can either make it something you try super hard at (seeeeeeems not worth considering your ambivalent feelings towards the individual anyway), or just say w/e and if mr shy suddenly springs to action when he sees you not trying so hard that could be a neat, though unlikely, bonus.
Probably should have clarified this, but he has done something before. He asked me to what I call mini-prom and caught me completely off guard, considering I literally never talked to him before that ever. Basically I'm just worried that he's going to surprise me with something again because apparently that's how he works. Meanwhile every day I'm on high alert and feel guilty whenever I think about anyone else because he's always in the back of my mind
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on October 02, 2014, 03:48:25 PM
Probably should have clarified this, but he has done something before. He asked me to what I call mini-prom and caught me completely off guard, considering I literally never talked to him before that ever. Basically I'm just worried that he's going to surprise me with something again because apparently that's how he works. Meanwhile every day I'm on high alert and feel guilty whenever I think about anyone else because he's always in the back of my mind
#girl problems
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on October 02, 2014, 06:10:43 PM
I actually agree with BDS for a change

Same

Probably should have clarified this, but he has done something before. He asked me to what I call mini-prom and caught me completely off guard, considering I literally never talked to him before that ever. Basically I'm just worried that he's going to surprise me with something again because apparently that's how he works. Meanwhile every day I'm on high alert and feel guilty whenever I think about anyone else because he's always in the back of my mind

Keep in mind, you are by no means obligated to entertain his affection. It seems like either deep down, some part of you is interested in him as well, or you're just being wayyy too nice about it. If it's the first one, feel free to try more actively; even on the offchance that he isn't interested, no guy like this is going to be upset that you're coming onto them. If it's the second one (which seems most likely), stop worrying about what he's going to do, or whether you're giving him enough of a chance; the fact that you're thinking about it this much implies that you definitely are. If he decides to try more, great; see where that leads, and if you're not feeling it, just let him down easy. You really shouldn't have to pursue something you're not interested in for the other person's lack of effort/social skills. Shyness certainly doesn't imply that one is self-centered, but it's also not something anybody else is obligated to compensate for.


In other news, I haven't posted in this thread in a while:

I broke up with my girlfriend about a week after getting back to school; I really wasn't getting what I wanted out of the relationship, our communication over the summer had given me time to notice some irreconcilable differences, and considering these things, I didn't want to drag the relationship out for a slow death. I felt like shit afterwards, mostly because this is the first time I've broken up with somebody who had no idea it was coming, but also because I kept second guessing myself. But now I'm happy about the decision, and those differences are, reassuringly, even more blaring than before. I'm still happy we dated, because we had some good memories together, and I really never would've discovered these differences by waiting longer before dating, anyways. All in all, no rant involved here, just a good ol' summary.

Since then, though:
Do asian girls tend to have a thing for nerdy white guys, or something? Because I seem to have unintentionally acquired a harem, and I am totally unfamiliar with this situation.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on October 02, 2014, 06:58:34 PM
Do asian girls tend to have a thing for nerdy white guys, or something? Because I seem to have unintentionally acquired a harem, and I am totally unfamiliar with this situation.
A+ word choice
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on October 02, 2014, 09:36:59 PM
If international student, high probability of looking for dat citizenship marriage.

Otherwise idk, maybe you're just a reasonable person and they enjoy your company and it isn't just because 'asian girl' since there is far more to that identifier than a single generalized persona :P

Majority of my friends are asian, and probably majority of that are female, but idk it just kind of happens I cant explain it
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on October 03, 2014, 03:38:27 AM
If international student, high probability of looking for dat citizenship marriage.

Yup. It's not like Asian girls just decide "hey I'm going to marry a white guy" when there are tons of Asian single guys around.

It could also be a status thing...don't think I can really explain it without sounding offensive. But usually the first thing I get asked from other Asians is, "Is he rich?" Now if you're as offensive as my sister, she considers it as a form of settling. Basically the Asian guys would only date the *hot* Asian girls.

On an unrelated topic, I keep getting proposed to in my dreams ._.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FireArrow on October 03, 2014, 05:15:27 AM
Most of the Asians I've talked to seem really proud of their race and would never date outside of it. Considering 90% of my friend are Asian, I actually find this really annoying. >_>

EDIT: With the exception of people who were raised outside of the U.S., they seem to care less for some reason.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on October 03, 2014, 08:19:41 AM
Hahaha are they mostly Korean? (I knew this Chinese guy that likes Korean girls, but he's had zero success getting any Korean girl to go out on a date with him because he's not Korean. Seriously. Being an engineer and driving a Lexus didn't help.)

I think I would watch Joy Luck Club again for the answer to the other one. I don't know any other answer but citizenship and status. Though interacting with their relatives might get awkward after a while.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: braixen1264 on October 03, 2014, 01:10:39 PM
Most of the Asians I've talked to seem really proud of their race and would never date outside of it. Considering 90% of my friend are Asian, I actually find this really annoying. >_>
As far as I know, the old Korean mindset is that you don't let your blood mix with other races.
Also it might just be that white girls look older than asian guys(imo anyway).
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on October 04, 2014, 08:46:55 AM
^That sounds about right...from what he said.

Okay, real question. How do I get someone to pay attention to me when he's playing the new Smash Brothers game?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FireArrow on October 04, 2014, 08:51:29 AM
Play with him obviously.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Waddle Bro on October 04, 2014, 09:26:41 AM
Shirt off
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on October 04, 2014, 02:03:02 PM
Pants off
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: K-NiGhT on October 04, 2014, 11:31:12 PM
Pants off
dance off
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Yugi on October 04, 2014, 11:42:00 PM
shoes off
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on October 05, 2014, 12:25:27 AM
Hands-off!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: K-NiGhT on October 05, 2014, 12:33:51 AM
HEAD-ON: APPLY DIRECTLY TO THE FOREHEAD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FireArrow on October 05, 2014, 06:52:00 AM
The posts got progressively less funny. D:
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on October 05, 2014, 11:57:57 AM
That's how it works around here
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: braixen1264 on October 05, 2014, 02:42:13 PM
That's how it works around here
It's starting to all make sense now
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on October 05, 2014, 03:51:11 PM
Is this the real life
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on October 06, 2014, 04:59:48 AM
If international student, high probability of looking for dat citizenship marriage.

Otherwise idk, maybe you're just a reasonable person and they enjoy your company and it isn't just because 'asian girl' since there is far more to that identifier than a single generalized persona :P

I was joking about the "having a thing for nerdy white guys" thing, haha. I just have no idea why, within the past 2 weeks, 6 people with no connection to one another started coming onto me pretty strong, and all of them are asian O.o

Although the citizenship thing might explain it for one girl in my theory class, lol

Shirt off
shoes off

service off

Also, obligatory C&H:
Spoiler
(http://www.lowbird.com/data/images/2010/11/hatoff-all.png)
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Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FireArrow on October 06, 2014, 06:10:20 AM
That's how it works around here

Luckily we have Fierce and C&H to change this
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Yugi on October 06, 2014, 06:48:04 AM
(http://i.imgur.com/c0tg0DM.png)
guys if i watch this video i'll learn how to marry a millionaire

Don't ask me why I'm getting these emails, I don't know why.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Maelstrom on October 06, 2014, 12:35:45 PM
It thinks your a girl because of your forum profile.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Waddle Bro on October 06, 2014, 01:26:21 PM
I need to know this loophole forward me the email asap
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Yugi on November 06, 2014, 05:31:53 AM
(http://i.imgur.com/Ve1SJcp.png)

guys i'm finally in a relationship
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: braixen1264 on November 06, 2014, 06:17:49 AM
whats swimmig

lel congretz
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on November 06, 2014, 02:45:42 PM
...wut
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on November 09, 2014, 06:12:51 AM
i think im being lowkey stalked .-.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on November 09, 2014, 06:25:27 AM
Clearly it isn't low key enough
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: braixen1264 on November 09, 2014, 06:44:34 AM
dammit, i've been revealed
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on November 10, 2014, 01:55:24 AM
Clearly it isn't low key enough
I love you fingerz
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on November 10, 2014, 01:56:19 AM
I love you fingerz

the truth comes out via epic freudian slip
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SuperFireKirby on November 10, 2014, 02:04:48 AM
Damnit, too late to edit. Screw you Slow! I'm gonna blame this one on being super exhausted from work. Also I'm gay for fingerz or Fierce or whatever the take away from this is

On another note, there's a super insanely pretty girl in my Chem lab I talk to a lot and I think I'm gonna ask her to go to Rocky Horror with me. Best first date because of how utterly polarizing Rocky Horror is. You either love it or you suck.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on November 10, 2014, 05:21:23 AM
I love you fingerz

I 100% forgive you, mainly because the idea of you hitting on fingerz just MMD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Yugi on November 10, 2014, 05:25:45 AM
(http://i.imgur.com/20K6qaZ.png)

I got another one.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on November 10, 2014, 07:57:36 AM
Yours TENACIOUSLY
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on November 10, 2014, 10:01:40 AM
These letters come across as borderline stalker-ish.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on November 10, 2014, 02:03:50 PM
"the honor to learn you more"
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on November 10, 2014, 03:46:48 PM
The fact that there are three individual instances of laughter followed by an ellipse is particularly funny to me.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: braixen1264 on November 11, 2014, 12:01:31 AM
The fact that there are three individual instances of laughter followed by an ellipse is particularly funny to me.
LOL...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on November 11, 2014, 12:03:23 AM
HAHAHA...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on February 24, 2015, 12:18:51 AM
Might as well post here because I do have some relevant stuff going on, even if it's a jumbled mess:

-This one girl in a friend group of mine keeps blatantly hitting on me despite my complete lack of reciprocation and it's making it pretty uncomfortable to hang out with them

-One girl in music here who I'm really into seems to kinda reciprocate that which is neat, and to top it off a friend from back home messaged me out of the blue "I have a friend in my program who's in Prague and you should date her" and was talking about this girl, so that was some kinda funny confirmation. But now it's kind of ambiguous as to whether she's dating this other guy, so I'm entirely unsure how to proceed. Probably asking a mutual friend for clarification soon.

-Another girl at this abroad site, my roommate from last semester and her roommate from last semester really wanted to set us up, so they thought Prague would be a great time to set us up. My roommate this semester also brought it up, saying he could set us up if I wanted, and while I think she's cute and really sweet and all, I don't actually know her that well, and I'd feel bad going into something likely long term while my heart's in other places, even if just to test the waters.

-There's another girl from that initial friend group who I kinda had a crush on last year, and she seems pretty into me now, but I've started realizing we wouldn't even remotely work as a long-term relationship. Then again, she also recently said the words "I don't believe in long-term relationships", and I still find her absurdly cute, so maybe I could actually look into that without hurting anyone?

Tl;dr idk what you thought before, but I don't actually have my shit together.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Xaoz on February 24, 2015, 01:02:57 AM
But now it's kind of ambiguous as to whether she's dating this other guy, so I'm entirely unsure how to proceed. Probably asking a mutual friend for clarification soon.

I think the best way to ask a girl out and to get more information about what she is actually looking for is
Spoiler
to just f***ing ask her out. Seriously, just ask her... Wtf is all this "Ask a friend to ask a friend to ask her about..."? I do not understand...
[close]

Still interesting. Make sure to keep us up to date with your progress and good luck!

-This one girl in a friend group of mine keeps blatantly hitting on me despite my complete lack of reciprocation and it's making it pretty uncomfortable to hang out with them

Ohh... Maybe that is the reason ZeldaFan does not talk to me on skype anymore... Hm...

Is she just hitting on you for fun, or is she serious about it? You should tell her if it's uncomfortable....

Conclusion: Just talk to people in an honest way...

I am such a good adviser, right?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FierceDeity on February 24, 2015, 01:17:45 AM
I think the best way to ask a girl out and to get more information about what she is actually looking for is
Spoiler
to just f***ing ask her out. Seriously, just ask her... Wtf is all this "Ask a friend to ask a friend to ask her about..."? I do not understand...
[close]

Oh no yeah, I may not be the most confident dude but even I would never have a friend actually interact with somebody for me. I just want to know if she's actually dating this person just because there are a lot of tangible, negative outcomes that could result from me asking without knowing, such as making things uncomfortable with that friend group (it's not just her that I risk alienating), or being too much of a dick to the guy, because honestly I kinda like him.

Is she just hitting on you for fun, or is she serious about it? You should tell her if it's uncomfortable....

It started off as completely serious, but now I think she's just continuing because she finds my (amply voiced) discomfort humorous, haha. It's not that bad, seeing as I just ignore her for the most part when I'm with those people, but I don't want to have to do that :/ I'm really not one for being an outright dick to people, ya know
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on February 24, 2015, 01:18:35 AM
Conclusion: Just talk to people in an honest way...
I think everybody could do good to listen to this advice.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Xaoz on February 24, 2015, 01:36:15 AM
Oh no yeah, I may not be the most confident dude but even I would never have a friend actually interact with somebody for me. I just want to know if she's actually dating this person just because there are a lot of tangible, negative outcomes that could result from me asking without knowing, such as making things uncomfortable with that friend group (it's not just her that I risk alienating), or being too much of a dick to the guy, because honestly I kinda like him.

Okay, let me boost your confidence: You can do it!
You have nice hair, are musical and eloquent. Woah... That is the nicest stuff I ever said to anyone like... ever... You see how much I want you to succeed on this!
There is nothing wrong with ever asking a girl out, when it is not obvious that she is in a realtionship. From what you say you seem to know her well enough to judge that. There is a good trick to actually find out if a girl is in a relationship:
Spoiler
"Are you currently in a relationship?" Of course, you can always be a bit more subtly...
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Obviously, it would be good to just check if she actually even likes you. You should keep the "you can touch my hair"-stuff for later.
Asking out a friend can always end up in a mess, but no risk, no fun! Just do it!

It started off as completely serious, but now I think she's just continuing because she finds my (amply voiced) discomfort humorous, haha. It's not that bad, seeing as I just ignore her for the most part when I'm with those people, but I don't want to have to do that :/ I'm really not one for being an outright dick to people, ya know

If you don't want to be, then stop ignoring her and tell her you are not interested. And you should make sure that she gets that you actually mean what you say.

I feel like my only advice is always to just talk to people... But damn, it is such a GOOD advice...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on February 24, 2015, 01:49:32 AM
No dating until you're married.

Looks like you've got a lot of cute girls to ask out, why not ask them all out?  You don't have to go steady but if there's a girl that you like a lot ask her out again and maybe it'll turn into a steady relationship

I've been on almost no dates and here I am giving dating advice
yeeee
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on February 24, 2015, 02:32:46 AM
But now it's kind of ambiguous as to whether she's dating this other guy, so I'm entirely unsure how to proceed. Probably asking a mutual friend for clarification soon.

So, I was introduced to some friend of a girl I know and he was like "oh I thought you were dated her" but in actuality it was just us hanging out very often since we are good friends and in the same major.  Don't overthink things is I guess what I'm saying lol
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on February 24, 2015, 04:02:32 AM
Lol I had one of those awkward conversations where this random classmate just suddenly said "Wait, you two AREN'T dating?" to this other guy in my class and this whiny girl that always talks about herself (and her diet of fries and soup) while I was with them. I'm usually seen with the other guy too, so I don't know what made her think that? (Not that I was interested but I was too lazy to make other friends at that time)

>_>
(http://www.bobsplans.com/BobsPlans/Doghouse/Images/Doghouse-500x500.jpg)
[close]
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sebastian on February 24, 2015, 05:06:34 AM
Lol I had one of those awkward conversations where this random classmate just suddenly said "Wait, you two AREN'T dating?" to this other guy in my class and this whiny girl that always talks about herself (and her diet of fries and soup) while I was with them. I'm usually seen with the other guy too, so I don't know what made her think that? (Not that I was interested but I was too lazy to make other friends at that time)
Are you in school or college?
Just wondering. :)
Saria is 15 (according to her profile) so I just assume you are in college :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on February 24, 2015, 05:14:37 AM
SO I NEED TO ASK SOMEONE TO PROM BUT IDK HOW TO ASK A STRANGER.  ANYONE DONE IT BEFORE?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: fingerz on February 24, 2015, 05:45:26 AM
I'm free, if you require my services. Not free of charge, though. You'll have to pay for my flights and accommodation. :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on February 24, 2015, 06:09:06 AM
SO I NEED TO ASK SOMEONE TO PROM BUT IDK HOW TO ASK A STRANGER.  ANYONE DONE IT BEFORE?
YES

DONT ASK A STRANGER

in all seriousness I can speak from experience that it is not a nice thing when someone you've never talked to EVER asks you to prom, no matter how flattering you may think it is
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on February 24, 2015, 06:14:27 AM
okay well I'd be asking someone who knows who I am
but the thing is when I was younger, believe it or not, I was really annoying.  I can't believe nobody punched me.  I would've punched myself.  So I kind of had a bad reputation with EVERYONE.  I was mature for about a year where I sat quietly in my classes and said nothing, then I jumped at the chance to go to college.  So I don't really know anyone from my school well enough to be like hey, go to prom with me flowers cards chocolate stuffed animals bad puns?  Is it okay just to ask someone to prom, basically.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on February 24, 2015, 06:17:33 AM
hrmmm I still say no but whatever

Why are you so eager to go to prom though? There's nothing wrong with going alone- in fact I'm planning for it this year.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on February 24, 2015, 06:33:44 AM
Senior prom and whatnot
big occasion doncha know
it doesn't help that half the girls in my school are already going steady with someone
I hate modern dating conventions
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Latios212 on February 24, 2015, 06:37:58 AM


I hate modern dating conventions

Then why bother with them? I spent the time of prom just chilling with a group of friends somewhere far away without any of that kind of pressure - it was more fun that way. Cheaper, too [emoji14]
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on February 24, 2015, 06:44:53 AM
Let me rephrase what I said before. Don't ask a stranger to prom if you're not prepared to GO to prom. If you  ask them you're basically promising them a fun time together and you better be prepared to deliver.

But like you said, senior prom, big stuff. Don't ask some girl and ruin her experience if you're just asking her so you can have a date
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: DrP on February 24, 2015, 06:48:27 AM
I hate modern dating conventions
I just reactivated my Tinder and got another app to try these modern dating conventions.

People of CA come at me.

Maybe I'll find a lucky girl/guy.

Otherwise, I'm just gonna ask my friends to start setting me up.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on February 24, 2015, 07:16:41 AM
okay well I'd be asking someone who knows who I am
but the thing is when I was younger, believe it or not, I was really annoying.  I can't believe nobody punched me.  I would've punched myself.  So I kind of had a bad reputation with EVERYONE.  I was mature for about a year where I sat quietly in my classes and said nothing, then I jumped at the chance to go to college.  So I don't really know anyone from my school well enough to be like hey, go to prom with me flowers cards chocolate stuffed animals bad puns?  Is it okay just to ask someone to prom, basically.

I got asked to my junior prom by a guy I had one math class with. So, I guess? If you know them and they seem to at least like you as a friend.

Prom doesn't have to be some big romantic thing.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on February 24, 2015, 07:33:30 AM
Prom is dumb, and I'm not just saying that because I got stood up(to an extent) at my senior prom, but rather because high school dating itself is frivolous.  But this isn't my place to bitch and moan.  You want to have fun at prom?  Unless you enjoy formal dances, save some money and just go to after prom with some friends, imo much more enjoyable.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on February 24, 2015, 07:52:22 AM
Prom doesn't have to be some big romantic thing.
that's kind of my goal here, just making it casual, but with a person I don't know very well
Unless you enjoy formal dances
actually I do haha
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FireArrow on February 24, 2015, 08:06:47 AM
The fun part about prom isn't the actual prom... but how are you a 16 year old senior wut?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on February 24, 2015, 09:05:52 AM
Prom is dumb, and I'm not just saying that because I got stood up(to an extent) at my senior prom, but rather because high school dating itself is frivolous.  But this isn't my place to bitch and moan.  You want to have fun at prom?  Unless you enjoy formal dances, save some money and just go to after prom with some friends, imo much more enjoyable.
It seems to me like people really make a big deal about prom, yet... the idea of such events doesn't really appeal to me.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Yugi on February 24, 2015, 10:05:19 AM
um so

in pe we're doing a dancing unit and the teacher picked who would be paired up for the whole unit


he paired me up with my crush 


what do i do
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Clanker37 on February 24, 2015, 10:12:39 AM
Take this opportunity by the balls.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on February 24, 2015, 10:13:12 AM
um so

in pe we're doing a dancing unit and the teacher picked who would be paired up for the whole unit


he paired me up with my crush 


what do i do
well, dance

what else would you be doing
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: KefkaticFanatic on February 24, 2015, 10:59:10 AM
um so

in pe we're doing a dancing unit and the teacher picked who would be paired up for the whole unit


he paired me up with my crush 


what do i do

Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: AwesomeYears on February 24, 2015, 11:08:10 AM
um so

in pe we're doing a dancing unit and the teacher picked who would be paired up for the whole unit


he paired me up with my crush 


what do i do
Lol, happened to me last year :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on February 24, 2015, 04:57:28 PM
how are you a 16 year old senior wut?
magic
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on February 24, 2015, 04:58:08 PM
The fun part about prom isn't the actual prom... but how are you a 16 year old senior wut?

I was a sixteen year old senior lolol
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: K-NiGhT on February 24, 2015, 05:38:05 PM
Senior prom and whatnot
big occasion doncha know
nah I skipped that shit
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Saria on February 24, 2015, 11:29:59 PM
um so

in pe we're doing a dancing unit and the teacher picked who would be paired up for the whole unit


he paired me up with my crush 


what do i do
wen u hug, whisper in her ear, "dont go home. he knows" or "i see ded ppl" or "your hair smells good" or "i want fried chicken" (BECUZ ITS HIGHLY LIKELY SHE'D HAV FRIED CHICKEN N U GUYZ COULD GO IN THE CORNER 2GETHER 2 EET SUM)

Nah don't do any of those things. DONT BE CREEPY. DONT SMELL HER. DONT BE STRAIGHTFORWARD SAYING "i want u now." If it's ballroom dancing DONT MOVE YOUR HAND DOWN.

*video*
AGAHAHAHAHAHA
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on February 24, 2015, 11:39:00 PM
wen u hug, whisper in her ear, "dont go home. he knows" or "i see ded ppl" or "your hair smells good" or "i want fried chicken" (BECUZ ITS HIGHLY LIKELY SHE'D HAV FRIED CHICKEN N U GUYZ COULD GO IN THE CORNER 2GETHER 2 EET SUM)
Spoiler
(http://oi57.tinypic.com/kajmt4.jpg)
[close]
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on February 25, 2015, 12:19:01 AM
Nah don't do any of those things. DONT BE CREEPY. DONT SMELL HER. DONT BE STRAIGHTFORWARD SAYING "i want u now." If it's ballroom dancing DONT MOVE YOUR HAND DOWN.
but what if she smells good

like really really good
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sebastian on February 25, 2015, 12:22:07 AM
but what if she smells good

like really really good
Most girls are :P
But yeah. She's right. Don't do anything creepy.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Saria on February 25, 2015, 01:00:46 AM
but what if she smells good

like really really good
Just don't take obvious deep breaths or comment on her smell akaka

You could compliment her like "you have pretty eyes" but don't be complimenting her all the time because that would make you sound obsessed.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: braixen1264 on February 25, 2015, 01:06:14 AM
or just walk up and say hi and walk away
who cares about dancing
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on February 25, 2015, 05:37:50 AM
mmm...
I really like how you smell!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Saria on March 02, 2015, 05:28:39 PM
My manhunk is so cute. I like to look at him during class. It's distracting. Should I mutilate his face so I could focus in class.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ETFROXX on March 02, 2015, 05:45:31 PM
That really seems like the only logical course of action!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on March 02, 2015, 09:20:38 PM
My manhunk is so cute. I like to look at him during class. It's distracting. Should I mutilate his face so I could focus in class.
No! If they find out, you will go to prison! :o Of course, that would solve the distraction problem...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on March 02, 2015, 09:45:53 PM
"This is how I played it growing up!"
"WHERE DID YOU GROW UP?!?"
"In prison."
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on March 02, 2015, 09:59:11 PM
So if things move along nicely with cute guy friend I'm gonna need to know some stuff.

a. how do i tell when someone is flirting
b. how do i flirt
c. how do i not look stupid when flirting
d. how do i pick up signs if he's interested in me
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on March 02, 2015, 10:09:04 PM
A) Innuendo, generally speaking.
B) Physical contact usually does the trick for most guys. They're not wired to handle subtlety.
C) Not possible.
D) He keeps engaging with you in anything.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on March 02, 2015, 10:13:46 PM
"Sending signals is like flirting- it happens naturally, but once you start thinking about it, it becomes impossible."
Don't remember who said that but I'm sure the opposite is also true (flirting is like sending signals)
So if you wanna get good at flirting, play MTG
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on March 02, 2015, 10:17:36 PM
So basically play it cool even though there's a good chance I can turn into a nervous idiot, got it.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on March 02, 2015, 10:17:57 PM
So basically play it cool even though there's a good chance I can turn into a nervous idiot, got it.
Welcome to the wonderful world of dating.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on March 02, 2015, 10:24:50 PM
Rats. Well I get to date a cute boy if things work out, so I guess it can't be that bad, huh?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on March 03, 2015, 12:15:56 AM
Rats. Well I get to date a cute boy if things work out, so I guess it can't be that bad, huh?
then you break up with him but you want to stay friends because they're really cool and they were your best friend before you started dating. so you both make slight efforts to hang out after that, but one of you has a really busy schedule and slight efforts aren't enough. So even though you consider yourselves "friends" after the break-up, you've only ever been to her house after that in order to take care of her cats/turtle while she's out on vacation. she made a drawing for you and posted it on facebook, that was nice. but whenever you suggest hanging out or delivering a birthday present, she's either not home or she forgets about it the next day. A month later, you realize the cookies you were going to give her to reestablish your friendship are slightly expired, so you share it with your brother who is visiting from another country. they taste good.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on March 03, 2015, 12:26:06 AM
that's not good advice 0/10 try again
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on March 03, 2015, 12:27:25 AM
GREAT WALL OF TEXT
*brain explodes*
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on March 03, 2015, 01:28:36 AM
Oh dear, Nebbles, had I known you needed such help.  Here we go.
a. how do i tell when someone is flirting
b. how do i flirt
c. how do i not look stupid when flirting
d. how do i pick up signs if he's interested in me

An answer isn't cut and dry, but for the most part:
   a) Body language and speech patterns.  Are they speaking in ways considered atypical from their normal?  Are they more complimentary? Less?  Could what they are saying have other intentions(see b)?  Do they keep eye contact when talking to you?  Do they try to get close to you(in a non-creepy way)? Do they shy away?  Pay attention for light perspiration and flushed complexion.

   b) Answer me this: what is the objective of flirting?  To display/imply/make known your intentions either subtly or not.  If the goal is sex, innuendo and physical contact are ideal options as Maestro said.  If the goal is a steady relationship or if you are unsure of yourself, compliments and cuteness(batting eyelashes, light giggling) can go a long way.

   c)Wrong question to ask.  'How do I not embarrass myself while flirting?' is a better one.  Know your comfort zone.  If you think you would be uncomfortable doing something, then find something similar that you are comfortable with.  Be yourself, I know that phase has been beaten to death, but it's true and more often than not, it works.

   d)See answer to a.  If they appear to reciprocate your actions/compliments/etc., they are most likely interested.  If you are confident enough and think you're both ready, you can just ask. ::)

Flirting is weird.  It's all about taking chances, trying to find out what works, like a strange game of mao.  As I said before, be yourself, you'll be fine.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on March 03, 2015, 01:30:29 AM
sheikah no!  You can't make it so complicated!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on March 03, 2015, 01:36:37 AM
Relationships are complicated!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on March 03, 2015, 01:52:32 AM
Why thank you, Sheikah! :D We're hanging out again soon, so I figured I should try to look for these things, if anything...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on March 03, 2015, 01:57:11 AM
I have a scary intuition for when someone has a crush... In the last year I've noticed something was off with four different people and within a week they asked someone out.

Anyway it's a dangerous season for high schoolers not looking for a prom date rn >.> I'm just trying to live
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on March 03, 2015, 02:01:17 AM
I could sure use that intuition lol
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on March 03, 2015, 06:39:58 AM
Anyway it's a dangerous season for high schoolers not looking for a prom date rn >.>
(https://33.media.tumblr.com/913ba20bccf008a0502ab3ac903749a7/tumblr_mv7eif3LY81rwva3mo5_500.gif)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on March 08, 2015, 10:33:17 PM
I was having a really nice time with a group of people including one guy who seriously brightens my mood everyday (we both liked each other at one point but its purely platonic now i think) and he just casually mentioned he has the really bad type of lymes. I'm not really ranting because it's not my place to, but I actually almost started crying right in front of him because apparently I didn't know how much I cared about him :(

Anyway this weekend had a bunch of bonding, both romantically and platonically and i am v happy and v tired
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on March 08, 2015, 10:44:57 PM
Cute guy friend apologized to me for not having super great communication when trying to plan hang outs because work had kept him super busy and he said he doesn't want to seem like he's being flaky with me, so that made me pretty happy. Poor boy really does want to hang out, he's just so busy...
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Shadoninja on March 08, 2015, 10:58:56 PM
post.
I ship it.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: fingerz on March 09, 2015, 03:29:15 AM
I have a scary intuition for when someone has a crush...
Yup, me too! But it doesn't work for me, so proving the point that all amazing abilities have their downfall... XD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on March 09, 2015, 04:02:04 AM
I ship it.
He's half a foot shorter than me and taken so

Yup, me too! But it doesn't work for me, so proving the point that all amazing abilities have their downfall... XD
Yep, thats the same for me. I hate getting caught off guard but what can you do
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sebastian on March 09, 2015, 04:53:27 AM
Cute guy friend apologized to me for not having super great communication when trying to plan hang outs because work had kept him super busy and he said he doesn't want to seem like he's being flaky with me, so that made me pretty happy. Poor boy really does want to hang out, he's just so busy...
You should post a pic of him. I'm very very curious of what he looks like.....
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on March 09, 2015, 04:56:15 AM
...that's very creepy to post a picture of someone on the internet without their permission/knowing. I mean, if we end up dating and take a cute picture together or something, sure.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sebastian on March 09, 2015, 04:59:10 AM
I mean, if we end up dating and take a cute picture together or something, sure.
Yeah, this is what I meant. I wouldn't want you to post a pic of him without his permission :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Yugi on March 09, 2015, 05:18:20 AM
I ship it.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on March 09, 2015, 05:20:23 AM
(http://www.troll.me/images/bush/ship-it.jpg)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sebastian on March 09, 2015, 05:21:37 AM
(http://www.troll.me/images/bush/ship-it.jpg)
XD lol
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FireArrow on March 12, 2015, 01:47:03 AM
You know when you can't tell if someone is dropping hints or not? Bluh, I'm so dense.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on March 12, 2015, 03:49:43 AM
You know when you can't tell if someone is dropping hints or not? Bluh, I'm so dense.
...Or they're being way too subtle.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ZeldaFan on March 12, 2015, 04:18:32 AM
In my experience, guys are usually pretty dense, so it's not just you. Subtle hints don't work so a girl often has to just come right out and say "I like you" or "Let's hang out" or whatever

But honestly I wish guys would do that too!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on March 12, 2015, 04:52:17 AM
In my experience, guys are usually pretty dense, so it's not just you. Subtle hints don't work so a girl often has to just come right out and say "I like you" or "Let's hang out" or whatever

But honestly I wish guys would do that too!
The problem for many people is that they don't want to misinterpret something that wasn't a "hint" as a "hint," and thus come across the wrong way.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: fingerz on March 12, 2015, 04:57:22 AM
You know when you can't tell if someone is dropping hints or not? Bluh, I'm so dense.
Hahaha! Nope, I can tell if someone's hinting at something no matter how slight it is... So long as I don't like 'em myself. If I do, I don't know what they're doing anymore. XD

Seriously, my friends come to me to ask if someone we know potentially likes 'em. I've not been wrong to date. :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FireArrow on March 25, 2015, 03:59:00 AM
The problem for many people is that they don't want to misinterpret something that wasn't a "hint" as a "hint," and thus come across the wrong way.

Yeah this. I need fingerz powa ;-;
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on March 25, 2015, 05:07:49 AM
So things between cute guy friend and I didn't work out. He told me we're just friends, but hey, he's still a cool dude and I'm happy we're able to still hang out and be pals.

'tis always more fish in the sea.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Saria on March 25, 2015, 05:15:41 AM
At least you're still friends, that's always good. =D It's a lot better than not being able to talk to them anymore. Keeping them in your life is good enough.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on March 25, 2015, 05:16:17 AM
Indeed! We're still gonna be great pals and continue to hang out, so no harm is done at all, and that's all that matters.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on March 25, 2015, 05:23:44 AM
Sorry to hear that it didn't work out Nebbles, but hey, friends is still good, and you seem to have made out better that most would have in that situation.  So yeah, yay friendship!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on March 25, 2015, 05:32:39 AM
I mean, he just said "I don't want to lead you on, we're just friends here" so I was like "welp, that answers my questions" so it's all settled pretty much.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: DrP on March 25, 2015, 06:14:00 AM
That's good he was open and forthcoming with it.

I know of so many people that just string someone along until the other person breaks down and freaks out. (I know because I've been there -_-)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on March 25, 2015, 06:15:38 AM
Ouch.  Sudden, but important to say/hear.

I know of so many people that just string someone along until the other person breaks down and freaks out. (I know because I've been there -_-)
Preach it brother, me too.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on March 25, 2015, 06:22:40 AM
Well, I had confronted him about the lack of communication that was happening, and he said that. Which is good, you know, so I wasn't being strung along for months thinking I was gonna get a date here. That type of honesty is good, yo! He wasn't rude about it.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on March 25, 2015, 06:29:59 AM
I'm glad you have a positive outlook about all this.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on March 25, 2015, 06:34:19 AM
It's not like I was hopelessly in love or anything, it was a crush yeah, but I'm still keeping him as a friend and we're both not awkward about it. I take this as a good thing - we're friends, it's not awkward, I'll move on and find another crush sooner or later.

I like being positive. It gives me a better outlook on things.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on March 25, 2015, 12:58:22 PM
at least he wasn't too scared to let you down and hatch a plot with his sister to act as his girlfriend to well-meaningly crush your soul
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on March 25, 2015, 01:09:39 PM
what a way to start the 100th page
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Maelstrom on March 25, 2015, 01:15:27 PM
what a way to start the 100th page
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on March 25, 2015, 03:42:14 PM
Who knows, maybe one day he will see the light and you can escape that dreaded "friend zone."

Or he's gay, so you were doomed from the start.

I have to appeal to both sides of the spectrum of optimistic/pessimistic outcomes.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on March 25, 2015, 10:51:46 PM
what a way to start the 100th page
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on March 25, 2015, 11:00:44 PM
Who knows, maybe one day he will see the light and you can escape that dreaded "friend zone."

Or he's gay, so you were doomed from the start.

I have to appeal to both sides of the spectrum of optimistic/pessimistic outcomes.

Well quite frankly I'm a goddamned delight, so if he doesn't see that, his loss.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FireArrow on March 26, 2015, 02:49:51 AM
I'd turn straight for you any day. <3
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on March 26, 2015, 03:13:14 AM
LMAO what a compliment friend, thank you
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on March 26, 2015, 03:30:01 AM
Oh yeah? Well I'd re-turn straight for you every other Thursday!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on March 26, 2015, 04:21:02 AM
Every other Thursday? Oh my.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on March 26, 2015, 04:23:09 AM
How dare you accost me in such a way! I'm a happily married man, thank you.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sebastian on March 26, 2015, 04:26:49 AM
I'd turn straight for you any day. <3
^
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on March 26, 2015, 05:20:11 AM
I already am straight and am trying to get da wimminz without luck
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: fingerz on March 26, 2015, 05:28:03 AM
That's my case in a nutshell too, but quite frankly I think I've become even pickier than usual... My brain seems to think only the best of the best will do. I'm yet to come across one of them that ACTUALLY likes me. :P
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on March 26, 2015, 11:59:12 PM
I'd turn straight for you any day. <3
^
what
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sebastian on March 27, 2015, 12:21:40 AM
what
*laughs hysterically*
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on March 27, 2015, 12:37:35 AM
what a way to end the 100th page
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on March 27, 2015, 01:42:24 AM
Okay, that's pretty funny xD
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MaestroUGC on March 31, 2015, 02:34:54 AM
After a 2 year search I have finally found the 4th Mrs. Maestro.

I hope she likes the first 3.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on March 31, 2015, 02:50:12 AM
After a 2 year search I have finally found the 4th Mrs. Maestro.

I hope she likes the first 3.

As long as you're not Bluebeard lol
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: the_last_sheikah on March 31, 2015, 03:48:29 AM
As long as you're not Bluebeard lol
(http://i3.kym-cdn.com/entries/icons/original/000/017/204/CaptainAmerica1_zps8c295f96.JPG)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sebastian on March 31, 2015, 08:57:52 PM
*picture*
*clap clap clap clap clap*
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MasterProX on December 15, 2015, 07:26:54 AM
Sigh... girls are difficult. (Pertinent bump...)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Saria on December 15, 2015, 07:29:24 AM
some guys are just as difficult
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on December 15, 2015, 07:32:52 AM
some guys are just as difficult
sorry
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dudeman on December 15, 2015, 08:04:22 AM
HOLY CRAP CAN YOU PEOPLE THAT HAVEN'T SHOWN UP FOR EXTENDED PERIODS OF TIME STOP DOING THAT THING IT'S WEIRDING ME OUT
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FireArrow on December 15, 2015, 08:14:40 AM
I should try and get bloo to make a post.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nana1Popo2 on December 15, 2015, 08:41:51 AM
HOLY CRAP CAN YOU PEOPLE THAT HAVEN'T SHOWN UP FOR EXTENDED PERIODS OF TIME STOP DOING THAT THING IT'S WEIRDING ME OUT

(http://i3.kym-cdn.com/entries/icons/original/000/017/204/CaptainAmerica1_zps8c295f96.JPG)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on December 15, 2015, 09:10:05 AM
Quantum chemistry is harder than understanding wimminz.

Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Sebastian on December 15, 2015, 04:34:18 PM
I should try and get bloo to make a post.
Don't bother. I try every day :/
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Pianist Da Sootopolis on January 02, 2016, 04:09:35 AM
It's worth noting, though, that the most of people's disagreements with Blue came from the politics and religion threads. He could of easily stayed and contributed to the site while staying out of those if he couldn't handle it or didn't want to handle it or whatever the situation is.
It seems to me Blue was ready to be done with NSM, unlike Deku who seemed to just gone on indefinite break rather than saying "I'm gone and not coming back" kind of thing.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on January 02, 2016, 04:25:24 AM
It's worth noting, though, that the most of people's disagreements with Blue came from the politics and religion threads. He could of easily stayed and contributed to the site while staying out of those if he couldn't handle it or didn't want to handle it or whatever the situation is.
It seems to me Blue was ready to be done with NSM, unlike Deku who seemed to just gone on indefinite break rather than saying "I'm gone and not coming back" kind of thing.
for someone who's so smart, you sure make a lot of common grammar errors
anyway, a lot of people on this site are pretty dumb when it comes to important topics and blue was sick of trying to explain to these certain people exactly what they were doing wrong (hint: calling people bigots for standing up for their beliefs is not a cool thing to do).  So it wasn't those 2 threads that caused problems, it was the people ridiculing him for his personal ideology.  Also why even post 16 days late about something that doesn't even have to do with the topic
PDS pls
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on January 02, 2016, 05:32:43 AM
for someone who's so smart, you sure make a lot of common grammar errors
anyway, a lot of people on this site are pretty dumb when it comes to important topics and blue was sick of trying to explain to these certain people exactly what they were doing wrong (hint: calling people bigots for standing up for their beliefs is not a cool thing to do).  So it wasn't those 2 threads that caused problems, it was the people ridiculing him for his personal ideology.  Also why even post 16 days late about something that doesn't even have to do with the topic
PDS pls

Hope you're being sarcastic.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on January 02, 2016, 05:38:47 AM
hope you know you're one of those people  ::)
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on January 02, 2016, 05:48:03 AM
hope you know you're one of those people  ::)

Hope you're being sarcastic.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on January 02, 2016, 05:52:11 AM
wtf am I reading

BTW, our new mods sure are doing a great job at keeping the peace!!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Pianist Da Sootopolis on January 02, 2016, 05:54:05 AM
The Hall of Quotes abridged.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dudeman on January 02, 2016, 05:56:04 AM
BTW, our new mods sure are doing a great job at keeping the peace!!
No one's been insultingly burned yet. Let's keep it that way.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on January 02, 2016, 05:57:05 AM
From a biased point of view, I guess.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Pianist Da Sootopolis on January 02, 2016, 05:59:22 AM
A mod can't stop all arguments. That's impossible. The mod's job is to make it so we don't have all hell breaking loose- not equivalent to the usual run-of-the-mill arguments between the two unspoken kinds of people at NSM.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on January 02, 2016, 06:47:35 AM
No one's been insultingly burned yet. Let's keep it that way.

From a biased point of view, I guess.

If it's anything I learned from the internet is that suddenly people can lose their ability to read. Whether the reasoning is there is up for debate. Kind of like the dwarf with the axe in his head, I think people only hear what they want to hear from that guy.

The mod's job is to make it so we don't have all hell breaking loose- not equivalent to the usual run-of-the-mill arguments between the two unspoken kinds of people at NSM.

*Everyone* should be better at keeping their heads down, yes. But thanks for saying that so I don't have to.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on January 02, 2016, 07:02:02 AM
I saw this thread got posted in and thought I was gonna get a juicy relationship problem that I could help work through >:[ someone better either cut the argument or bring me some love trouble
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: NocturneOfShadow on January 02, 2016, 07:03:14 AM
I saw this thread got posted in and thought I was gonna get a juicy relationship problem that I could help work through >:[ someone better either cut the argument or bring me some love trouble
there aren't any cute girls in my town wat do
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on January 02, 2016, 07:05:29 AM
there aren't any cute girls in my town wat do
Rethink your definition of cute ; ) cuteness is far more prevalent in personality traits than physical appearances, but you'll never see those traits if you turn them away without getting to know them
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Jub3r7 on January 02, 2016, 07:11:10 AM
im trying to call this one person to arrange a date but they arent picking up the phone, and there's a 99% chance neither of us will have time to hang out once school starts


...i guess i could just text them or send them a facebook message?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on January 02, 2016, 07:17:14 AM
Yes a text based message would definitely be better. They might be uncomfortable with picking up the phone, or live a busy life where they don't have enough time to have a conversation like that. Texting would let them answer on their own time and also ensure that they're actually getting the message.

Good luck!!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: ZeldaFan on January 02, 2016, 07:25:25 AM
there aren't any cute girls in my town wat do
Wait are you living in Tooele rn?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FireArrow on January 02, 2016, 07:40:09 AM
Yeah, everyone texts now anyways. get wit duh times

No one's been insultingly burned yet. Let's keep it that way.

Because noc's post is totally within forum rules?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Pianist Da Sootopolis on January 02, 2016, 08:19:53 AM
for someone who's so smart, you sure make a lot of common grammar errors
anyway, a lot of people on this site are pretty dumb when it comes to important topics and blue was sick of trying to explain to these certain people exactly what they were doing wrong (hint: calling people bigots for standing up for their beliefs is not a cool thing to do).  So it wasn't those 2 threads that caused problems, it was the people ridiculing him for his personal ideology.  Also why even post 16 days late about something that doesn't even have to do with the topic
PDS pls
Yeah. This one was, anyways.
hope you know you're one of those people  ::)
And while this isn't the nicest thing to say, banning people because they're mean is a bit authoritarian. Everyone is perceived as mean by someone (though some more than others).

That said, I shall actually respond to this post, in the debate topic.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on January 02, 2016, 08:21:22 AM
That said, I shall actually respond to this post, in the [not dating drama] topic.
thank
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: SlowPokemon on January 03, 2016, 01:16:13 AM
im trying to call this one person to arrange a date but they arent picking up the phone, and there's a 99% chance neither of us will have time to hang out once school starts


...i guess i could just text them or send them a facebook message?

oh my god
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BoywithoutaFairy on January 08, 2016, 12:50:55 AM
i have no idea what to do. Me and my girlfriend are extremely close. Right now though, I am a senior in high school. She is a sophomore. We attend a school that in its own right is something like a boarding school so we both live in different parts of the state. We are also both visually impaired so there is no chance either one of us will have a driver's license. What should i do?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Altissimo on January 08, 2016, 12:53:09 AM
1) how long you been dating
2) is there a reason this is a problem *now*?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Pianist Da Sootopolis on January 08, 2016, 01:21:37 AM
You'll have to make the decision (preferably with your girlfriends input) of whether or not you want to go long distance. It's a tough choice, and one that's entirely your own. However, it should be said that long distance relationships are nearly if not always quite hard; that being said, if you feel the relationship is worth enough to you to keep going (which it seems you do), then by all means try and make it work long distance.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BoywithoutaFairy on January 08, 2016, 03:10:20 AM
1) how long you been dating
2) is there a reason this is a problem *now*?

1. about 6 months, however me and her seem to have a stronger connection and more ease with communicating than people who i've dated for a long period of time
2. i'm just saying this is a problem because the date is fast approaching
You'll have to make the decision (preferably with your girlfriends input) of whether or not you want to go long distance. It's a tough choice, and one that's entirely your own. However, it should be said that long distance relationships are nearly if not always quite hard; that being said, if you feel the relationship is worth enough to you to keep going (which it seems you do), then by all means try and make it work long distance.

I don't know how she'll take it. I know first hand how hard it can be and I'm willing to bear with it. The problem comes with how exactly to talk to her about it. We both generally try to avoid the subject about me graduating bc it's kind of disheartening topic for the both of us.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Oronoco on January 08, 2016, 03:50:01 AM
Is there any chance of you ending up near each other after High School?

Even if you are far apart, things can still have a way of working out. I don't have a long-distance relationship like yours, but I do live a long distance from each of my siblings and High School friends I was close to. We hardly stay in touch. But, there are times when we're able to meet together, and when we do, I always feel just as close to them, if not closer, than we were before.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on January 08, 2016, 03:51:31 AM
I have high school friends that go away for college, but we stay connected via Skype and it works wonderfully, then when we're all back in the same area, we hang out.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BoywithoutaFairy on January 08, 2016, 04:32:58 AM
The most likely situation for us is that we won't be able to be near each other again until after college.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FireArrow on January 08, 2016, 04:38:55 AM
If you're afraid a long distance relationship could hurt the connection between you two, you can always put the relationship on hold until you guys live near each other again. You also have to ask yourself if this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with - if not continuing may be more pain than it's worth.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on January 08, 2016, 04:41:07 AM
That's also a good point. It can be a hard question to ask at this point if you want to spend your life with this person, but it might offer some guidance. Also, you two should talk about it. Communication is key in any good relationship, and you two can make a solution both are happy with.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Zunawe on January 08, 2016, 04:42:12 AM
Despite what people tend to say, I have seen long distance work well. The problem comes from when people have doubts about it working. I wouldn't expect that you won't see each other until after college. Going to college, even out of state, is not the same as moving away. All this being said, this is a conversation you need to have with her. It'll just take the courage to bring it up.

Double ninja'd.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BoywithoutaFairy on January 08, 2016, 04:54:31 AM
I think both of us want to spend the rest of our lives together. It does kind of sound silly to say since she's 16 and I'm 18 and relationships at this age don't generally work out but we both get the feeling that there is more than just romance in the air (now that's a skyward sword pun right there). For both of us, this relationship has been the first where every problem was talked out between the both of us and a solution was reached. It has been the first time either of us has been able to talk to someone who could really understand who we are. We share the same political and religious beliefs. I think the both of us are less concerned with being long-distance and more concerned with how we will be able to get back to a closer distance relationship. As I said we are both visually impaired so a lot of our resources are limited with transportation being the most difficult.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on January 08, 2016, 04:56:37 AM
Ahhh, then hmm. I don't know how to help in that department. Maybe discuss it with your parents? Would they be willing to help provide transport?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BoywithoutaFairy on January 08, 2016, 05:04:41 AM
as of right now the plan is that after i graduate I'm going to attend a community college that is actually pretty close to the school. After that she'll be graduating high school and I'll be moving out of my parents house and going to a four year college in the southern region of the state (i live in the northern region). She plans to go to a trade school for two years in the central part of the state. After that's over I'll still be in college for another two years. Right now neither of us know which one will be easier but we seem to have 3 options
1) long distance relationship for the whole time i'm in four year college than I move closer
2) she completes trade school and then moves closer to me
3) we both finish all our schooling and both move to somewhere between where we were previously living

If you can think of anything else let me know but that's all we've been able to think of.
And it is highly unlikely that we will be able to get assistance from either of our parents. (we both only have a mother)
OMG I'm listening to the midi files of my favorite arrangements and the song "I Don't Want to Say Goodbye" came on. F**ked up timing
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on January 08, 2016, 05:20:44 AM
When you say you go to a boarding school do you mean you literally sleep over/live there or it just draws students from a large area?

What are you guys doing now if you say you won't be able to visit her after you graduate--just being together during school?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BoywithoutaFairy on January 08, 2016, 05:27:01 AM
I mean that we literally spend weeks at a time living at the school. The school currently draws in students from all areas of the state. And yes the only time we see each other is at school. Of we have tons of things we do off-campus after school hours and on weekends but we never see each other otherwise.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FireArrow on January 08, 2016, 06:08:47 AM
There isn't a way you guys could plan to go to the same 4-year college is there?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BoywithoutaFairy on January 08, 2016, 06:22:42 AM
She's not planning on going to college. She's planning to go to a trade school
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dude on February 03, 2016, 09:34:06 PM
Ok so I need a good free dating site that has an option for gay men.

Preferably not tinder or grindr or anything phone based.

Halp.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FireArrow on February 03, 2016, 09:40:09 PM
http://www.farmersonly.com/

I dunno, match.com and other popular sites are usually gay friendly and are gonna have a lot more selection. They're not bi friendly though so yeah idk.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: MasterProX on February 16, 2016, 08:37:36 AM
Sigh... girls are difficult. (Pertinent bump...)


In retrospect, I'm not quite sure why I made this post.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on May 01, 2016, 05:49:41 AM
bumping my fav thread :-)

One of my friend's friends saw me with her and was interested so he asked her for my number and we've been talking for a little bit now. But the two times he's seen me I've been sitting down, so he doesn't actually know how tall I am (I'm 99% sure I'm  taller than him) and I've never brought it up 😬 should I tell him or should I keep it a surprise for when I see him again and I'm actually standing up
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on May 01, 2016, 05:56:03 AM
Be natural. Don't hide it, but don't place specific emphasis on it by mentioning it deliberately.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on May 01, 2016, 06:03:19 AM
Well yeah but it's kinda an important thing so even not mentioning it could be along the lines of hiding it. Like you're going to tell someone you're talking to if you have an std (if you're not a terrible person anyway) because for most people, that's kinda a deal breaker. You wouldn't wait to let them figure it out
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Olimar12345 on May 01, 2016, 06:07:44 AM
Your height is not comparable to an std lmao. BDS is right, just be natural about it.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: BlackDragonSlayer on May 01, 2016, 06:13:55 AM
Height is pretty different, though; if you don't tell someone "Hey, by the way, I'm actually really tall," it's not going to physically impact them in any way (and if they decide they don't want to date you because you're tall, the end result is the same, and you dodged a bullet!). Also, it's kind of an obvious physical feature once they meet you and see you standing up (which, based on your post, might be happening soon). If you do tell someone that (as in, drawing specific attention to it with no prompt from the other person), and they don't mind at all, then you could come across as self-conscious or insecure, which generally doesn't leave a favorable impression.

ninja'd
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on May 01, 2016, 06:27:17 AM
Your height is not comparable to an std lmao. BDS is right, just be natural about it.
im bad at analogies okay

I think I'm just curious to see if in the end things don't work out its because of my height or something else. I don't like hearing people say things like "if he doesn't like your height he's not good enough for you!!" because it's totally reasonable to not want someone taller than you and plenty of great guys don't
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Olimar12345 on May 01, 2016, 06:30:51 AM
plenty of scumbag guys don't

ftfy.
 
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Zunawe on May 01, 2016, 07:06:21 AM
Honestly though, yes. Height shouldn't actually be a factor because there are so many other substantial things. Ask any guy if they would date their perfect partner under the condition that they're a foot taller than them, and only the fools will say no.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on May 01, 2016, 07:24:30 PM
Have you guys ever had a height issue with a relationship though? You couldn't find your perfect partner if they're a foot taller, because then they wouldn't be perfect. You can fantasize about loving the person for themselves and not their appearance but the size issue comes up. A lot. You're not a fool or scumbag because you don't want that
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Olimar12345 on May 01, 2016, 08:03:10 PM
it just seems like such an insignificant factor.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Nebbles on May 01, 2016, 08:04:28 PM
I dunno, I agree with Bubbles - I'm already short and I wouldn't want to date someone necessarily short either. I'd definitely prefer someone taller.

I mean, who else is gonna reach the top of the shelf?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: cashwarrior1 on May 01, 2016, 10:13:36 PM
Lol, I don't like being tall, one of my friends gets up close to me and I see EVERYTHING!
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FireArrow on May 01, 2016, 10:48:40 PM
I'm gonna have to agree with bubbles here. A surprising number of straight guys I know have "shorter than me" as a requirement because "it's awkward when she's taller than you ya'know?" A lot of guys really value dominance in relationships I guess I dunno?
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Ruto on May 02, 2016, 12:44:44 AM
I was *hanging out* with someone a foot taller at least and it wasn't too bad. Hugs look like this though:

(http://i.imgur.com/AwL4tujm.jpg)

Sitting on the couch made other stuff easier.

I think you're thinking too much about this, since can't be as bad as this:

(http://www.chilloutzone.net/images/thumbnails/images/1108/12061_shaqs-standgeblaese.jpg)

dont google what I just googled
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Zunawe on May 02, 2016, 12:47:07 AM
But I can't imagine that as an actual ultimatum from a reasonable person. Maybe it's different coming from a tall guy, but I think it's a shallow idea.

I don't mean to say it might not be a little awkward, but that shouldn't hinder something that would otherwise be great.

Ninjad by Ruto.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: FireArrow on May 02, 2016, 01:18:54 AM
I dunno, a lot of people aren't reasonable than.

Not everyone that avoids a relationship for some arbitrary quality is a shallow assholes. Like, someone could be super nice and have great chemistry with you but they get stuck on some dumb fetish or lack thereof. So yes, having a quality that's often but pointlessly deemed as "undesirable" probably is really frustrating. And I don't think telling bubbles it's not an issue is going to help her any either.

My 2 cents at least.
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Dudeman on May 02, 2016, 01:21:22 AM
and I'm just over here being 5'6" and shrugging
Title: Re: Relationships
Post by: Bubbles on May 02, 2016, 01:36:28 AM
Not to mention, I feel weird when the guy is significantly shorter. It makes me feel like an escort or something and tbh it's really demeaning. And you know it's always going to come up in conversations too

But anyway the whole point of this is I don't want to make this guy feel like I've been lying to him because, even if not liking a taller girl makes him a shallow asshole, he'd still feel upset after putting effort into me. But at the same time I don't want to mention it because I'm curious, and idk if that's selfish or not

Zunawe would you date someone 4+ inches taller than you? Just curious bc you said you were tall (and don't lie lmao the whole point is that to doesn't make you an ass). Like if you're already that tall I feel you have the right to only choose people shorter because that's who you're most likely to come in contact with and therefore grow more comfortable with
Title: Re: Relationships
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